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my bestfriend backstabbed me!!

I am working as a free lancer by outsourcing work off shore. Eventually I was able to give my best friend some work. First 13 months, she used to work in my house since wala syang PC sa bahay. I thought everything was fine between us until, last dec. 21, I found a "love letter" she wrote for her bf na nagkataon na pinsan naman ng hubby ko, she probably forgot to delete the 'draft' at the bottom of her report na pinapasa nya sa akin. That report was 5 months ago pa, but hindi ko napansin yung letter na yun nuon. I was in shocked when I started reading the letter. I couldn't believe na she was able to say those things against me & my family. I thought we are OK, coz she is like a big sister to me, we treated her like a part of our family and ok naman yung pakita nya sa akin at sa pamilya, so I can't understand why she did what she did. Sobra akong nasaktan talaga sa mga sinabi nya na di naman totoo, like

I was treating her bad.
That we are not inviting her to eat while all of us were eating.
That she feel like, we don't like her to eat in our house.
And I am treating her like a toy & not a friend.
and even if I am treating her bad she would always be nice to me and try to understand me (what a *****)

As far as I know... we never had any fights, or misunderstanding man lang, maybe may sama sya ng loob sa akin, but, bakit hindi nya ako kinausap instead of talking **** about me? kung di ko pa natuklasan yung sulat na yun, di ko malalaman na sirang-sira na pala ako sa mata ng bf nya, na super close sa asawa ko. (kame ang nagpakilala sa kanila). Until now... I am still in shock, I am soooo depressed, Di ako makapaniwala na magagawa nya yun coz she seems super nice to me & to my family. She knew na hindi totoo yung mga sinasabi nya coz in the first place, if i treated her bad, then sana nuon pa nilayasan na nya ako at naghanap ng ibang work di ba? but No, she works for me for 16 fukin months and now she gonna said na I AM TREATING her bad. Then my part pa dun sa letter na we are bad mouthing about his bf, which is not true... I was just concerned about her, coz dahil pinsan sya ng asawa ko, may mga nalalaman ako about some extra curricular activities ng bf nya, (the guy is in US and her first bf) so syempre as her friend sinasabi ko yun sa kanya, yun pala minamasama nya. she is sssoooooooooooooooo bad and super plastikkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk. Until now, apektado pa din ako sa nalaman ko... my husband is hella angry too kase alam naman nya na di totoo mga sinabi and he said he can't believe na magagawa yun ng friend ko. Para kase syang batang nagpapaawa sa letter nya... to think she is 33 yrs old already. What i did is, i emailed back that letter. and til now di pa sya nagrereply, siguro wala syang mukhang ihaharap pag nagkita kame dahil napakawalang hiya nyang tao. Actually, 3 mos na syang sa bahay na nila nagwowork , dahil binilhan sya ng sarili nyang PC ng bf nya. So i was thinking, kaya ba sya naibili nung guy eh dahil dun sa mga pinagsasabi nyang kasinungalingan. para nga naman "MAKAKAIN" na sya ng husto.

arghhhh you can't trust anyone talaga, sobrang masakit ginawa nya.... and it affect me a lot!:grrr: :grrr:

Comments

  • clawed_outclawed_out PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    ok kiddo. I'm pretty sure you are a kid.

    MOVE ON.
  • cool lang...

    -rarer
  • clawed_out wrote: »
    ok kiddo. I'm pretty sure you are a kid.

    MOVE ON.

    kid??? maybe you haven't experienced what I gone through so its easy for you to say that KIDDO!
  • di kaya napakain mo ng panis na kanin na di mo sinasadya? o baka laging isaw ang pinapa-ulam mo sa kanya na medyo hilaw pa?

    or baka naman ginagamit mo yung under arm deodorant nya?
  • clawed_outclawed_out PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    It doesn't take a genius to solve emotional issues.


    & don't throw me that experience crap as it doesn't work.

