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Hello po. Lately I just noticed that depression is being common to us. I would like to ask what are the possible reasons why people get depressed in life. What assistance do you expect if there is a group that supports people suffering from depression.

Thank you so much po sa mga sasagot. I hope we can help and assist them in the best way we can. :)
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  • Jackie_Jackie_ PEx Rookie ⭐
    edited June 2018
    hi marriedgal. pwedeng magtanong? depressed ka ba? maraming reason kung bakit nagiging depressed ang isang tao. it may be about career, lovelife or family. pero kasi, minsan kasi pag sinabi ng isang tao na malungkot siya, agad agad depressed na. yun din ang hindi ko magets about our society. so minsan, for me, parang mas okay if i keep my mouth shut na lang. like ako sa family ko, minsan nakakasad kasi ramdam ko na may favoritism samin. laging yung kapatid ko ang mas priority nila compared sakin. now nga, hindi nila alam na balak ko mag-abroad. haha kasi for me, kahit anong achievement pa ang meron ako, ganun pa rin naman. iisa lang naman ang bida sa kanila. yung kapatid ko. nakakalungkot, pero hindi nakakadepress. kasi ganun talaga ang buhay. you cant please everyone. support group? wala ako naging support group. siguro, bago ka muna humingi ng help sa ibang tao, bigyan mo muna ng help yung sarili mo. lahat ng bagay, need magsimula sa sarili mo. 

    (hehe. grabe, seryoso ako sa mga pinagsasabi ko. dami kasi trolls dito. lol pero kidding aside, i take depression seriously and if meron man isang tao na kakilala ko na depress siya, talagang tinutulungan ko.)

    sana nakatulong ako sayo. hihi
  • SamanthaBSamanthaB PEx Rookie ⭐
    Reasons of depression varies from person to person. It could be because of genes (yes, it could be genetic), stress, health conditions that causes depression-like symptoms, unwanted or negative life events and environment, etc. 

    As what @jackie_ has said, there are people who are just sad but already claim that they are suffering from depression. It is important to note that depressed people deal with what they are going through in various ways. Some shows the common symptoms of depression like lost of interest on things they are passionate about before, having or expressing negative outlook in life, oversleeps or sleep less than usual, etc. But there are also those who suffer in silence or those who choose to remain jolly when dealing with other people. 

    It is somehow hard to help a person who is suffering from depression. We cannot control their thoughts. But making them feel loved and showing that we care for them somehow helps. A depressed person sometimes feel as if they are already useless or worthless or nothing matters anymore, which often lead to the thoughts of committing suicide. 

    Although we cannot control what a depressed person thinks, we can help them find their way out of the dark. Slowly with sincerity. Don't leave or give up on them. 

    I have been there. I know it. And as what I usually say, don't let your inner demons defeat you. That's what helped me survive.
  • sophieharpersophieharper PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    SamanthaB said:

    Although we cannot control what a depressed person thinks, we can help them find their way out of the dark. Slowly with sincerity. Don't leave or give up on them. 

