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problem with a room mate..

i am a bedspacer at tumitira lang sa isang room with three other guys na di ko rin kilala..maayos naman yung room pati yung kasama ko sa room eh mababait naman except for one person that really annoys me..pwede ba yun matulog sya halfnaked with only boxers sa ibaba?buti sana kung solo lang sya sa room eh kaso apat kami eh..at tsaka eto pa..i have confirmed that this person is gay also..yesterday,since wala ako magawa at ako lang mag isa sa room eh naglinis ako ng kwarto..nung naglilinis ako,meron ako nakita sa ilalim ng bed nya a plastic of dvd's..chineck ko sya tpos nagulat ako..puro mga lalaking nakahubad..m2m eh..halos di ako makapaniwala eh..ang brusko kasi nun eh..may pagkawarfreak..di natatakot makipag away..hinamon nga nya isang room mate namin ng suntukan eh,buti di pumalag..paano ba **** papalag eh sa laki ba naman ng katawan eh..swimmer kasi tsaka babad din sa gym kaya malaki ang katawan..ngayon,dapat ba akong mailang sa kanya or umalis na lang kaya ako dun sa room?ano ba dapat kung gawin sa ganitong sitwasyon?
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  • lea454lea454 Member PExer
    Re: problem with a room mate..

    Well, kong wala naman siyang mga ginagawang masama, ***** wag ka nlang mailang o kaya aalis, nothing's happen naman. Be aware nalang siguro.

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  • haiphong phonghaiphong phong Member PExer
    Sorry to be harsh but GET OVER YOURSELF, homophobe. You have clearly have more problems with gay people than you let on. Di lahat ng bading mukhang parlorista. At di keso pa-macho, ay andun sa inyo upang biktimahin kayo. I don't know why straight men suddenly have the feeling that gay men will go sex maniac all over them when they are around.

    And I guess you're more concerned on how gay he is than you messing with his personal belongings and you hate having a ****** is living with you.
  • urbandub_top6urbandub_top6 Member PExer
    Sorry to be harsh but GET OVER YOURSELF, homophobe. You have clearly have more problems with gay people than you let on. Di lahat ng bading mukhang parlorista. At di keso pa-macho, ay andun sa inyo upang biktimahin kayo. I don't know why straight men suddenly have the feeling that gay men will go sex maniac all over them when they are around.

    And I guess you're more concerned on how gay he is than you messing with his personal belongings and you hate having a ****** is living with you.

    hindi ako homophobic no pero yun nakakatakot talaga lalo pa at puro nakahubad pa na lalaki ang pinapanood nya..pag nalibugan yun at di na nakapapigil eh baka mag"face the wall" na lang ako bigla..you may never know what's in his mind..buti na lang victory sya kaya sana naman eh wala syang maisip na masamang gawin..dapat kasi sa kanya eh magladlad na lang para malinaw ang lahat..para alam ko na din kung paano kikilos sa harapan nya..
  • mindweavermindweaver the chosen one... ✭✭✭
    As for you, Bakit mo ba naman kasi pinakialaman yung bed ng room mate mo? Isipin mo nalang kung sayo nya gawin yun. Basta wag mo na lang pansinin kung wala naman syang ginagawang hindi maganda sayo. Just keep your guards on. Hindi naman sa against ako sa mga bading pero minsan kapag discreet di mo alam takbo ng utak nyan. Since lahat kayo guys baka may something sa inyo yan. Wag mo na lang pansinin. Just do your thing; kung di ka naman na haharrass what's for you to bother dba? Tsaka pareho naman kayo lalaki naalangan ka ba don?

    For him, Mukhang nakakatakot nga sya. brusko at siga. Siguro yun yung way nya na hindi sya mahalatang bading. O baka naman kaya Chickboy yan - pwede sa chick pwede sa boys. nako. I have nothing against sa mga bading ah. As long hindi sya gumagawa ng masama at may disposisyon ok lang.
  • Ice BurnIce Burn Conflicting Karma ✭✭
    Your roommate should beat the crap out of you for snooping around his stuff.

