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Why don't American women like Asian guys in the field dating/courting???

Not that I'm generalizing all American girls but that is what I've been hearing from my friends living in the US. They underestimate Asian guys (DAW) when it comes to relationship. And last night, I entered into a foreign chatroom website; I was able to invite several Americans to have a private chat w/ me (chat lang w/o a webcam)-so far so good naman yung mga conversations namin. But when the time I published my webcam, they suddenly stopped from chatting to me & refused my invitations... kaya tuloy ngayon, I think we are considered to be inferior by the western women (especially americans) when it come to courting & dating.

So what do you guys think the reason for that?. Is there something wrong with the way us, Asian men, court & be engaged in a relationship?, Is it a matter of competition against American men?, Is it a matter of racial & culture differences?, or most ironically but true, Is it just a matter of the size we Asian guys do have than the Americans guys do have? (I suppose you know what I mean).

Sorry if this topic is so lame but I'm just really confused but nevertheless I hope you guys would share your thoughts. :)
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  • I can think of few reasons:
    1. Most Filipinos have low self esteem.
    2. Most Filipinos are too conservative and possessive. (no one wants to date that..)
    3. We live mostly surrounded by our fellow Filipinos(Ghettos) and are afraid to go out of our comfort zone.
    4. Chatrooms are not a place to meet women!! (see point no. 3). Go out there and socialize with them. Forget about being a Filipino for once and consider yourself as part of a greater race (the human race). If you don't consider yourself equal then they will not, of course.
  • Baka naman kahit sinong babae na makita ka sa webcam ay titigil makipag chat sayo? Huwag mo muna kasi ipakita ettits mo :lol:
  • But when the time I published my webcam, they suddenly stopped from chatting to me & refused my invitations...
    ..kaya tuloy ngayon, I think we are considered to be inferior by the western women (especially americans) when it come to courting & dating.

    Is it just me or these two statements really don't seem connected?

    Anyway, I hope you won't take this the wrong way but probably they didn't find physically pleasing enough kung anuman yung pinakita mo at walang kinalaman dun ang courting/dating style ng mga lalaking Asyano.
  • Asiano = pandak at maliit ang TT. Enough said.... :glee:

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    my_2_cents
  • MarkOliverMarkOliver PEx Rookie ⭐
    @bigotandbalbas- I'm not that kind of person. I was just after w/ a clean chat :) and I never did that !

    @rehan - just like what I've said, I didn't show something.

    @sledge2136- I'm not just pertaining to filipinos but also to our fellow asians as well. There was a japanese out there who experienced the same thing as mine; he kept on being rejected & receiving foul words from those people. And this is also taking place in actual events not just in chatrooms especially to those asians living the US. We are said to be inferior in the dating field of american society.


    Ok ganito- Sam Milby, Jon Avila, Tom of PBB(I dunno his last name), etc.. They grew up in western countries- Sam & tom are in US, & Jon in ireland. They are totally westernized, sa accent pa nga lang nila eh. But Come to think of it, bakit sila bumalik na lang dito? Do you think they were able to find a successful relationship w/ their foreign counterpart when they were still living there??? ..:rolleyes:
  • siyadosiyado PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    i think you also have to consider the kind of people who were in that chatroom. i know of several north americans who really don't mind dating pinoys. maybe those girls just like sticking to their own kind, maybe they didn't feel comfortable with you, maybe they didn't like the way you look. there could be many reasons but i don't believe in generalizing in this case. if you really want a white american girl, you'll find one who'll be friendly to you i'm sure.
  • freshbabefreshbabe PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    MarkOliver wrote: »
    @bigotandbalbas- I'm not that kind of person. I was just after w/ a clean chat :) and I never did that !

    @rehan - just like what I've said, I didn't show something.

    @sledge2136- I'm not just pertaining to filipinos but also to our fellow asians as well. There was a japanese out there who experienced the same thing as mine; he kept on being rejected & receiving foul words from those people. And this is also taking place in actual events not just in chatrooms especially to those asians living the US. We are said to be inferior in the dating field of american society.


    Ok ganito- Sam Milby, Jon Avila, Tom of PBB(I dunno his last name), etc.. They grew up in western countries- Sam & tom are in US, & Jon in ireland. They are totally westernized, sa accent pa nga lang nila eh. But Come to think of it, bakit sila bumalik na lang dito? Do you think they were able to find a successful relationship w/ their foreign counterpart when they were still living there??? ..:rolleyes:


    ^^ i watched a Sam Milby interview w/ Kris Aquino -nung kasikatan pa ng PBB or kasikatan ng Toni-Sam Loveteam. And crush pa lang niya si Anne Curtis nun. HE HAD AN EXGF na CAUCASIAN(ang panget). And that caucasian isn't as HOT and PRETTY like ANNE CURTIS. Iniisip ko nga noon na -ewww ang panget talaga ng taste ni SAM. Tapos nakipag-halikan pa siya sa PBB w/ someone "UGLY" din. :rotflmao::rotflmao:

    -Ganito na lang. Yung mga Caucasian GUYS na may fetish with ASIAN WOMEN. Pinay ang nangunguna -minsan sa listahan nila na gusto nilang maka-relasyon or matikman.

