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I am a bit confused about something and would like some insights. Maybe a third party can offer some objectivity.

5 days ago, I posted on Craigslist personals. It was not a regular posting where I wrioe what I was looking for. I wrote a fantasy story. Some guys messaged me. There was one guy I ended up meeting and his actions confused me.

We exchanged short emails and he seemed to have a very positive energy, complimenting me on my post and asking me if I wanted it to become a reality.

Me: What's a guy like you doing in a site like this?
Him: Uhm, maybe to fulfill someone's fantasy?

He asked me to watch a movie with him on the weekend and chatted a bit more about our backgrounds, to "hang out".

2 days ago, I met him after his meeting. We went to buy tickets and paid our own way. We chatted for some time because we booked the last full show.

We talked about sex, what we both liked, our experiences. He asked me if I wanted to fool around in the movie theatre.

He asked me to kiss him in the dark, which I did. It was wet. He put his hand between my thighs. I tightened my thighs around his hand. I slid my hand to feel his crotch. He was hard. He asked me if I wanted to lick it later. Then I unbuttoned his shorts with one hand and rubbed his ****. That was really nice. I whispered dirty things in his ear. He licked my bare shoulder and caressed my skin, lay his head on my shoulder.

Then he stopped. I slid my hand in a second time, asking if I should continue. He was breathing hard and I could smell his scent. I assumed he was sweating. He said to do it later. So I took my hand out. There was no more touching.

After the movie, we went out of the mall and he called a business contact. Then we got into his car. During a stop light, he turned to me and told me to come closer. Then he kissed me. That happened one more time. I also kept talking to him about sexual innuendos. I talked about how my ex liked getting a ***** while driving. He did mention earlier that he also experienced that but now he was saying that he actually found it difficult to concentrate while driving.

We went to McDonald's to eat. He told me he didn't feel like getting a ***** anymore.

Then he took me home. I thought he wanted to kiss me, so I cupped his face in my hands but his mouth was motionless.

After I got home, I sent him a message. I don't know why I didn't wait for him to message first. I think I felt I had to ask him but all of this didn't dawn on me until then.

Me: Thank you for your time tonight. I really enjoyed it!
Him: Good night! I appreciate you giving your time for this and I had fun with our conversation :) Happy week ahead!
Me: May I ask why you didn't want to go through with what we started?
Him: Something didn't feel right. I'm sorry if it's like that.
Me: No worries. I wanted to do it and you seemed to enjoy it in the movie theatre. So It was just a tad surprising. I hope I didn't turn you off or anything. You could always tell me what's in your mind without fear of offending me. If you think this isn't gonna work out, it's fine so I'll know where I'll stand.
Him: Thanks for being open. Yeah. I just felt this wouldn't work out. I don't want it to happen where we do it then I'll leave. I wasn't 100% into it.
Me: Alright then! If you don't mind telling me why? Then I'll leave you be.
Him: Apologirs [sic] for leading you on. Have a nice day!

Maybe I was naive, I expected too much. Or maybe he wasn't very forthcoming about his intentions? Please give me your thoughts. Thank you.

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  • mankeymankey PEx Rookie ⭐
    suzdec wrote: »
    I am a bit confused about something and would like some insights. Maybe a third party can offer some objectivity.

    5 days ago, I posted on Craigslist personals. It was not a regular posting where I wrioe what I was looking for. I wrote a fantasy story. Some guys messaged me. There was one guy I ended up meeting and his actions confused me.

    We exchanged short emails and he seemed to have a very positive energy, complimenting me on my post and asking me if I wanted it to become a reality.

    Me: What's a guy like you doing in a site like this?
    Him: Uhm, maybe to fulfill someone's fantasy?

    He asked me to watch a movie with him on the weekend and chatted a bit more about our backgrounds, to "hang out".

    2 days ago, I met him after his meeting. We went to buy tickets and paid our own way. We chatted for some time because we booked the last full show.

    We talked about sex, what we both liked, our experiences. He asked me if I wanted to fool around in the movie theatre.