    I have been there. I know it. And as what I usually say, don't let your inner demons defeat you. That's what helped me survive.
    True, Samantha, constant support from family and friends can really help a person suffering depression. The feeling that someone is there to listen helps a lot. It's hard to defeat your inner enemies so asking for help is a must. If you are on the brink of depression, find an outlet. Don't be too hard on yourself. There are people that would understand you. Just be aware who these people are.
  • HiThere:)HiThere:) PEx Rookie ⭐
    Masasabi mo bang depress ang isang tao like for example ayaw niya unuwi sa bahay nila? Ako kasi, hindi na ako umuuwi sa bahay namin. Siguro, yung weekly na uwi before, ngayon, nabawasan na. Siguro, once every two months na lang. to think na i live within metro manila lang at nasa bulacan lang sila. The reason why i dont go home anymore is lagi nila ako pinapauwi, then pag uwi ko naman, may kanya kanya silang lakad. So parang ako, naiiwan lang din sa bahay.  Kaya mas lalo ako nalulungkot. Unlike dito sa manila, pag weekend, ok lang kahit ako lang mag isa kasi magiinternet lang ako buong araw. Pampalipas ba ng oras. Tapos kung may magyayaya na friends, lalabas naman kami. Ngayon, di na ako masyadong kumikino unlike nung kabataan ko na jolly at madaldal talaga. Minsan kasi, natatawa na lang ako sa mga problema ng mga friends ko. Mapapatanong na lang ako sa sarili ko kung problema ba yun? Mas marami pang problema na iba dyan. Hehe example na lang - - im in my 30s na, pero yung mga kasama ko, problemado kasi hindi nila mapagkasya ang weekend sa sobra ng daming ginagawa like bowling, road trip, nood ng sine and the likes. Kumbaga, hindi alam ang priority. Hehe ako kasi, i always tame my time seriously at ayaw ko sa lahat nag aaksaya ng oras. Di ko alam kung depressed ako, yes, malungkot ako. Pero wala ako sa point na gusto ko magpakamatay o madami ako iniisip. Its just that siguro, kahit pamilya ko, nagawa kong talikuran dahil sa kung tratuhin nila ako, para akong iba compared sa mga kapatid ko. By the way, middle child here hehe
  • SamanthaBSamanthaB PEx Rookie ⭐
    edited June 2018
    HiThere:) said:
    Masasabi mo bang depress ang isang tao like for example ayaw niya unuwi sa bahay nila? Ako kasi, hindi na ako umuuwi sa bahay namin. Siguro, yung weekly na uwi before, ngayon, nabawasan na. Siguro, once every two months na lang. to think na i live within metro manila lang at nasa bulacan lang sila. The reason why i dont go home anymore is lagi nila ako pinapauwi, then pag uwi ko naman, may kanya kanya silang lakad. So parang ako, naiiwan lang din sa bahay.  Kaya mas lalo ako nalulungkot. Unlike dito sa manila, pag weekend, ok lang kahit ako lang mag isa kasi magiinternet lang ako buong araw. Pampalipas ba ng oras. Tapos kung may magyayaya na friends, lalabas naman kami. Ngayon, di na ako masyadong kumikino unlike nung kabataan ko na jolly at madaldal talaga. Minsan kasi, natatawa na lang ako sa mga problema ng mga friends ko. Mapapatanong na lang ako sa sarili ko kung problema ba yun? Mas marami pang problema na iba dyan. Hehe example na lang - - im in my 30s na, pero yung mga kasama ko, problemado kasi hindi nila mapagkasya ang weekend sa sobra ng daming ginagawa like bowling, road trip, nood ng sine and the likes. Kumbaga, hindi alam ang priority. Hehe ako kasi, i always tame my time seriously at ayaw ko sa lahat nag aaksaya ng oras. Di ko alam kung depressed ako, yes, malungkot ako. Pero wala ako sa point na gusto ko magpakamatay o madami ako iniisip. Its just that siguro, kahit pamilya ko, nagawa kong talikuran dahil sa kung tratuhin nila ako, para akong iba compared sa mga kapatid ko. By the way, middle child here hehe

    Based on an article I have read, here are some of the signs of being depressed
    • feeling sad about everything.
    • lost of interest on things you previously enjoy doing
    • irritable mood
    • significant changes in appetite and weight
    • feeling tired and sluggish most of the time (without knowing why)
    • feeling of worthless
    • problems with focus, concentration, thinking, etc.

    If you experience at least 5 of those symptoms, you might be depressed already. (I hope you are not)

    Anyway, have you ever tried opening up or raising your sentiments to your family? Maybe, they are not just aware of how they made you feel. Perhaps there is just a communication gap. 


  • BunnygervoBunnygervo PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐

    Im also a middle child pero mas gustu ko nasa bahay namin. Exhausted kasi ako sa work na sandmakmak ang backstabber at plastic. Atleast sa bahay assertive at logical ang mga tao. Meju nakakahurt nga lang minsan kasi achiever ako while studying, nung ngkawork di ako sinuwerte kasi matigas dw ulo ko at mali choices ko sa buhay. Minsan minsan lang ako nadedepress pag nakakafeel ako ng rejection sa mga importanteng tao sa buhay ko. Sa work pag natetemp na ko mgresign pero itulog ko lang paggising ko wala narin.

