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help! my best friend is a BISEXUAL!!!

hi guys!
my best friend confessed to me that she is a bisexual!
i mean she feels "something" toward her female co-employee.
She told me that she feel nervous when her female co-employee is around. I'm afraid for her. What if my best friend is a bisexual??? how could i help her? grabe! di ko talaga ma-imagine!

PLEASE HELP!
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  • Sa totoo lang di ko magets kung ano ang problem mo--so bi sya--anong problem dun?
  • ...yup, i don't see any problem with that!
    ...hello! as if she's some kind of a disease porket bi sya...be there for her, if she's confused w/ her sexuality...
  • Originally posted by leprix
    Sa totoo lang di ko magets kung ano ang problem mo--so bi sya--anong problem dun?
    malaki problema ko cos best friend ko yun! how would you feel pag best friend mo is having a relationship with same sex!!! yuck!!! and it is sinful!
  • Originally posted by MaDBeauty
    ...yup, i don't see any problem with that!
    ...hello! as if she's some kind of a disease porket bi sya...be there for her, if she's confused w/ her sexuality...
    i'm always with her...
    i told her to really confirm if it is true...
    sabi ko nga sabay sila alis ng girl at guy na crush niya, para makita niya na kung sino mas-crush niya yung guy or girl...
    im so afraid for her...
    hope you guys understand
  • don't get me wrong but in the first place, you should be the one who would be supporting her, hindi ba?

    best friend ka niya e.
    i dunno. if i were in the same situation, i'll tell her nga na for me, that is 'immoral' pero kung ganun talaga siya, ano ba naman magagawa ko?

  • Originally posted by incognita
    don't get me wrong but in the first place, you should be the one who would be supporting her, hindi ba?

    best friend ka niya e.
    i dunno. if i were in the same situation, i'll tell her nga na for me, that is 'immoral' pero kung ganun talaga siya, ano ba naman magagawa ko?
    thanks! im supporting her naman.. may point is habang maliit pa ang problem ayusin na... tama ba? kaysa naman malaki na at wala na ako magawa.. hay.. hirap talaga ng buhay pero pag confirm na bisexual nga siya adi i accept ko nalang siya.. diba? kaya nga bestfriend niya ako...

    thank you for replying to my topic
  • I don't see any problems with that. When I was in highschool most of my peer gang are gays. (Yep as in bakla in Tagalog). ... and sometimes they will whispher at me pointing on a guy and said "Ang guwapo ni _______" Well they are my friends and I accept tem of what they are!
  • Originally posted by Deus
    I don't see any problems with that. When I was in highschool most of my peer gang are gays. (Yep as in bakla in Tagalog). ... and sometimes they will whispher at me pointing on a guy and said "Ang guwapo ni _______" Well they are my friends and I accept tem of what they are!
    i also have gay friends...
    but they are just my friends...
    im speaking about my best friend here..
    we are friends since high school and basically we grew up together and are very close like sisters!
    im just shock when i find out that she is a BI...
    i just hope that she is only assuming and not really a BI but in case she is a BI...
    what can i do but to accept her...
    Best friend ko nga eh..
  • CaRaMBaCaRaMBa Administrator PEx Moderator
    I really don't think there's a problem here. I don't think there's anything wrong with her by being bisexual. It's not within the norm yes, but for me, but that's different from being "wrong".

    According to you, the problem should be fixed while it is still small. Please, tell me, what is the problem?

    Going for 2 kinds of sex does not make her evil. Siguro kung two-timer siya - having a boyfriend AND a girlfriend at the same time - yun, yun ang problema.
  • Originally posted by CaRaMBa
    I really don't think there's a problem here. I don't think there's anything wrong with her by being bisexual. It's not within the norm yes, but for me, but that's different from being "wrong".

    According to you, the problem should be fixed while it is still small. Please, tell me, what is the problem?

    Going for 2 kinds of sex does not make her evil. Siguro kung two-timer siya - having a boyfriend AND a girlfriend at the same time - yun, yun ang problema.

    may greatest fear is that one day she will engage in sexual act with the same sex..
    okay lang naman kung hanggang crush...
    pero takot ko lang talaga makikipag-sex siya sa babae din..
    i dont believe that person are born with two gender
    they are just being influence by the society...

    so as early as now, i'll try to help her....
    but if she is really a BI, il still accept her but not tolerate her...
  • Ice BurnIce Burn PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    What is wrong with being bisexual? :confused:
    So what if she enagages in sex with the same sex. That is not for you to judge whether her acts are moral or not.

    You are being biased to your friend. You have accepted your gay friends without question. They probably are having sex with the same sex. So what difference is it from your friend having sex with the same sex?

    Why is it that you can accept men-men relationship but not women-women relationship? What is the difference?

    You are treating her sexual preference like a disease which must be eradicated at all cost. Some friend you are...

    Ayaw mo nun, if she has sex with the same sex, di siya mabubuntis, less ang chance niya sa STD. :lol:

    She's not the one with a problem. It's you. You fail to accept her for what she is. And you are too blind to see that she is still the same person despite her sexual preference.
  • yeah.. you have to accept her
    for what she is kse she's your so-called
    best friend.
    now if you can't accept her for
    the way she is, then you're not looking
    for a best friend... you're looking
    for what people call a trophy in life
    you're looking for someone YOU can be proud
    of.

    it doesn't work that way. Make yourself the
    one SHE can be proud of by accepting her
    without a cloud of doubt. After all, when you
    two started being friends, alam mo bang bi na
    sha? Sasayangin mo ba yung pinagdaanan niyo
    just because you think and feel na she's bi?

