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ayoko nang magtrabaho!!!!!

naiiyak na talaga ako coz i just got a job this week pero di ko na talaga kayang matagalan pa..
gusto ko nang mag resign..
ayoko rin naman noon nung wala akong trabaho at nakatambay lang ako sa bahay..
pero ngayong nagkatrabaho na ako, parang ayoko na...
mwahh!!
i miss my parents a lot and i cannot really wake up very early just to find myself sitting in the corner of the office without chatting to anyone dahil parang ang susuplado ng mga ka work mates ko!!!

Words of Encouragement, PLEASE!!!!!
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  • You can't have it all Tsinito. Nung wala kang trabaho, gusto mong magtrabaho. Now that you have work, gusto mong mag-resign. Which do you think you can live more with? Isipin mo maigi yung feeling about working and not working. There are many of us here who feel the same way sometimes. You just have to look at the reality of life. I myself contemplated many times of giving up work and staying at home. Nakakahiya naman sa mga tao sa bahay. Baka naman you're not happy with your work lang. Look for something that you think you will enjoy doing.
  • ganyan talaga nasa stage ka pa ng adjustment. everybody goes through the same phase pag bago pa sila. Dont mind your new office mates one way or another kakailanganin ka rin nila and then sila na rin ang kusang lalapit sa iyo, or if you need to ask them anything about work, dont hesitate to ask them, its one good way para makipag communicate ka sa kanila na hindi nila iisiping you're triying to fit in or trying to reach out to them. Although sometimes dapat ikaw din ang mag adjust talaga at mag initiate na mag reach out sa kanila kasi ikaw yung bago eh, lahat sila i'm sure nagdaan din sa ganyan.

    Ndi nagsusungit or nagsusuplada yang mga iyan, gusto lang nila iparamadam sa iyong bago ka lang at sila matagal na sa company, kahit obvious naman, ganon talaga may mga taong insecure sa buhay, feeling nila pag may bago inaagawan sila ng position. One week ka pa lang naman, okay lang yan subsob mo lang sa work ang focus mo muna. Hindi magtatagal makakakuha ka rin ng sarili mong buddy, kaya lang ingat sa pagpili ng ka buddy kasi pag bumagsak ka sa mga ***** aba ang magiging image mo sa office eh isang ***** na rin hehehehehehehe, cge good luck!
  • I agree with Gabriela that you should look for something that you think you will enjoy doing. Only you can decide on this.

    Sa pag-gising ng maaga everyday, kahit ako nahihrapan pa rin. You just have something to motivate yourself with. Sa case ko i think about my family when i wake up everyday.

    Think of buying yourself a laptop, a new car, savings for starting your own business, etc.

    Sa mga officemates mo naman, just be yourself. wag maging plastik or trying hard just to be "in". Makikita mo rin ang mga magiging friends mo dyan.

    Good luck :)
  • Mahirap talaga pag baguhan sa isang kumpanya dahil maraming adjustment ang kailangan. Buti nga kalahi mo rin ang katrabaho mo dahil kung nasa multinational company ka mas mahirap sakyan ang ibang lahi. (mainitin ang ulo)
  • TSINITO - you're just starting with this company, i think you should "give this company a chance first", it's really hard to judge what the company has for you after one week. Another thing, with your officemates, try to be the one to approach them, ask questions if you need to and am sure they'll warm up to you. Maybe after a month or so and you still don't like it, it's really better if you start looking for other options.

    Goodluck.
  • CaRaMBaCaRaMBa Administrator PEx Moderator
    As Leigh said, you should give this company a chance. You've only been there for a week!

    Regarding your officemates, why don't you try to be the one to approach them and be friends with them? It's really hard to break the ice but you do you might just realize they're nice after all.

    Do you really want to resign? Or maybe you just feel that way 'cause you miss your life before having a job? I suggest that you list down the 'valid' reasons and figure out if it's really the right thing to do.
  • Originally posted by TSINITO
    naiiyak na talaga ako coz i just got a job this week pero di ko na talaga kayang matagalan pa..
    gusto ko nang mag resign..
    ayoko rin naman noon nung wala akong trabaho at nakatambay lang ako sa bahay..
    pero ngayong nagkatrabaho na ako, parang ayoko na...
    mwahh!!
    i miss my parents a lot and i cannot really wake up very early just to find myself sitting in the corner of the office without chatting to anyone dahil parang ang susuplado ng mga ka work mates ko!!!

