No label relationship with ex

Gusto ko lang po sana magtanong, kasi may ex girlfriend po ako na iniwan ako dati, sabi nya nun wala na syang feelings at hindi na nya ako babalikan pa may iba na daw syang priorities tapos syempre heartbroken ako pero in time naka recover naman ako, merong times na minemessage nya ako pero hindi ko na sya nirereplyan kasi masakit. Nung isang araw nagkita kami sa isang Church activity tapos iwas sya sa akin pero kinausap nya yung isang kaibigan nya na tanungin ako kung kumusta daw ba ako. Ako naman ay pinili ko na rin na maging honest sa nararamdaman ko kaya nung dance night ay isinayaw ko sya tapos dun kami nag-usap para i let go yung mga sama ng loob. Pagkatapos ng dance night sabi ng kaibigan nya may feelings pa daw sya sa akin pero di nya daw masabi, so ayun kinausap ko sya tinanong ko kung ano ba talaga kami tapos sabi nya mahal nya daw ako pero di pa daw sya ready sa relationship, marami pa daw syang ibang priority, gusto nya maging no label kami. Sa stage kasi ng buhay ko ngayon gusto ko na ng steady na relationship kasi, kung papayag ako sa no label sure ako magiging invested ako at pwedeng magmiss out ko na may makilala pang iba na ready na para sa commitments, eh ang no label ay walang kasiguraduhan at sa totoo lang para sa akin pang "players" lang yun kasi ayaw ng commitment yung hindi ready mag compromise at magadjust opinion ko lang naman. Ang problem ko ay mahal ko pa rin sya, paano po ba ang pwedeng gawin dito?   

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  • gladyskawaiigladyskawaii Dreamer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    In other words po, hintayin mo siya habang naminili pa siya ng iba. Pag wala na siyang choice, anjan ka, naghihintay. 

    Ask yourself po. Pag ready na ba siya sa commitment, sure ba na sayo siya magcocommit? Kasi pag hindi, masasayang lang oras mo po. 
  • panis_na_putopanis_na_puto Member PExer
    Kulang ang pagmamahal, hijo. Ikaw nais mo nang umusad. Siya ay ayaw. Walang mangyayari sa inyo.

    Layuan mo na siya at humanap na lang ng iba. Maraming ibang babae riyan na iyong mapupusuan!
  • Salamat po sa mga sagot nyo, mahirap pero mukhang yung nga talaga ang dapat gawin. Appreciated po.
  • gladyskawaiigladyskawaii Dreamer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Eto po kuya para sayo


  • Ahahaha natawa ako pero totoo nga yan ate @gladyskawaii
  • darmonxdarmonx Member PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Matira matibay ang basehan ng babaeng yan.  She will end up with a man that will do what she wants and tells him to do.  If you are that type then you will end up with her but if you are not that type then you won't.
  • sophieharpersophieharper PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    bata ka pa naman. Ang dami mo pang makikilala. Dun ka dapat sa sigurado ka para no regrets. Pero kung sa tingin mo eh sya na yun, edi stay. ganun lang kasimple yan. Analyze your feelings well.
  • boylinde974boylinde974 PEx Rookie ⭐
    oo nga wagka magmadali mahal ang bigas ngayon...
  • NilsNils Hunter PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    "Sa stage kasi ng buhay ko ngayon gusto ko na ng steady na relationship" - wat da!??? 