    He asked me to kiss him in the dark, which I did. It was wet. He put his hand between my thighs. I tightened my thighs around his hand. I slid my hand to feel his crotch. He was hard. He asked me if I wanted to lick it later. Then I unbuttoned his shorts with one hand and rubbed his ****. That was really nice. I whispered dirty things in his ear. He licked my bare shoulder and caressed my skin, lay his head on my shoulder.

    Then he stopped. I slid my hand in a second time, asking if I should continue. He was breathing hard and I could smell his scent. I assumed he was sweating. He said to do it later. So I took my hand out. There was no more touching.

    After the movie, we went out of the mall and he called a business contact. Then we got into his car. During a stop light, he turned to me and told me to come closer. Then he kissed me. That happened one more time. I also kept talking to him about sexual innuendos. I talked about how my ex liked getting a ***** while driving. He did mention earlier that he also experienced that but now he was saying that he actually found it difficult to concentrate while driving.

    We went to McDonald's to eat. He told me he didn't feel like getting a ***** anymore.

    Then he took me home. I thought he wanted to kiss me, so I cupped his face in my hands but his mouth was motionless.

    After I got home, I sent him a message. I don't know why I didn't wait for him to message first. I think I felt I had to ask him but all of this didn't dawn on me until then.

    Me: Thank you for your time tonight. I really enjoyed it!
    Him: Good night! I appreciate you giving your time for this and I had fun with our conversation :) Happy week ahead!
    Me: May I ask why you didn't want to go through with what we started?
    Him: Something didn't feel right. I'm sorry if it's like that.
    Me: No worries. I wanted to do it and you seemed to enjoy it in the movie theatre. So It was just a tad surprising. I hope I didn't turn you off or anything. You could always tell me what's in your mind without fear of offending me. If you think this isn't gonna work out, it's fine so I'll know where I'll stand.
    Him: Thanks for being open. Yeah. I just felt this wouldn't work out. I don't want it to happen where we do it then I'll leave. I wasn't 100% into it.
    Me: Alright then! If you don't mind telling me why? Then I'll leave you be.
    Him: Apologirs [sic] for leading you on. Have a nice day!

    Maybe I was naive, I expected too much. Or maybe he wasn't very forthcoming about his intentions? Please give me your thoughts. Thank you.

    idk TS but *****'s a *****. A guy won't back down on a free *****. That guy's something. Maybe he's looking forward to seeing you again. Or maybe he's just being mysterious to keep you coming in for more. Be ready for a trap TS, he's cooking something for you that will be hard to resist. Just stay on your toes. And stop lurking on craigslist, people out there are creepy.
  • suzdecsuzdec PEx Rookie ⭐
    Hmmm I see. Yes, I should stop. Thank you for your thoughts.
  • maybe TS he's in a relationship and suddenly felt guilty, yeah no one will decline for that!
  • Kent_21OKent_21O Member PEx Expert 🎖️
    Ate, grabe ka naman kasi. Pakipot din kasi minsan. As a guy, I can tell na masyado kang naging aggressive at nakaka turn off yun.

    May I know what kind of fantasy story you wrote?
  • suzdecsuzdec PEx Rookie ⭐
    Ganern? Weird siya. Pero I will admit di naman ako beauty queen level. We did not see each other's pictures before we agreed to meet. Kaso, when he saw me for the first time and decided I wasn't his type, why start?

    May sariling post din siya on CL. So I think it's less likely that he is in a relationship.
  • suzdecsuzdec PEx Rookie ⭐
    Some guys say play hard-to-get. Some guys say be more aggressive. Funny.
  • kellysulykellysuly PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    suzdec wrote: »
    Ganern? Weird siya. Pero I will admit di naman ako beauty queen level. We did not see each other's pictures before we agreed to meet. Kaso, when he saw me for the first time and decided I wasn't his type, why start?

    May sariling post din siya on CL. So I think it's less likely that he is in a relationship.

    I just think that he doesnt like you...what kind of man would say no to sex with a beautiful girl d ba? I think d ka type but he is being respectful...

    kung tumawag sya sa iyo then its a different story, otherwise, sorry
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