    Words of Encouragement, PLEASE!!!!!

    Dude, imagine this (note, this is a simplified version). You work your butt off, but your boss doesn't recognize it. It reaches a point where other department managers notice that, and one even offers you a job in his department -- a position that is six levels higher than your current position (officer level actually). But your transfer is stalled, because your boss says, verbatim "even if they can give me a memo, I won't sign your release form".

    The offer remains despite the delay in the transfer; until your company is taken over by another -- and the post is lost. What's worse is your department is dissolved, and you go from a "thinking job with field work" to photocopying documents.

    It was like that for almost a six months; until one of the other managers -- who saw my predicament with my first boss --, got transferred to a department where he had clout, and literally grabbed me from the limbo-bin.

    After a few months I found a job abroad and, with my new department head's blessing and encouragement, resigned.

    The time frame from "transfer-block" to resignation spanned over a year. What did I get out of the whole thing? On one end, it instilled a hatred in me in my first boss that festers to this day, but on the other hand -- it gave me a better perspective about what to look for in a job, and the value of doing good work even if your boss is a certified a-s-s-h-o-l-e.

    It was a bad time, but I would not want to not have gone through it.
  • Ang ganda ng mga advise sa iyo!

    I'll be a bit hard
    grow up boy! You've got a job ...what sort of job? You don't even know if that's the sort that separates the boys from the men!!!!!!!

    One question? Do you think you will be able to stand on your own without your parents or relatives holding your hands? Ha?!

    Sorry for sounding tough ..but that's how it goes ...got to wake you up!
  • mag-asawa ka para may inspirasyon ka at may gigising sa yo tuwing umaga.:rolleyes:
  • Originally posted by Adroth


    Dude, imagine this (note, this is a simplified version). You work your butt off, but your boss doesn't recognize it. It reaches a point where other department managers notice that, and one even offers you a job in his department -- a position that is six levels higher than your current position (officer level actually). But your transfer is stalled, because your boss says, verbatim "even if they can give me a memo, I won't sign your release form".

    The offer remains despite the delay in the transfer; until your company is taken over by another -- and the post is lost. What's worse is your department is dissolved, and you go from a "thinking job with field work" to photocopying documents.

    It was like that for almost a six months; until one of the other managers -- who saw my predicament with my first boss --, got transferred to a department where he had clout, and literally grabbed me from the limbo-bin.

    After a few months I found a job abroad and, with my new department head's blessing and encouragement, resigned.

    The time frame from "transfer-block" to resignation spanned over a year. What did I get out of the whole thing? On one end, it instilled a hatred in me in my first boss that festers to this day, but on the other hand -- it gave me a better perspective about what to look for in a job, and the value of doing good work even if your boss is a certified a-s-s-h-o-l-e.

    It was a bad time, but I would not want to not have gone through it.

    :cool: very nicely put my padawan- now when shall we have some brewskis again? :D
  • kung ayaw mo na magwork.. bigay mo na lang sa akin. Sabihin mo ako na palit sayo.. :lol: just kidding.


    Ok. Ako kasi pag may bago sa department namin.. Web Dev't.. ako na mismo nag iinitiate ng conversation. Ang ginawa ko dun sa bago.. since kulang talaga kami ng graphics artist.. ayun pinass ko sa kanya lahat ng work ko na dapat ay sa kanya talaga mapunta! hehehehe.. well I approached him in a nice way naman. Eh gwapo pa.. ayun mas lalo kong tsinika :rotfl: then later on, feel ok na sya.. Kahit wala na ako sa work ko ngayon, he's still one of my best buddies :)

    Pero kung talagang mga hipokrito at suplada mga kaofficemates mo.. yaan mo lang sila. Pakita mo din na hindi ka pwede small-in!Wag ka magmaktol sa tabi habang nagwowork. Sige ka kung iiyak ka lagi hindi mo maeenjoy yung kumita ng pera.. hehehehe :lol:

    cheer up ok?
  • WHEW..
    ANG BABAIT NAMAN NG MGA TAO DITO..
    I can’t believe that my insignificant tantrums can actually make a lot of people waste their time in replying to a jerk like me.
    GUYS, MARAMING, MARAMING SALAMAT TALAGA., HOW I WISH NA SANA KAYO NA LANG ANG MGA KA-WORK MATES KO DAHIL I REALLY WANT TO WORK WITH “PROFESSIONAL” PEOPLE LIKE YOU..