    -Kaya inggit na inggit yang mga CAUCASIAN GUYS na yan kina SAM MILBY, TOM RODRIGUEZ, JON AVILA. Kasi may "rason" kung bakit pwede silang makarating ng Pilipinas. Dahil sa ROOTS nila. Tapos naging CELEBRITY pa. Kung tutuusin-COMMON look lang kagwapuhan nila back sa US or Europe.

    -Kumbaga PHILIPPINES is the mecca of beautiful asian women. Next na pinupuntahan ng Amerikano eh Japan, Thailand at Singapore. Pero nasa Pinas talaga- yung RIGHT MIX. Di masyadong chinita, di rin masyadong fair-skinned, or maganda yung mix- spanish/mexican- mestiza, chinese-mestiza, tan-skinned. PLUS din na good in ENGLISH (understands/speaks good ENGLISH).
  • freshbabefreshbabe PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    siyado wrote: »
    i think you also have to consider the kind of people who were in that chatroom. i know of several north americans who really don't mind dating pinoys. maybe those girls just like sticking to their own kind, maybe they didn't feel comfortable with you, maybe they didn't like the way you look. there could be many reasons but i don't believe in generalizing in this case. if you really want a white american girl, you'll find one who'll be friendly to you i'm sure.

    ^^^ i darn agree w/ you. HALOS lahat yata ng caucasian girls. Specially TEENS. Sobrang superficial niyan. I-consider naman ang age at maturity ng ka-chat na caucasian girls diba???

    -Saka honestly... nakakasawa beauty ng caucasian girls. Saka mabilis mag-mature ang mukha. Minsan mukha ng [email protected] Tapos parang sobrang p0kish ng hitsura:lol:. Basta iba pa rin yung may mix ng pinay/pinoy blood.


    -Although you can just judge it from teen "US FLICKS". Feeling nila "nerdy" "goody-goody" ang ASIAN BOYS/MEN(kahit di na pinoy). Ang pinoy naman "THUG", di kasing goody-goody ng Chinese Boys. Parang asian version ng BLACKS. Ang mga Pinoy.


    I mean you can just judge it-from the movies you see. Chinese Boys in the US are either really nice or really bad. Yung tipong kasama sa "drug-related" issue-gangsters.

    Pero diba?? BILOG ANG MUNDO. Check and google about LINSANITY FAD in NBA. SI JEREMY LIN -Yung asian chinese nba-player ng Knicks. Yung scores niya- madadaig pa daw si Michael Jordan.

    -Sa tingin mo ba ASIAN GIRLS lang ang pumupuri sa NEW NBA STAR na yan sa STATES??? Mas maraming CAUCASIAN GIRLS ang tumitili. :naughty::rotflmao::p

    -Saka yung mga Pinoy na sumasali sa AMERICAN DANCE CREW???
    Diba fans nila CAUCASIAN GIRLS??? (ang dami ng PINOY group na nanalo) -Jabawockeez meron pa iba... Bakit ma-appeal sila sa CAUCASIAN GIRLS?? If feeling mo nang-didiscriminate sila.
  • Alpha_GreenAlpha_Green PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    freshbabe wrote: »
    -Kumbaga PHILIPPINES is the mecca of beautiful asian women. Next na pinupuntahan ng Amerikano eh Japan, Thailand at Singapore. Pero nasa Pinas talaga- yung RIGHT MIX. Di masyadong chinita, di rin masyadong fair-skinned, or maganda yung mix- spanish/mexican- mestiza, chinese-mestiza, tan-skinned. PLUS din na good in ENGLISH (understands/speaks good ENGLISH).

    Hmmmm, make that PHILIPPINES is the mecca of women who are willing to be a maidservant and wh0re at the same time to foreign men.

    Asian women are willing to uphold traditional female roles (pang kama at pang kusina lang) to be able to marry a western men and escape poverty. I think that is what men really want thats why we can see western men going for Asian women. Masyado kasing feministic ang ibang western women.
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    probably it has something to do with size. :hiya:

    'ika nga ni katy perry: powthothoy.

    hindi putitoy. :lol:


    kidding aside, yung isa kong school mate (but diff. course), noong binata pa siya nagkaroon siya ng irish gf. ayaw na humiwalay sa kanya dati kasi maganda yata ang kanyang pagkakatrabaho. :hiya:
  • Guys,

    When you talk of Caucasian, do you mean Americans? Just to make it clear since Europeans are mostly Caucasians and in most regions in Europe, women are actually conservatives and in no way are superficials.

