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Pinoy Abraod na ayaw makisalamuha sa kapwa pinoy?

kafamzkafamz PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
Ano tingin nio sa mga yan na nagOFW pero ayaw makihalobilo sa mga kapwa pinoy. Maarte ba? Mapagmataas at mapangmata. May tatamaan na naman sa thread kez. :rolleyes:

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  • nikkilovenikkilove PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    actually those who feel entitled or better tnan others stay in the community.

    sino pagmamayabangan nila kung out of the circulation sila. theynloke those compliments from other pinoys.

    mostly, yung mga ayaw sa chismis ang aloof sa group ng pinoys.
  • oraorajoestaroraorajoestar PEx Rookie ⭐
    Some people are just that way, the problem is the fellow ****** peenoise abroad who will gossip on you and label you as mayabang if you don't mingle with them a lot. They have their reasons, you'll spend more than usual in many ways if you too many "friends":
    1. group cooking in the common kitchen.
    2. the occasional "collection fund" for an upcoming occasion like a bday, their kid's debut, christmas and new year.
    3. if you join the paluwagan system within your group.
    4. purchasing a router for internet access.
    5. and the ever so popular burrow/utang.
    You have to shell out money one way or another with such activities for "pakikisama" sake within your circle. I have very few close friends when I was working abroad, the rest of the ofws are mare acquaintances who I can casually talk if we ever bumped to each other at work and in the flat.
  • pusang_miyawpusang_miyaw PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    May existing thread na same topic na dati ah. Hindi na sya quality thread, copycat thread na. Hahahaha


    OT: I agree with Nikki
  • F-A SoldierF-A Soldier PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    I know in the past I've said "thank goodness I live far from large groups of pinoys" or something along those lines.

    I regret saying that and I am wrong. Not in the sense that I do want to live nor I don't want to live with Peenoise, I could live with a bunch of monkeys for all I care. :glee:

    But what that statement implied. That it seems living with Peenoise = terrible. The ego that I'm somewhat better for whatever reason.

    I apologize for that.

    Now that being said...in reality living with black, white, Puerto Ricans, Chinese, Samoans etc etc. in reality there are pros and cons. They probably talk shyet or they probably have issues with you, you just don't see it because you don't have same interaction with them as much as you do with Noypeace.

    I think we just see the 'CONS' the cringeworthiness, the bad side etc...I think it affects us more because we understand them. Not just the language, but the culture-specific behaviors, mannerisms. And because we can understand and relate, it's easier for us to feel and see it (esp. because all humans tend to feel more the negative more than the positive).

    Also living overseas, you are surrounded by people you can understand (ie above point) but they're strangers. The difference with living in the Philippines and overseas Peenoise is the 'mixture' of Filipinos you face day to day.

    In the Philippines you interact with your family, friends etc. There's a bigger pool of Peenoise, with good and bad, talented, beautiful...it dilutes the negatives (the ugly, the untalented etc.)

    Overseas there are much smaller group of Peenoise. Demographics are not the same. For example in Hongkong majority of Peenoise there are woman, many of them (I hate to sound condescending) that aren't educated and are hired for manual labor (ie domestic work). Or in Hawai'i, many Peenoise there are Ilocanos that came straight from the province (no joke)...if you're from Manila it's hard to understand them not just linguistically but despite being Filipinos they do have different culture, different hopes and dreams, insecurities, perspectives.

    I think overseas Peenoise when they see a bad apple among the bunch...it seems much much worse because the pool of Peenoise are much much smaller here.

    ...and also the fact that in even smaller communities (example mid-America---both coasts kasi maraming Peenoise but mid-America fewer and lesser in between) a lot of them magkamag-anak. So you see them as a 'group', if one bad apple = association is already tainted with the rest.

    :glee:

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  • pong_padourpong_padour PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Di naman sa ayaw makipagsalamuha sa kapwa Pinoy, ang iba tulad ko, namimili ng sasamahan na mga Pinoy. Sa work na lang iilan lang kaming mga Pinoy, tapos etong mga kaibigan ko lagi na lang pinaguusapan at binabansagan ng ASO yung isa naming kasamahan na kaibigan ko rin. So ako kinumpronta ko etong mga nambubully dahil panay pintas (araw-araw) sila at chismis dito chismis doon dun sa nananahimik kong kasamahan. Pag hindi naman yun ang topic, yun isa naman na kasamahan namin ang titirahin nung beteranong Pinoy dito sa kumpanya na puro chismis na lang inaatupag. Pag may baguhan, ibbrainwash nila na masama daw ugali nung isa naming kasamahan na yun at gagawa ng kwentong barbero na naman. Pinagsabihan ko na di tama yung pagchismisan nyo yung tao at kung may problema kayo sa kanya, mas mainam na sabihin nyo harapan hindi yung patraydor kayo tumirada. Sabi ko pa, yung mga taong sinasamahan nyo na mahilig mangchismis, balang araw kayo naman ang ichichismis nyan. Matapos nun pinalitan ko ng Pinoy Chismis at mukha ni Boy Abunda ang group profile pic ng whatsapp groupchat namin sabay leave group. :lol: Bihira na rin akong sumama at manlibre sa kanila. Di ko kasi gusto ang ganung asal. Very unproductive sila araw-araw kaya di mapromote promote eh. Imbes humusay sa trabaho, sa chismisan gumaling. :glee:
  • MabuheyMabuhey PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    kahit sa pinas o sa abroad, talagang masama ata talaga ang ugali ng mga pinoy kesa sa ibang mga lahi, nasa kultura natin siguro yun , kumbaga nasa atin na ang lahat .. Ang hirap timplahin ng mga ugali .Eeto kaseng mga nag invade satin, nilahian tayo ng gantong ugali :lol:

    Trial and error minsan ang pagkakaron ng kaibigan . Kung hindi mag click , well pwede naman maging casual lang, kung mag click eh di mas maige . Kelangan din mamili kase iba iba tayo ng mga pinang galingan at pagpapalaki kase pag nasaktan ng taong inaakalang kaibigan mo, somehow , nakaka apekto yun sayong pagkatao. Kung hindi man maging kaibigan, mas maganda pa rin napapakisamahan mo at wala kang kaaway :)
  • bitwisebitwise PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    For me, it's more like, for 20+ god damn years I have been living with Filipinos.

    It's time to move out of the comfort zone and know more about the world and other people. I'm in a different country with it's own local scene and culture. It's the perfect opportunity to network outside of the Philippine bubble.
  • hardrivehardrive PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    kafamz wrote: »
    Ano tingin nio sa mga yan na nagOFW pero ayaw makihalobilo sa mga kapwa pinoy. Maarte ba? Mapagmataas at mapangmata. May tatamaan na naman sa thread kez. :rolleyes:

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    Minsan mas guato ko maki salamuha s aibamg lahi kaysa pinoy
    Kasi mas makakalaban mo pa ang pinoy kaysa ibamg lahi
    Ewan ko ba bakit ganon ang pinoy
    Example ka trababo mo
    Pag natatasan mo yan ka pinoy mo hahanap ng kapahamakan mo yan
    Ayaw nya mas mataas ka kaysa kanya
  • Mrs.RizzMrs.Rizz PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Buti na lang kami, yung mga nakapaligid sa aming mga Pinoy eh mababait.
  • ramblerrambler PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Ako bet kong makimingle sa mga kababayan..sabay share ng Salita ng Diyos... ;)
  • Naalala ko yung story ni APL sa Black Eyed Peas. Nung first time siyang napunta sa states gusto sana niyang kaibiganin mga pinoy pero ini snub siya kaya mga blacks nalang ang nagiging close niya. Yun din ang na experience ko sa SG pa, parang mas friendly pa yung ibang natives kaysa mga pinoy except nalang duon sa mga ka opisina ko mismo.
  • First time i worked abroad, ang naging bff ko is not a pinoy, but an indian. Even now we're both pamilyado na and she's in NJ, when she learned i'm in canada, nakipagmeet pa sya talaga sa akin sa CN tower. 😄 Also made local friends (malay) in another company i worked at..kaya andami kong natutunang malay words, their hangouts, super spicy foods nakasanayan ko din. Nagkataon na mas gusto ko ugali nila compared sa mga pinoy na andon that time. Ewan ko ba. Pero may iilan din namang matino. Or maybe because it was exciting for me that time to mingle with other nationalities din.

    When i lived in Singapore, ang ayoko lang dun yung ibang dh (no offense meant) pero hindi ko gusto how they interact when they meet other filipinas. "Ay pilipina ka pala!" "asan alaga mo? Anong grade alaga mo?" (Lol parang pet lang) pag sumusundo ako sa anak ko. "Anong amo mo?" Then pag nalaman nilang anak ko sinusundo ko...ang next line of questioning is... "Anong lahi asawa mo?" What hindi ba pwede pinoy? "Pinoy din" .."anong trabaho?" And so on... kaya pag ganun iniinterview ko na rin sila kahit ayoko sana.
    So pag nandun ako sa school, pag nakikita ko sila babati lang ako pero sa iba ako pumupwesto. Pero minsan hindi pa rin maiwasan ang lakas ng mga kwentuhan nila at nalalaman ko na buong talambuhay ng kung sino mang pinagchichismisan nila.
    Kaya i'd always bring earphones and just watch online streaming movies or kdramas. :glee:

    Pero yung mga kaofficemates na pinoy ng asawa ko okay naman sila. Kahit dito sa canada, may mga group of pinoys na ok, merong mas okay. Hehe dun kami sa mas okay. Yung iba kasi, just like what was mentioned earlier, magastos laging nagmimeet up, nangongolekta ambagan kasi parang every month merong may birthday, or kung anumang party. Ano yun kasama na sa budget namin? Heheh buti na rin lumipat na kami ng city.

    So iba ibang reasons. And we have a choice naman kung sino pakikisalamuhain namin, regardless of race. Nasa personality yun ng tao.
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