Advice please...

Hi...

I have this long distance friend na i talk to almost everyday for about 7 years now... Alam ko may gf sya ngaun pero di naman nya sinasabi kahit naghihint ako na alam ko... This is cguro his 3rd girlfriend since magstart kami magusap dati pero somehow it feels different.. Di ko alam kung i feel guilty or something else... Parang bestfriend ko na sya kasi we talk about pretty much everything... dapat ba na di na kami mag usap? What should i do??

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  • Desert_DolphinDesert_Dolphin PEx Rookie ⭐
    Put yourself in the other woman's shoes. Would you like it if your bf talks with another woman almost everyday for whatever reason?

    Don't kid yourself na friends lang kayo ni Long Distance. Gusto mo ba na maging kayo? If so, do something about it. Find a way to let him know. If the feeling is mutual, then, congrats. If not, then, you can remain as friends but start moving to a distance that does not interfere with their relationship.

    You did not mention if you have a bf.
  • richardrnrichardrn Member PEx Rookie ⭐
    Sounds like you feel something else for that person. Otherwise, why would you feel guilty if you're just friends? If you consider yourselves as bestfriends, ok lang yan. Just define your relationship kung ano talaga kayo. And oo, may bf ka ba? Kasi kaya ka siguro nagguilty because you have one. 
  • justj_justj_ PEx Rookie ⭐
    long time friend mo ba siya na nalayo sa iyo o nakilala mo lang sa net and havent met in person?

    nalaman mo lang na may gf na pala siya so nadisappoint ka. It is up to you kung gusto mo pang ituloy ang friendship ninyo. 

    siguro naghohope ka na magiging kayo? 
     
  • chocoholic09chocoholic09 PEx Rookie ⭐
    Nagkakilala kami in person before pa kami umalis ng pinas pero online lang kami naging close...

    Sinabi ko naman sa kanya na medyo distance muna ako kasi kahit di nya sinasabi alam ko na may gf na sya. Ayoko naman kasi makagulo... 

    Why does it feel like im gonna lose him as my friend? Ganun ba un?

    Oh and no wala akong bf...
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer soundscapes PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    hindi mo man nilinaw kung "ano" status ninyo, it looks like "less than lovers but more than friends" na kayo. or may "something" na sa inyong dalawa, tama? otherwise, you won't have this guilt feelings. 🤣

    tanungin mo siya para klarohin kung "ano" ang ano. 🤣 ano ka ba sa kanya. at siya ano ba siya sa iyo. para pagnagkita man kayo at mag ano kayo, at least wala ka na guilt feelings. 🤣

    kung kaibigan mo lang siya, walang problema ke magusap man kayo on a daily basis o kahit once a week lang. kasi nga magkaibigan eh. 

    unless may gusto ka na sa kanya. aminin mo na. walang nakakahiya. normal ito. 
  • java_chiqjava_chiq oh yeah...retired PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Hi...

    I have this long distance friend na i talk to almost everyday for about 7 years now... Alam ko may gf sya ngaun pero di naman nya sinasabi kahit naghihint ako na alam ko... This is cguro his 3rd girlfriend since magstart kami magusap dati pero somehow it feels different.. Di ko alam kung i feel guilty or something else... Parang bestfriend ko na sya kasi we talk about pretty much everything... dapat ba na di na kami mag usap? What should i do??
    uh- girl... are you hoping that you and this guy would be something else?  Give up that illusion. Save yourself from the pain. 
    If you are just friends- then be just friends and don't expect more
  • lordlapulapulordlapulapu PEx Rookie ⭐
    Nagkakilala kami in person before pa kami umalis ng pinas pero online lang kami naging close...

    Sinabi ko naman sa kanya na medyo distance muna ako kasi kahit di nya sinasabi alam ko na may gf na sya. Ayoko naman kasi makagulo... 

    Why does it feel like im gonna lose him as my friend? Ganun ba un?

    Oh and no wala akong bf...

