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Leading you to confess

Yung tipong aalamin mo lang talaga kung gusto ka ng isang tao pero hindi mo gusto ang taong yun. I understand it boosts your ego pero aside from that dapat ba talagang gawin yun? Mali ba ito o okay lang? What is your psychology on this? :)

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  • uzumaki_narutouzumaki_naruto PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Okay lang gawin..
    you just wanna know..
    para alam mo rin kung kailangan mo mag-ingat at iwasan..
  • inviinvi PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Hmm. Oo ego nga lang yan, although I don't think it's wrong na alamin pero kung ayaw din naman mag confess nung may gusto sayo (for his/her ego na rin) eh bakit mo pa ipipilit? (unless gusto mo din siya)

    Personally marunong naman ako mag-appreciate kung mayroong nagkakagusto sa akin, kahit hindi ko siya gusto the same way. But he doesn't have to confess if he doesn't want to. Although if he does confess, sasabihan ko nalang ng 'thank you for liking me'. :)
  • JameauxJameaux PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Thanks for sharing invi at naruto. :)

    It happened to me before kasi na I don't really want to confess but I did. Then pinatunayan ko naman through actions na mahal ko sya. However, maraming nangyari(mind games etc) at hindi kami nagkatuluyan. Hanggang sa I decided not to pursue her kasi parang ang gulo ng sitwasyon namin. Then nung time na ok na ako at nakaka-move on na, naging close na naman ulet kami. Then andun na naman, parang pinapaamin na naman niya ako. Even though I still liked her, I told her the opposite. Sinabi kong hindi ko sya gusto. Sinabi ko na "Gusto mo lang marinig na gusto kita? Para ano? Para ma-satisfy ka at ma-boost ang ego mo? You just want to feel good about yourself. You don't really care about me at all. So let's just stop this. Stop.". Tama ba yung ginawa ko?
  • NilsNils PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    I think at this day and age, dapat talaga nakalatag na sa hapag ang hangarin mo... with so many ways to imply/infer/interpret/etc what you feel... ang hirap manghula... if you want a relationship, say it outright, wala ng paligoy ligoy pa... minsan kasi ang daming etse buretse eh wala naman palang balak or gusto... nakakalito/nakakasakit ng tao...
  • inviinvi PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Jameaux wrote: »
    Thanks for sharing invi at naruto. :)

    It happened to me before kasi na I don't really want to confess but I did. Then pinatunayan ko naman through actions na mahal ko sya. However, maraming nangyari(mind games etc) at hindi kami nagkatuluyan. Hanggang sa I decided not to pursue her kasi parang ang gulo ng sitwasyon namin. Then nung time na ok na ako at nakaka-move on na, naging close na naman ulet kami. Then andun na naman, parang pinapaamin na naman niya ako. Even though I still liked her, I told her the opposite. Sinabi kong hindi ko sya gusto. Sinabi ko na "Gusto mo lang marinig na gusto kita? Para ano? Para ma-satisfy ka at ma-boost ang ego mo? You just want to feel good about yourself. You don't really care about me at all. So let's just stop this. Stop.". Tama ba yung ginawa ko?

    Well, alam mo jamo may quote ako naalala. I can't remember it exactly but it goes something like, 'Happiness is when what we say and do match exactly what we feel'. So sa tanong mo na tama ba ginawa mo, ang tanong ko sayo eh masaya ka ba after mo gawin yun? Kung masaya ka, then tama lang ginawa mo. Kung hindi ka masaya, well, you know the answer.

    Pero yun nga, I don't know with that girl, pero kung ako hindi ko gusto yung guy hindi ko na ipipilit na magconfess pa siya ng feelings sa akin kasi alam naman namin pareho na masasaktan lang siya. Unless talagang sobrang ma-ego lang yang girl mo at gusto niya lang yung feeling na may nagkakagusto sa kanya.
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    hindi naman masama nor kasalanan..

    but it's a waste of time, in my opinion.

    para saan itong experiment, para malaman ang rating mo kung gaano ka kagaling o charming? pag ginusto ka ng tao, ginusto ka. pag ayaw sa iyo, eh 'di ayaw.

    as much as possible mabuti na yung naka-compartmentalized. sino ang female friends, sino ang gagawing ka-relasyon. pag nag halu-halo 'yan, baka drama ang labas niyan. hahaha.. life itself ma-drama na masyado eh, mahirap dagdagan pa.
  • JUST_JT_JUST_JT_ PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Ok yung tinanong ka ng girl kasi baka nakukulitan na siya sa mga paramdam mo. tas wala naman siyang gusto sa iyo..friends lang kayo.

