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Paano ba yung unconditional love?

without losing yourself.

Pwede na rin siguro sabihing unrequited love? Kasi may bf ako, feeling ko he is not
that into me. Ina-assure naman niya ako na mahal niya ako, pero second time na ito
sa loob ng 8 months namin na nanghingi siya ng space. Pero sabi niya sa akin hindi daw
siya nagsasawa sa akin (ang labo!) Isa pa, ang iksi ng fuse niya.

In passing nabanggit niya sa akin may ADHD siya.
Kaya minsan di siya maka focus sa akin, tapos he seems occupied.

Nagkataon pa na ako laging available dahil online ang work ko. Siya naman lagi rin
nasa bahay dahil nagclose siya ng business at pinapa asikaso ng parents niya yung titles
ng lands nila sa province, taga pirma ganun.

One or two months into our relationship, nagtry ako makipaghiwalay sa kanya. Pero sobrang
nagiiyak siya, he begged hanggang nagalit at magpapakamatay na lang daw siya. Sabi ko
nga noon, GO! Pero naawa rin ako at bumalik.

After namin magkabalikan sabi ko nga magpatingin siya sa psychiatrist, pero hanggang ngayon di
pa niya ginagawa.

Bottomline, feeling ko ako lang nagmamahal. Andaming maliliit na bagay na nakakapagparamdam
sa akin nito. We started as MU at napagusapan nga namin ang hirap makipaghiwalay kapag wala
nang love, kaya start pa lang ng relationship namin sinabi ko na sa kanya,
kung gusto niya umalis, sabihin lang niya, di ako magda-drama.
May codeword kami. Sabihin lang niya iyon, malaya na siya.

LDR nga pala kami, kasi may inaaasikaso nga siya roon. Five years din age gap namin;
siya 25 ako naman 30.

Gusto ko na lang mahalin siya na walang hinihingin kapalit, possible ba yun without losing myself?

Ang sakit lang when he tells me he loves me, or he misses me, pero parang words lang siya sa akin without meaning. :depressed:
Nararamdaman ko naman happy siya kapag napapakita ko talagang love ko siya,
parang hindi lang talaga siya makareciprocate.

Since kailangan nga niya ng space, hindi ko siya mine-message.
Inaantay ko siya unang makipag-usap. Short sweet replies lang ako sa kanya.
Iniisip ko baka ganito na lang dapat, para hindi siya hingi ng hingi ng space.
Sayang naman pagmamahal ko kung itatago ko lang.
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  • purpleheadd07purpleheadd07 Babae po ako ✭✭
    hi, i just read this blog post a while ago, you might want to read it:

    It got me thinking… reminding myself that I should never sell myself short because there are things that I deserve… things that ALL girls deserve. So I came up with my list which exists on the premise that all girls deserve love.

    When I grow up – when I’m done with my pigtails and uncompromising belief in Santa Claus and the triumph of good over evil – I want a man who sees me for who I am: My dreams, virtues, distinctions, secrets, strengths and weaknesses. My style.


    Girls Deserve Love.

    hope it could help you think somehow. :)
  • kleenexlambotkleenexlambot Love YourSelf ✭✭✭
    sorry Ts, pero parang walang relationship based sa kuwento mo.
  • ernel2228ernel2228 Member PExer
    unconditional love is loving someone without expecting anything in return..para sa kin yang kahulugan na yan ah
  • MARVIN_101MARVIN_101 Member PExer
    ernel2228 wrote: »
    unconditional love is loving someone without expecting anything in return..para sa kin yang kahulugan na yan ah

    Masakit man pero yang ang totoong meaning ng unconditional love.
  • rickymrickym Member ✭✭
    if you follow unconditional love, their would me no condition, even a commitment is a condition.
  • ilovethe_beatilovethe_beat im looking4u PExer
    your boyfriend is undergoing a process. mga insecurities, mga unresolved issues. unconditional love should be distinguished from foolish love. if you unconditionally love him, do things that will make him demand from himself more so he can make something out of himself. he is taking you for granted maybe because he is not yet ready to commit. quoting from "girls deserve love" never sell yourself short, mahirap talagang makipagbreak sa umpisa pero you deserve more than what youre getting from your current situation.
  • RuslanaFuchsRuslanaFuchs Member PExer
    salamat po sa lahat ng sumagot.
  • EifersuchtEifersucht Member PExer
    Unconditional love? No such thing.

    Man is a pleasure seeking creature. Everything that you do is all for yourself.
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer soundscapes ✭✭✭
    you have to be completely stupid first before you can give such kind of love. :hiya:
  • VesanVesan Member PExer
    Unconditional love can only exist between parent and child.
  • badJayebadJaye sitting.. wishing.. waiting ✭✭✭
    Panoorin mo yung Forrest Gump... the best example of one guy's unconditional love for a girl!!!


    Run Forrest... RUN!!!! :D
  • xtnalogyxtnalogy Member PExer
    Eifersucht wrote: »
    Unconditional love? No such thing.

    Man is a pleasure seeking creature. Everything that you do is all for yourself.


    I completely agree. There's no such thing.

    Dadating ang araw, mapapagod ka rin kung puro na lang ikaw, magtatanong kung bakit ganon, maaawa sa sarili at iisipin mo na bakit hindi nya kayang gawin ang mga bagay na ginagawa mo.