    What a narrow minded homophobe you are. Just because the guy is gay doesn't mean he's going to jump on you. It's stupid to assume that all gays are sex crazed maniacs who'd jump on the first straight guy given the chance. And aren't you getting ahead of yourself by thinking that your roommate has the hots for you.

    Honestly move out because it's your own narrowmindedness that will make things uncomfortable for everyone. Your roommates deserve a better roommate. One who will NOT SNOOP THROUGH THEIR STUFF!
  • urbandub_top6urbandub_top6 Member PExer
    Ice Burn wrote: »
    Your roommate should beat the crap out of you for snooping around his stuff.

    What a narrow minded homophobe you are. Just because the guy is gay doesn't mean he's going to jump on you. It's stupid to assume that all gays are sex crazed maniacs who'd jump on the first straight guy given the chance. And aren't you getting ahead of yourself by thinking that your roommate has the hots for you.

    Honestly move out because it's your own narrowmindedness that will make things uncomfortable for everyone. Your roommates deserve a better roommate. One who will NOT SNOOP THROUGH THEIR STUFF!

    first you got me all wrong..di ako pinalaki ng magulang ko na makialam or manghalukay ng gamit ng ibang tao lalo na kung personal na bagay na yun..if you read carefully my post,i said i was cleaning our room kasi madumi na eh.syempre buong room lilinisan ko nun..nung nagwalis na ako,tiyempo naman na nawalis ko ay yung plastic ng dvd and since i watch dvd movies a lot,i thought that it wouldn't hurt to check them out..di naman diary or personal na gamit yun..tsaka,it was not intentional nga eh..buti sana kung pumunta ako dun sa drawer nya or aparador to check his things..di naman ganun ang case..anyway,i dont regret finding it out,now i know better..
    on your second point,in as much as i wanted to keep an open mind and think that he's harmless..ayoko rin naman magpakampante..maraming elements that could make me think that he could do something bad against me..after all,di ko rin naman talaga sya kilala ng lubusan..if only he could be out in the open and assure me na di nya or kami tataluhin eh mas kampante ako nun..
    last point,i dont have anything against sa mga bading as long as they are honest and not pretending something they are not..i respect these people's rights..i dont judge a book by it's cover!
  • console addictconsole addict PS3/PSP/NDS/Wii/XBOX360 PExer
    if you're still bothered by it, move out, rent a room na sa iyo lang...
  • drei_mataridrei_matari "the real one is not me" PExer
    Ice Burn wrote: »
    Your roommate should beat the crap out of you for snooping around his stuff.

    What a narrow minded homophobe you are. Just because the guy is gay doesn't mean he's going to jump on you. It's stupid to assume that all gays are sex crazed maniacs who'd jump on the first straight guy given the chance. And aren't you getting ahead of yourself by thinking that your roommate has the hots for you.

    Honestly move out because it's your own narrowmindedness that will make things uncomfortable for everyone. Your roommates deserve a better roommate. One who will NOT SNOOP THROUGH THEIR STUFF!

    aren't you being narrowminded yourself? can you read between the lines?

    first, yung roommate ng TS eh malaki ang katawan kasi nga babad sa gym tapos may pagkawarfreak pa so iisipin is machong-macho and yung tipong di mo gustong makabangga kasi nga bugbog-sarado ang kauuwian mo. tapos, he discovered those DVDs which revealed na his roommate is gay/bi pala. ano yun? front niya yung pagiging warfreak para itago yung orientation niya? YES! Wala namang problema kung anuman ang gender mo pero ang point dito is masyadong pretentious yung roommate. astigin siya pero di mo alam he set his eyes na pala on one of his roommates. para din yang straight guy na pretending to be nice sa isang girl pero in reality is, kung anu-anong kamanyakan na pala ang naiisip niya sa girl.

    and as for the DVDs, paano nga kung aksidente lang niya nakita yun. i used to be a bedspacer before. pag nagwawalis ako eh syempre, damay yung buong sahig. i believe ganun din yung TS.pero unlike TS, wala naman akong nakita na di dapat makita sa ilalim ng sahig

    i believe it's the other way around. It's the TS who deserved a better roommate. hindi pa niya nadidiscover yung mga DVDs, annoyed and uncomfortable na siya dun sa roommate, lumala pa nga after that. so sa TS, kung talagang di ka komportable, move out. or, consider mo muna to:

    a. kung lilipat ka ba, mapapalayo ka sa work/school mo?
    b. deadma mode ba kayo ng roommate mo? as in, walang way para magkausap kayo or magkaaway.