    Originally posted by Gabriela
    You can't have it all Tsinito. Nung wala kang trabaho, gusto mong magtrabaho. Now that you have work, gusto mong mag-resign. Which do you think you can live more with? Isipin mo maigi yung feeling about working and not working. There are many of us here who feel the same way sometimes. You just have to look at the reality of life. I myself contemplated many times of giving up work and staying at home. Nakakahiya naman sa mga tao sa bahay. Baka naman you're not happy with your work lang. Look for something that you think you will enjoy doing.

    Reply:
    Actually, the job I have as of the moment is a very sought-after job since (I believe) that more than 60 engineers applied for the position (all of whom are fresh grads) and only one has to be selected—Please do not take this as if parang nagmamayabang ako. Luckily, or unluckily, it was I. I told my parents about my plan to resign on my third day but they actually got mad at me since I cannot find another job like this- FREE TRAINING, FREE ORIENTATION, FREE MEALS, ABOVE MINIMUM WAGE( you can’t find this often), AND TONS OF BENEFITS AND A LOT OF ROOMS FOR IMPROVEMENT. Pero ewan ko, sometimes being so illusional doesn’t really give good outcomes after all. I would say that I am happy with the job but I’m not happy with the company of people I am with.


    Originally posted by punch
    ganyan talaga nasa stage ka pa ng adjustment. everybody goes through the same
    phase pag bago pa sila. Dont mind your new office mates one way or another kakailanganin ka rin nila and then sila na rin ang kusang lalapit sa iyo, or if you need to ask them anything about work, dont hesitate to ask them, its one good way para makipag communicate ka sa kanila na hindi nila iisiping you're triying to fit in or trying to reach out to them. Although sometimes dapat ikaw din ang mag adjust talaga at mag initiate na mag reach out sa kanila kasi ikaw yung bago eh, lahat sila i'm sure nagdaan din sa ganyan.

    Ndi nagsusungit or nagsusuplada yang mga iyan, gusto lang nila iparamadam sa iyong bago ka lang at sila matagal na sa company, kahit obvious naman, ganon talaga may mga taong insecure sa buhay, feeling nila pag may bago inaagawan sila ng position. One week ka pa lang naman, okay lang yan subsob mo lang sa work ang focus mo muna. Hindi magtatagal makakakuha ka rin ng sarili mong buddy, kaya lang ingat sa pagpili ng ka buddy kasi pag bumagsak ka sa mga ***** aba ang magiging image mo sa office eh isang ***** na rin hehehehehehehe, cge good luck!


    Reply:
    Actually, I was really surprised to know that these fellow engineers of mine working in the same room that I am in were totally different from my own upbringing. Since all of us are men, they always talk about liquors, women and how to make fun of them during work hours since there is no superior to monitor us. I am actually now thinking of changing “image” from being a seminarista to being a Pabling or Tomador just to fit in with these people whom, unluckily, I’ll be working with for a very long time.
    They even want me to join them in their Saturday gimik but I refuse to since I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, (I’m allergic to both, that’s why) and I don’t like to play around with women. I am only 20 and most of the people inside our office ranges from 24-30 so there is indeed an age gap. And I just don’t know if that thing (being aloft to them) will help in any way to make me closer to them since I really cannot live the day without talking to anyone at all.


    Originally posted by TrashBox
    I agree with Gabriela that you should look for something that you think you will enjoy doing. Only you can decide on this.

    Sa pag-gising ng maaga everyday, kahit ako nahihrapan pa rin. You just have something to motivate yourself with. Sa case ko i think about my family when i wake up everyday.

    Think of buying yourself a laptop, a new car, savings for starting your own business, etc.

