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Unrequited Love...

Here's my story, I have a bestfriend (he's a guy) and he's my officemate.. he has a long time GF of 6 years pero break na sila ngayun.. but, they still have communications with each other..nagkikita pa ren sila..gusto lang nila iretain yung friendship nila, since nagstart din sila as best of friends way back college..

the guy left the girl 'cause he fell inlove with a GRO.. the relationship lasted for a couple of months lang i think dahil complicated nga ang situation.. pero sobrang tinamaan yung bestfriend ko dun sa GRO to think na pinagpalit niya yung long time GF niya which has a professional career at wala ka reng tulak kabigin dahil mabait din..

the problem now is that, nung sila pa ng long time GF niya, i have feelings for him na.. :( pero alam kong kahit kelan hindi niya masusuklian yung love ko para sa kanya..pero sobrang nagulat ako na hihiwalayan niya din pala yun ng dahil sa isang p-o-k-p-o-k.. which saddened me a lot..

alam ko lahat sa kanya, since super close kami...lahat ng imperfections niya at lahat ng kalokohan niya alam ko.. pero balewala lang lahat yun saken... i still wanna be there for him coz i really care for him that much... ang sobrang nasasaktan ako pagnakikita ko siyang nasasaktan at nalulungkot.. :(

call me martyr, pero ganito eh.. ang hirap turuan ng puso...at sobrang hirap din ng situation ko... kasi nga officemates kami, lagi kami nagkikita, iisa ang set of friends namen..lagi magkausap.. gusto ko na ren mag move on pero kung resignation sa work lang ang bukod tanging solusyon eh hindi ko gagawin yun..

naiinis pa ako kasi iniwan na nga siya nung GRO, tinataguan na.. pero siya hoping pa ren.. ayaw pa ren i-let go yung feelings niya dun sa babaeng yun.. :(

alam ko pareho kaming t-anga, pero sino ba ang mas t-anga sameng dalawa...? inamin ko na sa kanya ang feelings ko, sabi niya kontrolin ko na lang daw.. ayaw niya daw na makadagdag pa ako sa isipin niya...

hay ang hirap... pero okay naman kami ngayun, pretending na walang nangyari/nangyayari... pero hindi ako sure kung pano ko mareresolve tong dilemma ko sa kanya... anu ba dapat kong gawin? patuloy ko pa ren ba siya dapat na mahalin kahit ende niya naman ako mahal? at ipakitang lage pa ren akong nandyan sa kanya in spite of it all?

unrequited love it is...:depressed:

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  • dphxdphx PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    I believe love is love and will always be that way no matter what happens along the way. I admire you for that. Somehow I can say I've been in that situation before. Continue to share what you have with him without expecting anything in return. Now that's love in its purest. You'll never know. A pleasant surprise might await you. Or might not. Still, that's what makes life interesting and worthwhile.

    Peace.
  • pareho lang kayo :bop:*peace* mahirap talaga one-sided love cuz you'll never be completely happy. You need to love someone else kasi di mo naman sya maalis sa mind and heart mo unless someone will replace him diba? you know he cant love you back so what will you do? you can either wait for him for God knows how long or give yourself a chance to open your heart to someone else. You must love yourself first before you can love someone. if you're able to accept that he doesnt love you, it's just a matter of time before the right guy will appear. Well, from your post i guess you've accepted it but chose to love him still. that's your choice. you know where you are in his life. but if you still want to be happy, then find that love you're craving for from someone else who could also love you back.
  • @dphx

    thanks, you made me smile.. :)

    @crazy4ken

    easier said than done though...kung sana madali lang makahanap ng taong mamahalin ulit....:depressed:
    siguro nga go with the flow na lang muna... hayst...
  • dphxdphx PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    @lilac_princess: I should know. There's always something good at the end of the rainbow. You may not see it now but it will appear at the right time. Just keep on livin' and lovin'.

    Peace.
  • matri_XXXXmatri_XXXX PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    hey lilac_princess, isa lang ibig sabihin nyan... di ka nya type darling... masaket man pero yun ang pagkaka evaluate ko... :D
  • ^ i beg to disagree.... :D dahil nung first time niya akong nameet eh naging crush niya ako... actually to tell you frankly we've been MUs before...but since mas nanaig nga ang love at concern niya sa long time GF niya, we've decided to just be plainly friends - bestfriends..since we're the closest friends in the office... our officemates even teased us, pero ayun deadma na lang...that was i think way back 2006.

    by then, kahit papano nakamove on ako...siya ren..eventually medyo nawala na yung sparks between us..pero the closeness remained.. ako ang number one confidante niya whenever he has problems with his GF, work, etc..

    super open namen sa isa't isa na lahat ng deepest darkest secrets ng bawat isa eh alam namen..those things na hindi niya nasasabi sa GF niya eh nakekwento niya saken..

    in short parang dikit na kami, let's just say we're more than friends but less than lovers na..

    now, i forced myself not to love him anymore since committed nga siya... i resisted every chance na ma-fall ulit ako sa kanya..and so i succeeded...but now, nung kinwento niya saken na he left his long time GF in exchange of that girl from the club, my initial reaction was: "what the *****!!!"

    and then ang daming nag-change sa kanya.. before he's the one convincing me to always have a positive outlook in life, pero ngayun punung-puno siya ng negative vibes.. my gawd! dun ako napaisip na if only i fought for my feelings before...siguro hindi yun mangyayari sa kanya.. :(

    pero wala eh.. nangyari na and wala naman din akong control sa future... ngayun, super attached na naman kami dahil sa problema niya.. kaya nanumbalik na naman yung feelings ko sa kanya at sobrang nasasaktan ako pagnakikita kong nasasaktan siya sa nangyari...

    the pain he's experiencing is twice the pain na nararamdaman ko.. :depressed:

    i dunno, is it because mahal ko talaga siya na sa mga nakalipas na taon e pinilit ko lang yun na ideny sa sarili ko? haaaayyy... buhayyyy... :mecry:
  • It's Monday and I'm feeling so helpless... ang hirap hirap talaga pag lagi mo kasama yung taong mahal mo pero kahit kelan ende ka mamahalin.. :( at ang sakit sakit pag lage niya pinamumukha sayo na may mahal siyang iba :mecry:

    pakanta na lang nga...

