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Its Hard To Be The Eldest....

its hard to be the eldest of the family lalo na kapag hindo mo kasundo lahat.Lahat ng cousins ko ayoko dahil iba interest nila and especially sobrang iba interest ko dahil nasa maturity level na ako. in short puro BI friends nila unlike me i want to meet professional people.Sobrang hirap ng status ko cause my parents is out of the country wala man lng ako makausap everytime i have a problem. Bakit ganun?...

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  • Kasi maraming expectations sa eldest, kaya more often than not, mabilis mag-mature. And mas natrai2n maging responsible ang mga eldest. =)
  • My life has been on hold for almost 4 years now since I chose to see to it that my 2 brothers gets a good start in their lives. I had it going really good sa USN(I was even recommended for Officer Training Program) but I chose them over my career instead.

    One of them followed my footsteps by joining the US Navy(Corpsman).. he's doing well so far, training as a Surgical Tech in SD.

    The youngest one is still thinking whether to join the Navy straight away after HS Graduation or go straight to college... and become a Navy Officer after graduating later on.

    Seeing them becoming mature and responsible individuals is a reward enough for me.


    Once my youngest bro graduates from High School next year, then I will continue on with my own thing.

    But yea, Eldest Brother is serious business, hehe! :lol:
  • high expectations are always present.. kasi tayo ang una sa lahat.. kaya all eyes are on us.
  • clawed_outclawed_out PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    No its not.

    As long as you can meet their expectations.

    Every one has their expectations for everything.

    Geez, what is this a pity party for people who can't seem to be getting it?
  • Kainis nga eh....amp..
    dahil ako unang mag ha-highschool sa aming magkakapatid.
    Gusto nila akong ilipat sa isang school, sa Quezon City Sci. (matataas din naman grades ko)..
    Hindi dahil sa ayaw ko sa skul na yun, ayaw kong magtransfer dahil masaya na ako sa school ko ngaun.for 8 years na din ako nagaaral dito noh!..hays..

    Iniyakan ko sila kaya ayun..stay na lang daw ako sa current school ko...

    haha.. (rebelde)
  • its hard to be the eldest of the family lalo na kapag hindo mo kasundo lahat.Lahat ng cousins ko ayoko dahil iba interest nila and especially sobrang iba interest ko dahil nasa maturity level na ako. in short puro BI friends nila unlike me i want to meet professional people.Sobrang hirap ng status ko cause my parents is out of the country wala man lng ako makausap everytime i have a problem. Bakit ganun?...

    true that being the eldest holds a lot of pressure, but don't try to impress--don't try to be the person they expect you to be because if you do, you'll be forever doomed to meeting such expectations... they love you, and surely, they'll accept you for whoever you are.

    if you really can't with your parents, share it with a friend. but try not to talk about it too much because you might just make it more of an issue.

    can't relate to your cousins? try looking up old photo albums with them. there's always something "homey" and funny about the past. and if you spend more of those quality bonding moments, for sure you'll be laughing just like the old times.;)
  • mahirap talaga pag ikaw yung pinakamatanda kasi ang daming expectations sa'yo, maraming responsibilidad, ikaw ang tatayong magulang pag nawala na ang mga parents, kailangan pagbigyan at pagpasensyahan ang masbatang kapatid!!

    sometimes i wish na kaisa-isang anak na lang ako!!
  • mahirap maging panganay?

    Sagot ko "Oo". alam nyo yun. parang malaki talaga ang expectations ng magulang mo sa iyo. ako kasi yung tipo ng tao na ibibigay yung buong sueldo ko sa parents ko (specially to my mom kasi siya ang nagbubudget) habang nagaaral pa yung mga kapatid ko.

    ok naman ang kita ni Mama at Papa pero marami kaming binabayaran (house and lot, sasakyan) tapos ang mahal pa ng tuition ng mga kapatid ko. kaya ayun, minsan nga nawawalan nako ng time sa sarili ko kasi gusto ko makapagsave ng pera, sa napakabata kong edad na 22, gusto ko na talagang mag-abroad para makaipon at matulong ng mas marami. i think next year matutuloy na talaga ako.


    meron pang time na minsan nag-aaway yung mama at papa ko siyempre ikaw ang pinakaunang maaapektuhan, paano kung maghiwalay sila tapos hindi na magbigay ng pera si Papa kay Mama eh palagay ko mahihirapan kami ni Mama na ipagpatuloy na pag-aralin yung mga kapatid ko. nakiakainis talaga yung dad ko, kung kelan tumanda saka naman nagloko, kung kelan tumanda saka nagkaroon ng mga chicks. buwisit na mga babaeng yun, dapat sa mga yun pinapatay kasi alam na nilang may asawa ang tao bat pa nila nilalandi!. ang problema naman nitong si Mama is sobrang bait nya. minsan nagtext siya sa akin na ako na daw bahala sa mga kapatid ko, kinutuban ako, then bigla akong napauwi sa amin sa province to comfort my Mom kasi nga nagkakaproblema sila ni Papa. sabi niya sa akin hindi daw siya makatulog. natatakot ako na baka magkanervous breakdown siya kasi may history sila ng ganun sa mother side.

    I'm quite frustrated.
  • YES mahirap tlga....
  • It's really hard to be the eldest, kasi na sa'yo lahat ng asa! Andyan yung sobrang mage-expect sa'yo yung parents mo. At dahil sa sobrang expectation nila sa'yo, sobrang hihigpitan ka nila, halos, pagbabawalan ka nilang magkaboyfriend, kasi nga sa'yo sila umaasa.

    That's what I'm currently experiencing. *sigh* Sobrang hirap talaga.., Unfair diba..*peace*
  • dphxdphx PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Being the eldest can be difficult as expectations of the family tend to focus more on the kuya or ate. Frankly, I doubt if I had hardly lived up to expectations. Couldn't care less now. My 25-year old bro hasn't finished college yet. He's now the one under the microscope while I walk away from it all.
  • being an eldest, you are "required" to be the role model and the person your siblings can look up to.

    pretty hard job to be perfect, right?
  • baklitabaklita PEx Veteran ⭐⭐


    mahirap talaga maging eldest kasi karamihan sa kanila... bansot!

    bansot! bansot!! bansot!!!

    aihihihi!!! :lol:

    baklita


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