    Sa mga officemates mo naman, just be yourself. wag maging plastik or trying hard just to be "in". Makikita mo rin ang mga magiging friends mo dyan.

    Good luck

    Reply:
    Thank you so much trashbox.., that was a lot of help.
    Actually, I wake up at 4 and im home by 9PM so I only see home as a place to sleep.
    This , ironically, is the time that I felt that I took “myself being with my parents in the house” for granted. God, I miss them so much. I dunno if it helps but I cry every night thinking that I’ll be away from my family again the next day.. Sensya na, Mama’s boy kasi tayo e.


    Originally posted by cho_ree
    Mahirap talaga pag baguhan sa isang kumpanya dahil maraming adjustment ang kailangan. Buti nga kalahi mo rin ang katrabaho mo dahil kung nasa multinational company ka mas mahirap sakyan ang ibang lahi. (mainitin ang ulo)
    Reply:
    I see, so I just have to think that my situation is not actually the WORST. Pero mas gusto ko sana kung medyo strict at may boss sa amin para namo-monitor kami dahil kapag wala ang pusa ay naglalaro ang mga daga.. Ironically, mas gusto ko kung may pusa.
    J





    Originally posted by Leigh
    TSINITO - you're just starting with this company, i think you should "give this company a chance first", it's really hard to judge what the company has for you after one week. Another thing, with your officemates, try to be the one to approach them, ask questions if you need to and am sure they'll warm up to you. Maybe after a month or so and you still don't like it, it's really better if you start looking for other options.

    Goodluck.

    Reply:
    Wow!
    A moderator replying to my tantrums.. Hey, thank you so much. But anyway, is it ethical to leave a company after a month of work with them?
    I’m a fresh graduate kasi so I think that one month with a certain company is not a good stuff to be included in my resume since other companies might think that I am NINGAS-KUGON ( sorry but I dunno its English counterpart). I mean, isn’t it necessary for me to make a bonding beyond professional approach to my officemates or I can live with just being their WORK-mates and nothing more. (naintindihan nyo ba yung coño kong English J )

    Pero its really hard to look for another job as good as this although I can have one immediately pero teaching sya and the experience, the salary and the opportunity is not that big since sa isang provincial learning center lang ako supposedly magtuturo.


    Originally posted by CaRaMBa
    As Leigh said, you should give this company a chance. You've only been there for a week!

    Regarding your officemates, why don't you try to be the one to approach them and be friends with them? It's really hard to break the ice but you do you might just realize they're nice after all.

    Do you really want to resign? Or maybe you just feel that way 'cause you miss your life before having a job? I suggest that you list down the 'valid' reasons and figure out if it's really the right thing to do.

    Magpapamisa na talaga ako dahil isa pang moderator ang sumagot :D
    I tried, pero parang tingin ko, I wont get along with them that well, pero who knows., Ill just pray for it to happen.

    Siguro tama ka na namimiss ko yung time na wala talaga akong trabaho. Kasi all I do is watch TV, eat, read books and surf the net and nothing more.. Naging isang parasite ako noon pero I have to admit that it was really nice to be one :D.
    Pero until now na mag-oone week na ako (that’s tomorrow, Wednesday), parang di ko pa rin gusto tong ganitong buhay..
    Ewan ko. Siguro dahil I laki lang talaga ako sa layaw (but I have to make it clear that we are not well-off. We are not even in the midlle class so it is a Must for me to have a job and help my family with the bills.

    Originally posted by Adroth
    Dude, imagine this (note, this is a simplified version). You work your butt off, but your boss doesn't recognize it. It reaches a point where other department managers notice that, and one even offers you a job in his department -- a position that is six levels higher than your current position (officer level actually). But your transfer is stalled, because your boss says, verbatim "even if they can give me a memo, I won't sign your release form".

    The offer remains despite the delay in the transfer; until your company is taken over by another -- and the post is lost. What's worse is your department is dissolved, and you go from a "thinking job with field work" to photocopying documents.

    It was like that for almost a six months; until one of the other managers -- who saw my predicament with my first boss --, got transferred to a department where he had clout, and literally grabbed me from the limbo-bin.

