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Bakit makakapal at matatapang ang mga kabit?

I just got separated with my husband last wednesday.

He has been in singapore for three years now and he has had a couple of affairs siguro before this happened. The first time ko sya nahuli the ka-affair was harrassing me. Iniwan na kasi sya kaya ako pinuntirya para hiwalayan ko sya.

My ex told me it was nothing, kati lang. I got scared of my kids losing a father so pinagbigyan ko. But this time it was different.

I found out about it kasi pagtawag ko sa ex ko *** babae ang sumagot. Bastos and aggressuve.

I called a different number and i did talk with my husband. He said he could not help himself fall in love with her. Di na daw kasi sya masaya sa dami ng problema.

Fine i get it, he fell out of love coz he doesnt have balls to face and fix our problems. But how can he say he fell in love with a girl like that? Walang modo, bastos at maledukada.

I don't get it. Bakit me tao sa mundo kanun kasama ang ugali. Nanira na ng pamilya di pa nakuntento gusto pa makasakit ng sobra.

Its hard to move knowing na me masayang tao dahil nasaktan ka. Why is life so unfair?
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  • kleenexlambotkleenexlambot PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    hmm, may balak ka ba mag demanda TS?
  • jazzmine22jazzmine22 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Well TS, kung may hiya ang mga kabit, sa tingin mo papatol yan sa may asawa?

    So the fact na pumatol sila sa asawa ng iba, makikita mo na agad doon, mga walang hiya na ang mga yan. Pakapalan ng face, kaya dapat sa kanila jinojombag, ingat lang baka masaktan ang kamay mo. :glee:
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    hindi pa man siguro dumadating yung kabit, baka may internal fracture na sa rel. nandoon na sa loob ng sistema yung 'mangaagaw'.. naghihintay na lang ng host. at dumating nga yung host, kabit.

    unfair nga 'yan.. dahil kung si ser, basta simply nagsawa lang at gusto ng sariwa.. nag iwas-pusoy na sa problema + stress ng married life.. sa huli, sa iyo pa babalik ang mga pana:

    hindi ka siguro iniwan 'nun kung naging understanding ka lang.. :rotflmao:

    but as the saying goes, everything happens for a reason. at yung reason na yun, minsan nasa bandang hulihan na kung magpa-obvious. tene-testing talaga limit mo bilang tao.

    masakit na bahagi ng buhay.. but who knows, baka catapult ka naman nitong pangyayari sa mas mataas na level?
  • djaynitordjaynitor PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Huwag mo sisihin ang kabit. Sisihin mo ang asawa mo. Kasalanan niya lahat ng gulong ito.

    Pero tapos na rin kayong mag-asawa kaya wala nang sisihan. MOVE ON ka na lang.

    --sent from my HTC Cha Cha
  • djaynitor wrote: »
    Huwag mo sisihin ang kabit. Sisihin mo ang asawa mo. Kasalanan niya lahat ng gulong ito.

    Pero tapos na rin kayong mag-asawa kaya wala nang sisihan. MOVE ON ka na lang.

    ^this......walang kasalanan ang kabit..yung asawa mo ang awayin mo..
    kung ako siguro asawa mo at awayin mo yung kabit..mas lalo ako magagalit sa iyo..
  • to answer Bakit makakapal at matatapang ang mga kabit?

    feeling nila they've got power, superior, kase nakuha nila attention partner ng iba.
    they think they have something na wala sa partner ng kabit nila. kaya lumaki ulo. :lol:
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    palagay ko lang hah.. may bias din kasi ang society diyan. take this as an example:

    kunyari pag nahuli ni ma'm nakapatong si ser kay inday-katulong, ano ang karaniwan unang reaction ng misis?

    walang hiya ka, nilalandi mo ang asawa ko! sasabunutan at halus kaladkarin ang kawawang inday..

    without realizing, na baka naman hindi nilandi.. siyempre umaasa lang siya sa sasahorin kada buwan, naintimidate ni ser. hindi na nakapalag.

    bakit si ser hindi kayang bagsakan ng kawali sa ulo nito? may kasalanan din siya eh. hindi lang si inday. it takes two to tango 'ika nga. :rotflmao:
  • F-A SoldierF-A Soldier PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Lagi kaseng biniblame yung third party eh. :glee:

    Manang asawa mo ang may responsibilidad sa iyo at sa anak niya, na maging magaling na asawa at tatay. Legally and ethically. Hindi yung mistress.

    I keep saying this over and over here: you cannot steal someone. No such thing, unless you have a gun and it's *****. You cannot ***** the willing. An affair is two way street.

    Totoo kaya na "pinabigyan ko kase ayaw kong mawalan ng tatay ang anak ko..."? Naks, galing ni mommy ah. Or you were the one scared of losing a husband? :glee: Because they really won't lose a father, seeing he works overseas and not with them, there really won't be much of a difference.

    Once again: why is womanizing prevalent in the Philippines? Because the females duke it out. :glee:

    Unfair? Tita, the world was never fair. And sometimes it sucks more because you made yourself vulnerable.
  • ^ hands down to F-A Soldier.
    i really like reading your posts and i always learn a thing or two.
    pwede ka bang maging private counselor? :lol:

    note to self: try mo maging manhid minsan para di ka vulnerable. hehe.
  • F-A SoldierF-A Soldier PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ^Manhid? No. LOL. Smarter. Yes you have to be somewhat able to take 'sticks and stones'. But like some women I talked to here, the solution is not to "turn into a maneater" or one who don't give two sh!ts at all. It's not you're either a martyr or a frigid b!tch. The solution is be smarter.

