i think my parents are breaking up
I'm bothered coz my mom and dad are married for almost 25 years now. I always see their relationship as a strong one coz even if they fight a lot, after a while everything is still ok. My mom is such an intelligent person, creative, patient, understanding, loving and everything you want for a mom, She's our bestfriend. My dad in the other hand is the tough one, good provider, "maparaan", but weak, insensitive, not that showy, basagulero and we formed hatred w/ him coz we don't understand him.. as in WE CAN'T! We always hear our mom crying and tellin' us that she wanted to break lose before but she don't have the guts coz she loves my dad so much even if she'd been battered emotionally and abused verbally. He's always jealous over everything/everyone but we (the children) can't figure out why.. until now. Then my mom decided to go abroad last january. I think she missed her youth coz she married my dad when she was 21 so she felt how is it like to live alone and be free and i think she's enjoying it. But there are rumors that she's having an affair and its killing my dad. The good thing about that is my dad changed a lot. We talk often now and hang out but I dont know how to deal with his pain coz i don't know if i could help him ease it. I wanna give my mom the benefit of a doubt but i don't want my dad to feel that nobody cares for him. My dad wants me to help him research if my mom is really faithful but i don't wanna hurt my mom either, coz what if she finds out that we're doin' that, i know it will crush her! It's affecting my work and my relationship w/ my man. Wish God would give me answers.