    After a few months I found a job abroad and, with my new department head's blessing and encouragement, resigned.

    The time frame from "transfer-block" to resignation spanned over a year. What did I get out of the whole thing? On one end, it instilled a hatred in me in my first boss that festers to this day, but on the other hand -- it gave me a better perspective about what to look for in a job, and the value of doing good work even if your boss is a certified a-s-s-h-o-l-e.

    It was a bad time, but I would not want to not have gone through it.

    Reply:

    You never fail to impress me. Wow., parang ang sarap ng ganung buhay pero its just very sad to think that even though I’ve got lots of plans and ambitions for myself and for my family as well, there are a lot of factors that hinders me from doing so.

    I cannot leave my mother and my father here alone if I happen to work abroad or be destined in the province or manila that would require me to get a boarding house for that matter. Para kasing I become closer to them (my parents) the time when I finished my studies and stayed at home for a couple of months. Parang there came a point that I cannot live without them being in my side but the heck, I always wanted to become independent.

    I do the chores for them, I clean the house, wash the dishes, run errand for them, remind them to take their medicines and a lot more.

    I just dunno, probably, yout is not an excuse after all. I’m still their litlle baby and I think it will remain that way. I’m just having a hard time to grow up..
    I am a complete l o s e r!


    Originally posted by whipcheck
    Ang ganda ng mga advise sa iyo!

    I'll be a bit hard
    grow up boy! You've got a job ...what sort of job? You don't even know if that's the sort that separates the boys from the men!!!!!!!

    One question? Do you think you will be able to stand on your own without your parents or relatives holding your hands? Ha?!

    Sorry for sounding tough ..but that's how it goes ...got to wake you up!

    Reply:
    Thanks for the negative encouragement, I think I need much of those since I think that I cannot really live and even stand up without my parents. Is being 20 an excuse?
    Guess not.

    Originally posted by pinaysrdbest
    advise?

    mag-asawa ka para may inspirasyon ka at may gigising sa yo tuwing umaga.

    reply:
    mukhang Malabo ata yan.. Matagal pa yan dahil wala akong girl friend ngayon e.
    I see myself marrying more than 8 years from now.
  • Originally posted by candycandy
    kung ayaw mo na magwork.. bigay mo na lang sa akin. Sabihin mo ako na palit sayo.. :lol: just kidding.


    Ok. Ako kasi pag may bago sa department namin.. Web Dev't.. ako na mismo nag iinitiate ng conversation. Ang ginawa ko dun sa bago.. since kulang talaga kami ng graphics artist.. ayun pinass ko sa kanya lahat ng work ko na dapat ay sa kanya talaga mapunta! hehehehe.. well I approached him in a nice way naman. Eh gwapo pa.. ayun mas lalo kong tsinika :rotfl: then later on, feel ok na sya.. Kahit wala na ako sa work ko ngayon, he's still one of my best buddies :)

    Pero kung talagang mga hipokrito at suplada mga kaofficemates mo.. yaan mo lang sila. Pakita mo din na hindi ka pwede small-in!Wag ka magmaktol sa tabi habang nagwowork. Sige ka kung iiyak ka lagi hindi mo maeenjoy yung kumita ng pera.. hehehehe :lol:

    cheer up ok?

    sana kaofismate na rin kita..
    ewan ko ba pero di naman ako pangit at lagi naman akong nakangiti pero ala pa ring pumapansin sa akin..
    panay lalaki kasi sa room namin e kaya siguro alang pumapansin sa kin..

    salamt ha.
    pero sana, mga two weeks from now, my outlook over my work would be a little different..
    :)

    you are alot of help!
  • Sa una lang yan! Pagtagal tagal mo dyan, you'll be more familiar with your officemates and you'll gain friends. Just be pleasant to them and I'm sure you'll have a clique of your own.
  • avonleaavonlea PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    words of encouragement.... wala eh... yoko rin magtrabaho pero kailangan eh...
  • Originally posted by TSINITO


    sana kaofismate na rin kita..
    ewan ko ba pero di naman ako pangit at lagi naman akong nakangiti pero ala pa ring pumapansin sa akin..
    panay lalaki kasi sa room namin e kaya siguro alang pumapansin sa kin..

