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Husband cheats to a married woman

Married for a year.. But in the relationship for 10 yrs. What would you do if your husband blames you for everything and tells you you're the reason why he cheated on you.. and leaves you and your 6month old kid for a married woman with 2 kids?

Asks you to file legal separation for him to be able to live with the girl..

And everything you do no matter how hard you try leaves him angrier for trying to save the marriage?

Last conversation was that I am worthless to him. and he's ready even if I file a criminal case against him.

Let go and move on without doing anything?
File for support for my kid?
Get him out of work?
Criminal Case against my husband only?
Criminal Case against both of them?
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  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ravencurl wrote: »
    Married for a year.. But in the relationship for 10 yrs. What would you do if your husband blames you for everything and tells you you're the reason why he cheated on you.. and leaves you and your 6month old kid for a married woman with 2 kids?

    Asks you to file legal separation for him to be able to live with the girl..

    And everything you do no matter how hard you try leaves him angrier for trying to save the marriage?

    Last conversation was that I am worthless to him. and he's ready even if I file a criminal case against him.

    Let go and move on without doing anything?
    File for support for my kid?
    Get him out of work?
    Criminal Case against my husband only?
    Criminal Case against both of them?

    Hingi ka na lang ng child support para sa anak mo.

    -Just_JT aka "Boss Pogi"
    And.move.on.
  • ayanami-xayanami-x PEx Rookie ⭐
    hindi ba me kaso yung nangangaliwa kapag legally married na?

    pa advice ka sa may alam sa law.
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ayanami-x wrote: »
    hindi ba me kaso yung nangangaliwa kapag legally married na?

    pa advice ka sa may alam sa law.

    Ang bigamy ay labag sa batas. Maaaring makulong si lalaki. Subali't anong mapapala kung makulong si lalaki? Paano ang sustento sa kanyang sanggol.

    Pinakamainam: maghiwalay na at humingi ng child support.

    -Just_JT aka "Boss Pogi"
    Huwag.maghiganti.at.hindi.ka.naman.higanti.
  • kreukkreuk PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ano daw fault mo??? pabaya ka? well... magsama sila ng babaeng yun...

    eto ang hindi ko gets sa guys... they get into the trouble of marrying you... spending for u... tapos magloloko. sobrang senseless...
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    kreuk wrote: »
    eto ang hindi ko gets sa guys... they get into the trouble of marrying you... spending for u... tapos magloloko. sobrang senseless...

    Women go astray, too.

    -Just_JT aka "Boss Pogi"
    What.the.goose.can.do.the.gander.can.too.
  • ganyan ang mga dahilan kapag gustong makipag hiwalay eh, bukod na rin sa napanood kong movie na 'he's just not that into you'...

    anyways, parang kung nagmamatigas iyong lalaki, siguro humingi ka na lang ng child support. magkasundo na lang kayo na magbigay siya kung hindi doon mo siya i-habla.

    sa kalagayan mo, kung hindi na uubra sa pag uusap ninyo at nagmamatigas ang lalaki hayaan mo na, atleast know the reason para alam mo sa sarili mo na hindi mo kasalanan, para maka move on ka na rin, tanggapin mo na lang din na ***** ang asawa mo.

    kung ako sa iyo wag mo nang bigyan ng maraming kaso kung hindi na lang magbigay ng sustento kasi sobrang pabigat din sa iyo iyon, at matagal ka makaka move on kasi magiging matagal din ang kaso. isipin mo na lang na may balik sa kanya iyon at sa babae, spell KARMA!

    pray hard!
  • Ice BurnIce Burn PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Good Riddance then. Ba't ka pa magtitiis dun?

    If you feel like revenge, have him and his mistress jailed for bigamy or adultery.

    If you need child support or just want your husband to give child support for your kid, go and file for child support.

    If you don't feel like doing these, then live your life. Take care of your kid.

    It's going to be a slow painful process but you can move on.

    Pero make sure you pamper yourself, indulge in some retail therapy, go get a massage, go out with friends, "spoil" your kid a little. Basically do stuff to keep you mind off things. Masakit siya, pero if you dwell in bitterness about what your husband did, mahihirapan ka mag-move on and baka maapektuhan pa yung relationship mo with your child.
  • Thanks for the advices.

    Either case I file would be a painful for me. If i file child support, of course he would demand from me his right to see his kid. Na sa ngayon ayaw ko pakita coz I dont want to allow him to bring my bby without me ksi bka kunin sakin.. And I cant move on pag nakikita ko *** kasi naghohope ako.

    I want a whole family and I can sacrifice. But I know it will be difficult to patch things up if it will only be me who wants to save our marriage..he's not sorry..

    Right now, am just waiting and trying to move on. Mahirap lang for me lalo na yun napanood ko yun video nila katrina halili and hayden, parang ang sakit sakit knowing ginagawa nila ng babae nya mga ganun.. Gusto ko sila parehas pakulong pero ndi kaya ng consencya ko na gawin sa asawa ko yun pero sa babae nya gusto ko..
  • ayanami-x wrote: »
    hindi ba me kaso yung nangangaliwa kapag legally married na?

    pa advice ka sa may alam sa law.

    depende daw sa gusto ko mangyari.. lahat ng cards eh nasakin. but ndi ko ganun kasama kagaya nya.
  • JUST_JT wrote: »
    Ang bigamy ay labag sa batas. Maaaring makulong si lalaki. Subali't anong mapapala kung makulong si lalaki? Paano ang sustento sa kanyang sanggol.

