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sammygirlo9sammygirlo9 BUTTERFLY FLY AWAY PExer
My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. I'm 19 and he's 20. He WAS a playboy even before I met him, but he changed just for me, I know. We had a lot of arguments and a lot of cool-offs because of third parties on his side. Pero that was way back when we were new palang.

My dilemma is this.. He's been acting so weird lately. It started two weeks ago, di ko naman pinapansin coz I thought mood swing lang. Then it got worse after, he always ignores me when I see him at school. Plus, he hang outs more often with other girls from different school. One chick caught my attention, it was his EX. I just ignored it, pero when a friend of mine told me na nakita nya si boyfie with THAT girl na parang on a date(just the two of them), I was alarmed na. Is he cheating on me? When I asked him, I was very calm, he told me to ignore it nalang coz it was nothing daw. and he even said "Just trust me!" I didn't know what to say, so bigla ko nalang sinabi "Do you want to break up? and this time, for good?" He said "NO! Never!"

Honestly speaking, I'm not quite sure if I can trust him pa. He has a record na kasi. But despite it all, I still love him pa rin. Pero it's too much na, I don't like the idea of being a martyr.

Can anyone please enlighten me about this?

Thank you!

P.S
I know I'm still young and should enjoy my life rather than stressing myself out because of it. (KEEP IT ASIDE!)
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  • ben_david19ben_david19 Tsikoteer primarily PExer
    i don't know his true motive but these are my assessments;

    1. sinusubukan niya kung selosa ka (a test to judge kung mabilis kang maging paranoid basta may kinausap lang siyang babae, I think you pass this one (exemplary ika nga))

    2. he just wants to show you na ganun siya kalakas sa chicks meaning kung hindi mo siya papansinin or aawayin mo siya, mabilis ka lang niyang mapalitan (well sorry pero parang ganun ang tingin ko)

    3. there is a catch.. meaning may nagawa ka ba sa bf mo (may kinausap ka ba na ex mo or naging close sa ibang guy) tapos ginagantihan ka in this matter of way?

    hopefully nakatulong ako in a guy's perspective (or in a slight chickboy perspective).*okay*
  • ben_david19ben_david19 Tsikoteer primarily PExer
    sa dapat mong gawin ngayon..

    IMO since alam mo na namang chickboy siya, kung ako sa iyo better look for someone else who deserves you the most. come on, 19 ka palang naman pala. alam mo habang patagal ng patagal lalong mas magiging mahirap ang situation mo. when you age and by that time mas serious ka na sa relationship, ayun si lalake playboy pa rin, kakayanin mo ba yun?
  • sammygirlo9sammygirlo9 BUTTERFLY FLY AWAY PExer
    i don't know his true motive but these are my assessments;

    1. sinusubukan niya kung selosa ka (a test to judge kung mabilis kang maging paranoid basta may kinausap lang siyang babae, I think you pass this one (exemplary ika nga))

    2. he just wants to show you na ganun siya kalakas sa chicks meaning kung hindi mo siya papansinin or aawayin mo siya, mabilis ka lang niyang mapalitan (well sorry pero parang ganun ang tingin ko)

    3. there is a catch.. meaning may nagawa ka ba sa bf mo (may kinausap ka ba na ex mo or naging close sa ibang guy) tapos ginagantihan ka in this matter of way?

    hopefully nakatulong ako in a guy's perspective (or in a slight chickboy perspective).*okay*

    1) He has a record na kasi, that's why.
    2) He showed enough.
    3) I have a lot of guy friends, I was once "one of the boys" ika nga. And of course, I am friends with my ex. And besides, he knows most of them naman eh.
  • infinite_trialinfinite_trial ♥ Drayer PExer
    Honestly speaking, I'm not quite sure if I can trust him pa. He has a record na kasi. But despite it all, I still love him pa rin. Pero it's too much na, I don't like the idea of being a martyr.

    there's your answer, dear
  • ben_david19ben_david19 Tsikoteer primarily PExer
    1) He has a record na kasi, that's why.
    2) He showed enough.
    3) I have a lot of guy friends, I was once "one of the boys" ika nga. And of course, I am friends with my ex. And besides, he knows most of them naman eh.

    have you 2 been in an argument lately? nagkatampuhan?

    basta ang payo ko, a chickboy will always be a chickboy. some change but most of them don't.
  • cheskellycheskelly Affiliate PExer
    My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. I'm 19 and he's 20. He WAS a playboy even before I met him, but he changed just for me, I know. We had a lot of arguments and a lot of cool-offs because of third parties on his side. Pero that was way back when we were new palang.

    My dilemma is this.. He's been acting so weird lately. It started two weeks ago, di ko naman pinapansin coz I thought mood swing lang. Then it got worse after, he always ignores me when I see him at school. Plus, he hang outs more often with other girls from different school. One chick caught my attention, it was his EX. I just ignored it, pero when a friend of mine told me na nakita nya si boyfie with THAT girl na parang on a date(just the two of them), I was alarmed na. Is he cheating on me? When I asked him, I was very calm, he told me to ignore it nalang coz it was nothing daw. and he even said "Just trust me!" I didn't know what to say, so bigla ko nalang sinabi "Do you want to break up? and this time, for good?" He said "NO! Never!"

