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How to move on... Ano mga bagay ang ginawa n'yo para maka-move on?

Okay, so naghiwalay kayo ng bf/gf mo, sobrang sakit d'ba? Daig pa nito 'yung physical pain na minsan nararamdaman mo. Ilang months na ba nakaraan mula nung mangyari yun? Mula nung gaguhin ka lang, lokohin, ipagpalit, etc? Ano ginawa mo para maka-move on? Para matanggap mo sa sarili mo na wala na nga? Na naging isa kang ***** at dapat hanggang dun na lang 'yun?

Let's go! Simulan na natin, malay mo, makatulog din yun sa ibang gusto na ding mag-move one...
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  • uzumaki_narutouzumaki_naruto PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    keep yourself busy... travel.. learn new things.. develop new skills.. and for guys like me, more chicks na agad para mas madali.. :D
  • pwinsesapwinsesa PEx Rookie ⭐
    Do not overthink. Sulk and rant if you must, but give yourself a timeline. Cut all
    means of communications, that "let's keep the friendship" is a major bullsh!t. Change your environment, your set of friends (especially if you belong in the same circle). Yes, it'll help. the last thing that you will need in your moving on phase are the people who will remind you of him. find a new hobby. Travel, alone. Write. tell at least one person about what happened, how you feel. Been there, been that.
  • MargielaMargiela Make it worqu?",2,"541f7df5cc18f63449e1487405e73bcc]&_otux3cqgAHiAyJ5s$W.F/pKu!W%
    Pinakulam ko yung picture nilang dalawa, pina-hack yung fb account nya, tapos pinakain ko ng lason yung aso nya.

    Di joke lang.

    Ayun, tahimik na dinibdib yung sakit at poot(until now, fam ko at close friends ko lang nakakaalam ng breakup namin) , nagpaka-busy sa trabaho at patuloy na nagpapa-improve ng sarili. Acceptance is the key.
  • kurttrukkurttruk PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    ^ i'm hoping that you really never laid a hand on that helpless dog. but no pun intended,might be better if you gave that thing directly to your ex, as a farewell gift? just kidding :glee:

    anyway this happened to me last year, what I did was I hanged out with my friends, did a lot of drinking,strolling,travelling out of town etc. In the office i just keep my @($$) busy as hell. at first it will be very difficult to keep a special person away in your mind, but I'm pretty sure it won't take long. and Naruto is right, going out with someone really helps as well.
  • balbolskibalbolski PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    i fap nonstop until i fall asleep with her neked pics..
  • MJR_advocateMJR_advocate PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    I forgive myself and ask for forgiveness. It takes two to tango. Whether I'm the only one at fault or has contributory fault only doesn't matter anymore, because a half or one tenth fault is still my fault. :)
  • Margiela wrote: »
    Pinakulam ko yung picture nilang dalawa, pina-hack yung fb account nya, tapos pinakain ko ng lason yung aso nya.

    Di joke lang.

    Ayun, tahimik na dinibdib yung sakit at poot(until now, fam ko at close friends ko lang nakakaalam ng breakup namin) , nagpaka-busy sa trabaho at patuloy na nagpapa-improve ng sarili. Acceptance is the key.

    Sayang kala ko totoong ginawa mo. Papaturo sana ko. hahaha!

    Pero tama ka. Acceptance is the key. Tanggapin mo na lang sa sarili mo para maging madali at magaan lahat lalo na sa pag move-on. ;)
  • create a blog of your travels and adventures.
    find the time to find yourself and when you do, find time to love yourself more.
    o kaya
    hanap ng bagong prospect.
    ang daming nemo sa dagat. :lol:

    live a life of "oh wells" rather than get frustrated with "what if's".
    simply.
  • cotton_oncotton_on PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    create a blog of your travels and adventures.
    find the time to find yourself and when you do, find time to love yourself more.
    o kaya
    hanap ng bagong prospect.
    ang daming nemo sa dagat. :lol:

    live a life of "oh wells" rather than get frustrated with "what if's".
    simply.

    I agree :up:
  • la_reveusela_reveuse PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Isipin mo lahat ng negative sa kanya, kase kapag galit ka mas madali makalimot and move on. :glee:

    Jk.

    One thing that always works for me is, I tell myself that God has a reason why he removed this person from your life. Knowing that someone better will come along helps a lot in healing; you turn your bitter past into a meaningful learning experience to help you get ready for your next rel. And the usual..get busy yada yada.
  • Hi guys,

    I thought of killing time by sharing this one-way-trip-to-hell experience. Hope it will help others who might come across this thread.

    Before anything else, let me share what had happened.

    I met this person through friends. This person is their officemate. After that first meeting, I and this person went out almost twice/thrice a week. We ended up dating. There went the sweet texts, et., but no physical contact such as kissing (cheeks kisses lang). We did hold hands only (coz we are dating). But later on this person would express through text that this person wasn't comfortable, etc. My friends knew what's between this person and I. And they did support me and were more excited than I was. Lol There was a time when I slept in this person's apartment. But nothing happened (seriousl). That's how I respected this person. I thought this person is a relationship-kind-of-thing material.

    so that's our little scenario. Let's keep the ball rolling...

