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She is 3 years younger. 2 years na kami. Wala na ako feelings for her kasi palagi kami arguments na lang. But as isang relationship, important ba ang feelings? or ok lang kahit wala na?

Also nabigay nya na ang virginity nya sa akin.. kaya hindi sya maka alis or basta basta mag break-up.

Kayo paano nyo na handle kung wala na feelings pero navirginized mo na sya. Dapat pa ba ituloy?
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  • lunarpandalunarpanda PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    piolcuat wrote: »
    important ba ang feelings? or ok lang kahit wala na?
    malamang
    piolcuat wrote: »
    Also nabigay nya na ang virginity nya sa akin.. kaya hindi sya maka alis or basta basta mag break-up.
    eh kung gusto mo makipag-break, may magagawa ba sya?
    piolcuat wrote: »
    Kayo paano nyo na handle kung wala na feelings pero navirginized mo na sya. Dapat pa ba ituloy?
    maraming girls ang na-devirginize pero masaya naman sila ngayon.
  • hardylainehardylaine PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    piolcuat wrote: »
    She is 3 years younger. 2 years na kami. Wala na ako feelings for her kasi palagi kami arguments na lang. But as isang relationship, important ba ang feelings? or ok lang kahit wala na?

    Also nabigay nya na ang virginity nya sa akin.. kaya hindi sya maka alis or basta basta mag break-up.

    Kayo paano nyo na handle kung wala na feelings pero navirginized mo na sya. Dapat pa ba ituloy?

    maganda ba yan?? bigay mo na lang sa akin... hahahaahaha....:rotflmao:

    pero kung mukang sugpo wag na lang... :bop:
  • tripl3tripl3 PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Siguro maganda kung pag-usapan nyo nang masinsinan and tell her the truth. Baka may magawa sya para maibalik yung feelings mo sa kanya or malay mo she feels the same thing, ayaw nya lang na sya mag-ungkat since sinabi mong ikaw nga ang naka-devirginize sa kanya.
  • Hindi na healthy ang relationship kung away nalang kayo nang away. Just goes to show na hindi kayo compatible kaya palagi nalang kayo nag-clash. Isipin mo nalang what more kung magkatuluyan kayo as husband and wife, eh di mas maselang awayan pa ang mangyayari nyan sigurado. So what kung naibigay na nya sayo, it's just one aspect of a relationship. Ang pinaka-importanteng aspeto ay ang quality of communication nyo since this will determine whether or not both of you will make it in the long-term or not. If you still want to save your relationship, then BOTH of you should work on communicating effectively and COMPROMISE para ma-settle ang differences nyo.
  • tsk tsk... nagsawa na. :D

    masakit sa babae 'yan. kumbaga para sa kanya pinagkatiwala niya sa iyo ang pagkababae niya tapos iiwanan mo lang din pala siya.

    wala na ang feelings kasi puro argument? bakit ba kayo laging nag-aaway? baka naman dapat n'yo lang lawakan ang pang-unawa at habaan ang pasensya, di kaya?

    ikaw talaga oh, niligawan mo ba 'yan? sabi nga nila lumapit-lapit ka sa babae. nananahimik tapos binulabog mo ang mundo. at ngayon iiwanan mo ng luhaan? pag-isipan mo 'yan. ikaw rin, baka maghanap ka ng babae na handang ialay ang pagkababae sa'yo at wala ka ng makita.

    tapos nag-break kayo at nakita mo siya, lalong gumanda at sumeksi. hinayang ka n'yan brader. :lol:
  • Amoruth wrote: »
    Hindi na healthy ang relationship kung away nalang kayo nang away. Just goes to show na hindi kayo compatible kaya palagi nalang kayo nag-clash. Isipin mo nalang what more kung magkatuluyan kayo as husband and wife, eh di mas maselang awayan pa ang mangyayari nyan sigurado. So what kung naibigay na nya sayo, it's just one aspect of a relationship. Ang pinaka-importanteng aspeto ay ang quality of communication nyo since this will determine whether or not both of you will make it in the long-term or not. If you still want to save your relationship, then BOTH of you should work on communicating effectively and COMPROMISE para ma-settle ang differences nyo.