    Usap lang naman walang problema yan. At gf lang naman di asawa, kayat mas ok din. Kung naging lovers kayo at kayo nagkatuluyan eh di good for the both of you!
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer soundscapes PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    na da-dramatized eh magkaibigan lang naman kayo. 'di ba?

    unless, magka-i-bigan kayo. 🤣
  • Desert_DolphinDesert_Dolphin PEx Rookie ⭐
    Nagkakilala kami in person before pa kami umalis ng pinas pero online lang kami naging close...

    Sinabi ko naman sa kanya na medyo distance muna ako kasi kahit di nya sinasabi alam ko na may gf na sya. Ayoko naman kasi makagulo... 

    Why does it feel like im gonna lose him as my friend? Ganun ba un?

    Oh and no wala akong bf...
    Ganun talaga. Long distance tapos biglang lay low sa almost everyday chat. Time will come seldom na kayo mag-uusap. Nakakalungkot yun.

    Wala ka ibang ka-chat na guys? Or friends sa lugar na pinuntahan mo? Baka kasi wala kang ibang social interaction other than him. Now na gusto mong lumayo ng kunti, you feel alone. If not, then, yup, that guy is MAYBE special to you. 7 years of long distance "friendship" mean he is more than that to you. And you to him, maybe. BIG maybe.
  • chocoholic09chocoholic09 PEx Rookie ⭐
    Special nmn sya sa kin kasi isa sya sa oldest friends ko tpos medyo close pa dn kmi hanggang ngaun.. and i do like him. Always have... i don't know how else to describe it other than he feels like home...

    May mga ibang friends din nmn ako dito tsaka mga ka chat pero syempre iba sya.. Hindi nmn ako umaasa na maging kami... i really want him to be happy...

    I dont know what im saying.. im probably not making any sense... 
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer soundscapes PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    deretsohin na natin 'to miss ha, with your permission. 

    sa tono kasi ng mga salita mo, may gusto ka sa kanya matagal na. tama?

    parang labas lang sa ilong 'yung "i really want him to be happy" 🤣
     
    sobrang hirap ang umamin tungkol sa feelings natin para sa isang tao, pero hindi ito dapat ikahiya kung ito dikta ng puson, este puso. 🤣❤️

    tutal maliwanag naman na kung ano talaga ang feelings mo sa kanya, ang liwanagin mo na ngayon ay kung ano ka ba sa kanya. kasi kung kaibigan lang, medyo dumistansiya ka na dahan-dahan.

    incorrect ang advice na 'yan kung walang feelings na involved other than just being friends. mahalaga ang friends. 

    pero dahil unti-unti nagiging torture na ito sa iyo, you can still remain friends pero bawasan mo na lang muna pakikipagusap pati na sa detalye at updates. 'yung general info na lang.

    aba'y.. araw araw yata kayo usap. daig pa ninyo ang CNN updates eh. 🤣

    ikaw lang masasaktan sa huli. maghanap ka na ng bagong acquintances huwag na umasa na maging bf mo pa siya (unless gagawa ka ng paraan). paraan? go to I n P threads for more info. 🤣
  • Malamang hindi yan magugustuhan ng girlfriend niya.

    Pero kung platonic ang friendship niyo nung guy, wala naman problema. Kaso mukang ikaw yung may gusto sa kanya. If that is the case, tigilan mo na nga. Respeto nalang sa gf niya at sa sarili mo.

  • chocoholic09chocoholic09 PEx Rookie ⭐
    I think nasanay kasi ako na lagi ko sya kausap.... pero ok na... we're just friends... :)
  • Desert_DolphinDesert_Dolphin PEx Rookie ⭐
    I think nasanay kasi ako na lagi ko sya kausap.... pero ok na... we're just friends... :)
    Good to know.
  • NilsNils Hunter PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    i really want him to be happy...

    may kulang... "as long as it's with me" :D :D :D
  • chocoholic09chocoholic09 PEx Rookie ⭐
    Haha... hndi nmn.. naiinis lng ako kasi hindi nya nakkwento na may girlfriend sya.. hindi ba yun napag uusapan ng magkaibigan???
  • ach_chooach_choo Repent you savages! Repent! PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    If he hasn't propositioned you up to now, it means he really considers you his close friend. I for one wouldn't want to fvck a close friend.

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