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How do you cope with a clingy friend without dumping her/him?

I badly need help, guys.

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  • ma.jadema.jade PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    kailangan ko din ito ^
  • Keep a distance, Ignore text messages or calls.
  • Slowly....start with what ilovemilo said. Para di halata, unti unti kang lumayo. Start with seeing each other less frequently, then doing less stuff together. Kausapin mo parin paminsan minsan pero civil lang. Don't make any plans to hangout or any time to spend together. Make excuses to do stuff you know the other person doesn't like or cannot do.

    Had to do this to a college classmate before. Problem with people like this is they need to learn to stand on their own. Just like any lesson, it will take time to learn. ;)
  • Iwan mo sha sa iba mong friend tapos hayaan mong silang magsabi na... "Lumayo ka nga! Masyado kang close para kang linta!"....

    Pero actually, kung tunay kang kaibigan at feeling mo close na kayo, sabihin mo sa kanya ang nararamdaman mo. Pag tunay na kaibigan ang turing nya sayo, maiintindihan ka nya, magtatampo ng konti (normal yun), tapos pag-usapan nyo kung bakit sha ganun at explain mo anong nararamdaman mo (I did this with my friend na asar na asar ako sa kanya dati pero ngayon BFF na kami). Pero kung bigla shang nagalit at hindi ka na pinansin, hay, kelangan nyang matutunang tanggapin yan kung hindi, sa ibang tao nya maririnig na masyado shang clingy. Baka naman kasi ikaw lang ang kasundo nya/or at ease sha sayo kaya sha sayo dumidikit.
    Depende kasi kung anong approach gagamitin mo, yung direkta ba o pasimple lang.
    Good luck!
  • LimpBwiZitLimpBwiZit PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    i have other activities na hindi maka-relate ang friends ko, so pag merong clingy na friend, i tend to concentrate on these activities more, then ma-OP sya, ma-bore, gone. di naman siguro pare-pareho ang interests nyo. i bored them to banishment by hanging out more often with german/ilonggo/bisaya-speaking friends, na kahit dikit sya ng dikit, di sya maka-relate, reading more (and di nya ako maistorbo when i read), and getting closer to my family (kapalmuks naman kung makikisiksik pa sya dun).

    that way, ma-realize nya how limited his social life is compared to yours and he'll learn to expand his social circle.

    though it happened before, nag-aral din ang clingy friend ng tennis, which turned out good for me coz nagkaroon ako ng regular tennis buddy.
  • Ever thought of using fabric softener on your wash? It will definitely minimize the clinging on your clothes specially that of clingy friends.
  • get a bf/gf, that's a good excuse to avoid hanging out with your friend frequently lol
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Teach other people how to treat you. You set the rules. You be assertive without being rude.

    -Just_JT
    And.it.works.most.of.the.time.
  • May mga ganyan din ako dati, yun nga lang, coupled with being total arseholes ang pagka-clingy nila.

    Simple lang ang solusyon. I cut them off completely!
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