    kung parehong YES ang sagot mo, then stay ka muna. as long as di ka naman ginagalaw (no pun intended) ng roommate mo at tingin mo eh matatagalan mo naman e di steady ka lang. malay mo, maging magkaibigan pa kayo (sabi mo naman, di ka homophobe).
  • Ice BurnIce Burn Conflicting Karma ✭✭
    ^^So I should assume that the gay guy is going to rape the TS based on in between the lines? :lol:

    What I see is a guy who likes to work out, is closet gay and arrogant and astigin, perhaps to hide the fact that he's gay. Or perhaps he's a macho gay. I've met really manly gay men. Not every gay guy acts like a parlorista.

    Now there's the roomie who is scared shitless because he found out his buff roomie is gay and comes to the assumption that his roomie going to jump him just because he's a buff gay.

    Has the gay dude ever made advances to his roommate? Doesn't seem that way because TS never said anything. The TS is just assuming that just cause the guy is gay, works out and puts on a macho facade means he's going to jump on him. Right... :lol:
    nung naglilinis ako,meron ako nakita sa ilalim ng bed nya a plastic of dvd's..chineck ko sya tpos nagulat ako

    if that ain't pakikialam i don't know what is. It's under the person's bed and you checked it? :rolleyes:

    TS if it bothers you that much. MOVE OUT. It as simple as that.
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    PEx getting trolled hard again.
  • hicorthicort Member PExer
    What's the proplem being lived with a gays, or closet guys. They are also human At mabuti nga may naaamoy ka na sa gender niya kaya masmadali na makisama sa kanila. Ang hindi ko gusto ay yung mga roommates na magugulo at may mga masasamang bisyo. .....at saka malakas mag hilik:lol:
  • albyalby Member PExer
    mas gugustuhin ko na yung roommate ko ay gay kesa pakialamero sa gamit ng may gamit.
  • LimpBwiZitLimpBwiZit i know you want me ✭✭✭
    I grew old in the company of roommates and I always had gay roommates since I started to live in dormitories/boarding houses (first lived in a dorm when I was 12 and probably had more than 50 different roommates until I had my own apartment when I was 21).

    Distinguish natin ang closet gays sa openly gays. Since ang concern mo ay about a probable closet gay, I'll share my experience with probable closet roommates I had and how I handled them.

    1. "Daddy Roommate"I was 12 yrs old and this closeted roommate was 32 (?). Old enough to be my dad. Professor sya. Our 2 other roommates - 1 is openly gay (i.e., he joins beauty pageants left and right)and 19 yrs old, and the other one was 23 (?), and somehow, suspicious din, kung kikay routine nya ang pag-uusapan, given that hindi pa mainstream ang "metrosexual" nung early 90s and his frequent comment about my a$$, which he always said gusto nyang i-spank. These two other were college students. As to how i got there, sabi ng dorm matron, kid pa daw kasi ako kaya she separated me from the rowdy older guys and doon nya ako nilagay sa room ng mga "mababait".

    Anyway, yong older guy ang pag-usapan natin coz sya ang medyo may ginawang "masama" sa akin. He always fed me with porno magazines (playboy, penthouse, etc). Of course, enjoy na enjoy naman ako coz approaching puberty na ako that time. Medyo naging suspicious ako when the parlorista roommate of ours started to openly talk that the old guy is gay. Medyo naging conscious ako coz this guy treated me like a son (buying me stuff and all) and brought me to nightclubs (in the province, hindi sila strict sa pagpasok ng minors sa mga hubad-hubad). So I avoided going out with him and started hanging out with people my age. And since i avoided him, medyo nagtaka sya kung bakit, and parang naging cold sa akin.

    Eventually, lumipat ako ng room. parang hindi na nabalik sa dati ang pakikitungo namin sa isa't isa. ewan, hindi naman na-confirm kung gay talaga sya, pero i just thought napaka-presumptuous ko and didn't give him the benefit of the doubt.

