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Mom Guide: Talking Sex with your Kids...

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I hope this will help parents to talked frankly and educatedly with their kid's about sex without any misconceptions and no confusion that may affect the kids later on. Children don't think like adults do. They want simple answers without the adult's wrong notion about things and without any false modesty. Covering up things, avoiding or evading a kid's question without any good rationale will just confuse the kids and might harm the kids ability to ask other questions later.



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How to handle your child's toughest (and most embarrassing!) sex questions

Your 3-year-old is fascinated by her baby brother's diaper changes. "What's that?" she asks, pointing to his penis.
How to respond: You may be tempted to change the subject quickly, and fasten that diaper even faster, but it's best to be matter-of-fact. Teaching your child the name of every body part except the genitals can give her the idea that talking about private parts is taboo. So, instead say, "That's how you can tell the difference between a girl and a boy. It's called a penis. You have a vagina." Don't be surprised if the question comes up again and again while she sorts it all out.


Hoping to demystify the potty for your toddler, you let her watch you pee. She asks, "Why do you have hair down there?"
How to respond: Young kids ask simple questions and need only simple, partial answers. Tell your child that it's natural for grown-ups to have hair in places that children don't, especially under their arms, between their legs, and, for men, on their faces. You may also want to explain that when she gets to be a big girl like mommy, she'll have hair covering her private parts, too. Letting your child join you in the bathroom is a good way to teach her there's nothing dirty about the human body.


Your child tells you her classmate has two mommies. "How can that be?" she asks.
How to respond: Homosexuality may seem like a confusing subject, especially for kids who haven't yet grasped the concept of heterosexuality! Try an uncomplicated response: "In Ginny's family, her two mommies love each other the way Daddy and I do. So they live together, and both take care of Ginny." If the topic comes up after your child hears a homosexual slur, explain that sometimes boys fall in love with boys and girls fall in love with girls. Then remind her that calling people names isn't nice and might hurt someone's feelings.


You're in line at the grocery store when your preschooler looks up and asks, "Why is my penis getting hard?"
How to respond: If a question arises at an inopportune moment, it's okay to give an incomplete answer, along with a promise to fill in the rest later on. In this case, you can say quietly, "Oh, that happens sometimes. It will get soft again soon." Another good response for questions asked in inappropriate places: "That's a really great question. We can talk more about it in the car, if you want." Be sure to return to it once in the car: "Remember what you asked when we were at the store? Do you still want to talk about it?"


You've explained that when a mommy's egg and a daddy's ***** combine, a baby begins to grow. Now your 6-year-old asks, "How does the ***** get to the egg anyway?"
How to respond: Explaining intercourse doesn't have to be a big deal. You might start by saying, "Daddies have to be close enough to mommies so the ***** can come out of their body and get into the mommy. The ***** comes out of the daddy's penis and goes right into the vagina, a special place in mommy's body made for keeping the ***** safe and helping it get to the egg." Offer a slightly more detailed explanation if your child asks additional questions: "A penis is made to fit into a vagina sort of like an arm fits into a sleeve." You can also use this as an opportunity to introduce a moral framework for sexuality, depending on your religious beliefs or values.

Your preschooler has been content with vague sex info like "Babies grow inside mommies." But now she wants to know what happens next: "How does the baby get out of there?"
How to respond: Again, accurate but uncomplicated answers are best. Try: "Most babies come out through the mommy's vagina." If your child asks a follow-up question, you can add, "The vagina is like a tube inside the mommy. It stretches really wide so the baby can get outside." If that doesn't satisfy your child, there may be another question behind the first, one she's too shy to ask.

Your grade-schooler's friend tells him how to get to an x-rated website. You walk into the family room later and find him staring at a naked woman on the screen.
How to respond: First, try not to get angry. Your son's interest is only natural. Still, you need to make it clear that such material isn't appropriate for kids. Find a way to condemn the pornography in a nonjudgmental manner without condemning him for his curiosity. Tell him calmly, "That's a website for adults; you need to stick to sites for kids." Then bookmark the sites you've approved -- and be sure to download some parental controls for the family computer!

Comments

  • flimmeryrose741flimmeryrose741 PEx Rookie ⭐
    lol. bwahaha...
  • 17181718 PExer
    i remember i asked my grade 6 teacher.. "miss.. what is 69?!" hahaha.. sobrang natulala sya.
  • jazzyjazzy PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    hehehe, alam din ng teacher mo...? bakit kaya? hehehe
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