My BF is a Iglesia ni Cristo member while me is a Roman Catholic.

Just want to share my story....

We've been for a years now, at sa simula pa lang aware na kami sa religion ng bawat isa...since were ok about that, di naging hadlang sa amin yun. He already met my family, at kilala na niya buong angkan ko. Kilala na siya mga cousins ko, mga lolo at lola ko, mga tita at tito ko....and yet hindi pa din nya ako maipakilala sa buong angkan niya.

Its not my attitude kasi na mangulit lalo na yung bagay na un, i believe kasi na kung talagang mahal at nirerespeto ka ng isang tao, kusa ka niyang ipapakilala sa family niya. Also, ayaw din niya na tinetext ko family nya lalo na mga kapatid niya kasi baka malaman daw nila na nagli-live-in kami,(4 mos pa lang since we started living together) at baka matiwalag siya sa religion nila. I also respect that kaya di ako nangungulit.

Pag nasa mood ako para magtanong kung bakit ganoon, sabi niya mag INC daw muna ako para maipakilala na niya ako formally sa family niya... noong una ok sakin yun...pero ngayon.. ayoko na mag INC at sinabi ko sa kanya yun... kasi sa totoo lang, napakalaki na ng pinagbago ng ugali niya, sobrang mainitin ang ulo, sensitive, seloso, masungit at sobrang protective to the point na nasasakal na talaga ako...

Matagal niya alam na "NEVER" na mag-a-INC ako, and he also said na kahit mamatay siya "NEVER" siya magka-catholic.. Now, im wondering? wala talaga kami patutunguhang dalawa kundi maghiwalay...di ba?

Pero, di ko siya kayang saktan ng ganoon, kaya hanggang ngayon pinakikisamahan ko pa din siya, at kahit ilang milyong times na ako nakipag break sa kanya, mahal pa din niya ako, i just dont know kung mahal pa din niya ako tulad ng dati...

Isa pa maayos siya makisama sa pamilya ko.. at thankful talaga ako doon.. dahil bihira na sa lalaki ang manuyo at magsilbi sa pamilya ng babae lalo na sa panahon ngayon. Hinihintay ko na lang na maayos papers ko para magwork abroad at para malayo na sa kanya...at sana makahanap siya ng babaeng mamahalin sya ng higit sa pagmamahal ko..and God knows how much i pray that everynight.. Tingin ko naman aware na siya na we are really not meant to be.. :-)
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  • purpleheadd07purpleheadd07 Babae po ako PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    sharing lang pala ng story. pero paano yan? nagsasama pa din pala kayo?

    pero oo, wala talaga patutunguhan kung di ka mag give in, kailangan mo din talaga magpa convert. wala pa ata akong naririnig na INC na nagpa convert.

    i had an ex before na INC at naisip ko na din kung kaya ko magpa convert, i tried watching their shows on NET25 di ko kinaya :D. at parang di ko din ma take na magsuot ng mahabang palda pag nagsasamba hehe...yup, mundane, trivial things lang pero it made me realize talaga na di ko kaya. he never made it an issue naman, we just sort of drifted apart na lang. sayang din yun, sobrang close ako sa family niya. friends pa din naman kami ngayon at mga nakapag move on na din.

    pero hayaan mo TS, i'm sure mas makakahanap ka pa din ng mas higit sa kanya. i once thought he was my greatest love now not anymore. :love:
  • F-A SoldierF-A Soldier Your Personal Jesus PEx Rookie ⭐
    Just have the decency to tell him instead of waiting. You're wasting each others' time. If he can't do it, you might as well do it for you two. If he is of value to you, even if you know you are not meant to be, he is worth at least your courage and respect to be told the reality. Even if he cry, even if he's hurt, that's better than being a fool.
  • kreukkreuk amishuuu PExer
    hmmmmmmmm concern ko is... nagcocontraception ka ba:love: baka bigla kang mabuntis tapos panibagong thread on that!

    mga iglesia... die hard iglesia. hindi ko kaya na magmass twice week. maloloka ata ako.

    the wierd thing lang for me, (although this is off topic)... bakit walang INC na kayang magpaconvert to catholic considering BENIGN yung duties being catholic:love:
  • 3m1L3m1L Phenomenal PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Don't let religion get in the way of your relationship. It's so stupid. Come to think of it, if he loves you he would just let you do your own thing.

