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Network Marketing/MLM/Networking is ruining our relationship.

We were doing great in our relationship.. we argue from time to time like every other normal couple. We didn't have any major issues until recently...


She joined a networking company and she wants me to join too. I was hesitant, the amount of membership was no joke. She believes that the business is her way to be successful financially. I've always said I have no time for networking since I have a full time job and attending graduate school at the same time, but I will support her whatever she is into but she didn't appreciate that. I didn't want to risk that amount of money into a networking business. It came to a point that she would cry on me on the phone, saying that I don't support her, that I didn't want to help her in the business, moral support didn't help as she really wanted me to join, become her downline and sell the products to my family members (her whole family is into the networking business). I hated seeing her feeling discouraged, so I gave in and paid the membership fee for one condition, that I will not be selling any of the products to my family or friends.

I appreciate here ambition for us to be more financially stable in the future, but I am not into networking thingy and she refuses to accept that. She was sooo into the idea of making passive income through MLM.

We are on a LDR but LDR wasn't an issue before, or at least I didn't feel it was an issue. We meet every 1 or 2 months and we are already planning to settle down in 2017. We are turning 2 years this February 2015.

For the past weeks she has been so cold and would always snap on me. He began to question my plans in the future, my financial and career goals. She doesn't believe anymore that an office job and my Masters degree would not guarantee financial stability and that I have to look for other means of income, an indirect advise that she really wants me to join networking. She said that she doesn't want to move here in Manila (she is based in Cebu) because of her networking business, and that I should be the one to move to Cebu. I tried to convince her that we should settle down here in Manila since my house and my job is based here. She wants to be a housewife or apply for a government job and just focus on her networking business.

All of these issues I never heard from her until she was convinced by her family members to join the networking business. She was always supportive whatever my plans are.




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I really love my girlfriend and I want to marry her someday, and raise a family with her. Please advise kung ano dapat kong gawin para maibalik namin ang dati =(
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  • Sometimes MLM agents/uplines even gives their own body just to gain commissions. Good luck with her.
  • JameauxJameaux PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Gugmang giatay. Paktay ka diha! :lol:

    TS - Do not give in to her demands. For me this is a major deal breaker. Although merong naging successful pero maraming pagkakaibigan at pamilya ang nasira sa MLM na yan.
  • NilsNils PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Explain to her that you will keep your job which is steady income until she has established herself and is earning enough for the both of you para pwede ka nang mag-resign and mag concentrate sa MLM.

    There are some MLMs that have very strong foundation and would really give good ROI if one is going to go at it seriously. However, kung yung nasalihan ng gf mo eh yung may lifespan lang ng 5 - 8 years, then you have a problem.

    As for moving to Cebu/Manila. Point out to her that her moving to Manila can only make her network bigger. By the time that she has to move, malamang saturated na yung Cebu ng mga members nila so its going to be better for her to start spreading her network for future growth.
  • Jameaux wrote: »
    Gugmang giatay. Paktay ka diha! :lol:

    TS - Do not give in to her demands. For me this is a major deal breaker. Although merong naging successful pero maraming pagkakaibigan at pamilya ang nasira sa MLM na yan.

    Yun na nga eh..inexplain ko sakanya na minsan awkward pag binebentahan mo mga kaclose mo. Lalo na yung mga wala talaga balak na sumali, iiwasan ka pa. Ayaw ko mangyari sakanya yan na pati kami iiwasan ng mga tao. Para sa akin importante din relationship sa kaibigan at pamilya bukod sa kumita. Parang naoffend pa siya nung sinabi ko na di interested family ko sa ganyan, na tingin ko daw pangdesperado ang MLM at nangii-scam sila. :depressed:
  • Nils wrote: »
    Explain to her that you will keep your job which is steady income until she has established herself and is earning enough for the both of you para pwede ka nang mag-resign and mag concentrate sa MLM.

    There are some MLMs that have very strong foundation and would really give good ROI if one is going to go at it seriously. However, kung yung nasalihan ng gf mo eh yung may lifespan lang ng 5 - 8 years, then you have a problem.

    As for moving to Cebu/Manila. Point out to her that her moving to Manila can only make her network bigger. By the time that she has to move, malamang saturated na yung Cebu ng mga members nila so its going to be better for her to start spreading her network for future growth.

    Yup inexplain ko sakanya na priority ko pa rin yung job ko kasi stable.

    Yung MLM niya is USANA.

    Yung team nila is wala pang members sa Manila, puro Visayas and Mindanao. Parang inexpect niya na ako mag expand ng downlines nila dito sa Manila kahit na hindi naman ako nagcommit kaya nadisappoint siya sa akin kasi ang target niya ay yung mga kapatid at magulang ko. Kilala ko family ko di sila sumasali sa ganyan kasi puro employed at career men and women sila. Parang naoffend pa ata gf ko kasi tingin ko daw pangdesperado lang yung MLM.
  • Wala na, na-brainwash na ang gf mo ng MLM. Tumiwalag ka na hanap ka ng iba na gumagamit ng sariling isip.... :glee:
  • zgmf_x20Azgmf_x20A PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Yup inexplain ko sakanya na priority ko pa rin yung job ko kasi stable.