    parang ganito tumatakbo sa isip ni girl

    ano ba itong si Jamo, nanliligaw ba ito... parang hindi naman. hayaan ko na lang sa trip niya.
    lumipas ang ilang linggo....
    ano ba talaga itong si Jamo... ang labo.. nakikipag mind games ba ito or what.
    lumipas na nanaman ang ilang linggo....
    siyet talaga itong si jamo. ang kuleeet. tanungin ko na nga at baka umasa pa ito.
  • kung for the sake of ego, yup mali. on the other hand, I think it's nice to develop this skill of spotting if the other person likes you. it's developing your social intuition
  • balbolskibalbolski PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    yup ok yan alamin para alam mo ilan ang stocks mo sa future :lol:
  • I agree with Invi and Nils. If what you did to confront her is right or wrong, ikaw lang makakapagsabi nun. Though if it settles a lot of things for you,then tama nga un decision mo

    ok lang sakin yun idea of learning the fact if gusto ba o hindi ka nun tao. As Nils say so, tama na nakalapag na lahat. Ego booster talaga, but nasa iyo na if you'd used it further to your advantage.. So you know if dapat mejo mag lie low ka sa closeness or you can go further depending on your own goal.

    An information becomes right or wrong/ good or bad,depending on how you use the information.
  • Jameaux wrote: »
    Thanks for sharing invi at naruto. :)

    It happened to me before kasi na I don't really want to confess but I did. Then pinatunayan ko naman through actions na mahal ko sya. However, maraming nangyari(mind games etc) at hindi kami nagkatuluyan. Hanggang sa I decided not to pursue her kasi parang ang gulo ng sitwasyon namin. Then nung time na ok na ako at nakaka-move on na, naging close na naman ulet kami. Then andun na naman, parang pinapaamin na naman niya ako. Even though I still liked her, I told her the opposite. Sinabi kong hindi ko sya gusto. Sinabi ko na "Gusto mo lang marinig na gusto kita? Para ano? Para ma-satisfy ka at ma-boost ang ego mo? You just want to feel good about yourself. You don't really care about me at all. So let's just stop this. Stop.". Tama ba yung ginawa ko?

    Sweet and brave. I can't say if it is right but you had her head on. *okay*
  • popskypopsky PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Oo, inaalam ko. Lalo na kung nakakasama ko sa outing.


    Para alam ko kung iiwanan kong bukas ang pinto o ido-double lock ko.:lol:
  • Just ask nobody will punish you for making someone confess and thus give you the gift of being liked. Ang masama eh yung pafall.
  • Minsan napapansin ko para sa mga girls halos madami sa kanila inaalam nila...I think maybe its becoz they easily get favors kapag alam nilang me gusto sa kanila yung guy.

    ~SAD BUT TRUE~:hmm:
  • Jameaux wrote: »
    Yung tipong aalamin mo lang talaga kung gusto ka ng isang tao pero hindi mo gusto ang taong yun. I understand it boosts your ego pero aside from that dapat ba talagang gawin yun? Mali ba ito o okay lang? What is your psychology on this? :)

    first bro, opinyon ang hingin mo, hindi psychology. magiging Marian Rivera ka niyan eh. :lol:

    second, you can try playing the game meaning you can try dating her. observe mo body language niya. lagi ba siya nakadikit sa iyo or lagi ba tumatawa sa mga jokes mo na wala naman kwenta. daming clues bro.

    balls on your court, player. :ladiesman:
  • Pafall?

    Good to know, but if nothing can be done otherwise, edi wag na lang alamin. :) Eh ano ba kung alam di ba? What's good in that? :p Pampa-ego?

    Nils wrote: »
    I think at this day and age, dapat talaga nakalatag na sa hapag ang hangarin mo... with so many ways to imply/infer/interpret/etc what you feel... ang hirap manghula... if you want a relationship, say it outright, wala ng paligoy ligoy pa... minsan kasi ang daming etse buretse eh wala naman palang balak or gusto... nakakalito/nakakasakit ng tao...

    +1 for this.
  • darmonxdarmonx PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    @ts.. kung sense mo na di ka talaga gusto at nangungulit... then that is perfect chance to bring them down. accuse them of being feelingero/feelingera and ask back bakit sa tingin nila may gusto ka sa kanila.
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