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gaano katagal inabot ang naging away niyo ng friend mo?

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  • chinita_ksachinita_ksa Member PExer
    ako, i just recently found out that one of my friends in the workplace betrayed me....kumare ko pa naman. alam ko feel na nya na may gap kami ngayon but we never confronted abt it (sayang lang ang effort)....kaya plastikan na ito. i guess this would take forever na kse it meant my career. dahil sa kanya, naparusahan akong maghanap ng ibang place to work. sna lang God would help me find a good one as soon....
  • LabuyoXVIIILabuyoXVIII Member ✭✭✭
    Me and my best friend back in grade school stopped talking from 6th grade until before we graduated Senior year in high school - that's around 4-5 years. I forgot na what the big deal was, pero back then it was a big deal with people around us. Ego and pride ang labanan, I was dating a girl back then and we broke up. A few weeks after, I found out she was already going out with my best mate.

    We "patched" things up before graduating. They (my mate and my ex) has a child together. People were asking me if it's ok for me to be the ninong, pero I politely declined.

    Everything's water under the bridge now.
  • chinita_ksachinita_ksa Member PExer
    ah, it really hurts, labuyo.....
  • LabuyoXVIIILabuyoXVIII Member ✭✭✭
    ah, it really hurts, labuyo.....

    The only time it hurt was when my ex told me she was starting to fall for my "friend". Everything else, I endured during the time me and my friend weren't talking. When they finally got together and found out she got pregnant, it was already nothing to me.

    I just don't think it would be appropriate if I were to be ninong of their kid.
  • JUST_JTJUST_JT Banned by Admin PExer
    The only time it hurt was when my ex told me she was starting to fall for my "friend". Everything else, I endured during the time me and my friend weren't talking. When they finally got together and found out she got pregnant, it was already nothing to me.

    I just don't think it would be appropriate if I were to be ninong of their kid.

    LabuyoXVIII hijo,

    Maikli lamang ang buhay natin sa daigdig na ito kaya lubusin natin ang buhay. Sayang ang pagod mo kung may pasan kang hinanakit sa ibang tao - ikaw lamang naman ang nahihirapan. Anuman ang nangyari noong nakalipas, patawarin mo na sila. Wika nga, "life goes on."

    At hindi dapat pinahahaba ang alitan. Pag-usapan ang mga bagay-bagay upang magkaliwanagan. Ngayon kung mayroon talagang 'di mapagkasunduan, "just agree to disagree without being disagreeable."

    Good luck sa lahat.

    -Just_JT
  • chinita_ksachinita_ksa Member PExer
    The only time it hurt was when my ex told me she was starting to fall for my "friend". Everything else, I endured during the time me and my friend weren't talking. When they finally got together and found out she got pregnant, it was already nothing to me.

    I just don't think it would be appropriate if I were to be ninong of their kid.

    it depends on u labuyo....kung ayaw mo naman, as u did, u can politely decline. let me share u a story....i know this is not related to this topic but it cld be somewhat related to ur situation. when my ex-bf got married kinuha pa nyang ninong yung dad ko!!! i really didn't know what's his intention why he did that...though it doesn't matter kse i already have my own family that time na rin...hiya nga yung mom nya when she approached my mom about her son's idea.

    i suggest u just act civil with each other. being acquainted with each other would be enough. magtira ka naman ng pride para sa sarili mo....:)
  • LabuyoXVIIILabuyoXVIII Member ✭✭✭
    JUST_JT wrote: »
    LabuyoXVIII hijo,

    Maikli lamang ang buhay natin sa daigdig na ito kaya lubusin natin ang buhay. Sayang ang pagod mo kung may pasan kang hinanakit sa ibang tao - ikaw lamang naman ang nahihirapan. Anuman ang nangyari noong nakalipas, patawarin mo na sila. Wika nga, "life goes on."

    At hindi dapat pinahahaba ang alitan. Pag-usapan ang mga bagay-bagay upang magkaliwanagan. Ngayon kung mayroon talagang 'di mapagkasunduan, "just agree to disagree without being disagreeable."

    Good luck sa lahat.

    -Just_JT

    Salamat, matagal nang tapos ang episode na yan sa buhay naming tatlo. Malapit na ngang mag-grade one ang anak nila eh.