    I just shake my head whenever I see people getting into fights, breaking up etc just because of religion. Sorry, but all of them are just made up by humans. It's stupid.
  • wow, match made in heaven.
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT Banned by Admin PExer
    4 mos pa lang since we started living together

    Then both of you are LIVING IN SIN according to your religion.

    -Just_JT
    It's.called.living.in.HYPOCRISY.
  • evil_klownevil_klown beat you in your own game PExer
    i'm not sure what is your dilemma pero i'm sure you're not asking what to do because you already have some plans. the only problem left is you're just hesitating to tell your bf na your relationship is over.

    strict ang INC di ba at nagawa niyang makipag live-in, sabagay pag nahuli kayo dun lang magiging kasalanan yun :D. well, catholics don't care. pag nalaman lang naman ng simbahan yan eh pagsasabihan lang kayo so pasok sa tenga labas sa kabila.

    malamang consequence ninyo na rin yan since pinaabot ninyo sa puntong ganun now you're both into this dilemma. dalawa lang naman yan, maghiwalay, move on... or continue. don't convert, either of you. problem ninyo na lang ang kasal. mag live in na lang kayo for the rest of your life.
  • decentdecent Poor Guy but Rich Spirit PExer
    wala tayo magagawa sa INC siya. buti pa ang catholic - flexible.
  • infinite_trialinfinite_trial ♥ Drayer PExer
    ts, meron guy na may problema naman sa ex-gf nyang INC sa stories and experiences. baka kayo ang bagay...pakilala mo yung bf mo sa ex nya hehe.

    seryosong comment...

    mahirap talaga ang interfaith relationship. mas mahirap kung yung religion ay masyadong strict. lolo at lola ko sa mother's side, magkaiba religion nila. lolo ko, catholic. INC din si lola. sabi ng nanay ko nung nagtry daw ang lola ko na sumamba, napaiyak daw kasi hindi talaga pinapasok at parang pinagtatabuyan. nagalit ang lolo ko kasi nagpumilit pa ang lola na gawin yun. hindi naman masyadong religious ang lolo ko, i believe hindi naman nagpaconvert ang lola ko. tito, tita at nanay ko, lumaki sila na nagsisimba sa catholic church...hindi nga lang sarado katoliko. actually yung nanay ko nagsisimba pero hindi nya alam ang lahat ng practices ng pagiging catholic. i end up figuring out religion as i grow up. catholic din ang tatay ko and medyo may pagkareligious pero hindi ko naman masasabi na sarado pa din. my parents really didn't value religion that much. sa nanay ko, oks lang sya na magdasal, magsimba, dumaan sa church. mahirap lang sa part ko lalo na sa school noon kasi maraming relihiyoso sa bayan namin. i became active at church in high school but later on when i was exposed to different religions, parang wala naman akong nakitang pagkakaiba. now i don't practice my faith at all which has no foundation to begin with. i had religious boyfriends and they find it hard to even convince me to subscribe to faith itself, aside from converting to their religion.

    well, what's my point? what i am trying to say is all of this won't matter if you really do not practice your religion. however, you should think of your future kids. if both of you should decide to stay with own your faith, you would still have to decide what to teach your kid. the ideal thing would be is let him choose his religion when he is old enough and teach him both. but the thing is, our society is not yet ready with it. things like what we catholics do, baby pa lang binibinyagan na. may communion at kung anu-ano pa. at such a young age, the child is forced to one religion. kapag lumaki pa sya, he has to identify himself through his religion. di ba nga sa bio data minsan specify pa natin yung religion.

    but then again, this could work if you are both open-minded and you don't care about what the people would say. sacrifice and compromise. it is doomed if no one is willing to give way.
  • evil_klownevil_klown beat you in your own game PExer
  • evil_klownevil_klown beat you in your own game PExer
    yeah choosing not to convert and having a family, kids will suffer because you're not legal husbands and wives. how would you deal with that? you see, there's a solution and thinking ahead another problem na naman.
  • lancealmekianlancealmekian ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ PEx Rookie ⭐
    TS

    Gunggong yang lalakeng yan. Ito ang masamang impluwensya ng mga ganitong klaseng samahan sa mga tao. Hindi ako galit sa mga tiga-Iglesia rito sa pex, pero pag ganitong mga bagay ang nakikita ko naaasar lang ako kay Manalo.