    Honestly speaking, I'm not quite sure if I can trust him pa. He has a record na kasi. But despite it all, I still love him pa rin. Pero it's too much na, I don't like the idea of being a martyr.

    Can anyone please enlighten me about this?

    Thank you!

    P.S
    I know I'm still young and should enjoy my life rather than stressing myself out because of it. (KEEP IT ASIDE!)



    _____

    Parang same tayo ng situation with my boyfriend before. Yun nga lang sayo may nakakita talagang magkasama sila ng ex niya..

    Short kwento muna:
    Boyfriend ko rin ganyan. May record na siya before and super lapit niya sa girls. May point pa nga dati na nakakalandi siya ng mga "hirit" pero di ko pinapansin. Kasi love ko siya.

    Anyway, we broke up for a year and last april naging kami ulit up till now. Sobrang sweet niya and all. I didn't doubt him. Yun nga lang nagstart yun sa text nung isa nanamang babae. I asked him who's the girl, wala lang daw. Nainis ako, not only because may katext siyang babae, but the content of the messages kasi obvious landian.

    I forgave him. 3 months na kami nun.

    Ang masakit nung nalaman ko na naguusap pa pala sila ng ex niya dun sa 3 months na kami na (na pinagkatiwalaan ko siya) and parang tinago niya sakin all the while na akala ko okay na and loyal siya.

    Sa case mo, I honestly think na he's cheating on you. Why? Kasi in the first place, alam mong committed ka but still sumasama ka sa "chicks" and worst, yung ex-girlfriend.

    Alam ko parang magpapakatanga ka talaga kasi mahal mo, pero kung sa ibang tao manggagaling talaga makikita mong MALI yun.

    Isa pa, hindi mo alam. Bakit niya itatago or hindi sasabihin kung "WALA LANG YUN?"

    Why is being cold? OBVIOUS NAMAN.

    And lastly, yung sinasabi niyang "NO! NEVER!" shampre he doesn't want na mawala ka kasi alam niya naman na love mo siya and hindi mo siya iiwan.

    Sakin lang, iwan mo na siya.

    If you love him but can't trust him, mahirap yan. Ikaw rin mag-susuffer. Trust me. :)

    I hope I helped you out kahit konti. Super init lang ako sa mga ganyang issues kasi. Haha!

    Good day!
  • cheskellycheskelly Affiliate PExer
    have you 2 been in an argument lately? nagkatampuhan?

    basta ang payo ko, a chickboy will always be a chickboy. some change but most of them don't.
    I totally agree. Chickboys will always be chickboys :)
  • youknowhatidoyouknowhatido You Know What I Do! PExer
    TRUST is the key factor to have a successful relationship.

    *okay*
  • ang mas maganda pakilala mo si boyfie sa girl mong bestfriend instead na getting close with his ex...and you know what? you are still young... a lot to see in the future...
  • sHaneL_o83sHaneL_o83 next door hottie PExer
    My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. I'm 19 and he's 20. He WAS a playboy even before I met him, but he changed just for me, I know. We had a lot of arguments and a lot of cool-offs because of third parties on his side. Pero that was way back when we were new palang.

    My dilemma is this.. He's been acting so weird lately. It started two weeks ago, di ko naman pinapansin coz I thought mood swing lang. Then it got worse after, he always ignores me when I see him at school. Plus, he hang outs more often with other girls from different school. One chick caught my attention, it was his EX. I just ignored it, pero when a friend of mine told me na nakita nya si boyfie with THAT girl na parang on a date(just the two of them), I was alarmed na. Is he cheating on me? When I asked him, I was very calm, he told me to ignore it nalang coz it was nothing daw. and he even said "Just trust me!" I didn't know what to say, so bigla ko nalang sinabi "Do you want to break up? and this time, for good?" He said "NO! Never!"

    Honestly speaking, I'm not quite sure if I can trust him pa. He has a record na kasi. But despite it all, I still love him pa rin. Pero it's too much na, I don't like the idea of being a martyr.

    Can anyone please enlighten me about this?

    Thank you!

    P.S
    I know I'm still young and should enjoy my life rather than stressing myself out because of it. (KEEP IT ASIDE!)

    I don't know how you do it. He ignores you at school? Sakit sa ego nun ah. :lol: That should be a fighting match, for me anyway. And he flirts with all these girls because he CAN, because you just ignore his advances towards other girls.

    He is cheating on you, it's pretty obvious. Minsan kasi we're too close that we can't see properly; some things are better seen from afar.
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer soundscapes ✭✭✭
    you've already answered your own question. leave him for good.
  • ang dami naman iba dyan eh, bakit ka nagsasayang ng panahon sa walang kwenta mong boyfriend?

    he cheated on you before, hindi malabong mangyari ulit yun. If I were you, iiwanan ko na sya. hindi mo sya mahal, maniwala ka sa akin.
  • quatrefoilquatrefoil Member PExer
    Darling TS, yes. My bet is that he is cheating on you - and he will try to justify himself in all different angles that he is not.