    2. The Lolo bading - Tinubuan ako ng sungay dahil sa pagbabarkada and at 15, and one of the more "senior" (in terms of residence) in the dorm, naging bad influence daw ako sa mga residents sa dorm (who were much older than me...lolz) so the dorm matron kicked me out.

    ewan ko if my mom had something to do with it (para tumino ako?) pero i found myself sharing a room with a 60-something guy in a boarding house. he was a government employee. Kasi nga medyo mahaba ang sungay ko at this period of my life, i was vocal enough to tell the landlady that i was kindov scared of the old guy coz i woke up one night, hinihimas nya ako (apparently, late syang umuwi, di daw nya binuksan ang ilaw coz baka magising ako and he was groping in the dark, kaya nya ako nahawakan). I think i embarassed the old man, he took a leave from his work and he went home to his province. Still, i kinda felt bad na sobra naman ata ang pag-retreat nya. Anyway, i left that place and moved somewhere else.

    3. "roommate & best friend"Freshman ako sa college sa metro manila na. 2 lang kami sa room coz ganun ang set-up sa dorm namin. This guy, also a freshman, meron syang "best friend" na taga-ibang room. Yong "best friend" nya ay medyo heartthrob sa mga ka-drom namin na girls and sa school. Every night, nasa room namin ang best friend nya and nagsusukat sila ng damit na isusuot nila next day (para daw attractive sila sa chicks). Pareho silang vain.

    Umabot na sa point na doon na natutulog ang best friend nya (tabi sila sa bed) and medyo na-inis na ako kasi pati gamit ko pinakialaman (i was surprised one day, nakasalubong ko yong best friend, suot-suot ang favorite shirt ko - then sabi lang sa akin: "uy, limp, hiniram ko pala"...wtf????). Worse, hindi na ako makatulog ng maayos coz silang 2, nagbubulungan sa bed nung roommate ko coz doon na talaga natutulog yong "best friend" nya.

    Ayoko naman i-embarass ang roommate ko (kasi, di ba, baka bigla syang mag-alsa balutan and umuwi sa mindanao and masira ang pag-aaral) by complaining to the dorm manager. kaya i talked to him, pero in a threatening manner (lolz...bully daw kasi ako). told him, dude, i don't care what type of relationship you have with that guy, thing is, him sleeping here every night and touching my stuff kindov annoys me, and i'm having acad problems, i need to catch up dahil baka ma-kick out ako sa school, i need to sleep well (7:00 AM kasi start ng class ko nun). but then, ikaw ang m,ay atraso sa akin, kaya hindi ako aalis, ikaw ang pinapaalis ko. sana sa usap-usapan lang ay umalis ka na, para wag nang umabot pa ito sa kung saan.

    kaya he packed up.

    4. "this guy's in love with you, pare" - probably my worst experience with a closeted roommate. this guy, matagal ko nang kilala and we decided to share a studio unit kasi we bumped into each other while looking for a place to stay.

    since matagal ko na syang kilala (mga kids pa lang kami, kilala ko na sya), hindi naman sumagi sa isip ko na closet sya. although when we moved in, medyo may mga napansin akong kaduda-duda sa kanya pero i shurgged them off coz matagal ko na syang kilala and wala naman akong narinig about him. madalas syang very late umuwi and then gigisingin ako, start telling me stuff about his one-night stand with some hot chick he picked up in a bar or so. ako naman, bilib na bilib (coz this guy's actually goodlooking and merong kotse, and ako, medyo low ang confidence ko sa itsura and coz never pa akong nagka-kotse that time, thought na kotse lang ang kasagutan sa inactive sex life ko).

    sometimes, he would drop by with really some hot chicks, pakilala nya sa akin, then off they go somewhere else. i found out later, magbabarkada lang pala lahat ng babaeng yon (they worked in an Ad firm, hence, madaming hot girls) and sinusundo nya lang when they go out (pero he would tell me afterwards, nag-one night stand sila and ako naman ay mamatay sa inggit and lungkot na lungkot na sa aking abang buhay).

