New guy here. Need advice kaagad.

Legman

New lang ako dito but I've been lurking na rin. Decided to join kasi I have this small issue.

ganito yon. nag flirt sa akin yung co-worker/friend ng g/f ko. It happened not only once. I could not believe it at first kasi nga friend at officemate niya ang g/f ko. I consider her a friend din. in fact, sinasama namin siya kapag lumalabas kami ng g/f ko. (btw, she's single and no b/f that im aware of) ano kaya talaga ang pakay niya?

1. trip lang or asar lang sa akin (i cant think of a reason why she would do this to me.)
2. ske likes me pero umatras because she realized she values her friendship with my g/f.
3. she's bi/femme and likes my g/f. So by flirting with me, ginugulo niya ang isip ko at ang relation ko sa g/f ko.
4. nag feeling lang ako.

Ang gulo sa isip. Paramdam sucks. Napraning na ako so I manned up and confronted her. (Big mistake! I should not have confronted her, but imo, that's what I have to do to get to the bottom of it.) She denied flirting with me and said that she was never ever was interested in me.
It was/is perfectly ok with me if she was indeed not interested in me. BUT her flirting is patently undeniable. So bakit niya ginawa yun?

Nasa above 4 items ba ang sagot or wala? Ano sa tingin ninyo. Your point of view please. Thanks

anubistate

feeling mo lang yun.. wag mo lang bigyan malisya yung ginagawa nya.. control mah friend.

just enjoy it.

kiningining

definitely #4

The Kryptonian

Sorry dude, pero mukhang nag fee-feeling ka lng tlaga. Don't trust that feeling, you'll end up disappointed. Just enjoy what she is doing and don't be too self-assured.

Legman

Feeling ko lang nga siguro. Paano naman kasi niyaya na niya akong kumain sa kanyang condo nung nag business trip yung g/f ko sa Zamboanga. But I turned her down. And that following day (Friday) she phoned me first thing in the morning, inviting me again to her place for dinner. I told her I cant come kasi may gimmick ang barkada. I sensed in her voice that she was kinda irritated but then she changed gears and started sweet talking to me again. Pinipilit niya talaga ako kasi daw marami raw siyang niluto at may chilled wine pa daw siya. Of course sa barkada ako gumimik.

Legman

The Kryptonian wrote: »

Sorry dude, pero mukhang nag fee-feeling ka lng tlaga. Don't trust that feeling, you'll end up disappointed. Just enjoy what she is doing and don't be too self-assured.

I'm engaged to my sweetheart. Im not after her. It's the other way around if at all.
If you can see where Im coming from, I just wanted answers or explanation for her uncalled for behavior. Thank you guys for your point of view. It's a small issue that's bothering me. Yun lang

sweetwahm

Bat ba kasi you had to confront her point blank, nagmukha kang feeling tuloy. Sometimes subtle is the way to go.

Actually, me thinks she is flirting with you but if you're really not into her, di ka dapat affected Just avoid putting yourself in a situation where you might find yourself compromised, which is good you didn't take up her offer for gimik at her condo. Just continue evading her and seemingly come-hither attitude; if anything, be flattered nalang that she's being sweet to you. If she finally does get irritated or what, your friendship with her isn't worth it if it means selling out on your gf.

Ever mentioned to your gf that her friend is somewhat weired around you?

The Kryptonian

Legman wrote: »

I'm engaged to my sweetheart. Im not after her. It's the other way around if at all.
If you can see where Im coming from, I just wanted answers or explanation for her uncalled for behavior. Thank you guys for your point of view. It's a small issue that's bothering me. Yun lang

We all come to a point where we feel like everyone like us, while in reality they don't. It is just natural, basta don't assume bro. And i think you're ok nmn, i hope the answers will make you feel better.

Legman

sweetwahm wrote: »

Bat ba kasi you had to confront her point blank, nagmukha kang feeling tuloy. Sometimes subtle is the way to go.

Actually, me thinks she is flirting with you but if you're really not into her, di ka dapat affected Just avoid putting yourself in a situation where you might find yourself compromised, which is good you didn't take up her offer for gimik at her condo. Just continue evading her and seemingly come-hither attitude; if anything, be flattered nalang that she's being sweet to you. If she finally does get irritated or what, your friendship with her isn't worth it if it means selling out on your gf.

Ever mentioned to your gf that her friend is somewhat weired around you?

Oo nga e, kaya sabi ko big mistake I confronted her. Im practical kasi and brutally frank sometimes and I dont let no stones unturned.

I have never mentioned it to my g/f. Im handling it the best way I know. Thanks for your opinion.

rickym

just enjoy the feeling and don't worry about it. remember the one who worries loses.

pag nilasing ka at dinala ka sa motel huwag ka pumalag.

Legman

^^ Cynical but funny. Ok ka bro

iRie

before anything else i just have to ask, just how exactly did she flirt with you? concrete examples would be much appreciated.

tokeneng

Legman wrote: »

New lang ako dito but I've been lurking na rin. Decided to join kasi I have this small issue.

ganito yon. nag flirt sa akin yung co-worker/friend ng g/f ko. It happened not only once. I could not believe it at first kasi nga friend at officemate niya ang g/f ko. I consider her a friend din. in fact, sinasama namin siya kapag lumalabas kami ng g/f ko. (btw, she's single and no b/f that im aware of) ano kaya talaga ang pakay niya?

1. trip lang or asar lang sa akin (i cant think of a reason why she would do this to me.)
2. ske likes me pero umatras because she realized she values her friendship with my g/f.
3. she's bi/femme and likes my g/f. So by flirting with me, ginugulo niya ang isip ko at ang relation ko sa g/f ko.
4. nag feeling lang ako.

Ang gulo sa isip. Paramdam sucks. Napraning na ako so I manned up and confronted her. (Big mistake! I should not have confronted her, but imo, that's what I have to do to get to the bottom of it.) She denied flirting with me and said that she was never ever was interested in me.
It was/is perfectly ok with me if she was indeed not interested in me. BUT her flirting is patently undeniable. So bakit niya ginawa yun?

Nasa above 4 items ba ang sagot or wala? Ano sa tingin ninyo. Your point of view please. Thanks

Feeling ko type ka niya. I mean, she knows that such issues can breaking a relationship. Iilang babae lang kaya ang umaamin sa harap ng type nila lalaki kaya dineny niya sa harap mo. KOnting ingat lang.

I think it's best to tell your gf para malaman niya kung anong klaseng 'friend' siya. Baka kasi mapikot ka niya at di makapagcaution ang gf mo.

I, as a girl, strongly believe in friendship. I am ready to give up if I were in her case(your gf's friend).

ridler2012

If your a funny type of guy. You can ask her through a joke and you can get away easily if she said she's doesn't like you.

Type mo ako no? Baklita hindi tayo talo! Joke!

silvermug

hmm, gaano ba katatag ang feelings mo sa fiancee mo? you're engaged. you shouldn't be bothered by this.

ignore it. feeling mo lang yun. if she's sooo into you, so what? you're already engaged to a wonderful woman