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I'm planning on moving out.

anima9anima9 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
Here's something about me:

I recently graduated from college and I've been working since June 2010. My workplace is at Rosario, Pasig as a Production Scientist/R&D. I've been saving up a few from my humble salary and it just crossed my mind to ask myself "When will I move out?".

I've been with my family for the past 21 years of my life and I'm very happy. I'm from Cainta, Rizal but I consider myself a Pasigueno as well since Pasig is just outside the village's front gates (Greenwoods).

I've never been late to work (or school for that matter save for those days wherein I could be late and pass or be early and fail a subject) since my workplace is conveniently near and quite accessible.

As with all homes, everything I consume here is free in a sense that all I have to do is voluntarily give money to my parents even though they earn 7-9x my salary. I have it good here.

I was just wondering about your opinion on this: When is the right age to move out? Is it acceptable to us Filipinos to not have our children move out unless they get married?

In my case, with me saving roughly 5-6k per month, when do you think would I get the chance to move out? I plan on living nearby (or as close as possible) otherwise I may not even move out at all :lol:

Can you recommend a condo or apartment? I have no idea about how these things work so I need suggestions. Will Ortigas be optional or will that place be too expensive for me? >.<

From a clueless 21 year old :)
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  • Meanie!!Meanie!! PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ^ Mag-ipon ka muna bro. I know you have weighed the pros and cons, so ikaw mas nakakaalam.

    Pero sa savings na sinabi mo?Kulang pa yan, ipon ka muna :) Dapat may buffer ka laging pera na pambayad sa condo/apartment + utilities na atleast 6 months. imo
  • ground_breakground_break PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    I agree...

    Save up first... Lalo na at malapit ka lang naman sa workplace mo...

    Instead of opting to rent out, aim to buy your condo/house na lang...

    If you opt to rent out, baba ang savings mo!!!
  • Hi anima9,

    Im also from cainta, sa pasig din ako nagwowork... Share ko lang experience ko kasi feeling ko pareho tayo ng gusto. Ever since kasama ko family ko hanggang makagraduate ako ng college. Naisip ko na parang mas masarap yung feeling na mag-isa sa buhay so nagtry akong magrent.. Nung una masaya ako, pero habang tumatagal, namimiss ko yung family ko. Ako lang kasi mag-isa dun sa bahay although kumpleto naman sa gamit yung narentahan ko pero malungkot lang talaga. 3 months lang ako nagstay dun sa apartment kasi every weekend umuuwi din ako sa Cainta.. Parang naging tulugan ko lang talaga yung apartment. sa office din ako kumakain. uuwi lang ako pag matutulog na ko so nakakasawa din. Umuwi na lang din ako sa min kasi feeling ko nagsasayang lang ako ng pera pambayad sa bahay. Yun lang...

    Pag-isipan mong mabuti siguro gusto mo lang din itry yung buhay na mag-isa kaya mo naiisip yang bagay na yan.
  • funzenfunzen PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    @TS, 5-6K a month would not even get you a decent studio apartment. You might need to get a roommate. Also, utilities, groceries and emergency money, ndi kasya. I used to live at home for the first 25 years of my life. When my salary hit the 30K mark, dun lan ako nagsolo. Dyahe naman kung nagsolo ka nga, hihingi ka pa rin sa parents mo kse kinakapos ka.

    @lfp, I feel the same way you do from time to time but iba pa rin ang feeling na me sarili kang place. It will build your sense of independence. I also go back to my parent's place most weekends but I only stay for a few hours and most of the time I bring pasalubong. It's weird pero kapag inaabutan ako ng gabi sa kanila, I have this urge to go back to my own place. hehe.
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    @TS, magcompute ka muna kung kaya mo nang magsarili nang hindi titira sa barong-barong.

    Subali't may mga bagay sa buhay na matututunan mo lamang kung magsasarili ka.

    -Just_JT
    Independence.is.priceless.
  • BoktayfromEuropeBoktayfromEurope PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    I say go for it!

    The things that you will learn from living independently are priceless.

    You will learn to pay your own bills, you will try to budget your own money and you will be responsible for yourself.

    If you are a little intimidated by the idea, you can get a room mate who hopefully will be committed to share the rent for at least a year.

    In the Philippines, young men are not encouraged to stand on their own two feet.. so when they get married, they are overwhelmed with the responsibilities of living outside their parents' home.

