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will someone please HELP me on this

So I am confused.

I do like this girl. But she has a boyfriend and she is so attached to him (more than 2 years na sila pero nag bebreak kasi sila, tapos magiging sila ulit, break, sila ulit, break sila ulit ......). I really do like her. Naguguluhan lang ako pero yung girl kasi na yun eh parang nagpapakita siya at gumagawa ng mga bagay na magbibigay ng impression na gusto ka din niya. Actually sinabi niya sakin na may crush siya sakin. Pero this girl--she always calls me, texts me, at nakikipag sabay pa pumasok.

Next is this girl na niligawan ko dati. This girl--mejo malandi siya. Maganda siya, kaya mahilig siya sa gwapo. Wala pa siyang sineseryosong relasyon. Kaya parang binasted niya ako noon, at sobrang sinaktan niya ako. Pero nakikipagbalikan siya sa akin ngayon, pwede daw bang ibalik ang nakaraan. Sana daw andun ako lagi sa tabi niya, miss na daw niya ako and etc. Ano naman kaya kahihinatnan ko kung maging kami nga, knowing yung ugali niya, at hindi siya sumeseryoso ng relasyon? Ngunit napansin ko kasi, ngayon lang parang nagpakahumble at bumanat yung babaeng to. Could it be that she has changed?



Wala pa ako nagiging GF. Hindi ko alam ang gagawin ko. Salamat sa tulong.

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  • infinite_trialinfinite_trial ♥ Drayer PExer
    sino ba gusto mo? kung ako ang lalaki, dun ako sa less hassle. yung may syota di pa sigurado kung iiwan yung boyfriend, etong isa naman siya na lumalapit sa manok.
  • purpleheadd07purpleheadd07 Babae po ako ✭✭
    masyado ata malambot ilong mo TS, papisil nga. :naughty:

    choose and decide on who you'd want to pursue, hindi yung available ka lang dun sa gusto ka makasama for the time being. kung sinong tatawag sa iyo takbo ka kaagad, parang call boy lang. :glee:
  • BastBast schussboomer PExer
    forget about what they want. isipin mo muna kung ano ba talaga ang gusto mo. know what you want first then you'd know what to do.
  • The KryptonianThe Kryptonian We Can Be Heroes PExer
    ang kyut mo naman TS. :D

    i agree sa mga nagsabing dun ka sa less hassle. Mahirap yung nakatali pa sa iba, baka maging malaking problema. Kung kaya mong intayin na makawala muna yung nakatali, then go ahead and wait. Pero parang ang hirap yatang tanggihan nung palay na lumalapit sa manok... :naughty: Just my 2 cents.

    In the end ikaw parin naman ang mag-dedecide. Gud lak! *okay*
  • rainbow87rainbow87 Member PExer
    hmm... it feels like you only want the easy way out, parang you'll grab whatever opportunity is given..... I mean, what if both girls are available? Who are you gonna pick? You should go for who you like more di ba, not whoever is easier to access. =)
  • Nightwing05Nightwing05 clueless ✭✭✭
    walang bang third option..?
  • Meanie!!Meanie!! because pex PExer
    Ipagsabay mo nalang and then choose lol. Yun eh kung kaya mo. Or post ka ng pics nila dito para maka-decide kami. hehe
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT Banned by Admin PExer
    zhurlokwee wrote: »
    So I am confused.

    I do like this girl. But she has a boyfriend and she is so attached to him (more than 2 years na sila pero nag bebreak kasi sila, tapos magiging sila ulit, break, sila ulit, break sila ulit ......). I really do like her. Naguguluhan lang ako pero yung girl kasi na yun eh parang nagpapakita siya at gumagawa ng mga bagay na magbibigay ng impression na gusto ka din niya. Actually sinabi niya sakin na may crush siya sakin. Pero this girl--she always calls me, texts me, at nakikipag sabay pa pumasok.

    Next is this girl na niligawan ko dati. This girl--mejo malandi siya. Maganda siya, kaya mahilig siya sa gwapo. Wala pa siyang sineseryosong relasyon. Kaya parang binasted niya ako noon, at sobrang sinaktan niya ako. Pero nakikipagbalikan siya sa akin ngayon, pwede daw bang ibalik ang nakaraan. Sana daw andun ako lagi sa tabi niya, miss na daw niya ako and etc. Ano naman kaya kahihinatnan ko kung maging kami nga, knowing yung ugali niya, at hindi siya sumeseryoso ng relasyon? Ngunit napansin ko kasi, ngayon lang parang nagpakahumble at bumanat yung babaeng to. Could it be that she has changed?