    Like what I wrote on my first post, the issue that me and my friend had was pretty immature and egoistic. Dinaan namin lahat sa pride ang lahat. Naging contest siya ng kung sino ang mas malaki ang pride - at ang talo, kailangang lunukin ang pride niya. Andun na din yung - "hindi naman ako ang may kasalanan, bakit kailangan kong humingi ng tawad?". And like what I said, before we graduated from high school, we guys patched things up.

    Yes, I politely declined. Siyempre, kapag may class reunions, may mga konting hiritan pero wala na naman. Everything is water under the bridge now. Hindi na namin nabalik ng best friend ko yung same friendship that we had then, pero I think that's how it goes. Me and my ex, we're ok. Whenever we see each other, we do small talk.

    Natutunan ko din kasi while getting older na bitterness, anger, and personal grudges hinder our growth as a person. If you hold on to that bitterness, ikaw ang talo. Dahil most likely, to the other person, wala na yun. Nakalimutan na nila yun. So, ikaw na lang ang naghihimutok sa mga nangyari sa buhay mo.

    I just want to set the record straight. Baka kasi na-misunderstand niyo ako. :D
  • keyjeykeyjey ninja.nagwiwiwi.sa.dilim. PExer
    meron yung time nung highschool na nahati ang barkada namin sa dalawa

    all-boys yung school namin noon kaya medyo matataas ego ng bawat isa
    nagsimula lang sa isang bagay tapos dumami na ng dumami

    4th year highschool kami nun, alam namin na magkakahiwa-hiwalay na kami after nang schoolyear na yun kaya hindi rin kami nagkatiisan
    at nagkabati-bati din makalipas ang ilang buwan

    hanggang ngayon magkakaibigan parin kami *okay*
  • maldikatzmaldikatz Member PExer
    My only ka-age lady friend here in the province, two years na kami hindi nagkikita. Last time I saw her, inutangan ako. Yun utang niya before that, hinayaan ko na nga. Next kita namin pag umutang uli, ipapaalala ko na sa kanya na magbayad na siya. Nakakapikon na siya.

    My guy bestfriend, one year kami hindi nagpansinan after magsigawan. We're back to being friends now, pero may lamat na.
  • ard79ard79 Member PExer
    just want to share, just recently me and my bestfriend are not in talking terms for a month now, siguro ego and pride din ang pinairal naming dalawa, what pains me is we are here in a foreign place kami lang talaga magkasangga, we have been friends back in the PI. We have no family to rely on for emotional support, maraming Filipinos but you can't trust everybody since you just meet them here, mahirap magtiwala ika nga. I really miss her though.
  • Chimera101Chimera101 tensai desu! PExer
    same tau ng situation ard79....

    almost 6 months din kami di nagusap ng so called user friendly ko dahil na rin sa pride at sa kagagawan ng magaling niyang asawa... bago kami lumipat ng asawa ko e nagusap kami para wala silang masabi sa amin...last month nagkita kami pero syempre plastikan na lang di tulad before...
  • I have two bestfriends. I had a fight with both of them before. First one lasted for a year and the second one about 2 years.. It's hard to fight with your bestfriends.. Lalo na if she/he betrayed you.. Really painful..
  • funzenfunzen Blood+ ✭✭
    Me and my <I call her xbff now because I don't think the term bestfriend applies to us anymore> stopped talking since May. It was after more than a decade of friendship...

    Just like labuyo's post, perhaps it's ego/pride in my part. I could try and accept her decisions but my pride is getting in the way (that and the fact that I could not respect her decision even if I didn't have any pride to stop me). And just like JUST_JT said, ako din talo if I keep on wallowing in bitterness... but I could not let go. Not yet.

    Perhaps in time... I guess sayang lan un pinagsamahan namin. It won't be the same again; and at our age, one can't find someone whom one could be as comfortable with as I am with my xbff...