    to cut the long story short, i just woke up one night kasi may nakapulupot sa akin and humahalik sa batok ko. naalimpungatan, lumingon ako to see kung sino and sya nga, si roommate and nag-attempt pa mag-kiss sa lips paglingon ko. i pushed him and then natulala lang ako, didnt know what to say. all i was able to say was ask him kung ano ginagawa nya sa bed ko. sya naman, biglang bangon, then nag-explain na nanaginip daw sya na ka-sex nya some hot girl na pinakilala nya sa akin and ewan ko kung maniniwala ako. sabay punta sa CR para mag-toothbrush coz kadiri daw at nadilaan nya ako. being a very good friend, di ko alam kung ano gagawin ko sa kanya. basta, nanood na lang ako ng TV hanggang umaga.

    for a couple of weeks, nag-crash in ako sa apartment ng barkada ko and pa-uwi-uwi na lang sa bahay unit namin to pick up some stuff. nahirapan ako coz ang layo ng bahay ng barkada ko and parang naawa na lang ako sa sarili ko coz para akong skwater (syempre, kung nakikitira ka lang, you should please everyone who are legit residents of the house). finally, i had all the courage to text him, told him na i just feel uncomfortable with him around, and ayoko syang i-embarass, and since ako naman ang agrabyado, and besides, ako ang nakahanap ng haus na yon, i should remain and sya ang dapat umalis. binigyan ko sya ng deadline to leave and i felt relieved nung nadatnan ko yong bahay and wala na yong mga gamit nya.

    he tried to get in touch with me after he left, parang gustong mag-explain, pero di ko binigyan ng chance, coz ewan, somehow, i felt na para akong pinagmukhang ****. parang putting the pieces together, ako naisip ko lang, bakit ang **** ko and didn't figure it out? basta, parang i felt na nagmukha pala akong syota-syota-an nya and i didn't notice it (sinusundo ako sa school, binibili ako ng mga damit, dinadala ako sa salon para pagupitan, and stuff...and ako namang ****, sunod ng sunod coz sya kasi ang "model" ko ng chickboy and ka-sosyalan, and i just thought that my rugged clothes and my bad boy attitude were all wrong).

    anyway, nag-asawa na sya and nung nagkausap kami after a long time, pinasalamatan nya ako for not telling anyone about his secrets (kasi, he disappeared for a while and his family asked me where he went, di ko naman alam, and asked me what happened and i never said a thing about his secret).

    anyway, to sum up the whole thing, eto lang ang natutunan ko:

    1. don't embarass him. kahit ano pa sya, embarassing him can result in dangerous reactions on his part, which reactions may jeopardize his career, studies, and even his life.

    2. kung wala syang ginawa sa iyo. just shut up. wala kang karapatan umangal kung hindi ka naman pinapakialaman.

    3. kung sa kanya ang problema mo, talk to him, not to other people. complaining to other people is actually tsismis in another form.

    4. treat him like a man, and he will act like one, hopefully.

    5. lastly, don't investigate and search his stuff to fish for evidence. remember, evidence illegally obtained is unreliable evidence and you're more guilty of intruding into his privacy than of him being gay.
  • crunchyrawrcrunchyrawr THE Ledge Dancer PExer
    ^^ nice one. andami mo nang na-experience ah. i like the 5 lessons in the end. gj! *okay*
  • urbandub_top6urbandub_top6 Member PExer
    LimpBwiZit wrote: »
    I grew old in the company of roommates and I always had gay roommates since I started to live in dormitories/boarding houses (first lived in a dorm when I was 12 and probably had more than 50 different roommates until I had my own apartment when I was 21).

    Distinguish natin ang closet gays sa openly gays. Since ang concern mo ay about a probable closet gay, I'll share my experience with probable closet roommates I had and how I handled them.

    1. "Daddy Roommate"I was 12 yrs old and this closeted roommate was 32 (?). Old enough to be my dad. Professor sya. Our 2 other roommates - 1 is openly gay (i.e., he joins beauty pageants left and right)and 19 yrs old, and the other one was 23 (?), and somehow, suspicious din, kung kikay routine nya ang pag-uusapan, given that hindi pa mainstream ang "metrosexual" nung early 90s and his frequent comment about my a$$, which he always said gusto nyang i-spank. These two other were college students. As to how i got there, sabi ng dorm matron, kid pa daw kasi ako kaya she separated me from the rowdy older guys and doon nya ako nilagay sa room ng mga "mababait".