    Yung MLM niya is USANA.

    Yung team nila is wala pang members sa Manila, puro Visayas and Mindanao. Parang inexpect niya na ako mag expand ng downlines nila dito sa Manila kahit na hindi naman ako nagcommit kaya nadisappoint siya sa akin kasi ang target niya ay yung mga kapatid at magulang ko. Kilala ko family ko di sila sumasali sa ganyan kasi puro employed at career men and women sila. Parang naoffend pa ata gf ko kasi tingin ko daw pangdesperado lang yung MLM.

    lololol USANA

    8hours work
    8hours sleep
    8hours USANA

    saan na diyan yung pagkain mo at travel hahaha :D

    aatend siya ng mga party or events nila pero sa sariling bulsa niya pa? hahhaa

    introduce mo siya sa stocks hahaha
  • Wala na, na-brainwash na ang gf mo ng MLM. Tumiwalag ka na hanap ka ng iba na gumagamit ng sariling isip.... :glee:

    Yan nga problema ko pards, grabe mangbrainwash mga MLM companies.
  • zgmf_x20A wrote: »
    lololol USANA

    8hours work
    8hours sleep
    8hours USANA

    saan na diyan yung pagkain mo at travel hahaha :D

    aatend siya ng mga party or events nila pero sa sariling bulsa niya pa? hahhaa

    introduce mo siya sa stocks hahaha

    Yup..everyweek siya umaattend. Sinama niya ako sa event nila pumunta pa siya dito sa Manila.

    Di na siya nakikinig sa mga suggestions ko. Nagbalak ako ng Mutual Funds/Stocks noon, nung una supportive siya pero ngayon di na. Di na rin daw stable ang stocks, grabe parang winoworship na niya yung MLM.
    Dati ok lang siya magabroad ako or kami..gusto pa nga niya mag apply kami sa Singapore noon. Ngayon ayaw na niya di raw sigurado kita dahil magastos daw sa abroad, mag USANA nalang daw siya.

    Nakaka-stress sobra :depressed:
  • Yan nga problema ko pards, grabe mangbrainwash mga MLM companies.

    Tsugiin mo na siya, brad. Maraming ibang babae riyan na matino ang utak.... :glee:
  • zgmf_x20Azgmf_x20A PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Yup..everyweek siya umaattend. Sinama niya ako sa event nila pumunta pa siya dito sa Manila.

    Di na siya nakikinig sa mga suggestions ko. Nagbalak ako ng Mutual Funds/Stocks noon, nung una supportive siya pero ngayon di na. Di na rin daw stable ang stocks, grabe parang winoworship na niya yung MLM.
    Dati ok lang siya magabroad ako or kami..gusto pa nga niya mag apply kami sa Singapore noon. Ngayon ayaw na niya di raw sigurado kita dahil magastos daw sa abroad, mag USANA nalang daw siya.

    Nakaka-stress sobra :depressed:

    1K lang membership sa usana ha..
    mlm is not a business... its a work... may sineserbisyuhan kang uplines mo.

    ganito since sumama ka sa isang event why not ask her to join you on a talk regarding stocks and mutual funds.

    ang goal lang naman nung mlm is introduce sa iyo yung passive income.... kaso ang problem is mabebenta ba niya yan lahat ng products niya. be realistic papahirapan lang niya pamilya niya. akala ba niya magjoin lang maraming members kikita na siya? nasilaw yan sa pangako nung networking na yan. kaya dapat kailangan mailipat mo yung atensyon niya sa iba.
  • MabuheyMabuhey PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    totoo ba may yumayaman sa ganyan? :confused:
  • zgmf_x20Azgmf_x20A PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Mabuhey wrote: »
    totoo ba may yumayaman sa ganyan? :confused:

    meron naman hehhee :D
    ang problem is dapat ikaw na yung pioneer dapat nila.. ikaw yung nag umpisa sa isang lugar
  • MabuheyMabuhey PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    zgmf_x20A wrote: »
    meron naman hehhee :D
    ang problem is dapat ikaw na yung pioneer dapat nila.. ikaw yung nag umpisa sa isang lugar

    so , kung bagong recruit lang ako, hindi na pala ako yayaman katulad ng mga nauna sakin? curious lang ako , andami nag offer ng ganyan sakin, parang too good to be true na w/in 3 months, may house and lot na agad.. tapos lagi pa silang may convention at awarding pa .. parang andali daling kitain ng pera sa ganun lang :confused:
  • zgmf_x20Azgmf_x20A PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Mabuhey wrote: »
    so , kung bagong recruit lang ako, hindi na pala ako yayaman katulad ng mga nauna sakin? curious lang ako , andami nag offer ng ganyan sakin, parang too good to be true na w/in 3 months, may house and lot na agad.. tapos lagi pa silang may convention at awarding pa .. parang andali daling kitain ng pera sa ganun lang :confused:

    hmm puwede pa naman kung di saturated yung market.. pero ang chance nun is slim. pang ilan ka na ba sa baba kung papasok ka? parang ganun din dapat yung iconsider. at tsaka ikaw lang ba yung binuong triangle team nung upline mo?