    You're acting like a kid.
  • madami ka pang ibang friends... yung mga ganyang klaseng tao di na dapat pag-aksayahan ng pang-iintindi. :)
  • ErebosErebos PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    You know backstabbing is so much better than "frontstabbing." Friends do the former, while enemies prefer the latter. And how do you resolve this? You don't!:)
  • learn to move on, its the best thing you can do for yourself *okay*
  • jus move on...
  • i think it's a lot more complicated since best friend nya yun. i dont think madali lang mag move on.
  • well she's not important to your life anymore since you treated her bad na. You dumped her already so you dont have a problem anymore. I guess.
  • waterwellwaterwell PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    bakit di mo na lang sya ipakulam? or sugurin sa house nila, tapos sampalin mo nang paulit-ulit hanggang matanggal ang 2 front teeth nya?
  • keep your friends close and your enemy's closer.... yunlang... kung ganun siya then pretend everythings okay... ma okay kung di kau magkakaron ng conflict kasi mas mahirap yun... atleast prepared ka na sa kung anu mang gagawn niya... pag nagakaway kau ng harapan mahirap na... at mas nakakatako..
  • wag mo nang pansinin si clawed_out, ksp lang yan..

    now on topic... it's normal for friends to backstab you.. uhm.. may I kindly ask if you were not aware of this fact..?

    i think it's a filipino trait to always notice the bad in others.. and backstab and gossip..
  • gabsiegabsie PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    ^^hey, it's not "normal" for a friend to backstab you. i wonder what kind of friends you have and what kind of friend are you.... and heck no, it's absolutely not a filipino trait to "always" notice the bad in others. where in earth did you get those conclusions?


    if a bestfriend backstabs you, s/he's not your bestfriend. neither a friend. but things like that happen in life. masakit talaga at nakaka-trauma. isipin mo na lang, god has a purpose in everything. yung pagkakakilala mo sa kanya hanggang sa pagkakabasa mo ng draft nya, may kahulugan lahat yun. pasalamat ka na lang, at least nalaman mo kung ano'ng klaseng tao sya.

    kung kaya mo, kausapin mo sya. sabihin mo na nabasa mo yung "love letter" nya accidentally. pakinggan mo explanation nya kahit masakit sa kalooban mo. in that way, magkakaroon ng closure ang friendship nyo kung pagdesisyunan mong patawarin at kalimutan ang lahat o kung tapusin na ito.

    you don't deserve a friend like that if things don't work out between you two. you have to move on girl. eventually you'll move on. trust me.
  • farkasfarkas PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    di dyan matatapos ang buhay mo! move on!
  • gabbie, i disagree... it's a trait of many filipinos to notice the bad in others.. tingnan mo nga, pag sa mga tindahan, o sa offices dito sa Pilipinas, kahit nga sa simbahan at barkadahan, filipinos talk behind the backs of others.. pinagtsitsismisan ang kung sino sino, pinag-uusapan ang mga mali nila, kinukutya sila.. tingnan mo nga ang mga artista, kung ano-anong paninira ang ginagawa sa karamihan sa kanila... at ginagawa ang mga ito kahit pa sa mga "kaibigan"...

    So kaya ko nasabi na it's a trait of many filipinos to notice the bad in others... tingin mo?
    gabsie wrote: »
    ^^hey, it's not "normal" for a friend to backstab you. i wonder what kind of friends you have and what kind of friend are you.... and heck no, it's absolutely not a filipino trait to "always" notice the bad in others. where in earth did you get those conclusions?


    if a bestfriend backstabs you, s/he's not your bestfriend. neither a friend. but things like that happen in life. masakit talaga at nakaka-trauma. isipin mo na lang, god has a purpose in everything. yung pagkakakilala mo sa kanya hanggang sa pagkakabasa mo ng draft nya, may kahulugan lahat yun. pasalamat ka na lang, at least nalaman mo kung ano'ng klaseng tao sya.

    kung kaya mo, kausapin mo sya. sabihin mo na nabasa mo yung "love letter" nya accidentally. pakinggan mo explanation nya kahit masakit sa kalooban mo. in that way, magkakaroon ng closure ang friendship nyo kung pagdesisyunan mong patawarin at kalimutan ang lahat o kung tapusin na ito.

    you don't deserve a friend like that if things don't work out between you two. you have to move on girl. eventually you'll move on. trust me.
  • gabsiegabsie PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    ^^ if we go back to your first reply, you said "it's a filipino trait" which means it's a natural trait of every filipino to always notice the bad in others. ang pangit kasi ng dating. parang ang konklusyon doon inangkin natin ang ugaling yun. na lahat ng mga filipino at tayo lang mga filipino ang nakakapuna sa pangit na ugali at katangian ng ibang tao. na alam naman nating lahat na mali. ugali na ng tao hindi lang mga filipino ang backstabbing, chismis. kahit ibang nasyon ginagawa yan.

    sa reply mo naman ngayon, dinagdagan mo na ng "it's a trait of many filipinos to notice the bad in others. i agree more on that. marami talaga sa atin ang grabe makapuna sa kapwa pero hindi naman lahat tayo ganun.

    well anyway, i think the threadstarter has moved on. hindi na nagrereply eh...*peace*
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