    Tsaka di ako naniniwala sa space-space na yan. Kung committed, committed. Kung hiwalay, hiwalay. Walang cool off, walang space.
  • kawiikidkawiikid Banned by Admin PExer
    Vesan wrote: »
    Unconditional love can only exist between parent and child.
    naunahan mo ako:lol:

    yeah, it seems like unconditional love is only good in theory. in reality though, it's not emotionally and psychologically healthy. it will drain you off. heck even moms need a time off from her shrieking kids.
  • God can only give unconditional love totally.

    TS,

    If you love the guy encouraged him to go to a specialist. his condition might be the cause of his issues, insecurities. Encourage him. Pilitin mo

    Kung ayaw nya and makes ton of excuses iwan mo. It's obvious that he doesnt want to help himself.
  • again, ty sa lahat ng nag-reply. pinakita ko sa kanya tong thread (napilitan ako kasi nakita niya may bago akong email lolz) at mabuti naman ang nangyari. naintindihan naman niya ako at super tinatry niyang magmahaba ng pasensya at isecure mga insecurities ko.
  • iamsuperbashiamsuperbash MedTech Student po. PExer
    Nasa sayo yun kung pano mo ihandle yung situation.. Losing yourself along the process.. Hindi siya maiiwasan.. Lakasan mo lang lagi loob mo.. I think right now.. Nasabi mo na may problem siya sa sarili niya.. Ngayon yung panahon na mas kailangan niya ang katulad mo. *okay*
  • lancealmekianlancealmekian ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ PExer
    without losing yourself.

    Pwede na rin siguro sabihing unrequited love? Kasi may bf ako, feeling ko he is not
    that into me. Ina-assure naman niya ako na mahal niya ako, pero second time na ito
    sa loob ng 8 months namin na nanghingi siya ng space. Pero sabi niya sa akin hindi daw
    siya nagsasawa sa akin (ang labo!) Isa pa, ang iksi ng fuse niya.

    In passing nabanggit niya sa akin may ADHD siya.
    Kaya minsan di siya maka focus sa akin, tapos he seems occupied.

    Nagkataon pa na ako laging available dahil online ang work ko. Siya naman lagi rin
    nasa bahay dahil nagclose siya ng business at pinapa asikaso ng parents niya yung titles
    ng lands nila sa province, taga pirma ganun.

    One or two months into our relationship, nagtry ako makipaghiwalay sa kanya. Pero sobrang
    nagiiyak siya, he begged hanggang nagalit at magpapakamatay na lang daw siya. Sabi ko
    nga noon, GO! Pero naawa rin ako at bumalik.

    After namin magkabalikan sabi ko nga magpatingin siya sa psychiatrist, pero hanggang ngayon di
    pa niya ginagawa.

    Bottomline, feeling ko ako lang nagmamahal. Andaming maliliit na bagay na nakakapagparamdam
    sa akin nito. We started as MU at napagusapan nga namin ang hirap makipaghiwalay kapag wala
    nang love, kaya start pa lang ng relationship namin sinabi ko na sa kanya,
    kung gusto niya umalis, sabihin lang niya, di ako magda-drama.
    May codeword kami. Sabihin lang niya iyon, malaya na siya.

    LDR nga pala kami, kasi may inaaasikaso nga siya roon. Five years din age gap namin;
    siya 25 ako naman 30.

    Gusto ko na lang mahalin siya na walang hinihingin kapalit, possible ba yun without losing myself?

    Ang sakit lang when he tells me he loves me, or he misses me, pero parang words lang siya sa akin without meaning. :depressed:
    Nararamdaman ko naman happy siya kapag napapakita ko talagang love ko siya,
    parang hindi lang talaga siya makareciprocate.

    Since kailangan nga niya ng space, hindi ko siya mine-message.
    Inaantay ko siya unang makipag-usap. Short sweet replies lang ako sa kanya.
    Iniisip ko baka ganito na lang dapat, para hindi siya hingi ng hingi ng space.
    Sayang naman pagmamahal ko kung itatago ko lang.

    dump him. he sees you as having low value somehow (maybe a personal issue he has. i can't pinpoint unless i talk to him. i have no intention of doing that though). he's wasting your time. there are a lot of other men out there who deserve you.
  • sHaneL_o83sHaneL_o83 next door hottie PExer
    you have to be completely stupid first before you can give such kind of love. :hiya:

    AMEN to that. :lol:
  • infinite_trialinfinite_trial ♥ Drayer PExer
    had a similar dilemma a year ago, pero ex ko naman mas mukhang may ADD than ADHD.

    parang ganyan din siya, puro salita but you can't feel the sincerity. when you mentioned "without losing yourself" i think i understand what you mean by "unconditional love." siguro gusto mo pakita na mahalin mo siya despite his condition pero gusto mo din naman magtira para sa sarili mo. but your boyfriend displayed suicidal tendencies and the relationship looks very co-dependent. alam mo ba ang mga may borderline personality minsan preferred nila yung long distance relationship. kasi madali silang masakal, in turn naman ikaw itong nacocontrol through his manipulation.

    so how do you love unconditionally? you can't. tulad sabi ng iba dito, it only exists in a parent-child relationship. you enter a romantic relationship to get love in return. kahit pa katiting na love yan, mag-eexpect at mag-eexpect ka pa rin.

    but, if you see that you are losing yourself while in a relationship, then get out of it. sabi nga ni alanis, 1 and 1 make 2...you can't fix somebody who cannot help himself.
  • ^oo nga, tama ka. madali nga siyang masakal.
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