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To love a seaman or not...

Hello guys! I''m committed to my seaman bf for 7 months na. He's in abroad pa as of today. I really do love my guy and I know he loves me too (don't give me the seaman-loloko lecture ok? :eek: )But the problem is mahirap pala pag wala sa tabi ang mahal mo. :depressed: Dun sa mga may naging karelasyon na ng mga seafarers as well as dun sa mga nagkaroon ng ganitong situation, how did you overcome being alone? :mecry:
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  • You two should keep in touch on a regular basis. Biktima din ako ng failed long-distance relationship because of lack of communication. I learned it the hard way. Trust me on this.
  • baklitabaklita PEx Veteran ⭐⭐



    diretsahan na... your relationship is doomed!
    dyako naniniwala sa long distance relationship...
    mas matagal pag di kyo magkita... mas distant kyo sa isa't isa.
    lalong napapalayo kyo sa kalooban...at papalapit sa bye-bye!
    sige umiyak ka... nang matauhan ka sa katotohanan noh!!

    aihihihi!!! :)

    baklita


  • Falling in love with seamen can be hard, specially when later on in your relationship, it just smacks you all over in the face with the reality that gently kneeling down and waiting for him to come is both hard and humbling.

    Swallow it with a pinch of salt or just walk away. I'd recommend the second one, because I've been in an LDR too. Nobody stays in an LDR for that long and stays sane or undamaged.
  • purpleheadd07purpleheadd07 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    i know of some friends whose relationship with their seaman-husbands worked naman. so kung ok ka and you both believe na kaya nyong i work out then why not.

    besides may seminar kami for wives of seafarers so madaming pwedeng tumulong sa you. ;)
  • Depende sa iyo kung kaya mo ang magtiis sa long distance relationship, malaking sakripisyo nga iyon lalo na kung puro tawag lang at sulat. Ikaw gusto mo ba? AT loyal ka ba? Kasi dati may naging GF ako yung BF niya nasa abroad hindi alam ng lalaki. Kawawa naman ang BF niya, magkasama nga kami ng valentines noon tapos tumawag ang BF niya...pero hindi niya sa akin inamin na BF niya pala iyon, lately na lang nagkaalaman ng wala na kami.
  • i know of some friends whose relationship with their seaman-husbands worked naman. so kung ok ka and you both believe na kaya nyong i work out then why not.

    besides may seminar kami for wives of seafarers so madaming pwedeng tumulong sa you. ;)

    actually, my father's a seaman, so basically I'm not new to be immersed in this kind of life. yun nga lang, iba pala ang feeling kapag significant other mo na pala ang seaman. It is really sad kaso lagi niya paalala sa akin na kung nahihirapan daw ako, mas doble paghihirap niya dahil nasa "floating prison" siya. puro tubig lang ang nakikita. although we have frequent emails, iba pa rin talaga na nasa tabi mo ang mahal mo... :mecry:
  • purpleheadd07purpleheadd07 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ^^ your choice exactly. kung mahal mo talaga sya then you can give extra effort to make it work. Tama kse talaga sya, mas mahirap situation nya. he is with strangers there. mas ok situation mo kse you have your family and your friends here.
    it's up to you if you still want to continue standing by his side and giving him love and support in spite of his absence. or you could choose to let go and find someone else closer. :shrug:
  • my aunt and uncle are in the same situation right now. what they do is call each other constantly. communication is the key.

    nakakatawa pa nga nung kinuwento ng tita ko yung story nila. my uncle didn't tell her that he's a seaman not until they're already bf-gf. kasi sabi ng tita ko ayaw nya ng seaman kasi laging wala. yun pala yun ang mapapangasawa niya! :glee:
  • my aunt and uncle are in the same situation right now. what they do is call each other constantly. communication is the key.

    nakakatawa pa nga nung kinuwento ng tita ko yung story nila. my uncle didn't tell her that he's a seaman not until they're already bf-gf. kasi sabi ng tita ko ayaw nya ng seaman kasi laging wala. yun pala yun ang mapapangasawa niya! :glee:

