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Please help me....i am being abused..................................................

Pexers, I really need your help and your advice.....










Nung mga bata pa kami, and up to college, I was verbally abused by my brother. Bukod sa napakaraming mura, kung ano ano ang mga tinatawag niya sa akin. A few times, he also hit me and my sister. One time, hinabol pa niya yung sister ko hanggang sa makatapak ng bubog yung sister ko. Ako naman pinilayan niya.

My father was in Cebu during all our childhood, so he allowed all of these things to happen. There was even a time that we had to stay with my Tita because of the abuses that my brother was doing to us. My mother was truly afraid of my brother. Even the household help and driver was afraid of him.

So during my 1st year of college, naglakas loob na po talaga ako. Kaoopera ko lang sa puso, and yet the verbal abuse started again. So I had enough. Kahit kaoopera ko lang, talagang lumabas na ko ng bahay at naglakad papunta sa isa pa naming bahay (nilakad ko yun, hindi naman sobrang layo). My mom was really panicking at that time.

My sister during these years managed to stay out of the house by boarding in UP Los Banos.

So for many years, pinalad ako na hindi na makasama ang abusive kong brother. And unfortunately, he was verbally abusing my mom. My mom and all the household remained afraid of him. And my brother said truthfully, "I have the power. Because all of you are afraid of me". It is impossible to reason with my brother. He desires conflict. Kapag sinubukan kong sumagot sa kanya, sasaktan niya kami physically. Personally, I believe he is quite an evil person, sa totoo lang. Sa ibang tao, pwede siyang maging mabait. Pero sa amin, talagang ang dami niyang kasamaang ginagawa. My mom died, and while my mom had cancer, sinisigawan at pinapagalitan pa rin niya sa text.

Yung dad ko, all these years, walang ginawa to stop my brother. Kaya nga nag-away din talaga kami ng dad ko about it, pero nagkapatawaran din. My tita eventually stayed doon sa house na iyon where the household and my brother was staying. And siya na ang verbally abused ng brother ko all these years.

Now, nagkastroke ang dad ko. God is merciful, at nakalabas ng ICU ang dad ko at nakauwi sa house where I am staying. Dun na kasi siya nagstay and dun talaga siya mas maaalagaan. Yung brother ko happened to be the one available na mag-alaga sa kanya, kaya dito na siya nagsastay sa house where I am staying.

And now the verbal abuse started with me. At kapag lumaban ako, tiyak na he will be hitting me. He is an expert with martial arts and all of that. He has also started making changes with the house na matagal kong pinaghirapan.


Please, pexers, ano ang gagawin ko?

Sayang naman yung budget ko, kung magrerent pa ako sa boarding house at umalis sa house na iyon.

Ala nga namang magfile ako ng kaso or pabaranggay ko yung brother ko?

Please help me.
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Comments

  • MilonidoMilonido PEx Rookie ⭐
    Nung bata pa nga ako, very vivid memory yung kinuha niya talaga yung pizza at minudmod sa mukha ko.
  • 'Pag nanakit uli ang kapatid mo ipapulis mo. Krimen kaya ang nananakit ng kapwa.... :glee:
  • Sey_eLLeSey_eLLe PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    TS, isa lang masasabi ko... grow some balls!!!

    Reading your story, you don't really sound as helpless as you make yourself to be. In fact, you have so many options, you are not a 10 year old kid or a special child o may kapansanan.

    Kung ganyan nagpapaapi ka, eh abah aapihin ka talaga.. hinahayaan mo kase, choice mo yun... Kaya huwag magreklamo kung ikaw wala kang solusyon na ginagawa.

    Inutil ka ba? I don't think so..

    Hawak ba ng kapatid mo buhay mo? Hindi.. unless you let him..

    Walang maglalakas loob na mang api ng ganyan kung walang bobo na nagpapaapi..
  • Yian YianYian Yian PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    nobody can hurt you, unless you allow them to.

    bakit ka nag aalangan na mag file ng kaso at ipabarangay ang brother mo?
    what is the reationale behind this hesitation?

    I doubt you feel the need for "family care" or "blood ties"... does it have anything to do with the "budget"? well it seems ikaw ang may choice talaga na katapat ng peace of mind mo ay yung "budget". as Say_elle said, you made that choice. seems alam mo din ano ang dapat mong gawin, so ano ang point ng pagtatanong? to validate? ikaw lang ang makakasagot ng tanong mo... in the first place alam mo naman ang tama sa mali, ano ang dapat sa hindi, at ano ang dapat mong tanggapin sa hindi. at this point, it is a matter of choice nalang
  • DaugGreenDaugGreen PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    I don't think you can get any advice or help here. Nasa sitwasyon ka na ikaw mismo ang makakatulong sa sarili mo. You always have a choice. Pa-baranggay mo kapatid mo, or lumayas ka sa bahay. Hindi sayang ang budget mo kung ika papanatag naman ng loob mo.