    I've known you for so long
    You are a friend of mine
    But is this all we'd ever be?
    I've loved you ever since
    You are a friend of mine
    But babe, is this all we ever could be?

    You tell me things I've never known
    I've shown you love you've never shown
    But then again, when you cry
    I'm always at your side
    You tell me 'bout the love you've had
    I listen very eagerly
    But deep inside you'll never see
    This feeling of emptiness
    It makes me feel sad
    But then again I'm glad

    I've known you all my life
    You are a friend of mine
    I know this is how it's gonna be
    I've loved you then and I love you still
    You're a friend of mine
    Now, I know friends are all we ever could be

    You tell me things I've never known
    I've shown you love you've never shown
    But then again, when you cry
    I'm always at your side
    You tell me 'bout the love you've had
    and I listen very eagerly
    But deep inside you'll never see
    This feeling of emptiness
    It makes me feel sad

    But then again
    Then again
    Then again I'm glad


    :depressed:
  • matri_XXXXmatri_XXXX PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    sister, kung ikaw ang first choice nya... di dapat sya napunta sa *****... baket napunta sya dun sa ***** eh nandyan ka naman?
  • ^ coz as i've said wala na siyang feelings saken...and he has a GF... ang tanong dapat baket pinagpalit niya yung matino niyang GF dun sa GRO... kahit hindi na lang ako eh.. alam niyo yun?

    ewan ko ba baket sobrang tinamaan siya dun sa babaeng yun..? sa totoo lang kaya naiinis din ako minsan kasi sa dinadami dami ng mamahalin mong guy dun pa sa sobrang daming flaws sa katawan..

    tipong sobrang opposite ng personality mo.. hindi naman siya kaguwapuhan para magdrool ka ng todo-todo sa kanya, masungit, palamura, sobrang igsi ng pasensya, masakit magsalita, mahilig pumunta sa mga clubs, palasigaw... haaayyy... pero sa lahat ng yun baket siya pa ren ng siya yung dinidikta ng puso ko? :(

    is love really blind?? kahit ang dami dami niyang imperfections sa katawan hindi ko magawang magalit sa kanya... hindi ko magawang magtanim ng sama ng loob sa kanya, kahit minsan lahat ng galit niya sa mundo saken niya binubuhos..

    minsan pag nagaargue kami sa isang bagay, lagi niya ako sinisigawan at minsan ang sasakit ng binibitawan niyang salita... may times pinangangalandakan niya saken na bat daw ako ganun sa kanya hindi naman daw niya ako GF.. :mecry:

    eh wala naman akong hinangad sa kanya kundi yung ikabubuti lang niya eh...kasi kinokontra ko talaga siya pag alam kong mali yung gagawin niya...

    sa totoo lang mas marami kasi kaming ini-spend na time together than his GF..shempre magkasama sa office, during lunch breaks at lahat na ata ng breaks.. sabay din minsan paguwian..

    kaya siguro sobrang naattached ako sa kanya... hay hirap... damn!:depressed:
  • ^^mag sex kayo once to get it over with^^
  • chevy_camaro23chevy_camaro23 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ^ :lol:

    stupid remark nga talaga... :glee:
  • ^ may times pinangangalandakan niya saken na bat daw ako ganun sa kanya hindi naman daw niya ako GF.. :mecry:

    My dear, you should limit doing this, acting like this one.
    Guys hate it when you try to act and pretend you're more than what he admitted to you. Be natural like before.

    My advice, do what you think is true to your heart. Only you knows the real him.
    If you think he'll be happy if someday he ends up with you, and if you feel there's a chance, (even just a little feeling), go on. You can flourish it through time, that's if you're patient enough.
    If you think not, it's better to start avoiding him.
  • ice breaker naman tong si stupid remark! Hehehe.
    Anyway my advice lilac princess, it's all in the mind. The more you think about it the more the issue gets bigger and bigger until it consumes you...which I hope not. I think you're a nice girl and not being judgmental or anything, mukhang di kayo bagay ng lalaking yon. Sorry for saying this pero if he like you enough he would have considered his feelings for you way back then. Wag mo ng isipin ang feelings mo sa kanya baka lumalaki na ulo non and isipin pang may fallback sya if everything else fails. You deserve someone who'll place you before anything else. So there. It's all in the mind.
  • Bagay kayo
  • @04shiver

    thanks sa advice :)

    @supremo elyag

    thanks din... siguro nga.. pero bakit nga ba ganun? sinasabi ng utak ko wag na.. pero sinasabi ng puso sige pa..sige lang..:depressed:
    puteks, hindi ko siya matiis eh...:(

    @imsosexy

    what made you said that? oo nga naman, parehas kasi kaming t-anga.. :(
  • Lola_RoseLola_Rose PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Wooow. I've experienced unrequited love. It's the most painful experience ever. :(
  • ^ totally agree... :(
  • ^tell me about it....

    ugh, four years of waiting for nothing.
  • Lola_Rose wrote: »
    Wooow. I've experienced unrequited love. It's the most painful experience ever. :(


    sabi nga nila, it is better to love (kahit unrequited) & get hurt, than never love at all :mecry:
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