    Wala pa ako nagiging GF. Hindi ko alam ang gagawin ko. Salamat sa tulong.

    If I were you, I'd pursue them both until one of the two gives you her commitment. You never know 'til you go. Better to have more choices than none.

    -Just_JT
    All.is.fair.in.love.and.war.
  • mittenmitten Member PExer
    There are only two options here:

    1. Pursue them both
    2. Drop them both

    You know why, you're clearly just going to be a rebound guy and they don't realize, or worse care about that at all. Both girls have some things in common. Boh have been into unstable relationships, and they have you who can give emotional support when they needed it. Knowing that you can be there consistently. Whatever your decision will be, be careful. Because these women I think, are not so into you. Of course, I could be wrong. In cases like these, even if I'm a girl, don't get so emotionally attached.
  • techno-organictechno-organic inherent omniscient PExer
    i say pursue them both... pakita mo doon sa may-bf na may iba ka pang option besides her and at the same time pakita mo doon sa single na hindi ka pa sigurado kung nagbago na ba kung anong mayroong special sa iyo na dapat niyang gustuhin... how? find a way for the two of them to meet... school event, group date, any group activity... kapag sinama ni may-bf si bf niya, doon ka dumikit sa kabila... kung hindi sumama iyong bf ni may-bf, sa kanya ka dumikit... siyempre papansinin mo din kung sino man iyong hindi mo dinidikitan but not as much kung gaano mo pinanpansin iyong dinidikitan mo ng time na iyon... then after ng lakad niyong iyon, bawas-bawasan mo iyong oras at communication mo doon sa dinikitan mo ng lumabas kayo... wait for a few days or so... i'm sure isa kanila, if not both of them, magrereact sa ginagawa mo by asking kung kamusta na kayo noong isa mong kasama noong lumabas kayo... at kapag nangyari iyon, you have the upperhand now since you got their attention by making them think na may iba ka pang options at hindi lang iisa... i believe those two women that you have are the type that don't like competition... heck, most women, if not all, don't like competition... well, correct me ladies if i'm wrong with what i said or not... hehehe...
  • kreukkreuk amishuuu PExer
    doon ako sa malandi! u don't wanna see that girl crawl back to u? :love:

    people do change... kahit "matino" gf mo ngayon... pwede naman yan maging hindi matino with time lalo na kung bata pa kayo. parang college ka lang right? enjoy mo lang... ang batabata mo pa. u won't end up with either naman!
  • kreukkreuk amishuuu PExer
    you have the upperhand now since you got their attention by making them think na may iba ka pang options at hindi lang iisa...


    heck, most women, if not all, don't like competition... well, correct me ladies if i'm wrong with what i said or not... hehehe...

    no i won't correct you coz u are right. women don't find the sensibility in competing with other women. i mean kung ngayon palang she needs to compete for the guy... what more in the future years?! second of all... guys can't be won just because they were fought over for. (correct me if im wrong). so it's futile isn't it. lastly, it's a drain to one's energy level. magshopping nalang para walang stress.

    now with regards to your other statement *** nakabold. that will depend. since u said women don't like competition... pwede she'll turn her back because of that. too much stress and too 'arrogant' too -- when u come face to face with someone you really like/love... i doubt it if you can ever tell that person "for your information i can get any guy/girl i fancy" or "i have this other guy i can date if u won't date me". :love:

    pero kasi totoo naman... when ur in front of the person u really like... you become humble with fingers crossed and say "i hope u do pick me... for now ur my only option".
  • techno-organictechno-organic inherent omniscient PExer
    @ kreuk - tama mga sinabi mo... sabi mo, "pwede she'll turn her back because of that"... but i doubt that since the two young ladies are somehow considering the TS as a potential partner... iyong may-bf nilalandi siya... iyong isa nagpapakita na ng interes sa kanya... the only thing that the TS needs to do is heighten their feelings for him by giving them something to make them confused... confused girl thinks why she is confused ---> she arrives at the answer that maybe she's feeling something more for TS ---> she finds simple ways to spend more time with TS to know him more...