    Teknik ko lng umiiwas ako sa mga taong struggled sa buhay baka kasi mahawa ako. Pati sa mga chismosa ayuko rin.

    Saka pag depress wag kain ng kain.

  • SamanthaBSamanthaB PEx Rookie ⭐

     Sa work pag natetemp na ko mgresign pero itulog ko lang paggising ko wala narin.

    Because after you sleep you realized you have bills to pay, you need money so you need a job.  =) 

    Saka pag depress wag kain ng kain.

    I guess this is stress eating. One of coping mechanisms. But yes, this one isn't really good.  
  • Depression can occur in people of different sex, age and social status.  The causes of depression can be heredity, endocrine disorders, severe emotional stress - loss of loved ones and others.  Treatment of depression, it is necessary to carry out complex, under the guidance of a psychiatrist.  For drug treatment of depression, you can try to take https://nootropicboost.com/buy-best-nootropics/coluracetam/ , they will not harm your body.
  • piquanteyepiquanteye Member PEx Expert 🎖️
    I mean if you are already mentally ill and a bit stupid the only way to overcome it is to end your life at your own. You dont need other people to know that your killed yourself or mandamay pa ng iba.

    If you have no work and umaasa ka lang sa iba. At ni minsan hinde nakaranas paano magtrabaho ng tama....

    Just kill yourself if you insist.
  • Sobrang lawak po kasi ng sakop ng issue ng depression eh. Bukod sa napakadaming posibleng reasons, may iba-iba pang level ng severity. So kung mild pa ang case, yung mga tao sa paligid tulad ng pamilya at mga kaibigan pwede pang tumulong. Talking to the depressed person is good, but listening to him/her is way more better. Marami kasing pagkakataon na nangyari kung saan yung taong depressed alam naman nya ang tamang solusyon sa problema or nararamdaman nya. All he/she need lang talaga ay yung tao or mga tao na makikinig. Magkakahalo at magulong emotions lang naman kasi minsan and nawi-weaken lang yung spirit ng tao at kailangan lang mailabas para ma-uplift.
  • sophieharpersophieharper PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    I mean if you are already mentally ill and a bit stupid the only way to overcome it is to end your life at your own. You dont need other people to know that your killed yourself or mandamay pa ng iba.

    If you have no work and umaasa ka lang sa iba. At ni minsan hinde nakaranas paano magtrabaho ng tama....

    Just kill yourself if you insist.
    Hey, Don't advice people to commit suicide. Depression can be a cause of a lot of factors. There are different stories behind it. I know somebody who went through depression, muntik na syang magpakamatay pero dahil sa tulong ng family and friends and ni God, nakarecover sya. Maganda na ang kalagayan nya ngayon. Lagi lang kasi dapat tandaan na in Life, there are a lot of storms, but all of them passes lang naman. Lilipas din yan my friend. Wag magpakamatay. There is more to life than that. Hindi yan solusyon. It's a quitters decision.
  • SamanthaBSamanthaB PEx Rookie ⭐
    I mean if you are already mentally ill and a bit stupid the only way to overcome it is to end your life at your own. You dont need other people to know that your killed yourself or mandamay pa ng iba.

    If you have no work and umaasa ka lang sa iba. At ni minsan hinde nakaranas paano magtrabaho ng tama....

    Just kill yourself if you insist.
    Hey, Don't advice people to commit suicide. Depression can be a cause of a lot of factors. There are different stories behind it. I know somebody who went through depression, muntik na syang magpakamatay pero dahil sa tulong ng family and friends and ni God, nakarecover sya. Maganda na ang kalagayan nya ngayon. Lagi lang kasi dapat tandaan na in Life, there are a lot of storms, but all of them passes lang naman. Lilipas din yan my friend. Wag magpakamatay. There is more to life than that. Hindi yan solusyon. It's a quitters decision.
    I agree with you @sophieharper. There's more to life but when you are in the midst of depression, hindi mo naman na to actually maiisip. Often, a depressed person's mind is filled with negativity. No matter how much you tell them that there is more to life, they will less likely to understand that. The feeling of loneliness, unexplained sadness, and the feeling of being lost, being not enough, being worthless actually take over the logic. Usually, depressed people just wanted to be free from those feelings. 

