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Pregnant and abandoned. Need advice please
My boyfriend left me while 4months pregnant. We are both 22. Simula kasi nabuntis ako di na kami nagkakasundo. Madalas kami nag aaway. February to April. Lagi ko na syang inaaway. Madalas naiinis ako saknya. Small things. Big things. To the point he broke up with me April 30 kasi nawalan na daw sya ng gana. Im hurting so much right now. Ive seen no flaws kay ex bf simula nung naging kami. Binigay nya lahat, at di sya nagkulang. He said he felt unimportant, unloved and unappreciated. But this all just started nung February. I tried to tell him na pinaglilihian ko lang sya and this was all pregnancy hormones but di sya naniwala. Still i could have been more easy to him daw. The thing is he had a 4 yrs relationship before me. He left the girl for me last year kasi super nainlove sya sakin. Now i just found out they are dating na ulit and nagkaayos na sila. My whole world is falling apart. 1 month din ako nag beg saknya to give me another chance. Magbabago ako i said. Still nagalit sya kasi pwede naman pala magbago. Pero why did i choose to hurt him ng paulit ulit sa mga away namin. Soft hearted kasi si ex bf. Super bait nya. Wala akong nakitang flaws sakanya sa buong relationship namin. Inaamin ko i shared huge part sa desisyon nya. Ikakasal na dapat kami this May din. I tried to talk to his parents. They said hayaan ko na daw sya since ayaw na daw talaga nya. My parents said the same thing. Altho galit na galit sila skanya kasi he just asked my parent's blessing nung April palang for the wedding. Kaya nashock ako sa desisyon nya na iwan ako. The baby is planned. He still wants to be a father but no longer wants me. I think his ex contributed to his decisions din since sinalo agad sya ng ex nya and accepted him back. His ex told me this is my karma for taking him away from her. My ex told me if only i treated him like asawa o boyfriend this wont happen at all. He said i treated him more like trabahador. I didnt know nag kikimkim pala sya ng mga sama ng loob sakin tuwing nag aaway kami. Kasi sinumbat nya lahat ng wrongdoings ko. He said he just woke up and realized i dont deserve him. Too controlling, too demanding, masungit, matapang, high maintenance daw ako. Pagod na pagod na daw sya dealing with me and maybe we are not meant to be. They said baka magka change of heart sya once nakita na nya si baby. Duedate ko is October pa :(
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Anyway, ang BF mo ay nabibilang sa mga "Tigas tt, pero walang *****".
Time and time again pangaral yan ng mga matatanda, ang babae ang laging argabyado sa huli.
Walang kwenta ang itsura kung wala namang *****.
Ang masama kung panget na nga wala pang *****.
Kidding aside, best thing to do is to stand up for yourself at buhayin ang anak mo ng walang ama.
Always think of the worst case para madaling matanggap ang kahit na anong mangyari.
Wag ka na umasa sa kanya dahil wala ito sa control mo, unless tutang kinapon sya, pwede mo kontrolin.
mahirap pag na-take for granted natin ang isang tao kasi madalas hindi rin naman tayo uma-action. sasagarin talaga 'yung tao until it's too late and nothing else can be done.
magandang lesson itong thread para doon sa ibang hitads na feeling prinsesa. 🤔
sana ts, makahanap ka ng bagong magmamahal sa iyo in the future. at doon mo na lang ibuhos at bawiin ang mga pagkukulang mo doon sa ex mo. medyo huwag ka na umasa na babalik pa sa iyo 'yung ex mo, mukhang malabo.
goodie lak.
Humanap lang ng dahilan ang ex mo para makawala sa iyo.
Wala ka nang aasahan dyan. Ayusin mo na lang yung support na kelangan nyang punan bilang ama.
Don't beg him to come back for the sake of your baby.. kaya mo yan at kakayanin mo for your baby
Unang una, normal lang sa magasawa na trabrahador ang treatment ni misis kay mister.
I feel sorry for your fatherless baby. Pero pareho kayong immature eh. How can you 'plan' for a baby eh di naman kayo kasal? Like many women who made this mistake akala mo siguro mas matatali sya sayo kapag nagpabuntis ka! But anyway talagang a-sshole ang ex mo, part of the reason kayat bakit ka laging naiinis sa kanya! Wala ka nang magagawa dyan, huwag mong asahan iyung pampagaang nya ng loob sayo na baka magbago isip kapag nakita ang baby. Lalong tatakbo iyan, lalo na kapag kelangan na niya magbayad ng child support.
So ang advice ko, lalo mong gamitin mo pagka-strong personality mo against sa kanya. For the sake of your baby utakan mo at siguraduhin na magbabayad sya ng child support. Ipa-tulfo mo kung kinakailangan. Make his life a living hell kung umiwas yan sa obligation nya!
first, mature of you to admit your faults. bait naman pala ex mo at pinaglaban ka pa nya sa nanay nya so ba't mo naman inaway? wala pala sha kasalanan sayo, iniwan ka tuloy.
may sawa factor din ang guys in case you girls didn't know lol
second, maganda yan actually. nanay ka na, single ka pa. you have all the joys of having a child without the stress and worries/limitations of having a spouse. best all of all, you retain YOUR FREEDOM as you fully enjoy your life and your kid. saya kaya nyan, perfect situation if you ask me.
i'm happily married btw, with kids. but i'm also happy for those who are happily single, but also have kids
so iwan mo na ren sha if da ka na ren nya gusto
third, mukhang immature pa nga kayo re this matter. 22 lang kayo eh, still young and very impulsive. so hayaan mo muna sha, and ikaw ren. wag ipilit ang sarili sa isa't Isa kung kung ayaw talaga
grow up some more, both of you, para you can be better parents to your kid even if you guys did not end up together
fourth, and this is the most important, papanindigan naman nya yung bata eh. so he just wants to be a father to your child, and not a spouse to you.. ok na yun, at least katuwang pa ren kayo sa anak nyo at di mapapabayaan yung bata (most important). basically co-parenting, though not cohabitating hehe
good luck! since you're a 'tough girl,' then kaya mo yan, especially since di naman pala aabandonahin ng ex mo yung anak nyo
if they're happier apart, mas ok na yun. kesa naman mag-sama sila tas mag-aaway lang more than necessary, mas kawawa bata pag ganun
good thing they're not married yet; mas complicated ang hiwalayan pag married na
no offense, pero lesson learned yan ts
if you wanna be treated well , dapat ganun ka ren sa kanila.. di ba golden rule yun?
at any rate, maganda pa ren nangyari sayo: may anak ka na, at may kalayaan ka pa :
second, di naman fatherless ung bata, spouseless lang si ts. co-parenting mangyari not cohabitation
third, wrong 'tapang' pinakita ni ts (no offense), and absolutely unnecessary and even counterproductive at this point bec panindigan naman ni ex ung anak nila