    Anyway, yong older guy ang pag-usapan natin coz sya ang medyo may ginawang "masama" sa akin. He always fed me with porno magazines (playboy, penthouse, etc). Of course, enjoy na enjoy naman ako coz approaching puberty na ako that time. Medyo naging suspicious ako when the parlorista roommate of ours started to openly talk that the old guy is gay. Medyo naging conscious ako coz this guy treated me like a son (buying me stuff and all) and brought me to nightclubs (in the province, hindi sila strict sa pagpasok ng minors sa mga hubad-hubad). So I avoided going out with him and started hanging out with people my age. And since i avoided him, medyo nagtaka sya kung bakit, and parang naging cold sa akin.

    Eventually, lumipat ako ng room. parang hindi na nabalik sa dati ang pakikitungo namin sa isa't isa. ewan, hindi naman na-confirm kung gay talaga sya, pero i just thought napaka-presumptuous ko and didn't give him the benefit of the doubt.

    2. The Lolo bading - Tinubuan ako ng sungay dahil sa pagbabarkada and at 15, and one of the more "senior" (in terms of residence) in the dorm, naging bad influence daw ako sa mga residents sa dorm (who were much older than me...lolz) so the dorm matron kicked me out.

    ewan ko if my mom had something to do with it (para tumino ako?) pero i found myself sharing a room with a 60-something guy in a boarding house. he was a government employee. Kasi nga medyo mahaba ang sungay ko at this period of my life, i was vocal enough to tell the landlady that i was kindov scared of the old guy coz i woke up one night, hinihimas nya ako (apparently, late syang umuwi, di daw nya binuksan ang ilaw coz baka magising ako and he was groping in the dark, kaya nya ako nahawakan). I think i embarassed the old man, he took a leave from his work and he went home to his province. Still, i kinda felt bad na sobra naman ata ang pag-retreat nya. Anyway, i left that place and moved somewhere else.

    3. "roommate & best friend"Freshman ako sa college sa metro manila na. 2 lang kami sa room coz ganun ang set-up sa dorm namin. This guy, also a freshman, meron syang "best friend" na taga-ibang room. Yong "best friend" nya ay medyo heartthrob sa mga ka-drom namin na girls and sa school. Every night, nasa room namin ang best friend nya and nagsusukat sila ng damit na isusuot nila next day (para daw attractive sila sa chicks). Pareho silang vain.

    Umabot na sa point na doon na natutulog ang best friend nya (tabi sila sa bed) and medyo na-inis na ako kasi pati gamit ko pinakialaman (i was surprised one day, nakasalubong ko yong best friend, suot-suot ang favorite shirt ko - then sabi lang sa akin: "uy, limp, hiniram ko pala"...wtf????). Worse, hindi na ako makatulog ng maayos coz silang 2, nagbubulungan sa bed nung roommate ko coz doon na talaga natutulog yong "best friend" nya.

    Ayoko naman i-embarass ang roommate ko (kasi, di ba, baka bigla syang mag-alsa balutan and umuwi sa mindanao and masira ang pag-aaral) by complaining to the dorm manager. kaya i talked to him, pero in a threatening manner (lolz...bully daw kasi ako). told him, dude, i don't care what type of relationship you have with that guy, thing is, him sleeping here every night and touching my stuff kindov annoys me, and i'm having acad problems, i need to catch up dahil baka ma-kick out ako sa school, i need to sleep well (7:00 AM kasi start ng class ko nun). but then, ikaw ang m,ay atraso sa akin, kaya hindi ako aalis, ikaw ang pinapaalis ko. sana sa usap-usapan lang ay umalis ka na, para wag nang umabot pa ito sa kung saan.

    kaya he packed up.

