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ano b dpat gwin since si husband is nafall to sum1 and nabuntis nya *** babae and now we reunited ksi paalis na sya and gusto nya kami mksma ulit bago sya umalis,the problem is ayaw nya pumili between ****..we have one kid.need ur advise.very depressing.were married.and sa side nung babae hndi alam na *** husband ko is already married

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  • Yian YianYian Yian PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    1. Kaya mo bang tanggapin ang asawa mo after what happened?
    2. Kaya mo bang dalawa kayo sa buhay nya?
    3. How far are you willing to go to keep your marriage?
    4. If you decide to keep your husband, what are your rules?
    5. If you decide to let go of your husband, what are you going to do?

    My two cents worth:
    1. your hubby is leaving for work? abroad?
    2. aalis sya na hindi maayos between you and him?
    3. you also have a choice and a say in this, not just your hubby.
  • popskypopsky PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Banggain mo ang babae, kabigin mo ang asawa mo.

    Takutin mo ang babae, ireklamo mo, idemenda mo. Tapos ipaunawa mo sa asawa mo ang ginagawa mo, ipaunawa mo ang tunguhin at ikakabuti ninyo at ng pamilya niyo. Kabigin mo pati mga kapamilya niya para sumuporta sa iyo. Paghaluin mo ang taktikang lohikal at emosyunal.
  • Jackie_Jackie_ PEx Rookie ⭐
    Ayusin mo muna ang pagtype mo. Tapos sasagot ako. :)
  • be free! since aalis si hubby .. hiwalayan mo na lang.. but make sure na magbibigay sya para sa anak nyo..

    isa pa lang naman anak mo.. madami pa dyan. :)
  • Yian YianYian Yian PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Jackie_ wrote: »
    Ayusin mo muna ang pagtype mo. Tapos sasagot ako. :)

    ayusin mo muna sarili mo bago ka sumagot... baka ano pa ang sabihin mo kay TS at lalo pa syang lumabo
  • Jackie_ wrote: »
    Ayusin mo muna ang pagtype mo. Tapos sasagot ako. :)

    bakit may sense tong tanong mo ngayon??:confusing:



    nnnnnnoooooooooooo!!!!! ibalik mo ang tunay na jackie! impostor!:flog:
  • darmonxdarmonx PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    i feel bad for you ts..

    sa pamilya namin.. walang babae na nagaganyan..

    uutusan ng iwanan yung lalake tapos bubugbugin ng mga kuya, pinsan, at tito...

    sorry. lumaki ka sa pamilyang walang yagba. tanggapin mo nalang yang masaklap mong kapalaran.

    ps.. hindi mo kailangang tanggapin ang sitwasyong eto. divorce and seek child support... 2014 na.. hindi na kailangang mag paapi ang babae ngayon.
  • pwinsesapwinsesa PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    E~boy wrote: »
    bakit may sense tong tanong mo ngayon??:confusing:



    nnnnnnoooooooooooo!!!!! ibalik mo ang tunay na jackie! impostor!:flog:

    ^ hahaha

    TS. when i learned that my bf is STILL married to his wife when the wife returns after working off-shore for two years, I told the wife to back off, let me to talk to the then bf. It wasn't my fault that he doesn't told me about it. but i suppose i deserve to be the one who has a say on this. I let go, i just made sure it was mu decision. kahit pa hindi nya na mahal ang asawa nya, i refused to be blinded by love. why not let the girl know?
  • Yian YianYian Yian PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    pwinsesa wrote: »
    ^ hahaha

    TS. when i learned that my bf is STILL married to his wife when the wife returns after working off-shore for two years, I told the wife to back off, let me to talk to the then bf. It wasn't my fault that he doesn't told me about it. but i suppose i deserve to be the one who has a say on this. I let go, i just made sure it was mu decision. kahit pa hindi nya na mahal ang asawa nya, i refused to be blinded by love. why not let the girl know?