    This person's colleagues had a thirstday -Thursday. I was invited and I joined them. They were a bit drunk when I arrived and yeah, the party went on. At around 11pm the person concerned was really drunk and has to leave. I offered to accompany this person to go home. The apartment is like 10-15 minute walk from where we have been. So, I knew how to get this person there. Unfortunately, another person (one of the colleagues) insisted to escort this person concerned. The person concerned rejected my offer and said that the colleague would be the one to escort. So, they went and I have to keep myself busy with the other colleagues. After a short while, we were informed through text that the person concerned is at the apartment and bid us a good night. 15 minutes later, 30 minutes later, an hour had passed (im sharp when there's alcohol in my body), the colleague came back and said that the escorted person was really drunk and all. But I had doubts already in mind that night. The night ended. Early the next morning I received a message from the concerned person asking me what had happened. So, I told this person about the things happened in the bar. And the person concerned confessed that yeah they did it. (**** them both lol) and there goes one-way-trip-to-hell experience. :)

    Well, needless to say that I fell inlove with that person in the process. I begin to have trouble sleeping. My mind wanders everytime I sleep. I feel like my body temperature was going up as if I was having a fever (emotions had physical manifestation now). HAUNT is the right term for it. It haunted the hell out of me. After three days of not able to sleep, I was absent at work. I was even daydreaming at work back then. I was talking to an officemate and the next thing I knew, I was in a trance and they would snap me out of it. Even they, could tell that something is troubling m. So, I was able to recollect myself for a moment and thought that something needs to be done otherwise I'll end up somewhere. So, I did EVERYTHING there is to do. I started going back to the gym, play my sport, read books, meet friends, etc. Yeah, I noticed I was active on fb, twitter, ig, etc., unlike the regular me. I rejected the thought that was entering my mind. ANd most of the times, there will be flashbacks of that night where I felt so terrible. But I kept on rejecting them by doing the things mentioned above. So....

    2 weeks have passed and I went to meet my friends who introduced that person to me. I happen to met in the hallway the least expected person I was hoping to meet. Yeah, that's the person who f*cked the one I was courting. So, yeah, but wait, I felt so lighter than what I was expecting. I smiled greeted this person amd said to myself, "I have moved on." :D no one knew this except me. But I was able to confide this to a couple (one of them is my friend who introduced me to that person concerne) after a year.

    I hope this helps. :)
  • ^^ ignore - is the key.
    never show emotion.
    you can kill them several times in your head using different scenarios without getting caught..
    then yes, move on.
  • create a blog of your travels and adventures.
    find the time to find yourself and when you do, find time to love yourself more.
    o kaya
    hanap ng bagong prospect.
    ang daming nemo sa dagat. :lol:

    live a life of "oh wells" rather than get frustrated with "what if's".
    simply.

    that's exactly what i did!

    except for the blogging part haha dunno how to "write". but, i kept handwritten notes, like a diary
  • teiken wrote: »
    that's exactly what i did!

    except for the blogging part haha dunno how to "write". but, i kept handwritten notes, like a diary

    thats good :)
    blogging is not just writing, you can always say it by doing a picture story..just add little captions..
    do it like your own online diary..thats what i did..
    but handwritten notes is okay too..just dont lose it at sayang naman.

    ipagpatuloy mo yan, at ako'y pinagpapatuloy ko din yan. *okay*
  • I haven't mentioned na I even talked to a school psychologist who became a friend. It helps, too. Pag alam mong need mo talaga, gagawin mo naman lahat eh. Lahat. :)

    Same with teiken. I only keep a small diary. Lol
  • I haven't mentioned na I even talked to a school psychologist who became a friend. It helps, too. Pag alam mong need mo talaga, gagawin mo naman lahat eh. Lahat. :)

    Same with teiken. I only keep a small diary. Lol

    well, for me, i talk with close friends and my ate, mga taong merong stronger personalities than me, for them to keep me on check.

    the way i see it kasi, hindi naman talaga heart and nag break when this happens..
    its our ego..so a boost of ego, or a new found love will definitely fix it. *okay*
  • True. I did that, too. I have one guy friend and 3 girls to whom I can tell everything. Tanan gid nga pwede nila mabal-an. Lol at least, I get yo see other angles in a certain situation. Most of the time they nag me, though. Haha
  • True. I did that, too. I have one guy friend and 3 girls to whom I can tell everything. Tanan gid nga pwede nila mabal-an. Lol at least, I get yo see other angles in a certain situation. Most of the time they nag me, though. Haha

    its okay if they just nag you..my ate? if shes here, siguro gn kalbo nako na niya sa katangaan ko :lol:
    but talking really helps.

    dasun naman ta storya, move on na and look for a dory, lotsa fishes in the ocean. :lol:
  • Hahaha im not that worried having no partner as of the moment. I'm better off alone. :P
  • Thats good, at dapat lang kuntento ka muna sa buhay mo, bago ka pumasok sa relasyon.
    never involve your next partner with you issues in life. at unfair ang magiging labas. :lol:

    or fix yourself first, para maayos ang lahat sa next relationship. *okay*
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