    I'd be happier if mag break-up na kami. But I'm worried na baka hindi nya ma take hindi na sya virgin at baka magsuicide pa. Kayo, paano nyo na handle ganyan na situation? Paano mo na convince na mag break-up kayo ng siota mo na na nadivirginized mo and make sure ma tanggap nya? Yung mga nakagawa na nito. How is your exGF now na nadirviginize mo before? Ano conditions na nila now?
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    piolcuat wrote: »
    But I'm worried na baka hindi nya ma take hindi na sya virgin at baka magsuicide pa.

    Magpapakamatay dahil hindi na virgin? Anong klaseng tao ang ganito? :bounce: :grinroll: :rotfl:

    -Just_JT
    The.sooner.you.break.up.the.better.for.both.of.you. :bungi:
  • JUST_JT wrote: »
    Magpapakamatay dahil hindi na virgin? Anong klaseng tao ang ganito? :bounce: :grinroll: :rotfl:

    -Just_JT
    The.sooner.you.break.up.the.better.for.both.of.you. :bungi:

    Many women kasi consider their virginity their most prized possessions. Narinig nyo na the cliche that the greatest gift of a woman to her husband is her virginity. Lose it and wala na greatest gift. Of course many of us alam natin na virginity is just one aspect of a person and the greatest gift of a woman to her husband is her lifetime of presence, love and the commitment and loyalty. Now I wonder how to psychologically upgrade her thinking para she can go past her fixation on virginity and seeing from higher point of view. Or automatic na ma gain nila ang insight na ito once they move beyond it, or did it depend sa personality ng woman? Ano experience nyo dito sa mga girls na na devirginized mo? What happened to them eventually? Psychologically upgraded automatically or defende sa girls kung ma move on sila?
  • lunarpandalunarpanda PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    there goes the virginity topic again. there are more things in life than just contemplating the loss of a hymen.

    if she becomes single for so many months, the next time she has sex, the guy will have no clue if she's a virgin or not. actually, not too many men can tell if a woman is a virgin until the aftermath.

    if you prolong the agony, lalong magiging hysterical si babae. end it while you still can.
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    piolcuat wrote: »
    Many women kasi consider their virginity their most prized possessions. Narinig nyo na the cliche that the greatest gift of a woman to her husband is her virginity.

    Women who think like that are STUPID and not worth having a long-term relationship with. :glee:

    -Just_JT
    Unless.the.man.is.EQUALLY.STUPID.then.it's.even.stephen. :bungi:
  • Hindi lang sya navirginized. Na buntis ko rin.. pero nag natural miscarriage after 6 weeks. Gaano ka laki ng impact nito if I'll just leave her? This is the reason why I mentioned baka mag commit suicide.. kasi big deal yun pag buntis. Or should one treat buntis as simple as getting devirginized?

    Whatever. Ano best way to say to her I wanna leave her so she can survive and move on?
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    piolcuat wrote: »
    Hindi lang sya navirginized. Na buntis ko rin.. pero nag natural miscarriage after 6 weeks. Gaano ka laki ng impact nito if I'll just leave her? This is the reason why I mentioned baka mag commit suicide.. kasi big deal yun pag buntis. Or should one treat buntis as simple as getting devirginized?

    Whatever. Ano best way to say to her I wanna leave her so she can survive and move on?

    Breaking up will always hurt. The sooner and quicker you tell her, the better.

    -Just_JT
    Utang.na.loob.magcondom.ka.naman! :bounce: :grinroll: :rotfl:
  • Is she trying to blackmail you by saying she'll do something drastic if you break up with her? If that is the case then at least alam mo na kung ano yung true colors nya. Mahirap makawala sa ganyang klaseng tao. They will use guilt to control you.