    Don't make it an issue kse if you really are
    a true friend, you'd support her through thick
    and thin, regardless of anything that could
    bother you..

    hope you understand.
  • It doesnt matter
  • salamat sa concern mo sa kanya. kasi nga, best
    friend mo siya...pero sinabi ba niya sa 'yo na
    'yun ang problema niya?

    kung hindi naman, ibig sabihin, happy siya that way,
    so ano'ng problema natin?

    kung makipag-sex siya sa same sex, ano rin ang
    problema mo? du'n siya happy, eh. magseselos
    ka ba, if ever?

    pag nakita mo na siyang nakipag-sex sa aso o sa
    manok, du'n mo siya problemahin.

    i think mas nangangailangan ng atensiyon mo ang
    nangyayaring economic crisis sa kasalukuyang
    gobyerno kesa problemahin ang "identity crisis" ng
    kaibigan mo na hindi naman niya pinoproblema.
  • sabi niya problema yun
    cos she doesnt know her real self yet
    she also fears that it might be true na BI siya
    i know for some guys like you, it is not a problem
    but it is different for us...
    it is a "PROBLEM"
    she is confused kaya nga tinutulungan ko siya malaman ang real identity niya...
    kung "BI" il accept her but as much as possible i'll try to help her but not tolerate her...
    not all people are the same..
    CHEER UP!
  • chill!
    grabe...this thread's been untouched for a month or so na...but I guess ur problem...won't leave that easily...problem, yeah the problem exists, and it exists because you fear a possible reality.

    On acceptance,
    Well, the truth shall set you free, look at Erap...he's messing things up by not accepting the truth...

    back to ur bstfrnd...it takes time to realize the truth, takes more time to accept it, and takes the rest of your life to handle it. Take it as you would any important decision in your life, and I believe nothing will go wrong, but nothing wrong doesn't mean nothing bad... : ) k? get it...it's just another thing in life...it just seems new to you that's why u tend to fear it. fact is it's very minor...

    g.luck

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  • goodness........reality check girl.......she's not asking for help......she just told you that she's bi......no big deal.....

    and if she is worried.....she should consult a professional....
  • hmmm..well, alam mo tanungin mo sya, tanungin mo sa kanya kung pinoproblema ba nya yun, baka naman hindi eh masira pa ang preyndship ninyo debah?
    at kung pinoproblema naman nya eh pag-usapan nyo ng naayon sa mga paniniwala ninyo...i suggest you talk to your priest or whatever...ang pagtanggap sa kung sino ka ay di lamang tungkol sa kung saan ka maligaya pero naayon rin sa kung ano ang kaya mong dalhin. Marami nagdesisyon na itago ang kanilang sitwasyon, nag-asawa pero patuloy na nakikipagsex sa kapwa nila kagender.
    Kung ako sa yo ay hwag mo syang ijudge dahil sa dulo ng lahat ng ito ay su\iya rin ang magdadala ng buhay nya. desisyon nya yan. Makakabuting sumuporta ka hindi sa magiging desisyon nya (lalo na kung di ka naman sang-ayon) pero suportahan mo ang pagkatao nya (kahit naman bisexual sya di nawawala yun diba?) at ang friendship nyo.

    Karlota: weno naman kung makipagsex sya sa manok?! bakit wala na bang karapatng lumigaya ang manok sa piling ng isang tao? (chika lang! ever! :):)--pero may kilala akong ganun ang fantasy! odiba? offtopic na sobrang controversial :D:D:D
  • confusion is THE problem, not the probability of your besfriend being bisexual. what you can perhaps do is be there for her and refrain from making any unnecessary and rash judgements (like, for example, "immoral iyan," and such).

    now, we know that there is an identity crisis. what u may do abt this is refrain from pressuring your friend into a path which YOU think is right for her. she is a mature thinking individual. whether she is straight, gay or bi shouldnt be the business or the problem of anyone except herself. it shouldnt even BE her problem. we should all celebrate our sexuality in order to be truly happy, in fact!

    would u want your bestfriend to be happy?

    be there for her. just BE THERE, nothing else. hey, ignorance may be a problem, too. marami ka rin sigurong hindi nalalaman about bisxuality, hence the initial panic. i cannot blame u for that. give both you and your gal pal time to make discoveries. life, no matter if you are straight or gay or bi, is beautiful!

    at the end of the day, what matters is not making judgements, but having good judgment. nasabi mo na matagal na kayong magkakilala ng kaibigan mo. u should know her very well, then. nagtitiwala ka ba sa kanya? do you believe that, being the person that she is, she can go through this stage of confusion and emerge enlightened? do u beleive that your bestfriend can think for herself? magnanakaw ba siya, nambubugbog ba siya, nananakit ba siya ng kapwa? sa tinagal-tagal ng pagsasama ninyo, nakita mo bang masamang tao ang kaibigan mo? kung oo, bakit mo pa siya kaibigan hanggang ngayon? kung hindi, then give her the credit that she is going to stay that way--a person with good judgement, a good citizen, a fine officemate, a fantastic bestfriend.

    after all these years, it shouldnt make a difference whether your friend is straight or bi. after all, kung magmamahal man siya ng kapwa niya babae, pagmamahal pa rin yun! and love is NEVER evil. obsession is bad, but there is, and never will be anything wrong with love, in all its forms and permutations.

    ikaw, mahal mo ba ang kaibigan mo? sigurado akong oo. think, then. think. what does SHE need from you? what does she REALLY need? if you were in her place, what would you want from your best friend? use your own own good judgement to decide on these thoughts.

    good luck sa inyo :-)
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