    Ano ka brad, babae? May biological clock stage na hinahabol dahil gusto magkapamilya, magkaanak? 
  • mothra_hatermothra_hater Dragon Claw PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Ren22 said:
    Gusto ko lang po sana magtanong, kasi may ex girlfriend po ako na iniwan ako dati, sabi nya nun wala na syang feelings at hindi na nya ako babalikan pa may iba na daw syang priorities tapos syempre heartbroken ako pero in time naka recover naman ako, merong times na minemessage nya ako pero hindi ko na sya nirereplyan kasi masakit. Nung isang araw nagkita kami sa isang Church activity tapos iwas sya sa akin pero kinausap nya yung isang kaibigan nya na tanungin ako kung kumusta daw ba ako. Ako naman ay pinili ko na rin na maging honest sa nararamdaman ko kaya nung dance night ay isinayaw ko sya tapos dun kami nag-usap para i let go yung mga sama ng loob. Pagkatapos ng dance night sabi ng kaibigan nya may feelings pa daw sya sa akin pero di nya daw masabi, so ayun kinausap ko sya tinanong ko kung ano ba talaga kami tapos sabi nya mahal nya daw ako pero di pa daw sya ready sa relationship, marami pa daw syang ibang priority, gusto nya maging no label kami. Sa stage kasi ng buhay ko ngayon gusto ko na ng steady na relationship kasi, kung papayag ako sa no label sure ako magiging invested ako at pwedeng magmiss out ko na may makilala pang iba na ready na para sa commitments, eh ang no label ay walang kasiguraduhan at sa totoo lang para sa akin pang "players" lang yun kasi ayaw ng commitment yung hindi ready mag compromise at magadjust opinion ko lang naman. Ang problem ko ay mahal ko pa rin sya, paano po ba ang pwedeng gawin dito?   
    Nah. I'm not against from what other says.

    Pero kung hihintayin mo 'yan. Nagiging unfair ka sa sarili mo. I might be too late to give an advice but I hope you're not being a martyr worshiping blindly that gal.

    Kung maghihintay ka lang diyan, walang mangyayari sa'yo. Maghanap ka na lang din muna ng iba. Kung may mahahanap kang mas better, ditch that girl. And be happy. 
  • ScrollDownScrollDown 🐃 Tamaraw Squad
    Napa-comment ako, sakin kabaligtaran naman ang nangyari, nung nagtapat akong mahal ko na sya, nagulat ako sa sagot nya, No Label relationship lang pala ang gusto ng hayop! Sobrang nasaktan ako kasi ibig sabihin non, he can have s*x with who ever he wants na di ako magagalit or date someone he wants tas ako bilang mahal ko sya lagi lang akong available pag kelangan nya ko?! WTF! That's stupid! But I think may mga taong ganito ang hanap at nag wo-work naman, Yung mga taong unstable ang utak pagdating sa decision-making or tanggap na nila na di sila mag mamahal sa huli o madaming plano pa sila sa buhay kaya they can get out of the kitchen anytiime. Kahapon lang nangyari kaya ang sakit sakit pa. Moving on phase na ko, baka mas matagal pa ko maka move on kesa sa 4-month dating stage namin! Hays! So, next time, simula palang, alamin na natin ang intentions ng tao to set the expectations right!
  • java_chiqjava_chiq oh yeah...retired PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    dude. just enjoy it.

    minsan kasi nakakapagod ang labels- it ruins the relationship.
    it gives you a reason to validate your immature emotions.


  • blue_tracerblue_tracer soundscapes PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    plain and simple: gusto mo na mag seryoso sa relasyon, siya hindi pa. 

    payo na pang dilemma:

    logic muna bago ang puso. 

    huwag ka muna mag invest sobra sa kanya ng emosyon dahil wala pang kasiguraduhan ang lahat. mamaya label ka ng label tapos bigla ka na lang iwan dahil nakita ng bago. besides, ikaw ang lalaki dapat composed ka, huwag muna papadala sa emosyon. 

    payo na pang I 'n P:

    ulo muna sa baba bago puso.

    enjoy the espikikay.. while it lasts. 🤣

    nakita mo 'yung thread sa kabila? kasal na siya pero bitin pa sa pagkabinata. 
  • justj_justj_ PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    walang matinong babae ang magsasuggest na no label relationship.

    she fcuks around and wants to add you to her stable. dont play that game unless you ALWAYS practise safe sex.
  • java_chiqjava_chiq oh yeah...retired PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    justj_ said:
    walang matinong babae ang magsasuggest na no label relationship.

    she fcuks around and wants to add you to her stable. dont play that game unless you ALWAYS practise safe sex.
    ouch man. 

    this statement is kind of unfair.