    Wag ka magpakontrol. And if you're just presuming na yun ang magiging reaction nya wag mong pangunahan kasi mas lalo ka lang mapaparanoid sa pakikipagbreak sa kanya. There's definitely no easy way out. She will have to accept your decision and move on with her life. Whatever happens to her after that, hindi mo na problema or obligasyon na makiramdam sa kanya since it's already over for both of you. It's her choice kung gusto nyang magpakamatay or magskandalo or kung ano pa man. Don't give in to her guilt-tripping.
  • piolcuat wrote: »
    Kayo paano nyo na handle kung wala na feelings pero navirginized mo na sya. Dapat pa ba ituloy?

    ano po ang ibig sabihin nyan?... nde na sya virgin nung nakilala mo tas ginawa mo syang virgin ulit? wehehe :bungi:
    Whatever. Ano best way to say to her I wanna leave her so she can survive and move on?
    sabihin mo na po ng diretsuhan para pareho kayong malayang humanap ng kaligayahan sa iba.
  • Another option is. If in case natuloy kami mag asawa. Separate rooms kami or something like that.

    I heard na romance only last for 2 years because nasa brain neural program ang pag ininlove and feelings of love (meaning the love chemicals in the brain last 2 years average lang). This is why many relationships last 2 years lang daw.

    Ikaw. In love na in love ka pa rin after 3 years or more in the relationship. Or did the passion slowdown? Maybe normal lang ito??

    Hindi ko ma decide if compatible kami o hindi. Hot temper sya madali magalit. Kunting bagay lang galit na. Someone warns me na mas worse pa kung mag menopause na dahil mas grabi pa ang pakahot temper. Totoo ba ito? This is what wil decide whether to marry her or not.

    Maybe it's idealistic to expect a relationship na all smile palagi. Diba part nyan ang magaway and tampuhan? But how to tell what is no longer normal or enough is enough. Or rather. How do you know when it is time to let go and to break-up in a relationship? Ikaw. What's your turning point when you decide it is time to let go??
  • nash_bedistanash_bedista Member PEx Icon 🎖️🎖️🎖️
    mag-aral muna siya :)
  • rokrokrokrok PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Kung wala ng feelings, let go. Break up. Sa una lang niya iindahin yung hindi na siya virgin. Babae ako, I've been there. Eventually matatanggap din niya yon, hindi basis ng isang relasyon yung dahil ikaw ang nakauna hindi na siya makakalas sa inyo. Kung hindi mo na mahal, break up. Masasaktan siya pero ayos lang yon kaysa naman matali siya sa isang relasyong walang pagmamahal. Pareho kayo.
  • rokrok wrote: »
    Kung wala ng feelings, let go. Break up. Sa una lang niya iindahin yung hindi na siya virgin. Babae ako, I've been there. Eventually matatanggap din niya yon, hindi basis ng isang relasyon yung dahil ikaw ang nakauna hindi na siya makakalas sa inyo. Kung hindi mo na mahal, break up. Masasaktan siya pero ayos lang yon kaysa naman matali siya sa isang relasyong walang pagmamahal. Pareho kayo.

    Chinese kami. It's a tradition in chinese na dapat virgin ang isang girl before marriage. Sino mga chinese dito. Ano experience nyo? I know mas modern and liberated ang mga pinoy.. but not chinese who are traditional.. unless I'm wrong?
  • lunarpandalunarpanda PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    ang dapat sumagot dito si intsik_siomai
  • piolcuat wrote: »
    Another option is. If in case natuloy kami mag asawa. Separate rooms kami or something like that.