    4. "this guy's in love with you, pare" - probably my worst experience with a closeted roommate. this guy, matagal ko nang kilala and we decided to share a studio unit kasi we bumped into each other while looking for a place to stay.

    since matagal ko na syang kilala (mga kids pa lang kami, kilala ko na sya), hindi naman sumagi sa isip ko na closet sya. although when we moved in, medyo may mga napansin akong kaduda-duda sa kanya pero i shurgged them off coz matagal ko na syang kilala and wala naman akong narinig about him. madalas syang very late umuwi and then gigisingin ako, start telling me stuff about his one-night stand with some hot chick he picked up in a bar or so. ako naman, bilib na bilib (coz this guy's actually goodlooking and merong kotse, and ako, medyo low ang confidence ko sa itsura and coz never pa akong nagka-kotse that time, thought na kotse lang ang kasagutan sa inactive sex life ko).

    sometimes, he would drop by with really some hot chicks, pakilala nya sa akin, then off they go somewhere else. i found out later, magbabarkada lang pala lahat ng babaeng yon (they worked in an Ad firm, hence, madaming hot girls) and sinusundo nya lang when they go out (pero he would tell me afterwards, nag-one night stand sila and ako naman ay mamatay sa inggit and lungkot na lungkot na sa aking abang buhay).

    to cut the long story short, i just woke up one night kasi may nakapulupot sa akin and humahalik sa batok ko. naalimpungatan, lumingon ako to see kung sino and sya nga, si roommate and nag-attempt pa mag-kiss sa lips paglingon ko. i pushed him and then natulala lang ako, didnt know what to say. all i was able to say was ask him kung ano ginagawa nya sa bed ko. sya naman, biglang bangon, then nag-explain na nanaginip daw sya na ka-sex nya some hot girl na pinakilala nya sa akin and ewan ko kung maniniwala ako. sabay punta sa CR para mag-toothbrush coz kadiri daw at nadilaan nya ako. being a very good friend, di ko alam kung ano gagawin ko sa kanya. basta, nanood na lang ako ng TV hanggang umaga.

    for a couple of weeks, nag-crash in ako sa apartment ng barkada ko and pa-uwi-uwi na lang sa bahay unit namin to pick up some stuff. nahirapan ako coz ang layo ng bahay ng barkada ko and parang naawa na lang ako sa sarili ko coz para akong skwater (syempre, kung nakikitira ka lang, you should please everyone who are legit residents of the house). finally, i had all the courage to text him, told him na i just feel uncomfortable with him around, and ayoko syang i-embarass, and since ako naman ang agrabyado, and besides, ako ang nakahanap ng haus na yon, i should remain and sya ang dapat umalis. binigyan ko sya ng deadline to leave and i felt relieved nung nadatnan ko yong bahay and wala na yong mga gamit nya.

    he tried to get in touch with me after he left, parang gustong mag-explain, pero di ko binigyan ng chance, coz ewan, somehow, i felt na para akong pinagmukhang ****. parang putting the pieces together, ako naisip ko lang, bakit ang **** ko and didn't figure it out? basta, parang i felt na nagmukha pala akong syota-syota-an nya and i didn't notice it (sinusundo ako sa school, binibili ako ng mga damit, dinadala ako sa salon para pagupitan, and stuff...and ako namang ****, sunod ng sunod coz sya kasi ang "model" ko ng chickboy and ka-sosyalan, and i just thought that my rugged clothes and my bad boy attitude were all wrong).

    anyway, nag-asawa na sya and nung nagkausap kami after a long time, pinasalamatan nya ako for not telling anyone about his secrets (kasi, he disappeared for a while and his family asked me where he went, di ko naman alam, and asked me what happened and i never said a thing about his secret).

    anyway, to sum up the whole thing, eto lang ang natutunan ko:

    1. don't embarass him. kahit ano pa sya, embarassing him can result in dangerous reactions on his part, which reactions may jeopardize his career, studies, and even his life.

    2. kung wala syang ginawa sa iyo. just shut up. wala kang karapatan umangal kung hindi ka naman pinapakialaman.

    3. kung sa kanya ang problema mo, talk to him, not to other people. complaining to other people is actually tsismis in another form.

    4. treat him like a man, and he will act like one, hopefully.

