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Paano Ba Manligaw?

i never had a girlfriend but i think now, i'm ready to have a relationship. but thing is, i have not slightest idea on how to court. pwede na ba yung pa-date date bawat linggo? saan? o kailangan ba eh magkasama kami 24/7?

paano ba manligaw?

well i checked, walang active thread na tungkol dito and i sure hope wala pang ibang thread na ganito. i need date ideas! and like really specific ones. share your experiences!

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  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ^Before you learn how to make "ligaw", learn how to use the PEX search engine first.

    -Just_JT
    Being.a.newbie.is.no.excuse.
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    mr. threadstarter:

    sorry hah. may nag barado na kaagad sa iyo dito. :hiya:


    mahirap matutunan at ituro yang mga strategies sa pangliligaw online. ang problema kasi diyan yung execution na mismo ng mga moves. moves na kadalasan galing din sa common sense.

    common sense sa pangliligaw na madalas naman yan ma-discuss ng mga barkada natin, officemates, internet blogs, links, books, dvd's..

    hindi lang yun.. halus impromptu yang pangliligaw. pag dating na ng moment eh.. minsan may mga quick adjustments ka na gagawin para di maging disaster date mo. at yun ang madalas wala sa libro.

    madalas natin marinig eh confidence daw. oo naman.. basic yun eh. dapat laging meron niyan. but at the same time.. consider mo rin yung luck. kasi kahit confident ka o super angas ka na.. kung hindi type ng isang girl hindi ka type. :hiya:

    a close female friend of mine once told me.. sa oras daw na nasimulan na ninyo ang conversation.. dapat magawan mo ng paraan na magkaroon ito ng spontaneity. hindi lang para hindi ma-bored ka date mo.. pero para malaman na marunong ka magdala ng conversation. at the same time maging conscious ka rin na minsan-minsan kailangan din ng pause. hindi yung nasobrahan sa pagbebenta ng sarili at puro na daldal na lang. :hiya:

    kailangan din makinig minsan sa nagsasalita..

    nangliligaw ka para 'masilip' ng nililigawan mo ano mga qualities mo.. it's almost like selling yourself.. what can you offer? and why she should believe you..

    realistically speaking.. based on experience, it's hard to have that one-shot one-kill. unless you'll be incredibly lucky newbie. you have to learn the ropes first (sometimes the hard way) to totally understand and appreciate the art of fooling girls. :lol: joke lang yun hah.

    dito sa internet forums, marami magke-claim diyan mga flying schools kuno.. yun instructor pala hindi man lang actually lumipad for the last 25 years. ha ha ha :hiya: :lol:

    walang magic diyan. make or break. tsambahan. 50/50.. be realistic.

    in fact kung may gusto nga sa iyo isang girl eh wala nang sense yang mga boolshet na pinagsasabi ko sa itaas, sa totoo lang. :lol:

    suggestion ko:

    make with friends with girls first. barkada muna bago ka mangligaw.. para ma-gets mo ang ibang ugali ng girls na madalas makainisan nating mga boys: girls/women are complicated, minsan may pagka-brat, maarte, etc.

    yun pala.. normal lang sa kanila yun. ha ha ha. things like that.


    goodie lak! :)
  • silvermugsilvermug PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    that game usually runs through instincts. once you find the girl you like, you'll definitely know how to do it. heck, you probably won't even know you are already doing it. it just comes. instincts :P

    so, don't worry about it. spending time with her? you wouldn't have to think about that because you would WANT to be around her all the friggin' time... until she gets sick of you. haha! no, just kidding*peace*
  • @blue tracer and silvermug, thanks a lot!!!
  • cyberfunkcyberfunk PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Just be yourself and obsolete na ang ligaw ligaw bro.. Pakiramdaman na lang yan..
  • wag mo na ligawan!!!

    kausapin mo na lang; tapos asar asarin mo na parang friend mo lang... tapos haluan mo na ng bola; sweet nothings... 24/7? ano yan? live in na katulong??? hehehe!!!

    pag ibinabalik yung ginagawa mo; me tsansa ka...

    pag hindi; hanap ulit ng iba...

    me tendecy kasi na iwasan ka pag nag open kang manliligaw ka...

    option lang to; baka me mambara diyan... its just that there is more than one way to skin a cat...
  • Meanie!!Meanie!! PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    - Say Hi or Hello
    - Chikahin mo hanggang sa umabot sa paghingi ng number, text text, call call, or Facebook
    - After sometime, pag ok na at medyo comfy na siya sayo at ok na ang sexual tension between you, try mo yayain 'lumabas' minsan(set a date).

    Good luck! BTW mahirap yan pag type na type mo ang babae. Atleast for me lol.
  • The KryptonianThe Kryptonian PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    basta TS, wag na wag kang maniniwala sa mga nag kukunwaring teacher sila ng "BABE MAGNETISM". yan ang rule # 1. kapag nagawa mo yan, then you can move on. :D
  • F-A SoldierF-A Soldier PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    I really don't understand the concept of 'ligaw'. I mean I do, but I don't. I guess I grew up differently.

