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Being Twenty-Something

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you
stop going along with the crowd and start realizing
that there are many things about yourself that you
didn't know and may not like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will
be in a year or two, but then get scared because you
barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that,
maybe, those friends that you thought you were so
close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have
ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are
some of the most important ones. What you don't
recognize is that they are realizing that too, and
aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that
they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to
what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are
looking for a job and realizing that you are going to
have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what
others are doing and find yourself judging more than
usual because suddenly you realize that you have
certain boundaries in your life and are constantly
adding things to your list of what is acceptable and
what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the
next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your
life. You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on
to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the
past is
drifting further and further away, and there is
nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you
loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed
and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough
that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love
someone but love someone else too and cannot figure
out why you are doing this because you know that you
aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook
ups start to look cheap.

Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look
pathetic. You go through the same emotions and
questions over and over, and talk with your friends
about the same topics because you cannot seem to
make a decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and making a
life for yourself... and while winning the race would
be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this
relates to it.

We are in our best of times and our worst of times,
trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing
out.
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Comments

  • uhm, im twenty something and i can relate to this. or this applies to everyone?
  • im experiencing some of these things now!
  • They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you
    stop going along with the crowd and start realizing
    that there are many things about yourself that you
    didn't know and may not like.

    mid-life crisis na yung akin though i'm in my twenties. since i want to die before i'm 40, i'd better start the mid-life crisis di ba? :lol: yung quarter-life crisis ko happened when i was 12 or 13. :rotflmao:
    Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what
    others are doing and find yourself judging more than
    usual because suddenly you realize that you have
    certain boundaries in your life and are constantly
    adding things to your list of what is acceptable and
    what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the
    next, secure.

    i've always had strong opinions about things. i admire those who could convince me to change my opinions but unlike most people i've met, i don't like to impose my opinions on others. i'd rather listen than talk when it comes to serious matters. pero pagdating sa buhay ni boy bastos... nakuw! from conception until death, alam ko! :rotflmao:
    You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you
    loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed
    and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough
    that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love
    someone but love someone else too and cannot figure
    out why you are doing this because you know that you
    aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook
    ups start to look cheap.

    this is one thing that has yet to happen to me. i don't let my heart make my decisions for me. i may love a person, but if i deem him unworthy of me, i'll still dump him. and so far, i have yet to make a stupid decision with regards to love life. sounds cold? i don't care. at least i'm not bawling my eyes out crying over a married guy or a guy who won't even value my worth.
    Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look
    pathetic. You go through the same emotions and
    questions over and over, and talk with your friends
    about the same topics because you cannot seem to
    make a decision.

    damn, i wish i could get wasted! :rotflmao: i have yet to be stone drunk! i don't want to reach a point kasi where i am unable to control my actions.

    but nice article... really! *okay*
  • samantha_jonessamantha_jones PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    ^Uy...ang dami ko ng ganitong phase....BWahahaha
  • bat wala yung part na you start to get addicted to coke, pepsi, starbucks, mango shake, ice tea, and kept on wondering if all you need is water..
  • ako??? nababahala lang ako na wala pa kong nagiging bf sa edad na 23 going 24... yun lang... (yun nga lang ba???), tsaka kung paano ko sasabihin sa pitong taon ko nang crush na gusto ko sya... (torpe ako e) tsaka nananalangin ako na sana wag nya ko bastedin kapag nagtapat na ko, in short sana sagutin nya ko na da feeling is mutual... hay!! pathetic kong problem... advise nga dyan, pls....
  • 24242424 PExer
    im 25 and im looking foward to the coming years before i will start my own family..i think ill marry at 35, so i have 10 years of my life devoted to what id love to do at the same fullfiling all my fantasies..i can relate to what you are saying..and i think most people think that this period is all about the rush, well in fact it shouldnt be treated that way..i need to enjoy this.
  • yeah i can relate :glee:
  • farkasfarkas PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    hahaha!! nagkakalaman ng edad!! damn!! im 24 na pala!!!! hehehe!!
  • i'm going through this right now...ang tanong ko lang is will this crisis ever end?
  • ^syempre naman..what makes you say that it will never end?
  • cuz it's been a year and i haven't figured things out yet :shrug:
  • SweetkaySweetkay PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    You're only 24 and it's only been a year ... yes it will end but the road leading to it may be filled with lots of lessons and heartaches ... you may lose people to gain others only to lose them ... it's a vicious cycle but as they say, you will never grow up unless you learn some harsh lessons.

    I'm 25 going on 26 and there are times that I am content with life and times when I wish was still single and free to do everything. Then again, I've been where you are so I really can't be envious.

    Right? :bonkself:

    In a Nutshell
  • I'm already 26, no relationship for 7 months na and I don't think my career is stable. Kaya nakakapressure na rin...
  • ang tagal ko nang pressured!!! (cooker)
  • this is true,m experiencing the same thing.every night i keep thinking where i am heading n b? and why is dat i dont meet a decent person enough to know better.Going to restobars and watching live bands are now too tiring and too boring for me,naisip ko nga is it a sign that ur aging already? hndi ko na na-eenjoy maki-mingle sa mga mas bata sakin although i really look younger than my age.
  • blu_ice wrote:
    this is true,m experiencing the same thing.every night i keep thinking where i am heading n b? and why is dat i dont meet a decent person enough to know better.Going to restobars and watching live bands are now too tiring and too boring for me,naisip ko nga is it a sign that ur aging already? hndi ko na na-eenjoy maki-mingle sa mga mas bata sakin although i really look younger than my age.



    lang taon ka na po ba????? :)
  • i'm 25 na po
  • normal naman to get pressured and to feel that we're headed nowhere once in a while...

    im 25... ive been through heartaches and despair, and i know that there's more. i have also made my share of mistakes, but they all made me who I am today... With my goods and my not-so-goods...

    now, im taking my sweet time to work hard, enjoy life and just dream of the future... no worries.. no regrets... no rush... in the fullness of time, things will fall right into place.
  • to blu_ice: ibig sabihin may pag-asa pa ko sa buhay.... hehehe
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