    Dami ko nang naging relihiyon, naging katoliko na ko, naging muslim, naging budista at kung ano ano pa, pero pag kailangan kong baguhin, babaguhin ko, lalo na kung para sa babaeng mahal ko. Hindi yun imposible. Hindi yun isang bagay na napakahirap gawin. Kung masyado syang maka-dyos, mag-pari na lang sya.

    Marami pang lalake, TS, at hindi lang nag-iisa ang lalakeng mababait. Marami dyan. Mas marami nga lang salbahe kaya ingat ka din.
  • kreukkreuk amishuuu PExer
    3m1L wrote: »
    Don't let religion get in the way of your relationship. It's so stupid. Come to think of it, if he loves you he would just let you do your own thing.

    I just shake my head whenever I see people getting into fights, breaking up etc just because of religion. Sorry, but all of them are just made up by humans. It's stupid.

    hmmm... INC are die hard INC. they'll never convert to any other religion and by INC church laws... an INC member cannot get married to a non-INC.

    major adjustments yun for the non-INC spouse who will be binded by church rules he/she doesn't even believe in.
  • Sly_VenusSly_Venus Member PExer
    If his faith is going to take over.. malabo yon.
    Dapat kase naisip nyo muna yan.. bago naging kayo.. love is not enough for a relationship to work out.. love+conflict+stupid people=breakup yun lang.
  • ...wakaranai...wakaranai nerd ~o-o~ PExer
    buti na lang tapos na yang problema kong yan. :lol:
    mag-isip ka ng mabuti, kasi kung gusto mo talaga siya makatuluyan, kailangan mong magpa-convert.
  • Sly_VenusSly_Venus Member PExer
    buti na lang tapos na yang problema kong yan. :lol:
    mag-isip ka ng mabuti, kasi kung gusto mo talaga siya makatuluyan, kailangan mong magpa-convert.

    Nagpaconvert ka kuya?


    How about this.. si GF from Ang Dating Daan... si Bf INC..?
    But they really love each other to death.. since kids. ^_^
  • ...wakaranai...wakaranai nerd ~o-o~ PExer
    Sly_Venus wrote: »
    Nagpaconvert ka kuya?


    How about this.. si GF from Ang Dating Daan... si Bf INC..?
    But they really love each other to death.. since kids. ^_^

    ay kuya daw. i'm a girl. i can't believe i can still be mistaken as a guy with an avatar and status like that. :lol:

    hindi po ako nagpa-convert ate, i broke up with him. :lol: and about your question, i think that will never happen, especially the part that they've loved each other since they were kids. they would not be able to meet each other without negative comments from their families and religious leaders.
  • Sly_VenusSly_Venus Member PExer
    ^ okay okay,, sorry hahaha.. kasi naman your name kase.. "wakaranai" meaning di ko maintindihan.. undefined skin ang gender mo :P
  • Sly_VenusSly_Venus Member PExer
    ay kuya daw. i'm a girl. i can't believe i can still be mistaken as a guy with an avatar and status like that. :lol:

    hindi po ako nagpa-convert ate, i broke up with him. :lol: and about your question, i think that will never happen, especially the part that they've loved each other since they were kids. they would not be able to meet each other without negative comments from their families and religious leaders.

    Tingin ko rin nga.. magkalaban kasing mahigpit yung 2 sects na iyon.. hahaha XD
  • mindweavermindweaver the chosen one... PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    been there before pero hindi nga lang INC. Ang masasabi ko lang my life is better now without her. Nakita ko na walang patutunguhan dahil I'm not giving up my faith and belief and neither will she.

    Distance will make you realize more things and will open your eyes to more possibilities. So suggestion ko, wag kayo mag live-in. :lol:

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