What is it that you can call "healthy" in a relationship?

h33r0

i think it is healthy to say, "I love you" everyday of the week. and of course you have to mean it. and i think it is healthy to just talk, kahit sa kaunting oras lang

pero i ask.....it is healthy na kayong dalawa ay away-bati? na pagkatapos niong magsalitaan ay short time later bati na agad?

princess_cessai

part naman kse ng relationship yun. just don't over do it and dapat nagmamature yung relasyon hindi dapat laging ganun.

h33r0

pero, how can you tell if nagmamature nga kayo sa relationship?

gerald_pirea

if away bati everyday!!! not normal!

Leih1234

Away bati? how often?

Two people from different upbringings would always disagree on something. That is why we say it is normal to have disagreements and arguments.
What's healthy for me is dealing with each other's idiosyncrasies so as not to create a blunder or an argument. Learning to understand faults and working around the good and bad traits of one another. Settling any misunderstandings before sleeping at night and NEVER thinking that the solution to your argument is a break up. I think that is healthy.

baklita

pwedeng-pwede... sa relationship healthy rin ang sex noh!

aihihihi!!!

baklita

bluenite

away - bati ... ok lang pero pag madalas naman
nakaka pagod na rin.. at na kaka bored

savea

h33r0 wrote:

i think it is healthy to say, "I love you" everyday of the week. and of course you have to mean it. and i think it is healthy to just talk, kahit sa kaunting oras lang

pero i ask.....it is healthy na kayong dalawa ay away-bati? na pagkatapos niong magsalitaan ay short time later bati na agad?

away-bati ay healthy pa din kc nagmamature din tayo dyan. saka normal lang un kc un magkapatid nagaaway iisa lang pingalingan at kinalakihan, lalo na cguro dalawang taong not related...
sa away-bati natututo tayo makilala mabuti ang ating sarili, makisama, magmahal, magsilbi, magsakripisyo, magpakumbaba... at madami pang iba :love:

h33r0

@savea
i realized that just recently. actually napapnsin namin na gnun nga. until there was a point na pinag-usapan namin ang problem from the roots so we will know how to deal with it. now, my partner and i are moving forward once again .

@baklita
umm sorry to dissagree with you. but not all prefer that sex could be healthy and such a great inpotance in a relationship. i know for sure it is for married couples. there are still conservative people around who value themselves.

princessdiane30

h33r0 wrote:

i think it is healthy to say, "I love you" everyday of the week. and of course you have to mean it. and i think it is healthy to just talk, kahit sa kaunting oras lang

pero i ask.....it is healthy na kayong dalawa ay away-bati? na pagkatapos niong magsalitaan ay short time later bati na agad?

i agree dapat you always say I Love You anytime, hindi naman nakakaksaya ng time yan. Matutuwa pa partner mo! *okay*

Away bati? normal in a relationship pero depende sa pinagaawayan niyo, pagnapakapetty, immaturity na siguro yun ha... pero what's very important is after the fight or argument, nagbabati and usap agad.

Pinakahealthy for me sa isang relationship is yung "meron kayong communication". Wherein lahat pwede mo sabihin and you can be honest with your feelings, you can tell if you love him/her, kung may sama ka ng loob, di mo nagustuhan ginawa niya, everything you can bring up with him/her... Hindi yung tatago mo lang kase iniisip mo kung matatangap ba niya or not. Communication isvery important, coz if wala nun yung relationship niyo wala ding mangyayari... Based from my experience lang before kaya ko toh nasasabi. Kse ako before nagtatago ng nararamdaman, kung galit na ako or what, kung tampo na ko or what. i just keep it to myself. there will come a time na sasabog ka nalang and marerealize mo ang lala na pala ng nangyayari sainyo. kaya para hindi umabot sa ganon kelangan naguusap talga, it's very important in a relationship... :bashful:

gUy^

para sa akin, ang isang healthy relationship is yung nagdadamayan kayo sa lahat ng bagay, kung baga sa hirap at ginhawa andyan sya para sayo at ganon dn kaw. tama sabi ni princess dapat "meron kyong communication" hehe... and yung pag sabi ng I Love you dapat nde galing sa bibig dapat nasa PUSO manggagaling kung nde wag mo nalng sabihin:)

princessdiane30

Thanks for agreeing with me.

kaya nga madaming naghihiwalay diyan kase walang communication. Hindi na nga nagkikita, hindi padin nakakpagusap. Kaya one day narerealize nalang nila, "Ay may problema pala" ayun lumalala na ng sobra... and then mahirap pa kung ayaw magparticipate ng partner mo sa usuapan yung tipong ikaw lang ng ikaw yung nagsasalita, its as if you're talking to wall, mahid and dating...

Yeah tama you should also tell once in a while how much you love the person, hindi yun parati nalang ikaw yung nagsasabi.... Libre lang naman yun, mapapsaya mo pa partner ko kahit napasimple lang na gesture yun....

h33r0

^ yeah dapat talga d pinapatagal ang isang problem beteen sa inyo ng partner mo. the longer it takes, the worst it gets. it is good na ASAP, pag-usapan ang problem and both must be willng to share whats inside their hearts (take note, HEARTS) until you come up to a solution and understanding. marerealize nio na lang, naka move on na kayo and you are ready to face challenges uli ahead.

gUy^

oo nga libre lng namn yun... well palagay ko huli na lahat para sabihin ko na Mahal na mahal ko sya......:( pero libre lang namn dba diane? Mahal pa din kita! kaya kahit anong mangyari lagi ka pa din nasa puso at isipan ko.. tandaan mo po yan... say hi pala kay aunti eva and kay kuya robert. musta na sila?

gUy^

kuya edward pala hehehe:))