    So telling someone to just kill themselves @piquanteye can just make someone's situation worse. Let us provide support and care to depressed people here. Depressed people need help from family, friends, and from us. That is among the things they need. Let's value life. 
  • piquanteyepiquanteye Member PEx Expert 🎖️
    edited July 2018
    You dont provide support to those Who are already on the worst part of depression. Base on clinical pyschology you just let them kill themselves.  It is Mental condition!

    Acceptance on the state of being depressed is the solution.  And in the end everyone will accept it is time to really let go..

  • You dont provide support to those Who are already on the worst part of depression. Base on clinical pyschology you just let them kill themselves.  It is Mental condition!

    MAUNA ka na lang kaya magpakamatay tutal wala kang pakinabang sa usapang ito....
  • boylinde974boylinde974 PEx Rookie ⭐
    ako minsan nakakaranas din ako ng depression pero nilalabanan ko, minsan idadaan ko muna sa manuod ng mga hilig ko na palabas sa tv kong di ako makatulog dahil sa lalim ng iniisip, pagka sunod nagttake ako ng beer magisa habang nag ssounds ng malakas at mahilig ako sa alternative, naiisip ko kasi na lahat naman tayo may dumadating na pagsubok iba ibang klasing problema sa buhay, kay kong dimo labanan talo ka...

    ingat inga nalang pexer...
  • KroudoOgawaKroudoOgawa PEx Rookie ⭐
    Mahirap magpaka positibo lalo na kung depressed ka na. Pakiramdam ko meron ako nun dahil nararanasan ko ang ibang senyales ng depression. Gayunpaman, nagpapatuloy ako. Akala ko noon, makakarecover ako yun pala, hindi. Mas lumalala nangyayari sa akin kaya palagay ko nasa proseso pa rin ako.

    Umabot n rin sa punto ng isip ko na gusto ko na tapusin ang buhay ko ng d oras kaso natakot ako sa kamatayan.
  • IronHandofJusticeIronHandofJustice Member PEx Guru 🎖️🎖️
    edited August 2018
    I can say I am depressed. I used to like reading books and gardening but it's gone. I also have a bit of difficulty concentrating, comprehending and remembering the exact words I want to say. May mga communication errors ako which I don't usually commit. I am also generally sad inside.

    Hindi ako ganito. I used to be a fighter pero something snapped, I can feel it.

    Cause: Too much disappointments in life maybe? Alam mo iyong push ka ng push pero this is such a nasty world. Gumawa ka ng tama, ikaw pa ang masama. You are being honest, but it's being taken against you. May mga unfulfilled dreams rin ako na hindi ko magawa dati due to extreme financial hardship and abusive parents. Ngayon medyo may pera na pero naubusan ka na ng fighting spirit. Low bat ka na, you know what I mean.

    Suicidal? Maybe. Maybe not. I stopped praying since last year ata. Wala namang nababago. He is just up there probably doing nothing while the world is struggling. If I kill myself, naisip ko it won't change anything. The physical pain will stop pero I know it won't end there, kasi I believe the pain will continue in another form, which I don't want to happen. Despair and regret among the family members probably?

    What keeps me going? Naisip ko, if I cannot make things better for myself, I know I can do it for others. I am able bodied, young adult, has a university degree, positive net worth, with a roof on my head and a fully loaded fridge in my condo. This is a lot better compared to the life I was accustomed to na kahit pampakintab ng sapatos ay black crayon. Ngayon pa ba ako bibigay?

    Luckily may mga nakakausap naman ako. I have my boyfriend for 6 years (I am not straight and I know it somehow contributed to this), very few close friends (less than 5 of them knew my sexuality and depression), three out of five siblings are there, and one college professor. Iyong college professor ko sabi niya walang iwanan. He is not straight too but he is immensely successful in the education field.

