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long distance relationship

hello!i'm just new here.i was inspired sa mga nbsa ko kanina about ldr:) *** gsto ko rin ishare yung about sa lovelife ko.LDR din ksi kami na boyfriend ko.well 9 hours n byhe *** naman.anyways gusto ko *** sabhin na mahirap ang LDR pero kung may pagtiyayaga at paguunawa im sure kyang *** yan.ang mahirap *** naman kc saLDR yung bang gusto mo xang hawakan,yakapin,lambingin di mo magawa ksi nga wala sya sa tabi mo. 2 yrs and 2months (and counting) na kming LDR.nasasanay na din.pero iba parin yung saya na dala everytime na alam m na uuwi na siya:) *** sa mga nsa LDR wag kyong susuko go *** ng go:)time will come na mgkakasama rin kayo.pagsubok *** naman to eh.and and pinakaimportante STAY INLOVE:)TRUST EACH OTHER and HAVE FAITH:)

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  • nanojavananojava Member PExer
    What said here is true, most of it.

    In a long distance relationship, there are many things that could happen. Temptation itself are everywhere, at anytime, and at the least person you would expect. Sa isang relation, lalo na sa isang nasa-LDR, hindi sapat ang tiwala. May sabihan nga na, hindi naman ako mahuhuli. I know I know, that's a red flag. Pero kahit anong gawin, andyan yan.

    I know the constraints ng nasa LDR. Hmhhh, check ko kung andito lahat:
    - Malayo, matagal, mahal ang pamasahe
    - Dahil sa work
    - Dahil sa family
    - Dahil sa problema

    Bottomline here, LDR exists and mahirap man tanggapin dadaan ang isang relation dito. What I'm trying to say is that a very important secret for a successful LDR, the art of surprise. Self explanatory na lang ang cause and effect kapag-nagawa ng isa yun and that's a true test of love.
  • julyan143julyan143 Member PExer
    Tama! :) mahirap pero at the end,worth it:) lahat ng sacrifices and paghihintay. Kasi **** ano p.mamagitan sainyong distansya makakaya yan kung talagang marunong mghintay ang bwat isa at tunay na ngmamahalan. ;)
  • DaugGreenDaugGreen Dauntless
    For me LDR doesn't work all the time. It's like a ticking timebomb. May isa na pwedeng bumigay, may isa na pwedeng matukso, may isa na pwedeng magsawa, may isa na pwedeng maghanap ng iba, at may isa na pwedeng mapagod.

    Sana soon magkasama na kayo TS. One will have to sacrifice so both of you can stay together. Question is, kaya mo ba magsacrifice para makasama siya?
  • BubblesButtercupBubblesButtercup I Love Holly Golightly!!! ✭✭✭✭
    If you are in your prime years(18-30) you should not be involved with LDR.

    #justsayin
  • nanojavananojava Member PExer
    DaugGreen wrote: »
    For me LDR doesn't work all the time. It's like a ticking timebomb. May isa na pwedeng bumigay, may isa na pwedeng matukso, may isa na pwedeng magsawa, may isa na pwedeng maghanap ng iba, at may isa na pwedeng mapagod.

    Sana soon magkasama na kayo TS. One will have to sacrifice so both of you can stay together. Question is, kaya mo ba magsacrifice para makasama siya?

    Actually, either one should not make the sacrifice. I tell you, sa simula ang nagsacrifice makakaya nya yung commitment na binigay nya sa isa. Time and certain events will trigger what we can called regret from that made sacrifice. Once that has been done, it won't be removed from the picture from then on. Maswerte kung na-ayos ng kabila yung issue and nasettle ulit ang trust, pero paano kung hindi?

    Look the way I see true LDR, can really test any relationship to its very limits (trust, intimacy, romance, etc). Yet it can also tell you another side of the story just waited for you to defuse/trigger the ticking timebomb.
    If you are in your prime years(18-30) you should not be involved with LDR.
    #justsayin

    I beg to disagree since we're talking about love. And as an old time saying, love conquers all.
  • mochistarmochistar Member PExer
    Stay strong! Basta trust and communication talaga. Ako nga sa ibang bansa pa siya and I know the feeling yung gusto mo talaga maramdaman lambing at yakap nya. :( mahirap pero kakayanin. Ang dapat lang natin ikakot kung kakayanin rin ba ng partner natin.
  • macedamaceda Member PExer
    syempre wag kalimutan ang PRAYERS:myheart::myheart:
  • DaugGreenDaugGreen Dauntless
    nanojava wrote: »
    Actually, either one should not make the sacrifice. I tell you, sa simula ang nagsacrifice makakaya nya yung commitment na binigay nya sa isa. Time and certain events will trigger what we can called regret from that made sacrifice. Once that has been done, it won't be removed from the picture from then on. Maswerte kung na-ayos ng kabila yung issue and nasettle ulit ang trust, pero paano kung hindi?