    Here you just hang out then next thing you know you're an item. Or for more matured Americans, we go on a couple of dates and if you like him or her, you ask.

    Just advice I guess is, DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT WAY TOO MUCH. Be yourself, whether you flunk or you win. That's what life and love life is all about, it's about learning by yourself.

    You can buy books, you can research, you can talk to self proclaimed gurus and what not, but when it gets down to the dirty, it's about you and your experiences. You can only 'learn' so much.

    Go out and get dirty, life is hands on you know? Float or sink. Even though you fail the first time, hey you learn something right?

    What they said on the 40 Year Old Virgin " What he's saying is that you are gonna be so bad at sex the first time that you don't wanna have sex with someone you like, 'cause they'll think you're a weirdo for being so lame at it. So you wanna have sex with"hood rats" so that by the time you get to a girl that you do like, you won't be terrible at sex, you'll be mediocre at it. [pause] Probably still pretty bad, though."

    Change the sex part, to the dating scene, and it flies.
  • amiloproamilopro PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Hehe let's put it this way, concentrate first on being a good friend to girls before aiming for a girlfriend. Kung mabaet ka naman kasi sa girls, things like courting will just occur naturally and effortlessly.

    Any advice we give to you, most likely, will not work because relationships aren't a universal concept. The girl you are courting is unique, as all people are, and its impossible to pinpoint exact tips that will work.

    Besides everyone is a beginner when it comes to love, pantay pantay lang ang lahat trust me. There is nothing to be learned, only everything to be experienced :)
  • krizzaneil13krizzaneil13 PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    could some one help me...???

    I'm having trouble talking with girls.....

    prang nahihirapan kc ako makipag usap sa knila e.....

    prang pag katabi ko sila awkward na awkward ako......

    prang na oop ako pag katabi ko sila d ko alam sasabihin ko....

    nde pako nag kakagirl friend and im 19 now......

    although nagkaroon din ako ng close friend na babae...

    tingin ko since nung bata pako wala pang sampo ang naging close kong babae e.... bka nsa lima or pito lang ata clang naging close ko... ewan ko....

    so guys... i need your help...

    tingin ko kaya ako nag kagnito eh dahil since nung bata pako, nde ako nkakalabas ng bahay dahil pinapagalitan ako... nkakalabas lang ako ng bahay pag pupunta ng school.... overprotected kc ako.... wala ako gnagawa sa bahay kundi ang magcomputer....

    but now... medyo npapayagan nko pumunta sa mga reunion ng section ng highskul nmin.....

    aun.....

    kaya ako nagpunta sa forum na ito ay dahil may na meet akong babae nung monday dun sa FX.... nkita kong preho kami ng school dahil sa uniform nmin.... eh nagkamali yung driver... nde kami nababa dun sa skul nmin kaya naglakad kami dalawa...aun medyo nkausap ko siya, natanong ko rin kung anung year nya at course... aun prang nainlove ako.... hahaha.... ang ganda kc nung ngiti nya e.... ahhmm.. nkakausap ko nmn yung ibang babae kaso prang pag tumatagal wala nko masabi e.... prang na oop nako haha....

    ang naiisip ko... tingin ko mas mgnda kung napapatawa ko yung babae e... kaso nde ko tlaga alam kung panu sila patawanin....

    ang weak talaga ng self esttem at confidence ko.....

    can you guys give me tips?? kung panu ko mapapataas ang self esteem at confidence ko???

    tsaka... kapag nanliligaw kba.. kelangan ba napapatawa mo ang babae?? prang d ko magawa un d ko lam kung bkit.....

    tingin ko rare akong tao dahil sa mga ganito... prang tingin ko 2loi sa sarili ko naiiba ako haha...... may mga barkada nmn ako kaso puro lalaki haha(nde nmn siguro ako bakla dahil alam ko namn sa sarili ko un,, tsaka nainlove narin ako sa babae 4 times na.....) nde nmn ako weird tignan kungsa iniisip nyu.. haha... mahinhin lang talaga ako sa babae d ko alam kung bakit hehe...

    so guys... i need your helppp!!!
  • amiloproamilopro PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    could some one help me...???

    I'm having trouble talking with girls.....

    prang nahihirapan kc ako makipag usap sa knila e.....

    prang pag katabi ko sila awkward na awkward ako......

    prang na oop ako pag katabi ko sila d ko alam sasabihin ko....

    nde pako nag kakagirl friend and im 19 now......

    although nagkaroon din ako ng close friend na babae...

    tingin ko since nung bata pako wala pang sampo ang naging close kong babae e.... bka nsa lima or pito lang ata clang naging close ko... ewan ko....

    so guys... i need your help...

    tingin ko kaya ako nag kagnito eh dahil since nung bata pako, nde ako nkakalabas ng bahay dahil pinapagalitan ako... nkakalabas lang ako ng bahay pag pupunta ng school.... overprotected kc ako.... wala ako gnagawa sa bahay kundi ang magcomputer....