    5. lastly, don't investigate and search his stuff to fish for evidence. remember, evidence illegally obtained is unreliable evidence and you're more guilty of intruding into his privacy than of him being gay.

    thanks man.i appreciate it very much.for now,status quo na lang muna siguro.i will just try to be more vigilant with his actions.mahirap na eh.if i see a person who's drunk or a drug addict,do i have to wait for him to do harm to me before i can say that he is a harmful person?Can i not move away from him.Is it not true that prevention is better than cure?Ang masakit dito,kung yung kinatatakutan ko ay mangyayari,habangbuhay ko na yun na maaalala at pagdudusahan..good for you,you seem ok despite those experiences..anyway,thanks again..
  • ACQUARIANACQUARIAN Member PExer
    feeling mo type ka niya o natatakot ka na ma-typean mo katawan niya?
  • urbandub_top6urbandub_top6 Member PExer
    Ice Burn wrote: »
    ^^So I should assume that the gay guy is going to rape the TS based on in between the lines? :lol:

    What I see is a guy who likes to work out, is closet gay and arrogant and astigin, perhaps to hide the fact that he's gay. Or perhaps he's a macho gay. I've met really manly gay men. Not every gay guy acts like a parlorista.

    Now there's the roomie who is scared shitless because he found out his buff roomie is gay and comes to the assumption that his roomie going to jump him just because he's a buff gay.

    Has the gay dude ever made advances to his roommate? Doesn't seem that way because TS never said anything. The TS is just assuming that just cause the guy is gay, works out and puts on a macho facade means he's going to jump on him. Right... :lol:



    if that ain't pakikialam i don't know what is. It's under the person's bed and you checked it? :rolleyes:

    TS if it bothers you that much. MOVE OUT. It as simple as that.

    No.moving out is not an option for me right now.bakit ka nga ba affected na affected tapos gusto mo pa akong ipabugbog dun sa room mate ko?may pagkawarfreak ka rin ah..nakakarelate ka ba dun sa room mate ko? or baka ikaw yun..are you upset because i found out your dirty little secret? if you find me not deserving to be a room mate,baka ikaw pwede ka maging room mate nun..hintay mo na lang na ma"face the wall" ka..tignan ko lang kung di ka umiyak or baka naman magustuhan mo pa yun..m2m..wag ka mag alala..wala kang talo dun..pogi,matangkad,may pinag aralan at malaki ang katawan..tsk tsk tsk..baka naglalaway ka na jan..kayo na lang magsama!*okay*
  • box.shortsbox.shorts Member PExer
    bakit naging bigdeal yun situation nung TS.... so nalaman mo na ganun trip nya.. bat ka naman ma-affect na dimo alam gagawin mo sa situation mo? eh ano ba paki mo dun? dedma lang dapat yun.. kanya kanyang trip mga tao (lalo na sa mga ganyang boarding house)

    eh ngayon concern ka....bakit kaya? natutok sa isip mo na pwedeng may mangyari sanyong dalawa? ano ba yan personal excitement? na nagulatang sa possible na mangyari? at dimo alam gagawin? nangyayari lang naman yang ganyang personal uneasiness pag may pagtingin ka rin dun sa tao eh hehehe aminin! peace!

    nakaaliw naman.
  • LimpBwiZitLimpBwiZit i know you want me ✭✭✭
    thanks man.i appreciate it very much.for now,status quo na lang muna siguro.i will just try to be more vigilant with his actions.mahirap na eh.if i see a person who's drunk or a drug addict,do i have to wait for him to do harm to me before i can say that he is a harmful person?Can i not move away from him.Is it not true that prevention is better than cure?Ang masakit dito,kung yung kinatatakutan ko ay mangyayari,habangbuhay ko na yun na maaalala at pagdudusahan..good for you,you seem ok despite those experiences..anyway,thanks again..

    isipin mo na lang, hindi bumenta ang pre-emptive self-defense ni Bush nung inatake nya ang Iraq.

    Nasaan ang weapons of mass destruction?

    E di sinong napahiya?
  • turatko!turatko! Member PExer
    So natatakot kang matira sa @ss? LOLS. Ganun ka ba kalampa para hindi makalaban? Lalake ka hindi ba?

    Peace out!
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