Originally posted by Crusher
First of all, I will break away from the traditional Filipino thinking that the children are suppose to support the parents later on in their life.
All the while I am trying to raise my children, I will also try to raise myself as a good parent. I will try to be independent and provide for my own self so that I will not have to depend on them in my old age. While providing them with what they need early on in their life, I will also provide for the latter part of my own life.
I will not have dreams for my children as to what and how they should grow up. I will just rear them and nurture them and protect them while they are young and lead them to the path of their own independence. i will let them think for themselves.
I will make them aware that they are suppose to be responsible for their own actions.
I will bring them up under the religion that I was brought up but I will not stop them from joining whatever religion they may want to later on when they are mature enough (18 years old).
I will teah them to pray to God without always asking for anything, for how will they themselves if everytime someone tlks to them it is always to ask a favor?
I will also teach them to take actions than to worry about things.
I will try to remember that they are people too. That they have a separate mind and thinking than I. And that I should not try to imprison their mind with my own concept of how things should be.
I will not be a friend to them, I will be a parent that is around to nurture and support them. They should be free to have the friends they want, because when I am gone, their friends will be their support group, I had my own chance to have my own friends
and fortunately I was luicky to have good friends. I wish for my children to be lucky tofind friends that will cafre foir and who will care about them.
I will not try to get into their limelight. I woill not claim anything for their own success. I will be happy for them for any accomplishments that they achieved. Those are theirs alone. I will not take any part of it. I already have my own summer in my life, this is the summer of their life and I would like them to enjoy it to the fullest without me taking away anything from them.
My happiness is that I have been God s tool in raising an honest, loving and responsible human being into this world. Although my children come to life through me and by me, I do not own them, they are not property that I should have a claim to. And I wish that they will raise their children the way I did them.