    Look the way I see true LDR, can really test any relationship to its very limits (trust, intimacy, romance, etc). Yet it can also tell you another side of the story just waited for you to defuse/trigger the ticking timebomb.

    Isn't relationships involves a lot of sacrifices to make things work? Specially if it's saving it and for the one you love.

    Why regret kung para naman yun sa inyo? You will only regret kung napilitan ka lang, then don't make the sacrifice and wait for the bomb to explode.

    Sa lahat ng relationships there are times that you jump into risks, na baka sakaling magwork. Kasi kung hindi mo gagawin yun, lagi kang may 'what ifs'.

    #My2Cents
  • balbolskibalbolski Count D ✭✭✭
    sa mga may panget na asawa/karelasyon eto ang solusyon!

    :glee:
  • RaffeiRaffei Member
    Sa mga madaling masulot..di pwede ito..
  • julyan143julyan143 Member PExer
    kailangan po kasi pag kayo nsa LDR open kayo sa mga possiblities na mangyayari within.pero kahit na open kayo dapat mas manaig parin yung tiwala nyo sa isa't isa.kasi the time na pumasok kyo sa LDR nanjan na yun doubts,jealousy,busy times,at ano pa.at syempre kailngan nyong kayanin lahat ng mga problema na susubok sa relasyon nyo. maring factors na kailngan iconsider like free time mo busy ** and vice versa.and dapat palaging may give and take process. may mga ngwowork n LDR pero meron ding hindi. it all depends sa 2 taong involved, kung walang cooperation within the relationship hndi mgwowork.
  • nanojavananojava Member PExer
    DaugGreen wrote: »
    Isn't relationships involves a lot of sacrifices to make things work? Specially if it's saving it and for the one you love.
    Why regret kung para naman yun sa inyo? You will only regret kung napilitan ka lang, then don't make the sacrifice and wait for the bomb to explode.
    Sa lahat ng relationships there are times that you jump into risks, na baka sakaling magwork. Kasi kung hindi mo gagawin yun, lagi kang may 'what ifs'.

    True, sacrifices is always a key for a successful relationship (especially for married couples).
    But have you ever asked yourself, have I sacrificed too much, or was it because I can't afford to loose the relationship?
    Are all of it worth deep inside of you? What about yourself, your needs, etc?

    Yes, maraming 'what ifs'. Pero paano kung tanungin ko sa inyo na worth it ba ang lahat ng sacrifices na binigay mo up to the current date of the relationship?
    julyan143 wrote: »
    kailangan po kasi pag kayo nsa LDR open kayo sa mga possiblities na mangyayari within.pero kahit na open kayo dapat mas manaig parin yung tiwala nyo sa isa't isa.kasi the time na pumasok kyo sa LDR nanjan na yun doubts,jealousy,busy times,at ano pa.at syempre kailngan nyong kayanin lahat ng mga problema na susubok sa relasyon nyo. maring factors na kailngan iconsider like free time mo busy ** and vice versa.and dapat palaging may give and take process. may mga ngwowork n LDR pero meron ding hindi. it all depends sa 2 taong involved, kung walang cooperation within the relationship hndi mgwowork.

    Yes, plus it really depends how the couple keep it strong and working. And how they could prepare themselves before entering this state of relationship.

    I know, I'm a pessimist about the LDR thing. For me, being a pessimist isn't really a bad thing especially in this topic.
    Look, I'm trying to help couples visual every possibility, every temptation, every single problem to face when entering a long distance relationship.

    Okay, may magsasabi na, hindi ko dapat sinabi kasi may possiblity na masira ang isang relationship.
    True, I sincerely believe in that in a good way. Pushing the couples under this state to their very limits tests how they love each other.

    Let me visualize things for you. What if your partner cheated on you? You can't do anything because the other partner must be doing it, but he/she can't.
    Or even worse, your partner loved and formed a child. You can't do anything because you must be the one doing it.
    But those can be avoided, when the couples foundation of love, trust, and commitment is very very very strong that could really wait until they are united again.

    What if those can't be done by your partner or your partner secretly hide of from you or vise-versa on you, can you forgive your partner?
    If so, you wouldn't ever regret doing that big sacrifice and forgiveness? Would you promise yourself now to be irrational about it?