    Can you honestly see yourself in that situation until you grow old? Bakit ka pa magpapakasal if this is the case? Marriage is symbolic, and it is a formal way of having society acknowledge that you are a FAMILY unit. Isipin mo nalang kung ano ang sasagutin mo kapag tinanong ka ng mga anak nyo kung bakit hindi kayo magkasama matulog? The marriage bed should serve its purpose, just like marriage is supposed to be a commemoration of the UNION between husband and wife. Paano yung mga needs mo bilang husband? Eh kung magiging separated din naman kayo might as well live in different houses nalang or not get married at all.
    I heard na romance only last for 2 years because nasa brain neural program ang pag ininlove and feelings of love (meaning the love chemicals in the brain last 2 years average lang). This is why many relationships last 2 years lang daw. Ikaw. In love na in love ka pa rin after 3 years or more in the relationship. Or did the passion slowdown? Maybe normal lang ito??

    IMO, it all depends on how both of you handle your relationship. Compatibility and communication are the keys to make your relationship last. The general pattern in relationships is that after a year or so (for some even shorter), romance will only be become secondary to what binds you together - ultimately, the depth of your friendship determines the strength and length of your relationship. Marriage is not just about love and intimacy. In the long term it'll be about partnership and compromise. Sa experience ko yung first year talaga (bf & gf) ang pinaka-passionate phase sa relasyon namin ng asawa ko. Sa mga sumusunod na mga taon we've already gone through the adjustments sa ugali namin and I can say mas nagdeepen ang level of comfort namin sa isa't isa in a way na we can do away with the romantic antics we used to do during our first year - we did away with pretensions and continue to enjoy our love and friendship. Mas naging practical ang pananaw namin.

    Since you are considering marriage, here are the the Seven Stages of Marriage:
    1. Passion - When you and your spouse are in the initial heat of the marriage and everything is fresh and new
    2. Realization - The early passion of the marriage fades as the reality of day to day life sets in
    3. Rebellion - Individual interests begin to reassert themselves as you and your spouse begin to find other ways to entertain yourself to escape the ho-hum of the daily grind - this is a time period when infidelity most often happens
    4. Cooperation - Your partnership outpaces the romance of your relationship as you deal with your shared responsibilities from children to home to finances and more
    5. Reunion - This is the period of the marriage where the couple begins to recommit, they have matured, their love has matured and their issues with regard to material gain and paternal caring are dwindling
    6. Explosion - This is the time of intense changes in the married couples life as they deal with the death of parents, the changing of careers and the children leaving the nest and health problems may arise
    7. Completion - A final and full realization of their love

    Source: http://marriage.families.com/blog/what-are-the-7-stages-of-marriage
    Hindi ko ma decide if compatible kami o hindi. Hot temper sya madali magalit. Kunting bagay lang galit na. Someone warns me na mas worse pa kung mag menopause na dahil mas grabi pa ang pakahot temper. Totoo ba ito? This is what wil decide whether to marry her or not.

    Importante rin ang compatibility, dahil kahit na anumang effort ang ibigay mo to work things out kaso hindi naman willing magcompromise yung partner mo dahil sa personal beliefs/ugali nya, mahihirapan kayong mag-adjust to make your relationship harmonious. You will have a difficult time accepting the person. May kanya2x tayong mga ugali at pananaw. The question is - are you willing to accept her for who she is, lalo na in her worst? Totoo din yung sinasabi about the effects of menopause. May tendency na maging mas short-tempered due to hormonal imbalance.
    Maybe it's idealistic to expect a relationship na all smile palagi. Diba part nyan ang magaway and tampuhan? But how to tell what is no longer normal or enough is enough. Or rather. How do you know when it is time to let go and to break-up in a relationship? Ikaw. What's your turning point when you decide it is time to let go??

    Yes, idealistic masyado na "all-smiles" lang pagdating sa relasyon. In the end BOTH OF YOU will have to put extra efforts to making your relationship work. Mutual dapat ang benefit dito. If you feel na ngayon pa lang ikaw lang palagi ang nag-eeffort, you will be miserable for the rest of your married life.

    Para maliwanagan ka, check mo ito: http://www.groomgroove.com/the_engagement/is_she_the_one.php
    And ito (to see if you're compatible):
    http://www.groomgroove.com/the_engagement/are_you_sure_you_are_ready_to_get_married.php
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