    I don't know why but I think in countries where there are a lot of Filipinos, (like Dubai, UK, USA, Australia), we are often belittled in those places (this includes dating, of course). But so far, in my own experience, in countries where there are not much Filipinos, it is not the case. For instance, when I was in Dubai I felt the descrimination and the belittlement of other cultures but ever since I moved here somewhere in Europe, where they don't speak english, there were never a single moment when I feel descriminated(this includes dating, of course).

    There must be something we do when we are in a large group that are annoying to other cultures. I don't know what but I am trying really hard to comprehend.
  • MarkOliverMarkOliver PEx Rookie ⭐
    @freshbabe - What kind of caucasians are you pertaining to?. Because just like what sledge2136 said, europeans are also caucasians not just americans. and I guess europeans are much less racists than americans so that's why you conclude that caucasian girls cheer at them. And in the case of Jeremy Lin, hindi ba't sabi eh ilang beses na rin siyang na-reject ng mga ibang teams before because of his racial difference, so I guess there was merely a discrimination happened to him.

    And besides, what I'm talking is all about discrimination when it comes to dating/courting not in sports, entertainment, etc..

    And bakit sa mga romantic hollywood films there are no asian leading men partnered w/ the prominent & promising hollywood leading ladies such as Demi Moore, Drew Barrymore, Jennifer Aniston, Kate Winslet, Angelina Jolie, etc.. That's what I'm talking about.
  • Hmmmm, make that PHILIPPINES is the mecca of women who are willing to be a maidservant and wh0re at the same time to foreign men.

    Asian women are willing to uphold traditional female roles (pang kama at pang kusina lang) to be able to marry a western men and escape poverty. I think that is what men really want thats why we can see western men going for Asian women. Masyado kasing feministic ang ibang western women.

    Can you blame those who pursue a path to get out of poverty? I heard a lot of comments like your's regarding filipino maids or servants or even filipina women who marry foreigners, but what most of you, who have this kind of comment, failed to mention is what other alternative/options do you think they have?.
  • freshbabefreshbabe PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    sledge2136 wrote: »
    Can you blame those who pursue a path to get out of poverty? I heard a lot of comments like your's regarding filipino maids or servants or even filipina women who marry foreigners, but what most of you, who have this kind of comment, failed to mention is what other alternative/options do you think they have?.

    ^^In my opinion -i guess these types of women has a chance to climb up the social ladder, I think God made them that lucky still -thanks to Caucasians who really loved the darker type of skin or the brown tanned ones. How they look didn't even matter. As long as they're submissive or has rocking bodies.
  • darmonxdarmonx PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    I live in the US. let me put it this way for you. part of the attraction is physical features. if you are under 6 feet tall and not athletic looking.... dont expect girls to make it easy for you. ganun din ang pinay na nasa pilipinas.. wala lang silang masyadong mapag pilian kaya ok lang kahit mas pandak sa kanila. pagdating nila sa us... biglang walang pag asa kuno mga bansot.

    but if you are a guy, you shouldn't even focus on that. men have have testosterone that gives us the natural instinct to chase and women have their own hormones that makes them want to accept the guy that wants them the most. natural aggression has a tendency to win over natural selection.
    be thankful you have a choice to chase as a guy kahit wala kang itsura.. a less attractive female will have very few options.
  • freshbabefreshbabe PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    MarkOliver wrote: »
    @freshbabe - What kind of caucasians are you pertaining to?. Because just like what sledge2136 said, europeans are also caucasians not just americans. and I guess europeans are much less racists than americans so that's why you conclude that caucasian girls cheer at them. And in the case of Jeremy Lin, hindi ba't sabi eh ilang beses na rin siyang na-reject ng mga ibang teams before because of his racial difference, so I guess there was merely a discrimination happened to him.

    And besides, what I'm talking is all about discrimination when it comes to dating/courting not in sports, entertainment, etc..

    And bakit sa mga romantic hollywood films there are no asian leading men partnered w/ the prominent & promising hollywood leading ladies such as Demi Moore, Drew Barrymore, Jennifer Aniston, Kate Winslet, Angelina Jolie, etc.. That's what I'm talking about.

    ^^ It seemed like you were generalizing how caucasian women are allergic with asian guys. So i pointed out famous asian guys now or celebrities or famous pinoy groups who has appeal w/ the ladies -beyond race.
    Yes Jeremy Lin got discriminated at first-but look now -he's like boo yah! I just have what it takes. Live Love and Suck it.