    Pinakamainam: maghiwalay na at humingi ng child support.

    -Just_JT aka "Boss Pogi"
    Huwag.maghiganti.at.hindi.ka.naman.higanti.

    ndi ko daw *** inalagaan. ndi raw ako naging mabuting asawa. he wants to be served ksi. traditional male species. pero i also work and when our kid arrived napunta attention ko sa bata..nagkulang ako sa knya in short..

    tas sasabihan nya ko worthless. bruha etc etc.. and he's more proud pag kasama nya yun girl instead of me..
  • Leisha_haileyLeisha_hailey PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Pag-isipan mo na lang after all that happened.. all that he said.. the mura and everything.. would you still want to patch things up with this a*hole? I mean come on... the reason why you gave more attention to tyhe baby bec.. plain and simple.. mas kailangan ng bata ang attention than that whiny twit...

    I saw an episode sa Oprah one time about husbands who had affairs because the wife focused her attention sa mga anak... inisip ko na lang.. pathetic husbands.... nagseselos sa anak? I mean they made the kid.. might as well do thesame... just being self centered lang.... ang laki2x na ganyan pa ang takbo ng isip....

    best that you can do.. file for child support... or kung wala din maibigay yang lalaking yan.. pabayaan mo na sila.. makakarma din sila... makikita mo... we can't force ourselves sa mga taong ayaw sa atin.. habang nilalapit mo sarili mo sa kanila mas lalong ikaw ang kakamuhian niyan... set him free.... then pamper yourself... love your self more....
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ravencurl wrote: »
    ndi ko daw siya inalagaan.
    Bakit LUMPO ba siya na kailangang alagaan?!?!?!?!
    ndi raw ako naging mabuting asawa. he wants to be served ksi.
    'Di niya kailangan ng asawa ... kailangan niya'y INDAY MAID MUCHACHA ACHAY ALILA.
    traditional male species.

    I disagree, he's a NEANDERTHAL not human. F.U.C.K. him!

    -Just_JT aka "Boss Pogi"
    Magsama.silang.mga.P*u*?*e*t*a.sila!! :angry:
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ravencurl wrote: »
    If i file child support, of course he would demand from me his right to see his kid. Na sa ngayon ayaw ko pakita coz I dont want to allow him to bring my bby without me ksi bka kunin sakin..

    If you can prove to the family court that he is a kidnap risk, then he still has to pay child support without visitation privileges. Kuha ka ng mahusay na family lawyer.
    I want a whole family and I can sacrifice. But I know it will be difficult to patch things up if it will only be me who wants to save our marriage..he's not sorry..

    Tanggapin mo nang TAPOS na kayo. THE END...FIN.

    -Just_JT aka "Boss Pogi"
    Just.focus.on.your.child.who.needs.you.the.most.
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    mrs. threadstarter:

    imho, kahit hindi man kayo matuloy sa hiwalayan, mukhang magiging turbulent ang inyong pagsasama. to the point na maaaring mas makakapag bigay pa ito ng mga unwanted psychological scars sa bata.

    sa kuwento ninyo, hindi mo na 'hawak' ang mister mo. pag umuwi sa bahay ninyo.. oo 'hawak' physically pero mukhang nagbago na ang loyalty ni mister. ito ang masakit dito pag nasa gitna na ng marriage tsaka nangyayari ito.. yaay. walang absolute 'ownership' sa partner.. ke kasal kayo o hindi, puwede magbago anytime ang tao. sa mga panahon ngayon.. wala, 'sinasagasa' na ngayon ng iba kahit ang kasal.

    siguro, tulad ng opinion ng mga pexers, habulin na lang yung financial support galing sa kanya. beyond that point, there's nothing else you can do.

    goodie lak! :)
  • kasuhan mo na, tutal magsasama naman sila sa kulungan.
  • hehehe got a friend na ganyan din (guy)

    pero ala eh, napapailing nalang ako when he tries to justifies his wrongs.. kesyo di daw naalagaan, kesyo nagkaanak lang daw di na pinapansin, e parang di mo anak yun eh kung magsalita ka..

    IMHO, just focus on your life and kid. one day God permits makakakita ka din ng para sa iyo.

    ika nga, masama ang karma
  • blue_tracerblue_tracer PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    siyempre, mabigat (marriage) na itong tatalikuran/tatakasan niya.. kaya, kung ano-ano nang excuses ang hahagilapin.

    married din yun pupuntahan ni mister.. abah eh super gulo ito..
  • let them be, your child doesn't need a father like that.
    File for child support and forget him
  • ainabrualainabrual PEx Rookie ⭐
    kakalungkot naman po situation nyo.just hold on for yourself and for your kid.

    i suggest,"don't get mad,get even."
    sue them both,not for revenge, para malaman lang nila ang consequence ng ginawa nila.dahil if you let them get away with this,they would think that they can get away with everything,who knows what your bad husband might do next?he has done the worst,he can do it again,or something more diabolical.at least if you sue their a**es off,alam nilang you're not that easy to deal with.you'll earn the respect you thought you never had in yourself.

    assuming you win the case,which is likely to happen,you already filed for support,because of bad conduct,maybe the court would not be able to grant visitation to the child.mas maganda yun,at least makakapagfocus ka with the child.

    lastly,try to forget him by being busy in every way you can.its a a hard and long process,but you're strong.you can do this.think of yourself and your child.

    keep praying and godbless!
  • sya ang walang kwenta hindi ikaw. kasuhan mo at pag nakulong sana reypin sya ng mga kasama nya sa selda ng magtino.
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