    This should be a rite of passage for every young man in the Philippines-- to be able to live on their own. (Ganun din if you are a woman, it's an accomplishment to be independent before you get married). Maiiinggit sayo ang mga mama's boy na may asawa na, nakikitira pa rin sa mga magulang nila. *okay*
  • uptowngirluptowngirl PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Waaah. You're moving out? Pasensya na pinersonal. I'm wondering how I'd feel as a mom when my son moves out eventually. :(

    Anyway, the posters here are correct in saying that you should compute first. Because the money you can save while living with your parents can be substantial and be used for a rainy day.

    I am all for moving out so you can learn how to be independent chuva. :D But money is really a consideration.

    Also, if you decide to move out, you have to set your expectations as to ano bang klaseng apartment/condo/room ang kaya mong i-rent.
  • ts you need to consider a lot of things before moving out. are you really ready to be independent? living independently means you will take care of your own bills, do your own chores, cook for you, take care of yourself when youre sick...things like that. if your answer is yes, then go for it. pero bata ka pa. enjoy mo muna yung family mo, then save save save a lot of money. i guess most of the yuppies your age dream of having their own car first than thinking of moving out.
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Mga bagay-bagay na matututunan mo lamang kung magsasarili ka:
    • Ang tunay na pagba-budget ng sarili mong salapi - Wala na ang mga magulang mo para i-subsidise ang lifestyle mo. Iba iyong sarili mong budget lahat at iba iyong umaambag ka lamang sa gastusin sa tahanan ng magulang mo. Hindi ako palo sa katuwirang mas makakaipon ka kapag nakatira ka pa sa magulang mo. Maraming mga taong WALA NAMANG NAIIPON maski nakatira sa magulang dahil WALDAS PA RIN NAMAN ANG LIFESTYLE;
    • Magkumpuni - Lalo na kung nakatira ka sa ibang bansa kung saan mahal ang singil ng blue collar labour - kapag may malilinggit na sira-sira sa tahanan mo ikaw mismo ang mag-aayos.
    • Magplano sa kakainin mo sa araw-araw at magluto -hindi ka tatagal sa puro kain sa labas at "to-go/takeaway/takeout" na pagkain dahil malalaspag ang kinikita mo. At mas healthy ang lutong bahay.
    • Magdecision sa buhay mo sa araw-araw nang hindi nakikialam ang magulang mo - Tiyak na marami kang pagkakamali subal't doon sa tayo sa mga pagkakamali natututo. Kapag nakatira ka sa magulang mo malamang sila ang gumagawa ng mga decision para sa sarili mo.
    Simple lang: compute mo magkano ang kita mo. Compute mo magkano ang gastos kung magsasarili ka na. Kung makakamit mo pa rin ang 10-20% savings - MAG-ALSA BALUTAN KA NA!

    Sa mga magulang na pinipigilan ang mga binata't-dalaga nila na magsarili - KUNG TUNAY NA MAHAL NINYO ANG INYONG MGA ANAK HINDI NINYO SILA PIPIGILAN DAHIL KASAMA SA SELF-GROWTH NG ISANG TAO ANG PAGIGING INDEPENDENT.

    -Just_JT
    Iba.ang.life.experience.ng.nagsasarili.
  • I agree with JUST JT

    Go for it.. Explain to your family that you want to explore another world.

    At your age, marami na akong narating na lugar and nag-board din ako. naging working student din ako sa gabi. At age of 24, I am already supporting my own family. Now, wherever I go, I can manage and support myself.

    Di naman masama ang objective mo, in fact marami kang matututunan sa buhay plus you will understand more you parents, kung gaano kahirap kumita ng pera, magbudget, maglaundry/cook, etc.. if you succeed then I am sure you will become a better and stronger person.

    Anyway, pag di mo kinaya I am sure your family will be there naman or stay with you family during weekend. Mahirap talaga mag-isa, malaking adjustment , mahirap pero kaya and wag kang mahiya na humingin ng advice sa kanila... I have fellow OFW na nasa kanila pa rin ang mga anak nila kahit pamilyado na, although OK lang sa kanya pero from time to time ay nago-open sila na they regret provdiding evrything to their kids kasi nawalan na ng drive para magsikap..

    I have 2 kids in college, when they graduate, if they want to have their own life then so be it, yun ang agreement namin, focus on your study first then pag tapos kana you are free...you can say goodbye to me anytime and live your life. As a father, I have my own life also, I want to enjoy my life (of course with my wife) pag makatapos na mga anak ko.

