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BIGO BA AKO? | Am I a Failure?

AverahamAveraham PEx Rookie ⭐
edited July 2019 in The Working Filipino #1
Hello guys, I have been working on a certain company for 7 years, masaya naman ako sa trabaho ko at masaya rin sa mga katrabaho ko pero nito lang, parang naramdaman ko na parang stagnant na ako sa career ko, I mean for the past 7 years halos pare parehas lang ang ginagawa ko.

Back in 2016, nag apply ako bilang line leader pero sad to say, hindi ako nakapasa

Neto lang na, July 2019, nag apply ulit ako ng isa pang higher position pero hindi parin ako nakapasa.

Feeling ko tuloy na napaka bobo ko, maganda naman ang performance ko sa trabaho pero bakit kaya hindi ako matanggap tanggap sa mga internal hiring namin,

Gusto ko tuloy isipin na mag resign na lang at hanapin ang aking kapalaran sa ibang kompanya, kaso pag naiisip ko na buntis nga pala ang misis ko at ako lang ang nagtatrabaho, nag dadalawang isip ako.

Gusto ko sana mag negosyo kaso hindi ako marunong sa negosyo. Ano po ba ang maipapayo niyo sa akin sa sitwasyon ko?

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  • IronHandofJusticeIronHandofJustice Member PEx Guru 🎖️🎖️
    Same tayo ng predicament a few years ago, except the buntis part.

    Alam mo diretsong usapan lang, kahit perfect pa ang scorecard mo for straight five years, hindi talaga guarantee na mapopromote ka. It needs more than the technical side, dapat may leadership and people skills ka. Can you honestly say na meron ka nito? Also, check mo rin iyong mga outside forces like office politics, department budget, competition, hiring preferences ng program/account niyo and so on.

    When I was in your situation four years ago, I talked to my manager and asked her na ilagay ako sa mga leadership trainings namin, which can only happen pre and post shift. It was unpaid ha kasi choice ko iyon. Duon ko narealize ang mga skills na kailangan and I know hindi pa ako ready.

    My advice is kausapin mo muna ang immediate superior mo. If you think you have what it takes, ask him/her kung may additional tasks/responsibilities ka na pwedeng gawin to help you be prepared (pero ang totoo, nagpapalakas ka na nito by making yourself visible). Lagyan mo ng timeline like 6 mos to 1 year to see if may progress ka. 

    You are NOT a failure. Alam ko mahirap ito sa ngayon pero believe me, may mga opportunities talaga na hindi para sa atin.

    Looking back, kapag naiisip ko na what if natanggap ako duon sa mga inapplyan ko, I am sure ang dami ko na sigurong stress-related illnesses sa katawan. And I might still be that person earning paycheck to paycheck. 

    Do not give up but don't be lenient din. Strike a balance between acceptance and your goals.

    Good luck!


  • AverahamAveraham PEx Rookie ⭐
    Same tayo ng predicament a few years ago, except the buntis part.

    Alam mo diretsong usapan lang, kahit perfect pa ang scorecard mo for straight five years, hindi talaga guarantee na mapopromote ka. It needs more than the technical side, dapat may leadership and people skills ka. Can you honestly say na meron ka nito? Also, check mo rin iyong mga outside forces like office politics, department budget, competition, hiring preferences ng program/account niyo and so on.

    When I was in your situation four years ago, I talked to my manager and asked her na ilagay ako sa mga leadership trainings namin, which can only happen pre and post shift. It was unpaid ha kasi choice ko iyon. Duon ko narealize ang mga skills na kailangan and I know hindi pa ako ready.

    My advice is kausapin mo muna ang immediate superior mo. If you think you have what it takes, ask him/her kung may additional tasks/responsibilities ka na pwedeng gawin to help you be prepared (pero ang totoo, nagpapalakas ka na nito by making yourself visible). Lagyan mo ng timeline like 6 mos to 1 year to see if may progress ka. 

    You are NOT a failure. Alam ko mahirap ito sa ngayon pero believe me, may mga opportunities talaga na hindi para sa atin.

    Looking back, kapag naiisip ko na what if natanggap ako duon sa mga inapplyan ko, I am sure ang dami ko na sigurong stress-related illnesses sa katawan. And I might still be that person earning paycheck to paycheck. 

    Do not give up but don't be lenient din. Strike a balance between acceptance and your goals.

    Good luck!


