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what if your father told you the following words (your father is not drunk):

"Dapat lason na lang pinapakain ko sa inyo para magkandamatay kayo eh!"
or

"Kung sunugin ko kaya itong bahay para magkandamatay kayo?"

what would you feel?

I never wished that my father would die--not even when I am at the peak of being angry at him. Not ever. And never will I tell such ugly words to my own children--nor even let them be near their grandfather.

God, I hope to get out of this lousy home where anger suffocates the atmosphere.

(just venting out my anger)

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  • Ice BurnIce Burn PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    eh di move out. Rent your own place or something.
  • clawed_outclawed_out PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Plan it well.

    I know that talking back is almost a mortal sin to us, Pinoys but it never hurt me to ask why in a very nice way.
  • heard almost the same things from my parents.

    thing is, some people just vent out their anger that way. i myself, say not so nice things when angry or pissed off, i admit that. i'm not saying it's not wrong. it is. (one of the reasons why i would rather be alone when angry)

    you have 2 options, dear:

    1. move out. get out of that place if it really affects you so much. i can see it's not good for you, if you're still studying, i suggest you do well so that you could move out of there almost as soon as you graduate. ;)

    2. understand them. this is the one thing i had a hard time getting over the past few years. i don't talk back to my parents. they never knew when their words hurt me. but eventually, i learned to shrug it off. and it was also then that i realized that when they're not angry... they could be sweet, caring and loving. kaya ako, tumatakbo na lang ako or nagtatago pag galit na parents ko! :rotflmao: minsan, humaharap na lang ako sa ym at binubuhos galit ko sa boyfriend ko. :rotflmao:

    maghanap ka kaya ng boyfriend/girlfriend na pwedeng pagbuhusan ng galit at sama ng loob? :lol: option 3 na yon!
  • eccentriQ wrote: »
    what if your father told you the following words (your father is not drunk):

    "Dapat lason na lang pinapakain ko sa inyo para magkandamatay kayo eh!"
    or

    "Kung sunugin ko kaya itong bahay para magkandamatay kayo?"

    what would you feel?

    I never wished that my father would die--not even when I am at the peak of being angry at him. Not ever. And never will I tell such ugly words to my own children--nor even let them be near their grandfather.

    God, I hope to get out of this lousy home where anger suffocates the atmosphere.

    (just venting out my anger)


    ilang taon ka na ba? do you have work?

    if this happened to me, i'll move out and rent my own place. its good that you know its wrong and will not do the same thing to your children.
  • Thank you all for your kind replies...

    Minsan (minsan as in technically, not every month) lang kasi magalit yang tatay ko, pero pagnagalit, feeling ko kayang pumatay ng tao... Nagwala na naman kanina (the worst I've seen), sinabihan lang ng mom ko na huwag magsalita ng masama sa mga anak...

    As much as I want to move out, we're in a foreign land with only my mom working.. I'm 19 years old, college freshman, oh God how I hate it here...

    Sana umuwi na lang tatay ko sa pilipinas... lagi naman niyang sinasabi yun eh... hindi niya malunok ang pride niya (dahil siya ang nagluluto at gumagawa ng ibang housework kahit divided naman iyon among us, "alila" daw namin siya... what the hell)
  • understand him na lang... he's frustrated... and depressed... baka kulang sa lambing ang mommy mo... hehehhehe!!!

    hirap kasi sa mga lalaki na biglang magiging house-band... alam mo naman ang pride nila...

    itatanong ko lang---- ngayon lang ba siya natigil sa bahay?... wala bang opportunity para siya makapag-trabaho?:)

    kelangan kasi may pinagkakaabalahan siya kasi iinit talaga ulo niya pag wala siyang ginagawa...
  • @eccentric - if you live abroad, i suggest you get a part time job so you'll be too busy to notice your dad and you get to start saving money so you can move out someday. if you feel scared that he can kill, it's better to tell your mom about your feelings.
  • well...i guess its really hard to be with someone you hate...

    i hate my dad. and i will never forgive him for everything.

    yeah, i admit, he can be nice when he is not mad, but i cant stop thinking about the things that he said in the past.

    i am in the process of moving out. i am also in a foreign land. ngayon lang ako nagkaroon ng chance na gawen ito. madaming beses ko na dinelay ito dahel sa kahit papano, i pity him. but this time iba na talaga. hindi ko na kaya ang verbal abuse na binibigay niya sa aken. i can be happy, at alam ko na mangyayari lang iyon kapag nabuhay na ako ng wala siya. i think that is the right thing to do. for me. kanya kanyang sitwasyon iyan.
  • Kapag nakakabasa ako ng mga ganitong sentiments, I sometimes see the fact that my father left us when I was too young to understand as a blessing in disguise. Emotional battery is far worse than physical abuse. Ganun daw talaga yung bihira lang magalit, once na may mag-trigger sobrang galit talaga. I suggest kung ano man yung nagti-trigger ng galit ng papa mo try to avoid it from happening. Maybe he gets frustrated when he can't provide for you kids. That's always a blow to a man's ego. ESpecially kung mother mo yung nagtatrabaho para sa inyo. If you can't move out, just extend your patience.Goodluck!
  • di lang pala ako nagiisa.. eccentriQ pareho tayo... :shedtears:
  • bbbbbbbbbbbb PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    abutan mo ng baygon at gasolina. yung pinakamataas ang octane..
  • rubberr_duckyrubberr_ducky PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    eccentriQ wrote: »
    what if your father told you the following words (your father is not drunk):

    "Dapat lason na lang pinapakain ko sa inyo para magkandamatay kayo eh!"
    or

    "Kung sunugin ko kaya itong bahay para magkandamatay kayo?"

    what would you feel?

    I never wished that my father would die--not even when I am at the peak of being angry at him. Not ever. And never will I tell such ugly words to my own children--nor even let them be near their grandfather.

    God, I hope to get out of this lousy home where anger suffocates the atmosphere.

    (just venting out my anger)

    I dont know but most of my friends say na baliw ako para sumagot pabalik. Minsan they need to know when to shut up. They always claim that they are older and they know everything (so its their license not to own their mistakes and pass the blame to others). Worst I heard is kung di ko raw gusto palakad nila eh lumayas ako :angry:
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