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something about his past

im a type of girl na keep on asking questions about my partner, mas gusto ko yung alam ko yung past nya. whenever i ask him to share those stories, bakit nahhurt ako after pero past naman na? and sometimes i easily get insecured, normal lang ba yun? :confused:
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  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    im a type of girl na keep on asking questions about my partner, mas gusto ko yung alam ko yung past nya. whenever i ask him to share those stories, bakit nahhurt ako after pero past naman na? and sometimes i easily get insecured, normal lang ba yun? :confused:

    'Di tama ang nang-uungkat ng nakalipas. Ang mahalaga ay kasalakuyan. Lahat ng tao ay may nakalipas fuera ang bagong panganak na sanggol....

    -Just_JT aka "Boss Pogi"
    And.you.can't.date.a.newborn.
  • thanks boss pogi...:)
  • rayzlerayzle PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    im a type of girl na keep on asking questions about my partner, mas gusto ko yung alam ko yung past nya. whenever i ask him to share those stories, bakit nahhurt ako after pero past naman na? and sometimes i easily get insecured, normal lang ba yun? :confused:

    normal yan pero di maganda kung parati kang ganyan habang maaga patayin mo na agad ang ganyang klaseng feeling kasi parang sinasaktan mo ang sarili mo sa wala dahil it's past na. you're not part of it yet nung nangyari ang mga yun. focus sa future. wag aksayahin ang luha at lungkot sa tapos na. accept mo kung ano siya sa iyo. sa ngayon mas kailangan na bigyan mo siya ng importance.
  • kung ano man ang nakaraan niya, ang tanong e paano yun makakaapekto sa inyong kasalukuyan?

    magbabago ba ang pananaw mo sa kanya kung malalaman mo ang nakaraan niya? paano kung gusto na niya kalimutan ang nakaraan at ayaw na niya itong ungkatin?

    Mahalaga ba talagang malaman kung sino siya noon, mas mahalaga kung sino siya ngayon?
  • You're immature like a 3 year old girl.
  • batabatutabatabatuta PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    ^I concur....
  • mcsteamy17mcsteamy17 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ...oooOOHH...


    ...gusto mo ng patalikod...


    ...aaaAAAHHH...


    ...ayaw mo ng paharap...mmmMMMM...


    ...sige ka...you'll miss the other fun side of things...yessSSS!!!...


    ...harapin mo ko... ...sige baby... ...yan ang gusto ko... ...mmmMMM...:dizzy:
  • menyekmenyek PEx Rookie ⭐
    Babe is that you?

    Honestly, this is my problem with my girl right now. She can't seem to let go of my past. I wish that she wisens up and focuses on what we have right now instead of focusing on the past. Sometimes I just want to tell her to "Grow Up!".
  • pinya_ako24pinya_ako24 PEx Rookie ⭐
    sis the more you want to know your bf past the more he reveals the more you get hurt. I was once like you nag tatanong tungkol sa past nya pero na realize ko na hindi tama ang mang ungkat ng nakaraan sa isang tao at ako rin ang masasaktan kaya hayaan mo nalang ang nakaraan na mabaon sa limot.
  • luka_hunterluka_hunter PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    We all have reasons kung bakit ayaw or gusto natin malaman ang past ng partner natin. Come to think of it, why invest emotions on things na nangyari na nung wala ka pa? or why invest emotions sa mga bagay na di pa nangyayari by worrying kung magloloko sya ulet or playboy sya before?
    Lastly, have you noticed kung nagtatanong rin sya about your past? Kung hinde, maybe he has his own reason din. Baka meron din syang di na gustong malaman or di kayang marinig about the past.
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Kung ako'y magtatanong ng nakalipas ng girl - isang-isa lang ang tatanungin ko:

    LALAKI KA BA RATI?!?!?!

    :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

    -Just_JT
    Lalaki.rati.lalaki.pa.rin.sa.kasalukuyan. *okay*
  • hay.. unkatera kaba? joke..

    let go of the past na nga iha.. we have to move forward..
    maybe he has his own reasons nga, and let him reach out kahit di mo sya tanungin. or maybe it's not yet the right time or maybe it's better to keep nalng din. not all you should know, kase minsan there are disadvantages din, might affect yung relationship nyo.. instead na mag-grow e, masira pa..

    wala un.. just trust him and respect his reasons. love him with all your heart.. and accept him (the whole package.. including his past)

    :)
  • alremalrem PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    There are times that you have to verify what you have right now by knowing the past. That's fine... just be ready on what you'll do when you knew it. It's better to get hurt right now and decide what to do rather than be caught off guard later on.

