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You've found the one but you are not yet ready to settle down. What would you do if you are in this situation?

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  • do the right thing - not to rush into decisions.
  • PinaColada16PinaColada16 PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Don't settle down just yet! :)



    We think we have it all figured out in our early 20's, but the older we get and the more we learn, the more we realize that we certainly don't have it figured out. :glee: Hopefully, when that point comes, you're not indentured to a relationship or a situation that you no longer like, and from which you cannot easily extract yourself. :rotfl:



    Sooo don't be so desperate to ground yourself so quickly. *okay* Start saving your money, go try new things, see the world, meet as many people as you can and gain as much experience with the world as you can. :D Ala Edward Cullen dapat ang drama. Hahah! :lol:



    Then, once you've reached the tail end of your 20's and you've experienced quite a bit, then take stock of where you are and let the opportunity for a lifelong relationship come to you from there.



    Ultimately, if you do decide to marry then, you'll likely find the relationship and the prospects of raising a family far more in line with who you are, and far more rewarding -- this time, without inhibitions. *okay* When you guys are really super ready, your age(s) or how long you have been together will not matter.
  • fallenservicemenfallenservicemen Member PEx Guru 🎖️🎖️
    tama, wag pakasal agad nang dahil sa naano lang si girl!
  • BearHug_1BearHug_1 PEx Rookie ⭐
    why the rush? enjoy and be happy
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    tsambahan ang love minsan..

    kung talagang naka-tsamba ka dito she'll be willing to wait until both of you are ready to settle down. kung hindi, sorry na lang.
  • fallenservicemenfallenservicemen Member PEx Guru 🎖️🎖️
    ^I like this!
  • don't attempt to. mahirap pumasok sa sitwasyon na di naman dapat. in the end magkakasakitan lang.
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ^I like this!

    yeah..


    tsamba ni ts if that girl will be willing to wait.

    tsamba naman ni girl if ts would succumb to pressure.

    pero tsamba nilang pareho (as a couple/unit) if only they could reach a compromise. like getting married not too soon.. but not too late.

    medyo may glitch nga lang doon sa second kahit pa tsamba yan. defined kasi na may nag 'bigay' eh. mamaya maisumbat pa yan ni ts sa kalagitnaan ng kasal.

    magiging okay lang yan second kung hindi mag iinarte si girl. yun bang alam niyang siya ang nag madali magpakasal (kahit pa aware siyang di pa fully ready si ts). siya naman ngayon ang mag adjust.

    baka mamaya mag ganito siya:

    bahay pa lang ang sa atin.. pero wala pa tayo kotse, kailan ba tayo honey makakabili?

    :hiya:
  • anilovanilov PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    parang love story ko lang ang linya na yan ah.. We have the right love at the wrong time...barry manilow. LOL.


    TS, I AM in this situation so hindi ka nag-iisa. lol. As for me, I am willing to wait, I've been waiting for 2 years now. We are in a very complicated situation, LDR is one, nasa point din ako minsan na feeling ko nasasakal na ako cause he's very strict and yeah the seloso type. we've been through the worst times too, but i guess if you two are willing to compromise and make things work despite the odds, you will survive.

    For the meantime that you can't get married yet, make the most of your time being single. lol. Enjoy life, learn new things, try to become a better person for her and for your self too. love her more, be patient, prove to her that in God's perfect time, all your sacrifices will be worth it. *okay*
  • if its the right love...then it would come at the right time. yun lang.
  • Right love at the wrong time! i agree, nasayang lang ang pagkakataon.
  • baklitabaklita PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    ildiavolo wrote: »
    You've found the one but you are not yet ready to settle down. What would you do if you are in this situation?


    anong hindi pa ready mag-settle down? buntis pa siya
    sa iba at ikaw naman ay may kalaguyo pa?

    diyan nag-umpisa si erap, noh!

    aihihihi!!! :lol:

    baklits


  • blue_tracerblue_tracer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    tsambahan na lang yan siguro.. relative pa.

    for example.. isa kang career woman, gusto mo mag fully concentrate diyan.. say, nag preset ka ng years sa age mo (22 to 28) sinadya mong hindi magkaroon ng any romantic involvement sa kahit sino. hanggang 'simple' dates ka lang, acquaintance, go to parties occassionally, etc.

    natural tuwing may pausbong na romance, malamang repel lang ito lagi ng system mo.

    [highlight]fast forward[/highlight].. nasa age 29-30 ka na. finally, stable na career mo ready ka na for romance/relationship..

    kung sino ang taong dumating na swak sa spec's mo (say, 80%) at that time.. at malakas ang spark/chemistry ninyo dalawa.. nag propose kaagad ng wedding just after a year.. eh di by default, once you choose him yun na yung right one ayun sa given situation, kasama na timing.

    you got married.. nagbunga ng bright/healthy 2 kids, sustainable/stable/healthy married life.. etc. etc. happy ending din.

    [highlight]rewind[/highlight].. what if ayun sa telescope/zoom lens ni san pedro :hiya:.. among the guys doon sa meet mo noong dati busy ka pa sa career, nandoon yung perfect soul mate mo, actually.

    pasok na pasok rin sa spec's mo (95%).. kunyari ayun kay san pedro :hiya: kung nagkatuluyan kayo nitong guy, you would still end up having a happy/stable/sustainable married life..

    nga lang.. hindi pinahintulot ng pagkakataon. hindi mo na 'nasilip' o 'sinilip' ang personality niya dahil nga may iba kang priorities.

    kung ganun puwede/chance pala hindi na makita/makamayan man lang o makatuluyan ang soul mate/s natin at all sa entire lifespan natin.

    kaya kung sinabi mo nang he's the right one.. you married him. pangatawanan mo na. unless, di mo alam may sayad/psycho pala yung pinakasalan mo, ginugulpi ka, etc. exception na siguro yun.

    otherwise, isang malaking drama ekk-ekk kung sasabihin mo bigla the right love at the wrong time.. tapos hindi mo man lang sinabotahe ang current marriage mo at the early stage eh alam mo naman pala matagal na.

    and you waited for 1 decade.. tapos viola! nalibogan ako sa old flame ko, he's the right one. :hiya::lol::hiya:
  • jdashjdash PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ^ lufit ni lolo :D
  • You don't need to settle down. If you're happy now, there's no need to change anything. Marriage won't make things better. In fact, it almost always make things worse.
  • KrissysKrissys PEx Rookie ⭐
    Be honest to your partner. And compromise :)
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