    @TS
    yung usana ganun pa din ba yung video nila??? yung water thing... hehhee
  • Yian YianYian Yian PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    hindi rin naman stable ang MLM... pag saturated na yung market, wala nang kita yan. Mas stable ang MLM na focused sa products nila, products that CAN REALLY BE SOLD AT A LONG TERM BASIS. Pag focused sa passive income, nakakatakot yan, you are dependent on the number of people who will become members dahil dun nyo lang kukunin yung kikitain nyo. Eh pag saturated na, wala na, lahat kayo passive income earners walang bumili ng product useless, inubos ang population as members, close shop yan.

    regarding your relationship, closed minded ang gf mo pag ganyan. ngayon na nakita mo yan sa kanya, are you still willing to live your life with her til you're old and gray? ni hindi nya inintindi yung family mo. or maybe, it is also in how you explained it to her, that it's not about the MLM thing and your family looks down on it, but it is just that your family isn't really into it. you have to drive that idea home, in her thick skull.

    I agree with zgmf_x20A, introduce her to stocks and mutual funds, how to play the market, forex and the like. MLM is more on marketing, stocks and funds needs major analysis at a macro perspective, economics at play, thing is, it's like gambling also hehe... katakot din, siguro just be conservative.

    Anyways, income generating activities between the both of you is important because it will help you live your lives together, sustain both of you and the family you plan to create, but it has to be a mutual decision, not unilateral.

    Marami pang girls
  • MabuheyMabuhey PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    salamat , zgmf and Yian Yian, ganun pala yun:)

    hindi naman ako interesado mag join sa kanila , na curious lang ako kung baket parang andali nilang magka pera..
  • Yian Yian wrote: »
    hindi rin naman stable ang MLM... pag saturated na yung market, wala nang kita yan. Mas stable ang MLM na focused sa products nila, products that CAN REALLY BE SOLD AT A LONG TERM BASIS. Pag focused sa passive income, nakakatakot yan, you are dependent on the number of people who will become members dahil dun nyo lang kukunin yung kikitain nyo. Eh pag saturated na, wala na, lahat kayo passive income earners walang bumili ng product useless, inubos ang population as members, close shop yan.

    regarding your relationship, closed minded ang gf mo pag ganyan. ngayon na nakita mo yan sa kanya, are you still willing to live your life with her til you're old and gray? ni hindi nya inintindi yung family mo. or maybe, it is also in how you explained it to her, that it's not about the MLM thing and your family looks down on it, but it is just that your family isn't really into it. you have to drive that idea home, in her thick skull.

    I agree with zgmf_x20A, introduce her to stocks and mutual funds, how to play the market, forex and the like. MLM is more on marketing, stocks and funds needs major analysis at a macro perspective, economics at play, thing is, it's like gambling also hehe... katakot din, siguro just be conservative.

    Anyways, income generating activities between the both of you is important because it will help you live your lives together, sustain both of you and the family you plan to create, but it has to be a mutual decision, not unilateral.

    Marami pang girls

    Ilan beses ko na yan sinabi sakanya, di ko na alam kung paano ko na iexplain further. Sinabi ko na I have no problems with her joining MLM kung yan ang gusto niya, it's just that yung family ko, my parents and my sisters (including me) are not financial risk takers pagdating sa sa ganyan kasi puro sila focus sa careers. Ayaw ko din kasi magcommit kasi baka magexpect siya na makakapagparami ako ng downlines.
  • zgmf_x20Azgmf_x20A PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Mabuhey wrote: »
    salamat , zgmf and Yian Yian, ganun pala yun:)

    hindi naman ako interesado mag join sa kanila , na curious lang ako kung baket parang andali nilang magka pera..

    meron ding kita pag may bago kang member din. yung isang naattendan ko may ganung way ng kita. magrefer ka lang at pag pumasok may kita ka na
  • Yian YianYian Yian PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    zgmf_x20A wrote: »
    meron ding kita pag may bago kang member din. yung isang naattendan ko may ganung way ng kita. magrefer ka lang at pag pumasok may kita ka na


    ang problem pag na saturate na ang market mo... money will dry up
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