    @ TS - heck, if that does not work for you (but i suggest na subukan mo muna and i'm sure you'll be surprised at the result...), yayain mo silang majogging... at huwag kayong titigil magjogging hanggang pagod na pagod at naliligo na kayong pareho sa pawis... let your pheromones do their job... you'll be amazed how something as simple as sweat can work for you... hehehe...
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer soundscapes ✭✭✭
    zhurlokwee:

    1st girl

    she is so attached to him..

    parang nagpapakita.. na magbibigay ng impression na gusto ka din niya...may crush siya sakin.. she always calls me, texts me, at nakikipag sabay pa pumasok..

    (she always calls me.. strictly speaking, walang masama kung pag tawag din lang. hindi lang gaganda ang meaning niyan kung ibabase mo sa current situation)

    actually, hindi lang yung 2nd girl ang malandi. pati na rin si 1st. :hiya:

    may green light na dito para pumasok ka. kaya lang, dahil sa pattern nilang breakup-reconcile-breakup-reconcile... there must be something they couldnt give up. medyo malabo.. unless sasagasa ka at manunulot ka. would you want to play that role? if so, go..

    2nd girl

    parang binasted niya ako noon.. pero nakikipagbalikan siya sa akin ngayon, pwede daw bang ibalik ang nakaraan.

    hindi siya sumeseryoso ng relasyon.. ngunit napansin ko kasi, ngayon lang parang nagpakahumble at bumanat yung babaeng to.

    naging kayo ba dati para may balikan siya? assuming hindi.. baka may magandang memories siya sa iyo noon, lamang hindi lang siya siguro prepared..

    kung nagbago na nga siya.. that remains to be seen.

    based on the posts, mukhang mas popular nga yung choice no. 2. may 'connection' ka na sa kanya eh.

    sa girl no. 1 parang gusto ka niyang gawing 'sideline'.. :hiya: and if ever maging kayo in the future.. walang assurance na di maulit itong pattern:

    she is to attached to me..

    she always calls him..

    malamang ang gagawin mong action dito, hindi lang dapat mag dedepende sa mga opinion naming pexers. kundi mag dedepende ito sa purpose mo at philosophy mo. kaya ang hirap din mag suggest ng outright '..ah ito ang gawin mo.. ah huwag yan baka sumabit ka..' etc.

    kung gusto mong romance/proper relationship (of course, may responsibility na nakakabit diyan) + espikikay :hiya:.. less hassle..low risk..'tahimik' na diskarte wala kang nasasagasaan, eh dito ka na kay girl no. 2 mangligaw ulit.

    kung gusto mo naman puro espikikay lang, maging sigurista.. worried ka na ma-zero ka, eh di ligawan mo silang sabay. magdagdag ka pa ng pang 3rd, medyo kulang yan.. :lol:


    goodie lak! :)
  • Ice BurnIce Burn Conflicting Karma ✭✭
    None. They're both nasty girls who don't value relationships. Girl A is looking for someone else while having bf as a fallback, you know sigurista. Girl B is a skank who didn't get what she wanted hence she's now chasing the schmoe who she thinks will put her on a pedestal--you. Either way, they both have the makings of dropping you if they find someone better.

    Study hard instead. Many don't finish school because they get blinded by relationships. Don't be part of the statistics.
  • techno-organictechno-organic inherent omniscient PExer
    ^^^ couldn't have said it better... clap clap clap...

    @ TS - to tell you the truth, sakit sa ulo iyang mga ganyang klaseng babae kasi tignan mo ha... si A mukhang emotional leech na dumedepende sa iyo everytime nagkukulang bf niya... si B naman mukhang siya iyong tipo ng babae na ayaw nababakante at gustong tikman lahat ng available options sa kaniya... for short, she's a skanky 'ho...
  • NilsNils Hunter ✭✭✭
    ^^I agree with the reasoning, but not the action... They aren't taking their relationships seriously, so why should you. Take your surfboard and ride the waves, when it ends, look for another wave... Bata ka pa, have fun but keep your hear clear and don't sacrifice your studies habang nagsaasya ka... Take it as a lesson on how to live a well balanced life... :)
  • Triglyceride2Triglyceride2 PEx relapse PExer
    zhurlokwee wrote: »
    So I am confused.