    -Well I don't know with you-with the "type" of caucasians you were pertaining to attract. I presume it's just American girls. And -it's true that majority of them are really superficial, and they age rapidly-no matter how pretty they look when they were young. They of course would be more attracted with their own kind or race FIRST. Not if you have the same physical attributes as to how CAUCASIANS look & built as well.


    -Now you're asking why ASIAN GUYS don't find a cut LEAD ROLE in hollywood & have FAMOUS leading actresses in hollywood. ASK JACKY CHAN & JET LI :p.

    -Lou diamond philipps -is half filipino. he looks asian too. famous hollywood villain actor.

    -like pexer darmonx posted- i think he best answered accurately your problem. Maybe if you looked as hot as "enrique iglesias"-who's part FILIPINO. YOU WOULDN'T HAVE A PROBLEM -LIKE THAT.
  • I'm only going to talk about what I'm familiar with.

    American and Canadian women typically do not date Filipinos who grew up in the Philippines but wouldn't mind dating Pinoys raised in the States (or Canada) . The reason why is because there is a difference with the way these men treat women. Philippine-bred men tend to stray while US-bred men value commitment more ergo far more likely to stay faithful. Philippine-bred men even have this silly and downright insecure way of distinguishing women (pangkama or pang-altar) while US-bred men do not prejudge women like that. Part of the problem is that Filipinas to a point tolerate infidelity while American (and Canadian) women wouldn't have none of that. Filipinas' minds are "massaged" to bear having to be committed or married to someone who is fidelity-challenged. It's okay for her if he gallivants for as long as he comes home to her. American women on the other hand, at the first sign of betrayal wouldn't hesitate kicking a guy like that to the curb.

    That's why I prefer Pinays. :hiya: j/k
  • freshbabefreshbabe PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    McNasty wrote: »
    I'm only going to talk about what I'm familiar with.

    American and Canadian women typically do not date Filipinos who grew up in the Philippines but wouldn't mind dating Pinoys raised in the States (or Canada) . The reason why is because there is a difference with the way these men treat women. Philippine-bred men tend to stray while US-bred men value commitment more ergo far more likely to stay faithful. Philippine-bred men even have this silly and downright insecure way of distinguishing women (pangkama or pang-altar) while US-bred men do not prejudge women like that. Part of the problem is that Filipinas to a point tolerate infidelity while American (and Canadian) women wouldn't have none of that. Filipinas' minds are "massaged" to bear having to be committed or married to someone who is fidelity-challenged. It's okay for her if he gallivants for as long as he comes home to her. American women on the other hand, at the first sign of betrayal wouldn't hesitate kicking a guy like that to the curb.

    That's why I prefer Pinays. :hiya: j/k

    ^^ Eh sa Canada yata or US. Mas may say talaga ang babae, or may malaking financial rights na makukuha if mahuli niya cheating yung hubby niya-kapag naghiwalay sila(divorce/seperation). Kaya ... lahat halos sa area na yan -LATE na magpakasal yung mga guys diyan. Kasi MALAKI RISK if magpapakasal sila. Dapat sure talaga sila sa pakakasalan nila.

    -Wag niyo naman lahatin ng pinay. Na halos lahat eh ... kulang na lang rebulto sa sobrang pagka-MARTYR.

    -So now I get why alot of women are hoping to get hitched to a well-off guy abroad.:rotflmao:
  • freshbabe wrote: »
    ^^ Eh sa Canada yata or US. Mas may say talaga ang babae, or may malaking financial rights na makukuha if mahuli niya cheating yung hubby niya-kapag naghiwalay sila(divorce/seperation). Kaya ... lahat halos sa area na yan -LATE na magpakasal yung mga guys diyan. Kasi MALAKI RISK if magpapakasal sila. Dapat sure talaga sila sa pakakasalan nila.

    -Wag niyo naman lahatin ng pinay. Na halos lahat eh ... kulang na lang rebulto sa sobrang pagka-MARTYR.

    -So now I get why alot of women are hoping to get hitched to a well-off guy abroad.:rotflmao:

    You're probably right that some laws protect women against a cheating husband in the US (and Canada). But I'm also talking about bfs/gfs. While Philippine-bred women are more inclined to give their boyfriends second, third, fourth, fifth, etc. chances, American-bred women have little or no tolerance for infidelity.
  • I think there's a bit of racism in Americans, they tend to see Asians as 'different'. No matter that we have Jeremy Lin, Bruce Lee, etc. - the fact that these people are being singled out and people need to point out their being Asian means that they are unique. You don't say that Dirk Nowitski is white (because that's normal) - but you do point out his being German.

    Now, generally, women want men who are more 'dominant', and men want women who are less 'dominant' - no gender stereotyping here, it's that, IMO, in relationships, men are supposed to be men, so Asian men have to another hurdle to jump for American women to be impressed.
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