    Tip ko sa mga halos pareho sa akin, find your support group. Iyong family hindi totoong sila ang unang tatanggap at uunawa sa atin, minsan sila pa ang cause actually. And try to use that little energy evaluating your purpose. Kung deprived ka like me nung bata ka, do you want other kids to experience the same? Kung umangat na ang buhay mo, why don't you try to help them? Mahilig ka ba sa nature? Volunteer for a clean-up activity. Gusto mo bang mag drawing? Pwede ka mag turo ng In design or Photoshop sa isang public school. You don't need to be happy doing this, kasi ang goal mo is makapag contribute, and that's what matters.

    Be a good citizen of this world. Walang iwanan. 😊
  • SamanthaBSamanthaB PEx Rookie ⭐
    I can say I am depressed. I used to like reading books and gardening but it's gone. I also have a bit of difficulty concentrating, comprehending and remembering the exact words I want to say. May mga communication errors ako which I don't usually commit. I am also generally sad inside.

    Hindi ako ganito. I used to be a fighter pero something snapped, I can feel it.

    Cause: Too much disappointments in life maybe? Alam mo iyong push ka ng push pero this is such a nasty world. Gumawa ka ng tama, ikaw pa ang masama. You are being honest, but it's being taken against you. May mga unfulfilled dreams rin ako na hindi ko magawa dati due to extreme financial hardship and abusive parents. Ngayon medyo may pera na pero naubusan ka na ng fighting spirit. Low bat ka na, you know what I mean.

    Suicidal? Maybe. Maybe not. I stopped praying since last year ata. Wala namang nababago. He is just up there probably doing nothing while the world is struggling. If I kill myself, naisip ko it won't change anything. The physical pain will stop pero I know it won't end there, kasi I believe the pain will continue in another form, which I don't want to happen. Despair and regret among the family members probably?

    What keeps me going? Naisip ko, if I cannot make things better for myself, I know I can do it for others. I am able bodied, young adult, has a university degree, positive net worth, with a roof on my head and a fully loaded fridge in my condo. This is a lot better compared to the life I was accustomed to na kahit pampakintab ng sapatos ay black crayon. Ngayon pa ba ako bibigay?

    Luckily may mga nakakausap naman ako. I have my boyfriend for 6 years (I am not straight and I know it somehow contributed to this), very few close friends (less than 5 of them knew my sexuality and depression), three out of five siblings are there, and one college professor. Iyong college professor ko sabi niya walang iwanan. He is not straight too but he is immensely successful in the education field.

    Tip ko sa mga halos pareho sa akin, find your support group. Iyong family hindi totoong sila ang unang tatanggap at uunawa sa atin, minsan sila pa ang cause actually. And try to use that little energy evaluating your purpose. Kung deprived ka like me nung bata ka, do you want other kids to experience the same? Kung umangat na ang buhay mo, why don't you try to help them? Mahilig ka ba sa nature? Volunteer for a clean-up activity. Gusto mo bang mag drawing? Pwede ka mag turo ng In design or Photoshop sa isang public school. You don't need to be happy doing this, kasi ang goal mo is makapag contribute, and that's what matters.

    Be a good citizen of this world. Walang iwanan. 😊
    "You used to be a fighter"

    After reading everything, I can sense that you are still a fighter. These lines "if I cannot make things better for myself, I know I can do it for others. ", "You don't need to be happy doing this, kasi ang goal mo is makapag contribute, and that's what matters." You have such a good soul. Just keep on fighting and moving forward. 

    You are doing a great job. You are making a good fight.
  • OldnewbieOldnewbie PEx Rookie ⭐
    I mean if you are already mentally ill and a bit stupid the only way to overcome it is to end your life at your own. You dont need other people to know that your killed yourself or mandamay pa ng iba.

    If you have no work and umaasa ka lang sa iba. At ni minsan hinde nakaranas paano magtrabaho ng tama....

    Just kill yourself if you insist.
    +1 bakit patatagalin pa Kung pwede namang tapusin agad.
  • KroudoOgawaKroudoOgawa PEx Rookie ⭐
    Ang depression ay hindi biro.
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