    Boss, Dude, napakalaking tulong ng payo mo, lately kase parang nararamdaman ko na hindi sapat ang pangangailangan ng family ko kaya na iistress talaga ako, hindi ko alam kung sa akin ba ang problema, pero alam ko hindi kase magaling naman ako makisama sa mga katrabaho, ko maganda ang environment kaya naiisip ko na baka talagang hindi lang sa akin kaloob ang mga inapplyan ko,

    Pero, maganda yung mga nasabi mo sir, I'll work on it. Thank you so much, kahit papano na ease yung burden ko.
  • lanestolkerlanestolker PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    edited July 2019 #4
    Hi there. Spot on si Master IHJ sa post niya. My two cents nalang din, it's good - and perfectly normal - to be in that situation where you begin doubting yourself and question where you are. It's better than just being too content with the status quo and become mediocre in result kasi hindi ka dumadaan sa ganung stage of self-doubt. What matters is that you don't stay there; instead, strive to overcome and get out of that stage as a better, wiser and more capable individual.

    As people manager, I do hear that same sentiment from those I manage, and I always make sure na handa akong sumagot. For one, as IHJ stressed, take this as an opportunity to really assess yourself in all components. Meron naman tayong annual performance appraisal, and if your bosses take this process seriously, may matututunan ka from there. Review from all the years that you have those evaluations if aligned ba yung skills mo sa needs ng company. Take them all constructively and seriously, If your performance is metrics-based, nagta-translate ba in the correct numbers yung actual outputs mo? Identify where the gap is, and start from there. You can also have a sitdown with your immediate boss to help you find this gap. Kung maayos ang boss mo, he will appreciate this discussion, because it means that you love your job. Discuss your plans and goals. At the end of the day, it's critical that your boss is aligned with how you see yourself in that company, because while it is your responsibility to equip yourself with the skills, it is his role to pave the way for you to realize your goals.

    Which brings me to one of the most fundamental things I personally believe in when it comes to career - find the right mentor. If this can't be your boss, find someone else who can help you, who can train you. This is gonna be an extra effort but it's all worth it.

    I have been blessed enough to be promoted to a managerial position only around a year from the job, and this was a time I found was too early and never pa nangyari to in that department. Like in my case, the people around us would see a lot of reasons why we are capable of - and are not capable of - higher responsibilities way more than what we see in ourselves. Kaya just hang in there. You can find a lot of motivation in the idea that you are building a family (congrats!). Mahirap for now to decide to just quit given the needs, but use this time to build on yourself. Timing also plays a huge role in these career opportunities, kaya wag mawalan ng pag-asa. Make the most out of where you are para handang handa ka na kung sakali. Give it a couple of months or a year, and kung wala pa rin, go and explore. The world is waiting. :)
  • AverahamAveraham PEx Rookie ⭐
    Hi there. Spot on si Master IHJ sa post niya. My two cents nalang din, it's good - and perfectly normal - to be in that situation where you begin doubting yourself and question where you are. It's better than just being too content with the status quo and become mediocre in result kasi hindi ka dumadaan sa ganung stage of self-doubt. What matters is that you don't stay there; instead, strive to overcome and get out of that stage as a better, wiser and more capable individual.

    As people manager, I do hear that same sentiment from those I manage, and I always make sure na handa akong sumagot. For one, as IHJ stressed, take this as an opportunity to really assess yourself in all components. Meron naman tayong annual performance appraisal, and if your bosses take this process seriously, may matututunan ka from there. Review from all the years that you have those evaluations if aligned ba yung skills mo sa needs ng company. Take them all constructively and seriously, If your performance is metrics-based, nagta-translate ba in the correct numbers yung actual outputs mo? Identify where the gap is, and start from there. You can also have a sitdown with your immediate boss to help you find this gap. Kung maayos ang boss mo, he will appreciate this discussion, because it means that you love your job. Discuss your plans and goals. At the end of the day, it's critical that your boss is aligned with how you see yourself in that company, because while it is your responsibility to equip yourself with the skills, it is his role to pave the way for you to realize your goals.

    Which brings me to one of the most fundamental things I personally believe in when it comes to career - find the right mentor. If this can't be your boss, find someone else who can help you, who can train you. This is gonna be an extra effort but it's all worth it.