    medyo nalito ako sa sagot mo....

    anyways, i think there is a really wide gap between mere bf/gf and wife/husband. Iba kasi yung bind between the two pairs. mas madali mag let go ng bf/gf, walang "lifelong" commitment as against wife/husband relationship. When you get married, you swear to be together through thick and thin, magkamali man si other half and more often than not, the wife swears by this with her whole mind body and soul kaya ipaglalaban nya ang pamilya nya. nagulat naman ako ikaw pa nagsabi sa WIFE to back off. May karapatan kay yes, pero, in my opinion lang ha, syempre kanya kanya naman yan, mas may karapatan si wifey compared sayo dahil sa kanya sumumpa ang boyfriend mo ng "panghabang buhay na pagsasama".
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    wala kang magagawa sa husband mo kung gusto niya mag cheat, kahit kailan.. o kahit ilang babae. it can't be helped, it can't be stopped.

    ang tanong ano magagawa mo sa side mo?

    kaya mong tanggapin na lang? o kaya mo bang kumalas at tumayo sa sariling mga paa?
  • Sey_eLLeSey_eLLe PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    TS, remember that you always have a choice and whatever you decide on, make sure na kaya mong panindigan... and if it makes you miserable and depressed, also remember you have no one to blame but yourself...

    You mentioned that you have reunited, and based from that, looks to me na tinanggap mo yung ginawa ng hubby mo, and he even has the gall to tell you he doesn't wanna choose.. he doesn't sound remorseful at all for what he has done.. which means he wants the best of both worlds.. and you are somehow letting him get away with it..

    ..then again, here you are, depressed.. i tell you, it's just the beginning of a long journey of misery for you.. and remember again, that is your choice.. :)

    Indeed you have no control on your husband's actions but you have on yours.. Make it count.. goodluck
  • Yian YianYian Yian PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Sey_eLLe wrote: »
    TS, remember that you always have a choice and whatever you decide on, make sure na kaya mong panindigan... and if it makes you miserable and depressed, also remember you have no one to blame but yourself...

    You mentioned that you have reunited, and based from that, looks to me na tinanggap mo yung ginawa ng hubby mo, and he even has the gall to tell you he doesn't wanna choose.. he doesn't sound remorseful at all for what he has done.. which means he wants the best of both worlds.. and you are somehow letting him get away with it..

    ..then again, here you are, depressed.. i tell you, it's just the beginning of a long journey of misery for you.. and remember again, that is your choice.. :)

    Indeed you have no control on your husband's actions but you have on yours.. Make it count.. goodluck

    Agree on this....

    you always have a choice
  • pwinsesapwinsesa PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
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    Yian Yian wrote: »
    medyo nalito ako sa sagot mo....

    anyways, i think there is a really wide gap between mere bf/gf and wife/husband. Iba kasi yung bind between the two pairs. mas madali mag let go ng bf/gf, walang "lifelong" commitment as against wife/husband relationship. When you get married, you swear to be together through thick and thin, magkamali man si other half and more often than not, the wife swears by this with her whole mind body and soul kaya ipaglalaban nya ang pamilya nya. nagulat naman ako ikaw pa nagsabi sa WIFE to back off. May karapatan kay yes, pero, in my opinion lang ha, syempre kanya kanya naman yan, mas may karapatan si wifey compared sayo dahil sa kanya sumumpa ang boyfriend mo ng "panghabang buhay na pagsasama".

    what i meant was,
    1. when i learned of the real situation, since ako yung sabit ako yung umalis
    2. if fortunately, yung other girl kapareho ko mag-isip, baka bumitaw sya kay hubby ni TS. kaya lang wala nga syang alam so pano nya bibitawan?

