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how to turn down date politely

dont know whether to place this in the dilemma section but i'm single too so here it goes....

most of my friends give me someone to date and sad to say none has yet to work, there is this 1 girl who keeps on asking that we go out again, but i really am not interested....(hoping not to sound to proud here huh, i'm not posting just to boast)

well actually deadma na nga ako after our first date, but i'd still text once in a while, isn't it enough sign that i have not even attempted a follow up date? do i have to say something? or just let it pass?

thanks
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  • purpleheadd07purpleheadd07 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    let it pass..after all ikaw naman lalaki eh :)

    no apologies here, the same way for us girls, pag ayaw namin ng second date we can always just decline.
  • ayun na nga eh, parang ako pa tuloy ang nahihiya, persistent eh....
    i just wouldn't like to hurt anyones feelings and i dont want to keep her hopes up, kaya im thinking of at least saying something to get it over with
  • let it pass..after all ikaw naman lalaki eh :)

    no apologies here, the same way for us girls, pag ayaw namin ng second date we can always just decline.

    galing naman ni nanay...mukhang expert sa pag decline :shutup:

    kung ayaw ka pa rin tantanan ng girl, irefer mo na lang siya sa iba mong kaibigan.... ahem :glee:
  • Wag ka na rin magtext. If she remains persistent, do not repond na lang in the future. Girls do not like that at sasabihin sa yo na sana man lang sumagot ka as courtesy pero pag super persistent kasi yan, everything you do eh may rationalization sa kanya so better not do anything at all...
  • purpleheadd07purpleheadd07 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    narutrix wrote: »
    galing naman ni nanay...mukhang expert sa pag decline :shutup:

    kung ayaw ka pa rin tantanan ng girl, irefer mo na lang siya sa iba mong kaibigan.... ahem :glee:


    it's always better not to give falls hopes...easier for both of you to move on...kaw talaga. :glee:
  • kuting_kittenkuting_kitten PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    don't text her or give her ANY attention if you're not bent on dating her. may tendency kaseng mag-feeling yung ibang girls. :)

    hopefully, she'll get the message if you stop replying to her texts.
  • if you have no valid reason... just tell the person you go out for group dates only.... and friendship is all you can offer...
  • ^naku problema yan pag sinabi mo. Sasabihin sa yo ng babae assuming ka....
  • dropshot wrote: »
    dont know whether to place this in the dilemma section but i'm single too so here it goes....

    most of my friends give me someone to date and sad to say none has yet to work, there is this 1 girl who keeps on asking that we go out again, but i really am not interested....(hoping not to sound to proud here huh, i'm not posting just to boast)

    well actually deadma na nga ako after our first date, but i'd still text once in a while, isn't it enough sign that i have not even attempted a follow up date? do i have to say something? or just let it pass?

    thanks

    no other way to say it. just tell her. "i hope you dont take it in the wrong way... but im really not that interested."

    harsh is harsh... but it has to be said. at least sayo na nanggaling at hindi nya narinig sa iba. also at least hindi sya mag iisip na iniwan mo sya sa ere.. or pina asa mo sya.

    :hmm:i wonder why she IS persistent though... hindi ba't where there's smoke.. there's fire? :hmm:

    kung magalit sau yung girl.. di ibig sabihin nun.. taas din ng tingin nya sa sarili nya... :lol:
  • samantha_jonessamantha_jones PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    ^Yeah I agree don't text her na. Kasi the paminsan minsan texts gives her the oppurtunity to ask you out. HEHE
  • tama! hangga't may butas, papasukin yan.... :glee:
  • :hmm: anong butas kaya sinasabi ni juju :hmm:
  • Sabihin na lang ng diretso ng di mo na pagtaguan yan,

    Maslalo mo pa masasaktan yung girl sa pagtetext nya na di ka reply eh. Eh kung sasabihin mo isa beses lang sya masasaktan.

    Wala way para di mo sya masaktan, ang tanong dyan eh kung ilan beses mo sya masasaktan.
  • the problem is "referral" kasi siya ng one of my close friends, so i'm inclined on responding as much as i could, i already have removed her from my distribution list on texts as well.....perhaps i'll just give it more time....

    and LD wala po ako ginagawa to start some "fire" here, well at least i'm just being myself...and besides it was just one date!!!

    naru, seryoso ka ba? sige pm ko sayo cell niya.... hahaha

    i've had lots of rejections when i'm asking people out and i know the feeling...not nice, don't want her to feel that way too

    ang kinasasama ko lang ng loob sana isa nalang kasi siya
    dun sa gusto ko, so even if she doesn't ask me, ako pa mag initiate na lagi kam mag kita diba????

    haaaay...asan ka na ba kasi ????!!!!!! hehehe :)
  • tama! hangga't may butas, papasukin yan.... :glee:
    LaDY_DaWN wrote: »
    :hmm: anong butas kaya sinasabi ni juju :hmm:

    :lol:

    isang butas lang ang tinutukoy nyan LD...at alam mo na yun :naughty:

    :rotflmao:
  • If "deadma" doesn't work...

    Tell your closed friend that you're not interested, aabot din sa kanya yun balita.

    LD: yep it works, but she could easily say "Who said that Im interested?" eh it's obvious naman na indenial. :glee:

    parang nakakaiinis lang kapag ganun. hehe pero it works. :D atleast feeling mutual este the feeling is mutual. :laugh:
  • there's no such thing as:

    break-it-to-me-gently

    isa pa rin ang category na babagsakan nyan..masasaktan at masasaktan pa rin siya..
    so why prolong the pain? you can tell to her that your not interested in any dates right now...so, the girl would not assume anything from you. kahit once in a while lang yang text na yan... kasi, kung nagte-text ka pa rin sa kanya without telling na your not intending to do a follow-up date... aba! iniisip ni girl na your-too-gentleman to resist her...hindi ka parin tatantanan nun!

    with matching themesong ni girl from parokya:
    "wag mo na sana akong pahirapan pa... kung ayaw mo sakin ay sabihin mo lang.." :D
  • gawa kana lang ng way na ma-turnoff sya sayo :D

    sabihin mo>>> "sorry gurl i don't type you. u should found another man that is handsomer than me and will taken cared off you".

    ewan ko na lang kung i-text kapa nyan :lol:
  • ubermenschubermensch PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    sabihin mo: magpapari ka :)
  • isn't a turn-off for you guys if the girl is the one who ask for next date. kasi usually guys ang nag-aask d b?
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