    I have been blessed enough to be promoted to a managerial position only around a year from the job, and this was a time I found was too early and never pa nangyari to in that department. Like in my case, the people around us would see a lot of reasons why we are capable of - and are not capable of - higher responsibilities way more than what we see in ourselves. Kaya just hang in there. You can find a lot of motivation in the idea that you are building a family (congrats!). Mahirap for now to decide to just quit given the needs, but use this time to build on yourself. Timing also plays a huge role in these career opportunities, kaya wag mawalan ng pag-asa. Make the most out of where you are para handang handa ka na kung sakali. Give it a couple of months or a year, and kung wala pa rin, go and explore. The world is waiting. :)
    Salamat po sa advice, actually, sa ngayon talagang halos maiiyak iyak na ako, hindi ko na alam saan ako kukuha ng extra pera para sa asawat anak ko, pakiramdam ko napaka walang silbi ko, monthly ko is 13 to 14k lang, tapos buntis pa asawa ko, tapos ubos na ang vitamins niya umiiyak siya dahil wala na siya pambili ng vitamins wala ako maibigay. Sana malampasan ko itong pag subok na ito, hirap na hirap na ako, parang mawawalan na ako katinuan.
  • it020it020 PEx Rookie ⭐
    edited July 2019 #6
    Salamat po sa advice, actually, sa ngayon talagang halos maiiyak iyak na ako, hindi ko na alam saan ako kukuha ng extra pera para sa asawat anak ko, pakiramdam ko napaka walang silbi ko, monthly ko is 13 to 14k lang, tapos buntis pa asawa ko, tapos ubos na ang vitamins niya umiiyak siya dahil wala na siya pambili ng vitamins wala ako maibigay. Sana malampasan ko itong pag subok na ito, hirap na hirap na ako, parang mawawalan na ako katinuan.
    This reminds me the time I was starting to find my career. Although single, I was supporting my family that time.
    I believe this situation is going to push you forward for a more challenging journey. Here's my thoughts.

    1) If you cannot be promoted internally, have you considered applying outside? Dude, I tell you that 7 years experience for only 13-14k salary makes you underpaid. I don't know which field you are in but please, if you will be promoted with only 3k increment, I would suggest you think twice.

    2) You can do better. What skills can you learn? There are a lot of online jobs like being virtual assistant, or design whatever might interest you. Acquire new skills. Today, you don't need to get IT degree to learn how to code. Or even more, attend trainings or seminar offered by TESDA. 

    3) Think about some opportunities outside of being a career person. How about selling? Is your wife able to sell some items through facebook? This one is HUGE. Try to research this possibility. I have known a person who can sell items through facebook 8-10k per day. Go to divisoria and see what items you can resell. There are a lot of platform online you can use to sell or resell products.

    Do not focus solely on your job or employer if you are not getting the best that you deserve as the world is so big and there are thousands of companies out there. You can do better for sure. 
  • AverahamAveraham PEx Rookie ⭐
    it020 said:
    Salamat po sa advice, actually, sa ngayon talagang halos maiiyak iyak na ako, hindi ko na alam saan ako kukuha ng extra pera para sa asawat anak ko, pakiramdam ko napaka walang silbi ko, monthly ko is 13 to 14k lang, tapos buntis pa asawa ko, tapos ubos na ang vitamins niya umiiyak siya dahil wala na siya pambili ng vitamins wala ako maibigay. Sana malampasan ko itong pag subok na ito, hirap na hirap na ako, parang mawawalan na ako katinuan.
    This reminds me the time I was starting to find my career. Although single, I was supporting my family that time.
    I believe this situation is going to push you forward for a more challenging journey. Here's my thoughts.

    1) If you cannot be promoted internally, have you considered applying outside? Dude, I tell you that 7 years experience for only 13-14k salary makes you underpaid. I don't know which field you are in but please, if you will be promoted with only 3k increment, I would suggest you think twice.

    2) You can do better. What skills can you learn? There are a lot of online jobs like being virtual assistant, or design whatever might interest you. Acquire new skills. Today, you don't need to get IT degree to learn how to code. Or even more, attend trainings or seminar offered by TESDA. 

    3) Think about some opportunities outside of being a career person. How about selling? Is your wife able to sell some items through facebook? This one is HUGE. Try to research this possibility. I have known a person who can sell items through facebook 8-10k per day. Go to divisoria and see what items you can resell. There are a lot of platform online you can use to sell or resell products.

    Do not focus solely on your job or employer if you are not getting the best that you deserve as the world is so big and there are thousands of companies out there. You can do better for sure. 
    Thank you so much po for your advise, anyways nasa BPO industry po ako, non-voice account po kaya mababa lang, tama po sinabi niyo, I will take note of it all, Thank you so much
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