    3. oo malakas loob ko magsalita na magback off sya, kasi afterall, ako at yung asawa naman nya ang may relasyon, hindi kami. gusto ko kami ang mag usap about it. and telling her to leave everything to me doesn't necessarily mean wala ako balak humiwalay
  • Yian YianYian Yian PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    pwinsesa wrote: »

    i what i meant was,
    1. when i learned of the real situation, since ako yung sabit ako yung umalis

    agree...
    pwinsesa wrote: »
    2. if fortunately, yung other girl kapareho ko mag-isip, baka bumitaw sya kay hubby ni TS. kaya lang wala nga syang alam so pano nya bibitawan?

    sana nga pareho mo mag isip... ang hirap kayang magkaron ng bad generalization about girls in this generation...
    pwinsesa wrote: »
    3. oo malakas loob ko magsalita na magback off sya, kasi afterall, ako at yung asawa naman nya ang may relasyon, hindi kami. gusto ko kami ang mag usap about it. and telling her to leave everything to me doesn't necessarily mean wala ako balak humiwalay

    at your perspective yes, this is true dahil ikaw ang may relasyon dun sa guy... pero let us not forget that the guy is THE HUSBAND of this other individual. They also need to talk about it kasi it affects the first unit of society, which is the family, secondary kasi ang mga individual outside that unit. You may have the right, considering that you did not know that the stup!d bf of yours is a scum, pero i do not think that the wifey should back off. oo, may karapatan ka maningil dun sa guy, lalo na si wifey, dahil sila, in business terms, ang may contract, kayo wala.

    pero i congratulate you for doing the right thing...
  • NilsNils PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ano b dpat gwin since si husband is nafall to sum1 and nabuntis nya *** babae and now we reunited ksi paalis na sya and gusto nya kami mksma ulit bago sya umalis,the problem is ayaw nya pumili between ****..we have one kid.need ur advise.very depressing.were married.and sa side nung babae hndi alam na *** husband ko is already married

    Bakit gusto mong patagalin pa yung relasyon mo sa isang lalaking *****? Gagawa nang kalokohan, hindi pa magco-condom... Kenginung ****!
  • sentrysentry PEx Rookie ⭐
    kaya lagi kong sinasabi sa mga kaibigan kong babae na willing makinig, pag nag-asawa, matuto pa rin tumayo sa sariling paa.

    magtrabaho, be in a partnership, not provider-dependent relationship.

    the traditional setup unnecessarily breeds a tempting environment for the super dominant side to commit these kind of mistake (no check-and-balance), while giving little option to the other side in case things happen that is normally and ironically, not her/his fault.
  • Based on sa kwento mo, definitely Hindi ka yung "lamang" sa puso niya.

    But you still have a chance to fix things - since he isn't willing to let you go.

    Di rin niya mahal na yung isa kasi he hasn't let go of you.

    Time will tell. May laban ka pa.
  • sentry wrote: »
    kaya lagi kong sinasabi sa mga kaibigan kong babae na willing makinig, pag nag-asawa, matuto pa rin tumayo sa sariling paa.

    magtrabaho, be in a partnership, not provider-dependent relationship.

    the traditional setup unnecessarily breeds a tempting environment for the super dominant side to commit these kind of mistake (no check-and-balance), while giving little option to the other side in case things happen that is normally and ironically, not her/his fault.

    Ts, pwede pala lamang ka sa puso niya but you married the typical playboy. Ngayon mo lang nahuli. And i agree with this post.
  • MariaInesMariaInes PEx Rookie ⭐
    sentry wrote: »
    kaya lagi kong sinasabi sa mga kaibigan kong babae na willing makinig, pag nag-asawa, matuto pa rin tumayo sa sariling paa.

    magtrabaho, be in a partnership, not provider-dependent relationship.

    the traditional setup unnecessarily breeds a tempting environment for the super dominant side to commit these kind of mistake (no check-and-balance), while giving little option to the other side in case things happen that is normally and ironically, not her/his fault.

    Lubos akong sumasang-ayon sa iyong ibinahagi iho. Ganito rin ang aking sinasabi sa aking mga kakilalang babae.
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