    Pick the right man, don't jump into relationships, if you're gonna fck be protected, cultivate yourself and have your own life so you're not wholly dependent on a guy.

    Enjoy life be yourself, but have a couple of mattress to break your fall just in case. Like wise men said walk quietly but carry a big stick.

    As for the TS, tapos na ho iyan Manang. Hard to move on or not, you have to. If not for your sake, for your dignity's sake, if not for that then for your kids. I wouldn't want to live with a mother who has self pity. Wala na ngang tatay, eh yung single mom na magpapalake parang how do you say it, platong basag? Sino mas kawawa.
  • jazzmine22jazzmine22 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    darkshark wrote: »
    ^this......walang kasalanan ang kabit..yung asawa mo ang awayin mo..
    kung ako siguro asawa mo at awayin mo yung kabit..mas lalo ako magagalit sa iyo..

    LOL :lol: may kasalanan yung kabit ano, pumatol siya sa may asawa, yun ang kasalanan niya, kaladkarin siyang babae.

    Sa mata ng tao at ng batas, may kasalanan siya.


    Kasalanan nga pareho nung husband at nung mistress, pero para sabihing walang kasalanan ang kabit? :rolleyes:
  • F-A SoldierF-A Soldier PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ^Tita Jazz if your husband cheated on you, sino mas aawayin mo? 3rd party or your other half? :mconfused: 50/50 blame ba talaga, when your husband is your family and the mistress a stranger?
  • ^ agree.

    minsan ego booster yun sa side ng kabit, yung feeling na sila ang pinili, so ano ka ngayon.

    ang kapal lang, pero ang akin kase, if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you.
  • F-A SoldierF-A Soldier PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    "...if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you."

    So you believe in tadhana pala. :glee:
  • jazzmine22jazzmine22 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ^ I've said it, pareho silang may kasalanan, ang natatawa lang ako, sabihin na walang kasalanan yung kabit?

    Kung ang kabit ng asawa ko eh hindi mas matapang pa sa akin, hindi ko siya pag aaksayahan ng panahon i confront, but admit it FA, madaming kabit ngayon ang matapang pa sa tunay na asawa.

    Like yung kabit ng tito ko, tawagan ba naman ang tita ko, at sabihin na inaantay na lang niyang mamatay ang tita ko?

    Just like sa situation ni TS, makakapal ang mukha.
  • jazzmine22jazzmine22 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Asawa: Akin ang asawa ko, malandi ka!

    Kabit: Kung iyo talaga, bakit kailangan mo pang angkinin?


    :glee:


    TS, pabayaan mo na yang asawa mo, ngayon yung kabit, kapag ginugulo ka pa din, idemanda mo, ng madala.
  • F-A SoldierF-A Soldier PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Because problema sa Filipinas eh, you folks put so much emphasis on marriage, yet there's no legal back up. :glee: There's little enforcement of child support, there's no divorce so no hope of a wronged wife being able to put her foot down because when he goes the whole thing goes with him. Thinking as if God will strike the husband every first of the month if he's one minute late sending alimony. :glee:

    True, pero the way I see it, that person really don't have a care or obligation to you. The person that does is your husband/spouse.
  • jazzmine22jazzmine22 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Klase ng mga kabit:

    Kabit no. 1 - eto yung mahiyain, patago yan, kasi may hiya pa. Hindi din lumalaban sa tunay na asawa yan, kumbaga masaya na siya na kabit siya kaya okay lang siya na patago sila.

    Kabit no. 2 - tanggap niyang kabit siya, pero umaasa siya na someday siya na ang magiging legal wife, ipinagdadasal ng palihim na mamatay ang asawa.

    Kabit no. 3 - Hindi niya alam na kabit siya, in other words eto yung mga ta-nga.

    Kabit no. 4 - eto ang tipo na makakapal na kabit, guguluhin ang tunay na asawa, ang mga anak nila, hoping na by doing that, iwanan na nung tunay na asawa yung lalaki, at hayaan na na magsama sila.

    Kabit no. 5 - ang mga desperada, eto yung mga hindi matanggap na hindi iniwan ni lalaki ang pamilya, kaya kahit ayaw na sa kanya nung lalaki, eh pinipilit pa din ang sarili, at nanggugulo pa din.
  • djaynitordjaynitor PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Kabit no. 6 - Eto iyong tiga-squatter na nagkakabit kasi ayaw magbayad ng kuryente.

    --sent from my HTC Cha Cha
  • May kasalanan man ang kabit o wala, wala namang pakialam sayo yan TS. Kahit pinakasalan mo ang lalake, hindi ibig sabihin sayo na siya. Kung ayaw na niya sayo, wala ka nang magagawa kahit nagpakasal na kayo. Kahit ipakulong mo siya, hindi pa rin siya sayo. Kahit mga bata ang iniisip mo, lalaki lang sila sa isang magulong pamilya kung may kabit si mister.

    Yan ang kagaguhan ng walang divorce.


    Ika nga ni Stevie Wonder:

    All is fair in love
    Love's a crazy game
    Two people vow to stay
    In love as one they say
    But all is changed with time
    The future none can see


    -sent from my Nokia 3310
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