    In general context of the Triangular theory of love, there are many definitions of love.
    Only a few can make it the true definition of 'Consummate Love' before and after being in a long distance relationship.
    The question is what kind of love do you experience?
  • DaugGreenDaugGreen Dauntless
    nanojava wrote: »
    True, sacrifices is always a key for a successful relationship (especially for married couples).
    But have you ever asked yourself, have I sacrificed too much, or was it because I can't afford to loose the relationship?
    Are all of it worth deep inside of you? What about yourself, your needs, etc?

    Yes, maraming 'what ifs'. Pero paano kung tanungin ko sa inyo na worth it ba ang lahat ng sacrifices na binigay mo up to the current date of the relationship?

    Before you end up asking those questions, you should initially ask yourself first are you ready to sacrfice and give that person the right to hurt you?

    Kung nasagot mo na yan, hindi ka na darating sa point na parang bitter ka sa ginawa mo.

    Yes, it was all worth it. Kasi pinagisipan kong mabuti. And i didn't expect for anything.

    So yeah going back to the LDR topic. Once has to sacrifice in order for the relationship to work. 'Coz if not, there is a possibility na may isang bibigay.
  • JobyBryant24JobyBryant24 Jovitus Primus PExer
    Kagaguhan lang tong long distance relationship. Just my opinion. :rotflmao:
  • nanojavananojava Member PExer
    DaugGreen wrote: »
    Before you end up asking those questions, you should initially ask yourself first are you ready to sacrfice and give that person the right to hurt you?
    Kung nasagot mo na yan, hindi ka na darating sa point na parang bitter ka sa ginawa mo.
    Yes, it was all worth it. Kasi pinagisipan kong mabuti. And i didn't expect for anything.
    So yeah going back to the LDR topic. Once has to sacrifice in order for the relationship to work. 'Coz if not, there is a possibility na may isang bibigay.

    I understand your POV about this. It's very true that you can't love someone if you're not ready to be hurt, for love with a fear of being hurt is just plain naive.
    I guess, when you said, "I didn't expect for anything", you've gone through a lot with this.
    You've been in a situation that what would say impossible to fix yet, you we're able to put back the strings.

    Honestly, sacrifices, soon or later, must be dealt by the couples sincerely. IMHO about sacrifices, is an act of protecting the relationship.
    Hard to believe it though when a person meets the one, he/she must do everything to get his/her partner no matter what's the cause and thinking of nothing in return.
    The art of expecting nothing in return and will not form into regret (not at all) is the most hard thing yet perfect art of sacrifice.
  • onyxwitch09onyxwitch09 Member PExer
    Kagaguhan lang tong long distance relationship. Just my opinion. :rotflmao:


    Hmm why? I agree sa poster na nagsabi na love conquers all. Kung mahal mo talaga, kakayanin mo lahat. I am in love with a man who is more than 4000kms away from me but I know in my heart, I would do anything for him.

    Just want to share this beautiful lyrics:

    love's not just the sum of us
    It's so much deeper
    Goes so much wider
    Love of a sweeter kind
    Love with a patient mind
    Bigger than my eyes have ever seen
    Than my imagination dreams
    It's big enough
    Bigger than us
    Love is patient, love is kind
    Love has given us a sign
    It's big enough
    Bigger than us
    DaugGreen wrote: »
    Isn't relationships involves a lot of sacrifices to make things work? Specially if it's saving it and for the one you love.

    Why regret kung para naman yun sa inyo? You will only regret kung napilitan ka lang, then don't make the sacrifice and wait for the bomb to explode.

    Sa lahat ng relationships there are times that you jump into risks, na baka sakaling magwork. Kasi kung hindi mo gagawin yun, lagi kang may 'what ifs'.

    [#]My2Cents[/#]

    !!!

    If it's true love, he will let his faith be bigger than his fears.
  • iamsunajiamsunaj Member PExer
    hi onyx :)
  • junjun28junjun28 Peace-Maker ✭✭✭
    Ok. so i assumed na yung mga nagcocomment dito ay mga karanasan na sa LDR, kase malalaman mo lang naman ang isang bagay pag naranasan mo na. I've been sa LDR for almost 3 years na. Mahirap talaga. Naniniwala ako na madaming sacrifices. Meron talaga na mas malaki ang sakrapisyo. lalo na pag magkaiba ang oras. Meron mapupuyat o maaga gigising para magkaron ng time makapag usap bago pumasok sa work. Kelangan mo din talaga ng maturity kapag nasa ganitong relasyon ka. Hindi pede ang isip bata kase maraming pagsubok ang dadaan. Like everybody was saying. Trust and communication ang key sa LDR.

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