    ooopssss.....ouch.:bop:
  • Were on the same boat girl. my long time bf is also a seaman. The relationship became official just before he went on board. but then I don't want to rely on him and to the realationship. Mahirap na di ba. So even months palang kami nag on just before sya sumakay, I ask my freedom. I told him kung kami..kami talaga pag balik niya. But then pumayag din sya. actually I know were just playing our emotions (he also have 2 other gfs, so bali 3 kami.....) Anyways I'm not really serious kasi kaya okay lang kahit may iba sya though it hurts din. I split up with him para makapag isip sya. After a week I received a phone call from exbf, telling me to wait for him and decided that it is me he choose. kasi ako daw yung sobra niya na miss. (ha-ha-ha-ha). Now, though mahirap happy pa rin ako. Mag six anniv na kami sa relationship this feb, 2007 eh. Planning to get married (if God's will) next year. Hold on girl, dami tukso pero pag matatag ang foundation, kaya yan. One thing, just make sure na ala asawa na iba yan ha....hmmmm mahirap na. Si bf kasi kilala ko na since childhood eh. Tska kilala ko family kaya I know na binata talaga....Mahirap na sis.heheheh
  • whisperbox wrote: »
    Were on the same boat girl. my long time bf is also a seaman. The relationship became official just before he went on board. but then I don't want to rely on him and to the realationship. Mahirap na di ba. So even months palang kami nag on just before sya sumakay, I ask my freedom. I told him kung kami..kami talaga pag balik niya. But then pumayag din sya. actually I know were just playing our emotions (he also have 2 other gfs, so bali 3 kami.....) Anyways I'm not really serious kasi kaya okay lang kahit may iba sya though it hurts din. I split up with him para makapag isip sya. After a week I received a phone call from exbf, telling me to wait for him and decided that it is me he choose. kasi ako daw yung sobra niya na miss. (ha-ha-ha-ha). Now, though mahirap happy pa rin ako. Mag six anniv na kami sa relationship this feb, 2007 eh. Planning to get married (if God's will) next year. Hold on girl, dami tukso pero pag matatag ang foundation, kaya yan. One thing, just make sure na ala asawa na iba yan ha....hmmmm mahirap na. Si bf kasi kilala ko na since childhood eh. Tska kilala ko family kaya I know na binata talaga....Mahirap na sis.heheheh

    wow! congrats! *okay* at thank you sa advice. actually, ex ko rin tong seaman bf ko. one month lang kami dati dahil hindi ko talaga kaya noon. tapos we had no communication for 2 years! then last May, nagparamdam siya. actually, binura ko na number niya and all. pati nga surname niya nakalimutan ko na rin. :D tapos we reconciled and gave this relationship another try. at eto na naman ako. nag-si-sink in naman yung sadness ko dahil wala siya. kilala ko na rin parents and they know me also. he came from a very good family kaya i don't have to worry about him having a child with another woman. pero di bale, 2 months na lang at uuwi na siya, whooopeee! :naughty: but i'm really glad to hear (or read) that someone has successful relationship with a seaman. :bop:
  • Its very inspiring to read stories here bout being a seaman gf. Actually he is my classmate in high school. My bf left last March. Uwi *** ***** January. The first few months went ok. Tumatawag *** at chat thru viber. Pero lately kc parang lumalamig na ***. Its been 3 weeks na hindi tumatawag sa akin. I don't know what to think. I love him though and i miss him enormously. Please advise me guys what to do.
  • uzumaki_narutouzumaki_naruto PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    athena_009 wrote: »
    Its been 3 weeks na hindi tumatawag sa akin. I don't know what to think.

    busy na siya sa ibang chicks.. :glee:

    lalo na daming chicks mahilig sa seaman.. :glee:
  • Hehe hindi **** *** yung babaero na type. Pero I am open to that. Lalake *** eh. Pero sana prangkahan na lang *** hindi na ako aasa.
  • uzumaki_narutouzumaki_naruto PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    athena_009 wrote: »
    Hehe hindi **** *** yung babaero na type. Pero I am open to that. Lalake *** eh. Pero sana prangkahan na lang *** hindi na ako aasa.

    alangan naman ipahalata niya sa 'yo na siya ay babaero na type.. :glee:
  • true_orangetrue_orange PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    If you really love him, hang on. Pero ihanda mo rin sarili mo sa ibang possibilities.
  • balbolskibalbolski PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    athena_009 wrote: »
    Its very inspiring to read stories here bout being a seaman gf. Actually he is my classmate in high school. My bf left last March. Uwi *** ***** January. The first few months went ok. Tumatawag *** at chat thru viber. Pero lately kc parang lumalamig na ***. Its been 3 weeks na hindi tumatawag sa akin. I don't know what to think. I love him though and i miss him enormously. Please advise me guys what to do.

    you feel alone? :naughty:

    mahal mo ang ***** at miss na miss mo na?

    pm ka lang :naughty:
  • hottie_chiqhottie_chiq PEx Rookie ⭐
    wow! congrats! *okay* at thank you sa advice. actually, ex ko rin tong seaman bf ko. one month lang kami dati dahil hindi ko talaga kaya noon. tapos we had no communication for 2 years! then last May, nagparamdam siya. actually, binura ko na number niya and all. pati nga surname niya nakalimutan ko na rin. :D tapos we reconciled and gave this relationship another try. at eto na naman ako. nag-si-sink in naman yung sadness ko dahil wala siya. kilala ko na rin parents and they know me also. he came from a very good family kaya i don't have to worry about him having a child with another woman. pero di bale, 2 months na lang at uuwi na siya, whooopeee! :naughty: but i'm really glad to hear (or read) that someone has successful relationship with a seaman. :bop:

    hi! just want to know if kayo nagkatuluyan ng bf mo? :)
  • balbolskibalbolski PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    yep, would be interesting how it went. sila pa kaya? napaka useless ng asawang wala naman sa tabi mo.

    alam na this.... :naughty3:
  • blue_acidblue_acid PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    We did it for over 4 years :lol: nothing is impossible *okay*
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