    I do like this girl. But she has a boyfriend and she is so attached to him (more than 2 years na sila pero nag bebreak kasi sila, tapos magiging sila ulit, break, sila ulit, break sila ulit ......). I really do like her. Naguguluhan lang ako pero yung girl kasi na yun eh parang nagpapakita siya at gumagawa ng mga bagay na magbibigay ng impression na gusto ka din niya. Actually sinabi niya sakin na may crush siya sakin. Pero this girl--she always calls me, texts me, at nakikipag sabay pa pumasok.

    Next is this girl na niligawan ko dati. This girl--mejo malandi siya. Maganda siya, kaya mahilig siya sa gwapo. Wala pa siyang sineseryosong relasyon. Kaya parang binasted niya ako noon, at sobrang sinaktan niya ako. Pero nakikipagbalikan siya sa akin ngayon, pwede daw bang ibalik ang nakaraan. Sana daw andun ako lagi sa tabi niya, miss na daw niya ako and etc. Ano naman kaya kahihinatnan ko kung maging kami nga, knowing yung ugali niya, at hindi siya sumeseryoso ng relasyon? Ngunit napansin ko kasi, ngayon lang parang nagpakahumble at bumanat yung babaeng to. Could it be that she has changed?



    Wala pa ako nagiging GF. Hindi ko alam ang gagawin ko. Salamat sa tulong.



    First girl - don't be a rebound . I'm sorry to say this but you really don't want to be picking up the pieces and cleaning after the mess of her last relationship. If you really want to be w/ her, give her the chance, time and space to get it together ...


    second girl - You're asking if she's changed? You know, people are set in their ways but give her a break. She wants to be challenged , she's propbably used to men eating off her hand (which is what you probably did, not literally but , you catch my drift? )She's hurt you before so she probably knows how to work your buttons. Test the water on this one lest she drops you again like a hot potato. Wagkang magpabilog ng ulo.


    OR go find another girl, really. Pick neither the above-mentioned girls , if I may say so :) but this is just an opinion. The choice is always yours to make.

    Good luck :)
  • czenczen love simply is... PExer
    zhurlokwee wrote: »
    So I am confused.

    I do like this girl. But she has a boyfriend and she is so attached to him (more than 2 years na sila pero nag bebreak kasi sila, tapos magiging sila ulit, break, sila ulit, break sila ulit ......). I really do like her. Naguguluhan lang ako pero yung girl kasi na yun eh parang nagpapakita siya at gumagawa ng mga bagay na magbibigay ng impression na gusto ka din niya. Actually sinabi niya sakin na may crush siya sakin. Pero this girl--she always calls me, texts me, at nakikipag sabay pa pumasok.

    hmm.. ginagawa ka lang nyang reserba.. meaning - pag hindi sila ikaw ang gagamitin niya pag sila na ulit iiwan ka na nya... ayaw nyang mawalan so ginagawa niya un para kahit mawala ang isa may isa pa... so --- iwan mo na yan!
    zhurlokwee wrote: »

    Next is this girl na niligawan ko dati. This girl--mejo malandi siya. Maganda siya, kaya mahilig siya sa gwapo. Wala pa siyang sineseryosong relasyon. Kaya parang binasted niya ako noon, at sobrang sinaktan niya ako. Pero nakikipagbalikan siya sa akin ngayon, pwede daw bang ibalik ang nakaraan. Sana daw andun ako lagi sa tabi niya, miss na daw niya ako and etc. Ano naman kaya kahihinatnan ko kung maging kami nga, knowing yung ugali niya, at hindi siya sumeseryoso ng relasyon? Ngunit napansin ko kasi, ngayon lang parang nagpakahumble at bumanat yung babaeng to. Could it be that she has changed?

    nope she haven't changed at all. She just need you because maybe someone broke her heart instead of na siya yung hindi nagseseryoso sa relationship... ask her why and try to know her last relationship. Pero pahapyaw lang para hindi niya isipin na seryoso ka sa kanya... Kasi pag nalaman niya na gusto mo pa din siya baka paglaruan ka lang niya.
  • ka_denizka_deniz bagong buhay ✭✭✭
    alam mo, wala ka namang dilema eh. ikaw lang namumurublema.

    by the sound of things, basted ka dyan pareho.

    better hanap ka na lang ng iba.

    you are limiting yourself to those two girls. there are many fish in the sea!

    hanap ka ng makakavibes mo. then concentrate on that woman instead.

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