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For Love or Money: Marrying for money?

What are your thoughts on this?

100 years ago this was fairly normal

now is it still acceptable why or why not?

what if your girl makes more money than you... more successful than you. would you be ok about this? (as some guys are insecure about it)

your a guy what if the girl you love is not as wealthy as your family? would this matter.

heres an article about marrying for money.
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB119760031991928727.html?mod=mktw


what are your thoughts?

Comments

  • RedhotOneRedhotOne PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    Marrying for love.... (for love of money ba?) ;)

    Talaga naman may ganyan kahit saang dako ng mundo... some marriages are for financial security, some arranged marriages are to keep the wealth within powerful families (or kingdoms).

    If you don't have a self-esteem problem, it should not matter kung mas mayaman o hindi ang girl or guy basta nagmamahalan kayo.

    In most cases the wealth does not really belong to the guy or girl but their family. Each of them will still have to work to eventually create their own fortune.
  • THE AD

    What am I doing wrong?

    Okay, I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful
    (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I’m articulate and classy.
    I’m not from New York . I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at
    least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind
    that a million a year is middle class in New York City , so I don’t think
    I’m overreaching at all.

    Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could
    you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around
    200 - 250. But that’s where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won’t get
    me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married
    to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she’s not as pretty as
    I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I
    get to her level?

    Here are my questions specifically:

    - Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars,
    restaurants, gyms

    -What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won’t hurt my
    feelings

    -Is there an age range I should be targeting (I’m 25)?

    - Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east
    side so plain? I’ve seen really ‘plain jane’ boring types who have
    nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I’ve seen drop dead
    gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What’s the story
    there?

    - Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment
    banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they
    hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?

    - How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for
    MARRIAGE ONLY

    Please hold your insults - I’m putting myself out there in an honest
    way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I’m being up front
    about it. I wouldn’t be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn’t
    able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a
    nice home and hearth.

    —————————————————————————–

    THE RESPONSE

    PostingID: 432279810
    Dear Pers-431649184:

    I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully
    about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament.
    Firstly, I’m not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your
    bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here’s how I
    see it.

    Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a
    [email protected] business deal. Here’s why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you
    suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring
    my money. Fine, simple. But here’s the rub, your looks will fade and my
    money will likely continue into perpetuity…in fact, it is very likely
    that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t
    be getting any more beautiful!

    So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning
    asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation
    accelerates! Let me explain, you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty
    hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in
    earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

    So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy
    and hold…hence the rub…marriage. It doesn’t make good business sense
    to “buy you” (which is what you’re asking) so I’d rather lease. In case
    you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were
    to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s
    as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

    Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So,
    I wonder why a girl as “articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful”
    as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to
    believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K
    hasn’t found you, if not only for a tryout.

    By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then
    we wouldn’t need to have this difficult conversation.

    With all that said, I must say you’re going about it the right way.
    Classic “pump and dump.”

    I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of
    lease, let me know.
  • Turns Out $500k Gold Digger Too Cheap
    http://www.bankersball.com/2007/12/16/turns-out-500k-gold-digger-too-cheap/
    By BankersBall on Dec 16, 2007 in Girlfriend!, Lifestyle

    $500k is a little on the low side when it comes to chasing money.

    Sure, that $500k gold digger got slammed for her request, but turns out according to this WSJ article, those marrying for money are typically after at least three times that.

    For those of the gold digger persuasion, about $1.5MM is enough to make an “average-looking person” suddenly all that more appealing. The results were based on a survey of more than a thousand $30,000 to $60,000 earners conducted by Prince & Associates.

    So what do these gold diggers look like? Women were more likely — 2/3rds answered that they were “very” or “extremely” willing to marry for money, versus 50% of the men. 74% of women in their thirties would marry for money — the most likely group. Despite that, women in their thirties only needed $1.1MM to seal the deal, versus twentysomething gold diggers ($2.5MM) and 40s gold diggers ($2.2MM).

    Oddly, no one in the survey quoted a figure higher than $3MM.
  • hmmm if I am a billionaire for example I would not let you know that I am, because how can I tell if you are really into me, or just my money.
    Being rich sucks; because you dont know who your real friends are and you wont know if a girl likes the money or love only. But I am not rich. Are you a social climber?
  • orangepinkorangepink PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    SILENTMAX wrote: »
    What are your thoughts on this?
    100 years ago this was fairly normal
    I agree that it's normal for certain reasons.

    #1 - Compared to the olden days, the playing field is more even. Women, and not their parents, make the ultimate choice in who they marry. We have the right to say "NO". I don't know about other cultures.

    #2 - As adults who have financial responsibilities (like paying for bills, etc), it's only practical that we consider financial status in choosing a mate. Money can't buy love but it's important as the air we breathe. It all depends on how an adult prioritizes money. Does money overrule all your moral values? Or are there certain limits on your want of money?

    For example, that self-proclaimed female beauty in your ad states that she wants to marry for money. Her honesty is refreshing but what if the would-be rich fiancee insists on a pre-nup? or what if the rich guy absolutely refuses to pay for her credit card bills, even when she picks a fight with him everyday? did she think about that? Just because you got him to propose, that doesn't mean you're getting IT all.

    also, for every action, there's an equal opposite reaction. so, if that woman marries for money, chances are other women will want her husband for money, too. is she prepared that her husband will have affairs?

    so, the question is --- when it comes to money and love, what are your standards? will you settle for a guy who has a decent paying job? what if your new bf is a doctor but he's straddled with student loans or what if your rich husband inherited his money and has no plans of working in his lifetime? what will you do if the money runs out?
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