    Takot ka sa kanya kasi expert sa martial arts? that's BS. If that is the case he is also abusing the discipline of martial arts, sumbong mo sa sensei niya para bugbugin siya. hehe :lol:
  • popskypopsky PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    May mga bagay na dapat i-consider dito.

    1. Ano trabaho ng utol mo, mapera ba yan at nakakapag-ambag ng malaki sa family?
    2. TS, ikaw ba breadwinner sa family?
    3. Ano ang pinagmulan ng pamilya niyo? Mayaman ba? Sunod sa luho ang utol mo?
    4. Kaya ba pumatay ng tao yang utol mo? Nakatikim na ba yan ng bilangguan?

    Hindi tayo mabubuhay ng libong taon para gugulin mo ang buhay mo sa takot? Analisahin mo ang sitwasyon kung saan ka lalamang at saan pahihinain ang kalaban mo.

    Pwede kayo lumipat sa subdivision at ipa-ban dun ang utol mong kupal.
    Pwede ka magreklamo sa baranggay o pulis para huwag na kayo lapitan ng utol mo. Patikimin mo ng kulungan.
    Pwede ka mag-aral ng martial arts, pampalakas ng loob at pandepensa.
    Kung simpleng kupal lang ang utol mo pero hindi mayaman, hindi nagaambag ng pera sa pamilya, hindi uubra sa inyo yan. Ang malakas sa pang-ekonomiyang bahagi ay mas malakas rin dapat sa pulitikal na kontrol.
    Kung hindi naman kaya pumatay ng tao ng utol mo, sa inyo lang siga kasi hindi naman makapag-siga sa labas, hindi yan nakakatakot.
  • Yian YianYian Yian PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    DaugGreen wrote: »

    Takot ka sa kanya kasi expert sa martial arts? that's BS. If that is the case he is also abusing the discipline of martial arts, sumbong mo sa sensei niya para bugbugin siya. hehe :lol:

    o nga no... this is the best pero of course you have to have proof
  • PexUPexU PEx Rookie ⭐
    pabor ako sa mga sinabi ni popsky..
    1 like for ur comment!
  • darmonxdarmonx PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Abandon and ignore.. that is what we had to do to an abusive relative... walang kwentang tao na di mo naman pwedeng patayin dahil kadugo mo. isolate and reject him. Only reason he has power over you is because you are giving it to him!
  • NilsNils PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Pinakamadali mong choice - Mangibang bansa ka at huwag ka nang umuwi. Kunin mo yung sister mo pag stable ka na sa ibang bansa.

    Yes, this is running away and not fixing things with your abusive brother but it is much better than cowering in the corner and letting him beat up on you. This option takes care of all your apprehensions kaya hindi mo pa sinasampahan ng kaso ang utol mo. Umalis ka na lang at hugas kamay ka na lang sa **** mong kapatid.
  • ka_denizka_deniz PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Your brother is a bully and kaya ka ginaganyan kasi pumapayag ka.

    Paluin mo ng florescent bulb sa mukha saka palayasin mo. Tapos ang problema mo.

    Kung hindi mo naman kaya ipaglaban ang sarili mo, manahimik ka na lang at tanggapin mo ang sitwasyon mo.
  • balbolskibalbolski PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    mura na ngayon riding in tandem

    pa yosi ka lang at 2buckets

    :glee:
  • ipakausap mo ang kapatid mo kay bo snachez

    :blowsmoke:
  • JobyBryant24JobyBryant24 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ipakausap mo ang kapatid mo kay bo snachez

    :blowsmoke:
    Best advice ever! Idol talaga kita Tres! :handsdown:
  • Kent_210Kent_210 Member PEx Guru 🎖️🎖️
    TS, buti hindi ako ikaw. Baka nakakulong nako ngayon sa kasong murder!
  • Nils wrote: »
    Pinakamadali mong choice - Mangibang bansa ka at huwag ka nang umuwi. Kunin mo yung sister mo pag stable ka na sa ibang bansa.

    Yes, this is running away and not fixing things with your abusive brother but it is much better than cowering in the corner and letting him beat up on you. This option takes care of all your apprehensions kaya hindi mo pa sinasampahan ng kaso ang utol mo. Umalis ka na lang at hugas kamay ka na lang sa **** mong kapatid.

    [email protected] tong si nils. Tinawag pang **** yung brother ng ts eh im sure kasing **** lang sya.

    Etong si nils naghamon ng siraan dito sa pex when people chose not to speak to him nemore. Kaya dinala yng away sa pex.

    Talk about [email protected] sh1t bully because they feel powerful. Taena mo nils. Ha [email protected] ka.
  • Just want to warn the people here. nils is the kind of person na
    Dinadala away sa pex as a way to threaten you thinking marami syang support system dito.

    Beware. Seriously. Trapo yan.
  • blue_acidblue_acid PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ^ What did he do to you? Enlighten us, please :lol:
  • Alam mo di tyak blue acid? or konghe?
  • blue_acidblue_acid PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    :confused::confused::confused:

    What language are you typing? I don't understand jejespeak or any dialects for that matter :glee:
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