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Meantime/rebound guy

Is it possible for a married woman to have a meantime/rebound guy without having sex with him? I mean just spend time together and hang out. Parang breather lang from a cheating husband who doesnt want to fix the marriage.

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  • jcdyjcdy PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Pwede. Hindi naman imposible mangyari yang gusto mo. Pero ang mas tamang tanong eh kung paano ka makakakita ng rebound guy na papayag sa gusto mong setup. :lol:
  • HannyagirlHannyagirl PEx Rookie ⭐
    Why? Cause guy = sex ba?
  • jcdyjcdy PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ^ Mukhang ang babaw naman ng tingin mo sa aming mga guys kung ganyan ang pananaw mo. Ang ibig ko sabihin, mahihirapan ka maghanap ng lalakeng papayag na maging rebound mo lang kung wala naman siya mapapala sayo in the long term. Hindi necessarily sex lang ang habol, kundi isang serious long term relationship.
    Kung ayaw mo maniwala, mas mabuting i-try mo at good luck sa paghahanap. Pero tulad nga ng sabi ko, hindi imposible pero mataas ang chance na mahihirapan ka. Swerte mo kung makahanap ka kaagad.
    Sa tingin ko hindi rebound ang tamang itawag sa hinahanap mo dahil companionship ang totoong hanap mo.
  • HannyagirlHannyagirl PEx Rookie ⭐
    Well siguro nga mali yung term ko na rebound pero if youre in a ****** relationship i guess yun ang maiisip mo na term. Di naman sa mababaw ang tingin ko sa mga guys but its still a reality, like here dami looking for that di ba?
  • darmonxdarmonx PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Yes.. possible to have a guy friend with no sex but the following conditions must exists..

    The guy is not attracted to you.. i do not have sex with females in not attracted to because women today are good at becoming a headache just because they have you sex.. di bale na lang kung pangit.

    Two.. guy is in a happy relationship. He'll hang out and everything but that's it.

    There.. guy is gay.. perfect scenario.. anything else.. us guys instinctively take advantage of vulnerabilities.. good luck.
  • DacsDacs PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Una, kasal ka. Sino namang matinong lalaki na makikipagrelasyon sa babaeng kasal?

    Pangalawa, sinong lalaki ang gugugol ng oras at panahon sa isang relasyon na wala namang patutunguhan?

    Fix your marriage first. If that's not possible, get an annulment first before committing to someone else.

    PS: Don't you have friends to do that kind of stuff?
  • HannyagirlHannyagirl PEx Rookie ⭐
    Thanks for your replies.

    I dont wanna spend time with friends cause i dont want them to find out what im going through. Noone in our circle knows whats going on in our marriage.
  • darmonxdarmonx PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Sorry to hear that but we all need someone to listen and talk to who does not know who we are married to or seen or children. Have friends outside your spouse circle. It's not hard nowadays.
  • ValorianValorian PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Hannyagirl wrote: »
    Thanks for your replies.

    I dont wanna spend time with friends cause i dont want them to find out what im going through. Noone in our circle knows whats going on in our marriage.

    I think you should tell it to someone that you really trust

    mukha kasing kailangan mo lang ng kausap regarding sa problema mo

    not necessarily a guy na ide-date mo para lang mawala sa isip mo yung ginawa ng asawa mo
  • HannyagirlHannyagirl PEx Rookie ⭐
    Thanks again.

    I dont think i can open up with someone that i really trust cause that would mean that person knows us very well. I still dont want na pumangit or masira yung tingin nila kay hubby bec of what happened. Unless of course we decided to split up syempre for sure malalaman na ng family namin yung reason.
  • HannyagirlHannyagirl PEx Rookie ⭐
    darmonx wrote: »
    Sorry to hear that but we all need someone to listen and talk to who does not know who we are married to or seen or children. Have friends outside your spouse circle. It's not hard nowadays.

    Thanks for this! Exactly what's on my mind. Although minsan nakakaparanoid baka someone knows someone who knows you haha
  • DaugGreenDaugGreen PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Not possible. Rebound, cheating husband = Girl wants revenge = Sex (From a guy's perspective)

    If you are going to do this, what makes you different from your husband?
  • HannyagirlHannyagirl PEx Rookie ⭐
    ^ i dont see it as revenge and sex is totally out of the picture.
  • DaugGreenDaugGreen PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    ^ What i meant, coming from a guy's point of view.

    But you can actually do that here, just PM anyone.
  • hassle2016hassle2016 PEx Rookie ⭐
    1. If you just simply want to let it out, you can make friends with women for that girl power thingy.
    2. If you want to let it out and get a male's perspective for your situation, then make friends with a guy that you think you will never ever fall for, better yet, make friends with badings. Patawa man sila but they are full of wisdom too.
    3. If you want to let it out and get a male's perspective and may konting excitement/kilig, then make friends with someone that you are attracted too. Yung nga lang, it's too risky. You will be too vulnerable.
  • ValorianValorian PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Hannyagirl wrote: »
    Thanks again.

    I dont think i can open up with someone that i really trust cause that would mean that person knows us very well. I still dont want na pumangit or masira yung tingin nila kay hubby bec of what happened. Unless of course we decided to split up syempre for sure malalaman na ng family namin yung reason.

    sabi mo nga, ayaw/walang interes si husband na ayusin yung sitwasyon niyo, bakit kailangan mo pang pangalagaan yung reputsyon niya?

    kausapin mo asawa mo, at kung wala na talaga siyang interes na ayusin yung sitwasyon niyo, hiwalayan mo na, spare yourself from misery..or at least tell someone you really trust na may ganyan kayong sitwasyon
  • MabuheyMabuhey PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    sigurado ka ba at kaya mo bang ma sustain na hanggang companionship lang kayo ng meantime/rebound guy na gusto mo? With all the kiligs, the thrill ,sigurado ka bang hindi ka ma iinlove sa kanya?

    Well, kung sigurado ka sa sarili mo at you think na kayang kaya mo yan labasan , try it.. Sa mararanasan na sakit ka matututo , hindi sa advice ng tao.. goodluck :)
  • HannyagirlHannyagirl PEx Rookie ⭐
    Thanks again for all your replies :) makes me realize the possibilities and definitely i dont want to be taken advataged of and go through another emotional stress.
  • NilsNils PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Hannyagirl wrote: »
    Is it possible for a married woman to have a meantime/rebound guy without having sex with him? I mean just spend time together and hang out. Parang breather lang from a cheating husband who doesnt want to fix the marriage.

    Kung sagot mo ang pagkain, kape at alak, meron ka sigurong makukuha. Yun lang, wag kang ma-sorpresa kung mag-attempt yun ng something sexual lalo na kung may asim ka pa.
  • Hannyagirl wrote: »
    Thanks for your replies.

    I dont wanna spend time with friends cause i dont want them to find out what im going through. Noone in our circle knows whats going on in our marriage.

    I know someone who thinks the same way as you. And TBH, this is the only thing that everyone should do especially when you're planning on patching up. But evidently, if you plan on leaving him, then by all means talk to your families and friends. But do note, that if the word goes out, friends and families will see your relationship tainted.

    but yeah, it is possible to get involve with someone you don't know where you can vent out your emotions. Could be a woman and not just a man, but if you prefer men then you would need to be clear with him that s_x is not included. Pure platonic relationship. That includes you, being fragile, you are prone to emotional attachment the moment you felt someone cared for you.

    There is a saying "strike when the iron is hot".
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