    salamt ha.
    pero sana, mga two weeks from now, my outlook over my work would be a little different..
    :)

    you are alot of help!

    no problem bro :)

    I was once like you.. im only 22. Sa first job ko mga 30s na yung kasama ko sa work, ako nun 20. Nahirapan sila mag-adjust sa akin so ako yung nag adjust. Im sure, one day iaapproach ka nila.. alam mo kung bakit?? Kasi same department kayo.. tyak meron silang ibibigay na work sayo.. and that's your chance. i know you can do it.. wag ka lang magpaimpluwensya ha? Call your friends during your free time para may makausap ka naman..

    so take care and enjoy your work. isipin mo din lagi na maraming walang work ngayon.. (like me). You are very lucky than those people bumming around to any disco houses, gigs, etc. At least ikaw, may career ka.. my future. Think about your dreams.


    im just a PEx away if you need some help? :)
  • Originally posted by TSINITO
    Reply:

    You never fail to impress me. Wow., parang ang sarap ng ganung buhay pero its just very sad to think that even though I’ve got lots of plans and ambitions for myself and for my family as well, there are a lot of factors that hinders me from doing so.

    I cannot leave my mother and my father here alone if I happen to work abroad or be destined in the province or manila that would require me to get a boarding house for that matter. Para kasing I become closer to them (my parents) the time when I finished my studies and stayed at home for a couple of months. Parang there came a point that I cannot live without them being in my side but the heck, I always wanted to become independent.

    I do the chores for them, I clean the house, wash the dishes, run errand for them, remind them to take their medicines and a lot more.

    The going abroad part wasn't exactly the emphasis -- I guess I made it too long. The thing is, you can make the difficulties you encounter in a job work for you. That not so great experience for example actually helped me appreciate what a good boss is like, and strengthened by work ethic.

    As for co-workers that don't notice you. Well, that's how it is here too -- for the most part. Since my Chinese is virtually non-existent, and most of them have difficulty with English -- there is a very real disinscentive to talk with me. Before I used to be a "if you don't notice me, I won't either". Now I've learned to take the initiative -- and have made friends that way. Its still not easy though.
  • whew..
    thanks..
    another day is over..
    pero it seems like every day is getting worse since i really cannot establish a bonding with my work mates..
    yun parang, kung may itatanong ako, may isasagot din sila pero they don't want to elaborate..
    ewan ko..
    pero your posts are of big help..
    kaya lang, i'm just a complete weakling who cannot take changes that happen in my life.
    poor me.
    and thank you candycandy and adorth..
    i wish we could talk regularly..
  • ur not alone TSINITO...
    i think it's just but normal for u to feel that way about ur job and ur officemates...mukhang adjustment stage lang yan...
    u'd make friends for sure...d naman siguro lahat ng officemates mo masungit...there's gotta be one whom u'd have something in common with enough para maging buddy-buddy mo at work ;)
    it's hard to shift from studying to working...have to accept that it's a part of ur growth, mentally and emotionally na rin.
    goodluck and don't give up so soon :)
  • Originally posted by candycandy


    no problem bro :)

    I was once like you.. im only 22. Sa first job ko mga 30s na yung kasama ko sa work, ako nun 20. Nahirapan sila mag-adjust sa akin so ako yung nag adjust. Im sure, one day iaapproach ka nila.. alam mo kung bakit?? Kasi same department kayo.. tyak meron silang ibibigay na work sayo.. and that's your chance. i know you can do it.. wag ka lang magpaimpluwensya ha? Call your friends during your free time para may makausap ka naman..

    so take care and enjoy your work. isipin mo din lagi na maraming walang work ngayon.. (like me). You are very lucky than those people bumming around to any disco houses, gigs, etc. At least ikaw, may career ka.. my future. Think about your dreams.


    im just a PEx away if you need some help? :)


    wow.., im really happy to hear that, pare..
    pero ewan ko kasi siguro dahil mahiyain talaga ako sa simula pero pa naman naging ka close ko na yung tao e mabibwiset na sya sa akin dahil sobrang kulit ko..

    salamat sa advice..
    matanong ko lang, naghahanap ka rin ba ng trabaho ngayon??
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