    What if limang babae na pala na-aanakan nya then he'll ask you to accept them all in your house kasi kasal na kayo. Or magugulat ka na lang kasi napanood ng friends and family mo ang lahat past sex video ng asawa mo... I know you got what I mean ;)
    good luck
  • i won't say if it's wrong or right. i'll only say it's a major trust issue. Gurl, you have TRUST issues. Better find out the source of it. Ikaw ba? Siya ba? May nakikita o napapansin ka ba na nagpapaduda sayo or ikaw lang talaga yan?
  • TS pafollow-up question lang ha. Thanks.

    guys paano kung ganito. You are trying to accept the past and believe na friends na lang talaga sila (even if they still go on out of town trips because they belong in the same "barkada") Then nalaman mo na naglie sya s yo just to be w/ the ex? Explain nya 'doesn't want to hurt me daw" How will you explain that? shall i still belive na friends lang sila?
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    lostsoul17 wrote: »
    TS pafollow-up question lang ha. Thanks.

    guys paano kung ganito. You are trying to accept the past and believe na friends na lang talaga sila (even if they still go on out of town trips because they belong in the same "barkada") Then nalaman mo na naglie sya s yo just to be w/ the ex? Explain nya 'doesn't want to hurt me daw" How will you explain that? shall i still belive na friends lang sila?

    Lying in the present and not revealing the past are two different things.

    -Just_JT
    Liar.liar.
  • adiposethoughtsadiposethoughts PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    im a type of girl na keep on asking questions about my partner, mas gusto ko yung alam ko yung past nya.

    Why? Would you be a better person if you know his past?

    It seems like you ain't better... You have just doubled your insecurity level.

    whenever i ask him to share those stories, bakit nahhurt ako after pero past naman na? and sometimes i easily get insecured, normal lang ba yun? :confused:

    No, it's not normal.

    You shouldn't made that boy your boyfriend if you don't fully know him well and you still have hang ups with his past and you keep on comparing yourself with his exs.

    That's just a bad case of insecurity. Nothing nor nobody can cure your insecurity but yourself. If you stop asking, you'll stop hurting.

    Saka... Bakit mo ba binabasura ang oras mo katatanong ng mga bagay bagay na wala namang ikabubuti sa relasyon nyo ng bf mo? Mag-aaway lang kayo pag di mo narinig ang sagot na gusto mo. Hindi santo ang boyfriend mo. Nung nangyari sa kanya ang mga nakalipas, eh wala ka pa sa picture. Kung nandun ka man sa picture, eh hindi ka pa nya type at wala pa shang balak i-gf ka. Gets mo?

    Naghahanap ka lang ng problema. Kung ako sayo, maghanap ka na lang ng mga bagay bagay na pag-eenjoyan ninyong dalawa.

    Siguro kaya ka tanong ng tanong tungkol sa past nya ay nabo-bore ka at you have nothing better to do.

    Poor you.


    Kung ako ang gf ng bf mo, we'll be off somewhere nice, exciting, and adventurous!


    Haha!


    Don't let him regret he courted and loved you. You should know that.
  • sigh..did it to my bf..asked him all aobut his past..he told it to me.and i was deeply hurt.but i have to let go of it..tapos na **** un eh..but there are times that i still remember his stories and i tend to compare myself to his past gfs..sigh..it's such a loser attitude..and im trying to control myself and stop myself from doing it often..nakakasira ng relasyon..
  • baklitabaklita PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    im a type of girl na keep on asking questions about my partner, mas gusto ko yung alam ko yung past nya. whenever i ask him to share those stories, bakit nahhurt ako after pero past naman na? and sometimes i easily get insecured, normal lang ba yun? :confused:


    ituloy mo ang pagtatanong sa bf mo. kung ilan naging gf niya, ilang
    beses naghalikan, ilang beses sila nag-sex... may condom o wala, etc...

    dahil puputok ang iyong butsi... tiyak magwawala ka... ang gawin
    mo ay todo maghuramentado ka. bilis!

    at least, mapagbigyan mo ang iyong sarili, de vaah? de vaah?

    aihihihi!!! :lol:

    baklita


  • This happened to both me and my wife when we were just starting our relationship.

    We disclosed a few things that were difficult to absorb. Ang hirap talaga. It was a slow and painful process. We tried to not talk about it for a while because a mere mention of a name of a similar even used to hurt us.

    Now, we can freely talk about it. Parang wala na lang.

    If you truly love him, take the time to let it heal.
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