    And he ignores you when he sees you? Reflecting on Miss Shanel's post - he flirts with all those girls because he CAN. ----Flirt with all those boys, too. Because you CAN. (Meant as a compliment, by the way.)

    Go have fun, I'm sure you're pretty hot, after all a playboy set his eyes on you. But, if you wanna stay with him for the experience... Sige lang. :)

    To each his/her own.
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer soundscapes ✭✭✭
    by keeping him you're just wrongly bloating his ego.

    anyway, it's still your call.
  • sammygirlo9sammygirlo9 BUTTERFLY FLY AWAY PExer
    Paano ko malalaman, like masiguro na he's really cheating on me for the nth time? Otherwise, I might regret jumping to a conclusion without facts or enough evidence. Sure he has a record, pero you never can tell if whether or not history is repeating itself.

    In the past, I never caught him in the act, through friends lang. Afterwards, I would confront him, and he would admit it. I told myself before, that if he does it again, oh I swear to the dear lord of romances..
  • cheskellycheskelly Affiliate PExer
    Paano ko malalaman, like masiguro na he's really cheating on me for the nth time? Otherwise, I might regret jumping to a conclusion without facts or enough evidence. Sure he has a record, pero you never can tell if whether or not history is repeating itself.

    In the past, I never caught him in the act, through friends lang. Afterwards, I would confront him, and he would admit it. I told myself before, that if he does it again, oh I swear to the dear lord of romances..

    So meaning confronting him wouldn't make him admit his (if ever) hidden agenda now.

    Anyway.. That's going to be hard if you want facts and evidences dear.

    Well, you should I guess, outsmart him. Go browse his cellphone (of course without him knowing) for text messages, calls etc. In short, check out his logs. That was how I caught my boyfriend.

    Another one is his accounts (facebook and emails).

    The hardest one is to catch him in the act, 'cos ofcourse, magtatago yan kung saan hindi mo siya makikita. He ain't that stupid if he already has a record. Mas gagalingan na niya magtago.

    BUT I'M TELLING YOU, YOU DON'T NEED FACTS.
    Based from your story, he's truly cheating on you. You don't need to catch him red handed.

    Ikaw rin kasi masasaktan if ever you catch him pa. Hindi rin maganda na hulihin siya. So go on, break up with him.. NOW :)

    OR tell him frankly that you don't like what's happening with your relationship. Tell him that his "weird acts" is bothering.. If cares for you and loves you, he'll try to change.. BUT if he doesn't make a move, then I guess there's no point in being in a relationship with this guy.
  • cheskellycheskelly Affiliate PExer
    sHaneL_o83 wrote: »
    I don't know how you do it. He ignores you at school? Sakit sa ego nun ah. :lol: That should be a fighting match, for me anyway. And he flirts with all these girls because he CAN, because you just ignore his advances towards other girls.

    He is cheating on you, it's pretty obvious. Minsan kasi we're too close that we can't see properly; some things are better seen from afar.

    I totally agree! *okay*
  • mihyuljangmihyuljang same Q PExer
    bakit ganyan ang kayong mga babae.

    gusto talagang pahirapan ang mga sarili nyo. in men's point of view (since i am), we dont change just because you want us to. ang hirap kasi sa inyo, humahanap kayo ng mga lalaking may pagkabad boy kasi you are thinking na mababago nyo sya kasi he loves you. that's a crap. a man will change if he changes himself.

    now TS. alam mo na palang may track record na sya, e bakit nagpatanga ka at umasang magbabago sya para sa iyo. remember men are egoist, hindi kami emotional. kung ano ang makapagpapalakas ng ego namin, malamang andun kami.

    now you want to be enlightened? di ka naman ata bobo TS diba? alam mo na ang sagot sa mga tanong mo.

    kung contented ka na sa iyong situation kasi mahal mo sya at ikaw naman ay di na masaya. it's your call, stick with him pero you can only blame yourself for the situation you are in now.

    di ka naman ata pangit. why make yourself ugly by sticking sa bf mo.
  • Ice BurnIce Burn Conflicting Karma ✭✭
    Lets see if the TS will listen. She's still "blinded" by her "love" for this guy which is why she is looking for excuses for his behavior towards her.

    When you just started dating, may 3rd parties na. Tapos ngayon di ka pinapansin at he openly flirts with other girls?

    You know deep down what the hell your **** bf is doing. If want to keep putting up with all that crap I suggest you stop complaining about it.
  • sHaneL_o83sHaneL_o83 next door hottie PExer
    Women are idiots as well cos once we change the boys - we leave them for some insane reason. :lol:

    TS, stop reasoning na kesyo you need evidence. WTF? He's treating you like shit, he's seen with other girls, you know he cavorts with other girls and you're still looking for evidence. Sheeesh. You know what to do, you're just looking for someone be on your side. I'd love to be but you're bf is a real jerk & you, missy, are a martyr.
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