    ON topic:
    it is possible na - defensive lang itong babae. (i guess i am making a personal issue out of this topic- and i guess in a way I should share my story)
    I am also in a no-label relationship. It started that way because- natakot ako. I didn't want to commit too fast. I didn't want to admit that I like him that much - kasi di ko din maramdaman how much he really wants me. 

    So I am making that assumption that- you are not telling her exactly how you feel. You are not reassuring her that the relationship is real and you are waiting for her to make her moves and validate that you guys have a relationship.  

    If you say na she talks about you with her friends- then it's safe to say that she likes you. Simple lang naman din ang mga babae ...if we like a guy we tend to talk about him a lot-   if we hate a guy...well we also talk about him a -medyo negative nga lang.

    TS- How about you try and open up to her and tell her how you really feel about the relationship. Maybe she's just waiting for you to act like a man...
  • alchemistofophiralchemistofophir Christian Communist PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ang tanong, may label ba pag ni-labelan nyo ng "no label"?



    B) B) B)
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  • justj_justj_ PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    java_chiq said:
    justj_ said:
    walang matinong babae ang magsasuggest na no label relationship.

    she fcuks around and wants to add you to her stable. dont play that game unless you ALWAYS practise safe sex.
    ouch man. 

    this statement is kind of unfair.

    ON topic:
    it is possible na - defensive lang itong babae. (i guess i am making a personal issue out of this topic- and i guess in a way I should share my story)
    I am also in a no-label relationship. It started that way because- natakot ako. I didn't want to commit too fast. I didn't want to admit that I like him that much - kasi di ko din maramdaman how much he really wants me. 

    So I am making that assumption that- you are not telling her exactly how you feel. You are not reassuring her that the relationship is real and you are waiting for her to make her moves and validate that you guys have a relationship.  

    If you say na she talks about you with her friends- then it's safe to say that she likes you. Simple lang naman din ang mga babae ...if we like a guy we tend to talk about him a lot-   if we hate a guy...well we also talk about him a -medyo negative nga lang.

    TS- How about you try and open up to her and tell her how you really feel about the relationship. Maybe she's just waiting for you to act like a man...
    ms.java iba naman ang case mo sa case ni ts. si ts dati na niyang jowa yung girl na nagsuggest na magbalikan sila pero no label condition.

    Ano pa ibig sabihin nun..gusto niyang matikman ulit ang ex niyang si ts na without strings attached. 
  • java_chiqjava_chiq oh yeah...retired PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    justj_ said:
    java_chiq said:
    justj_ said:
    walang matinong babae ang magsasuggest na no label relationship.

    she fcuks around and wants to add you to her stable. dont play that game unless you ALWAYS practise safe sex.
    ouch man. 

    this statement is kind of unfair.

    ON topic:
    it is possible na - defensive lang itong babae. (i guess i am making a personal issue out of this topic- and i guess in a way I should share my story)
    I am also in a no-label relationship. It started that way because- natakot ako. I didn't want to commit too fast. I didn't want to admit that I like him that much - kasi di ko din maramdaman how much he really wants me. 

    So I am making that assumption that- you are not telling her exactly how you feel. You are not reassuring her that the relationship is real and you are waiting for her to make her moves and validate that you guys have a relationship.  

    If you say na she talks about you with her friends- then it's safe to say that she likes you. Simple lang naman din ang mga babae ...if we like a guy we tend to talk about him a lot-   if we hate a guy...well we also talk about him a -medyo negative nga lang.

    TS- How about you try and open up to her and tell her how you really feel about the relationship. Maybe she's just waiting for you to act like a man...
    ms.java iba naman ang case mo sa case ni ts. si ts dati na niyang jowa yung girl na nagsuggest na magbalikan sila pero no label condition.

    Ano pa ibig sabihin nun..gusto niyang matikman ulit ang ex niyang si ts na without strings attached. 
    lol wag na nila i-complicate. just ***** and don't over think it.

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