    but now... medyo npapayagan nko pumunta sa mga reunion ng section ng highskul nmin.....

    aun.....

    kaya ako nagpunta sa forum na ito ay dahil may na meet akong babae nung monday dun sa FX.... nkita kong preho kami ng school dahil sa uniform nmin.... eh nagkamali yung driver... nde kami nababa dun sa skul nmin kaya naglakad kami dalawa...aun medyo nkausap ko siya, natanong ko rin kung anung year nya at course... aun prang nainlove ako.... hahaha.... ang ganda kc nung ngiti nya e.... ahhmm.. nkakausap ko nmn yung ibang babae kaso prang pag tumatagal wala nko masabi e.... prang na oop nako haha....

    ang naiisip ko... tingin ko mas mgnda kung napapatawa ko yung babae e... kaso nde ko tlaga alam kung panu sila patawanin....

    ang weak talaga ng self esttem at confidence ko.....

    can you guys give me tips?? kung panu ko mapapataas ang self esteem at confidence ko???

    tsaka... kapag nanliligaw kba.. kelangan ba napapatawa mo ang babae?? prang d ko magawa un d ko lam kung bkit.....

    tingin ko rare akong tao dahil sa mga ganito... prang tingin ko 2loi sa sarili ko naiiba ako haha...... may mga barkada nmn ako kaso puro lalaki haha(nde nmn siguro ako bakla dahil alam ko namn sa sarili ko un,, tsaka nainlove narin ako sa babae 4 times na.....) nde nmn ako weird tignan kungsa iniisip nyu.. haha... mahinhin lang talaga ako sa babae d ko alam kung bakit hehe...

    so guys... i need your helppp!!!

    For your confidence issue, you have to understand that girls, like all of us, also have their own insecurities, so chill ka lang :)

    Regarding making girls laugh, sure it might be one factor but if it's just laughing then they're better off with a stand up comedian. You do not fall in love with a person because he's funny, you fall in love with a person because he or she is deep :) Pero siyempre gusto ng mga babae rin may sense of humor yung lalki at hindi too serious. Try watching sitcoms like how i met your mother or big bang theory so you'd have an idea how humor fits in casual conversations :)
  • a close female friend of mine once told me.. sa oras daw na nasimulan na ninyo ang conversation.. dapat magawan mo ng paraan na magkaroon ito ng spontaneity. hindi lang para hindi ma-bored ka date mo.. pero para malaman na marunong ka magdala ng conversation. at the same time maging conscious ka rin na minsan-minsan kailangan din ng pause. hindi yung nasobrahan sa pagbebenta ng sarili at puro na daldal na lang. :hiya:
    dahil ako ay first timer din sa pakikipag date. base sa akin naranasan
    dapat talaga wag magisip ng magisip at magaalala
    kasi ito lagi kong iniisip na medyo tahimik kami.
    kailangan din pala ng pause hehehehe
    wag kabahan


    up natin to.. kailangan ko din ng tips at advice sa panliligaw hehehe
  • chevy_camaro23chevy_camaro23 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    uso pa ba ligaw ngayon?

    i dunno, but IMO that "ligaw" thing is full of pretensions.. you'll pretend to be like this and that just to please the one you're courting with.. then afterwards, dun pa lang lalabas yung mga nega traits mo pag naging kayo na...

    mas gusto ko yung process na nadedevelop na lang sa isang tao... i'd just give him the chance to befriend me, then from there we'll see what might evolve if we'd get along well...at least from the very start, magkakakitaan na kayo ng mga flaws niyo at hindi yung mga good qualities lang..

    wag ka na manligaw, gumamit ka na lang mga tinatawag na "da mubs".. :naughty::lol:*okay*
  • SuperMiloSuperMilo PEx Rookie ⭐
    mukang nasabi na lahat nila ang mga tips sa panliligaw..
    hehe, pero base na rin sa mga naging experience ko, nagsisimula yan sa friend-friend kind of thing.. kasi isipin mo, kung babae ka tapos may biglang nagtanong sa 'yo na kung sino lang "miss, pwede ba manligaw?" syempre ang magiging feeling ng babae is medyo mao-off sayo. So basically, kelangan mo syang kaibiganin. Kagaya nung nasabi na rin, hindi mo kelangan isipin na nanliligaw ka, maffeel mo na lang na ine-express mo na pala sarili mo..wag ka matakot na makita nya yung mga imperfections mo, mabuti nga yun para makilala ka nya maigi.. kung tinanggap ka niya despite your imperfections, then okay. kung nandiri sayo after that, then find another and move on.. okay lang magpa-impress wag lang yung politikong pa-impress.. tapos yun kapag medyo kumportable na kayo sa isa't isa dun mo na molestyahin este joke lang...:bop: pero seriously, kapag kumportable na kayo sa isa't isa dun mo n sabihin sa kanya yung dapat mong sabihin.. ganyan talaga, patience..it's a process. kelangan malaman nung babae na deserving ka pagbigyan ng time nya.
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