    But between the two of us, xbff's better off than I am. I was left alone... hmm.. well, that was my decision too. It was either being alone or accepting what she did... I'd rather do the former.
  • Mickey2000Mickey2000 TheFoodBlogger ✭✭✭
    wow! super agree naman ako kay JUST_JT this time, tama iyan,na realized ko rin buti na lang at hindi pa huli ang lahat, ako pa man din yung tipong pag kaaway, for life na kaaway na yun hanggang libingan, but then tama sabi ni JUST_JT. Life must go on, saka parang mabigat din sa dibdib at kung minsan eh parang mabigat din tuloy ang dating ng grasya sa iyo, kasi di ba bitterness is negative, so parang it keeps attracting more negative vibes, kahit sabihing nahilom na ng panahon, iba pa rin yung tipong,wala na talaga yun, as in you can greet each other na pag nagkasalubungan.
  • decentdecent Poor Guy but Rich Spirit PExer
    months lang ata..
  • i don't know how you would call mine...pero, me and my ex best-friend had a HUGE fight a couple of months ago. Talagang brother ang turingan namin sa isa't isa. We did everything together, relayed all of our problems to each other, and would start a random convertexting about something random that happen during our day and it would just go on till one of us falls asleep. total bromance i tell you.

    I guess what started the fall out was when i started to notice na he has changed, meaning we don't hang out that often anymore, texting was totally forgotten, etc. i tried to relive our old ways by initiating everything. i tried hitting him up if he wants to hang out everytime i have the time, start a convertexting, everything. i think what made me confront him about the situation was that he all of a sudden started avoiding me at work. that really did it for me.

    the confrontation was very heated, it lead to other things that happened in the past. then next thing you know, he said that i apparently was too clingy of a friend to him lately, that he just can't deal with the "expectations" i have as a best friend, and that i've become so much of a burden to him...so he rather just not have my title of a "best friend." i was just heartbroken. my actions of trying to relive some of the things we've done as best friends was viewed as me being clingy and having "expectations" of him. and seriously, i was left asking myself wtf did i do to be called like this?

    next thing you know, i was so desperately hurt, i started just chewing his ass out...calling him names, telling him what people really think of him, and just my utter disgust as to what just happened. and then i found myself telling him that, if this is how you viewed me and my friendship with you...i don't think we were even friends at all. so after that, we both agreed na we were cool with each other before we were friends, we should just be like that.

    sobra talaga ang galit ko sa kanya...talagang sobrang sakit. for me, with me just going through it, mas masakit ang makipag break sa isang kaibagan than your beau coz' you expect your friends (specially best friend who you treated like your brother) to be there no matter what. correct me if i'm wrong, pero more often that not, we kinda view friendship as a more permanent relationship than a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. specially when you realize that the safety net, the comfort that you can always rely on, is no longer there. and i think for him to call me a burden and all of those things can take a toll on you as a person, specially when you try to see where he's coming from and still see that you did nothing wrong to deserve those kind of hurtful words to be thrown at you.

    i haven't talked to him in a while...for months now, actually. pero lately nagpaparamdam sya, as if he's trying to reconnect. he would text me randomly, he'd try to talk to me during work, try to grab my attention, comment or laugh at conversation between me and other people...i try to acknowledge him out of being nice, pero i don't think i would want to reconnect with someone like that.

    i don't think my ego plays a part in this. it's more of a personal thing. we had a fight before, and it wasn't my fault. i tried to be the bigger man at nagpakumbaba ako...pero i don't think it's going to happen this time around.

    am i still hurting? yes, pero it's a mixture of me missing my best friend and the sting of what he said.
  • ^ hindi kaya kaya sya nagkakaganon eh na ro-romantically inclined na

    pala sya sayo without you knowing it? given the fact that your always

    together? :confused: (tanong lang po)
  • ...wakaranai...wakaranai nerd ~o-o~ PExer
    isang sem...

    because of academic stuff. ang babaw nga eh. buti na lang ok na kami, kaya lang nasa US naman siya ngayon, and i really miss her. :)
  • ^ hindi kaya kaya sya nagkakaganon eh na ro-romantically inclined na

    pala sya sayo without you knowing it? given the fact that your always

    together? :confused: (tanong lang po)

    hindi ko talaga alam...ang kinakatakutan ko eh baka naman he thinks im starting to be romantically inclined towards him...we might have been joking around of us playing gay for each other for the sake of laughs, pero that's that...

    ...he knows better...
  • shinjie_is_krenshinjie_is_kren Boy, Interrupted ✭✭
    Just recently... 2 or 3 months ata kaming hindi nagpansinan. Hindi ko alam yung dahilan, bigla nalang niya akong iniwasan. Pero okay na kami now.
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