    Do your math & go have your own life..tapos kana give your parents a well deserved break..
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    May dalawa akong binata na nakatira pa rin sa akin. Iyong panganay ko simula ng umabot siya ng 25 taong gulang, SINISINGIL KO NA SIYA NG RENTA maski 'di ko kailangan ang perang renta na binibigay niya sa ina niya.

    Dapat matutunan ng mga tao na WALANG LIBRE at TY sa mundo.

    -Just_JT
    Hindi.ko.pinapalayas.ang.mga.anak.ko.pero.di.ko.sila.pipigilan.magsarili.
  • aajaoaajao Moderator PEx Moderator
    anima9, dude. i think every son or daughter thought of the same thing when they reach a certain age and got tired of the everyday "routine" at home (living with their parents). but let me give you a different perspective. being under the roof with your parents automatically "secures" you. you need not worry about everything--- utility bills (you may contribute but you need not to be responsible for EVERYTHING), security, loneliness in the absence of a company, monthly house rental (this one will drive you nuts when you realize the savings you may have had if you stayed on a FREE house), someone to look after you when you are sick and unable to work...). well, independence is good. but you will get a whole lot of it when you start your own family. not only you'll get the freedom you long for, you also get to decide on everything. as the new head of the family, you will miss having someone "guiding" you and being less stressed out because you need not decide on everything about domestic issues. but then again, it's the proper time for you to move out and stand on your own. for the meantime, cherish the moments with your parents while it lasts. ;)
  • magpa-permanent/regular ka muna sa work bago ka umalis. kung TEMP ka pa lang,delikado yan.saka bakit condo naman agad? pwede ka namang magsarili kahit bedspacer lang sa isang bahay sa may Jenny's o kahit dun sa Floodway.:lol:
  • right now would be as good a time as any to move out - you're young - you're employed - and above of all - you have your haven as safety net - which means there's room for error

    you do the right things and you learn early about independence and responsibility - these things are priceless - you do the wrong things and you can either redeem yourself or come back home
  • anima9anima9 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Wow. Thanks for your replies. I'm definitely saving up. I've experienced how to be independent for about 3 months since my work relocated me to Laguna before to supervise their newly functioning plant.

    I rented my own apartment for 3500/month (studio type) and I pretty much lived independently with only going home 2-3x a month. I ended up losing 35 lbs due to exercise and vegetarianism plus the stress of supervising for 12 hours a day. I think I did okay but I also know I'm still not ready for the real thing.

    So I guess it's not a question of how much money I would have in my bank after X years but rather the money I can earn monthly or annually.

    Thanks for your replies and I thank you for being sincere about it. This section of Pex is a far cry to BP when it comes to seriousness and sincerity.

    Again, thank you. If I think I have the financial capabilities, and the guts, to move out then I'll post about it again. :)
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    @TS, mainam habang MALAKAS pa ang mga MAGULANG mo MAGSARILI KA NA. Dahil kapag nakikitira ka pa rin sa kanila at MAHINA NA SILA ... TAPOS NA ANG BUHAY MO DAHIL OBLIGADO KA NANG ALAGAAN SILA... :bounce: :grinroll: :rotfl:

    -Just_JT
    Independence.is.priceless. :bungi:
  • hooneyhooney PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    hinahangaan ko ang pananaw mo sa buhay, hindi lahat ng tao dito sa pilipinas ay ganyan, yung hindi na umaasa kay nanay at tatay, pero ipon ka muna, para sooner or later maka move out ka na comfortably, mahirap naman kase yung aalis ka sa kanila tapos pag nagipit ka ng todo sa kanila ka rin hihingi
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Euronymous wrote: »
    Gusto mong tumira ng mag-isa na walang kasama? Normal ka ba TS? May GF ka ba?

    Bakit mo nasabing ABNORMAL ang nakatira nang mag-isa? Hindi mahalaga sa iyo ang PRIVACY ng buhay mo? :glee:

    -Just_JT
    Daming.Pinoy.mang-mang.sa.privacy. :bungi:
  • anima9anima9 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    I'm not one to entertain such questions since Euronymous obviously misunderstood my statement.

    I just want to live my own life for the first time. I don't know when that will be but I'm hoping to do that before I reach 25. And yes, I don't have a girlfriend and I probably die single too. Seriously.
  • Euronymous wrote: »
    Gusto mong tumira ng mag-isa na walang kasama? Normal ka ba TS? May GF ka ba?

    Wala yata akong nakikitang masama dun:rolleyes:

    Ang di normal ay patuloy na sumiksik at umasa sa magulang kahit kaya mo namang buhayin ang sarili mo.
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