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ADVICE PO, SA LOVESTORY KO! (for single people w/ *no serious relationship* at 26)

freshbabefreshbabe PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
i turned 26 y.o. (2006) with NO SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP!!!
I feel so insecure to NOT HAVING ONE!!!!!! :grrr:

- FIRST LOVE left me AFTER GRAD! (2001)
we lasted 6mos. lang....:angry:
2 yrs. after,,,, ( i sweared OFF dating until I GOT CLOSE to SOMEONE AGAIN)
(2003):love:
-we both suppose to be trying out new companies na, but he got promoted
i got suspended...
-i have to sacrifice---we should go seperate ways, ---im not happy inside the office and that's his ---BIG BREAK!
-He preferred a GF that will be at his side, the reason he ended up w/ somebody else in the office.
-I SHOULD HAVE BEEN HIS WIFE, if i did stood up for what i felt for him
when we seperated ways...
(MU stage lang kami sa office eh, nothing official):bop:
- LAST YEAR (2005) I met all THE WRONG TYPES!
- I have this "MAN-HATER type" attitude na, but
remembering those 2 SPECIAL MEN i found in my 26 year of EXISTENCE
-I felt na di LAHAT ng LALAKI pare-pareho...
- This year (2006) *okay*
- i met a guy 3 yrs. younger... I AM WISHING na sana he's the ONE!
- Problem is HE'S NOT COURTING ME/ PURSUING ME....
-He prefers GROUP DATES/ Than having A SOLO DATE W/ HIM (which i preferred)
- So we only ended up having that ONE & ONLY date.
- NOW he has a GF na, (He's NOT HAPPY w/ HER)
- I felt like RESCUING HIM... & we still have communication
(pero not seeing each other...)
- It's been 3 mos. since that SOLO DATE w/ him...
I think I VALUE HIM MORE than the way his GF TREATS him...

QUESTION: Should I GO for MY HAPPINESS?? SNAG HIM? or
I don't know what to do?! :confused:

P.S.>>> I feel that it's not everyday that someone like HIM comes
my way, & not ALL guys are LIKE HIM
(HE REMINDS ME OF MY FIRST-LOVE)

Comments

  • freshbabefreshbabe PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    COMMENTS & SUGGESTIONS naman please about this topic =)
  • drquackdrquack PEx Rookie ⭐
    freshbabe wrote:
    - i met a guy 3 yrs. younger... I AM WISHING na sana he's the ONE!
    - Problem is HE'S NOT COURTING ME/ PURSUING ME....
    -He prefers GROUP DATES/ Than having A SOLO DATE W/ HIM (which i preferred)
    - So we only ended up having that ONE & ONLY date.
    - NOW he has a GF na, (He's NOT HAPPY w/ HER)
    - I felt like RESCUING HIM... & we still have communication
    (pero not seeing each other...)
    - It's been 3 mos. since that SOLO DATE w/ him...
    I think I VALUE HIM MORE than the way his GF TREATS him...

    QUESTION: Should I GO for MY HAPPINESS?? SNAG HIM? or
    I don't know what to do?! :confused:

    P.S.>>> I feel that it's not everyday that someone like HIM comes
    my way, & not ALL guys are LIKE HIM
    (HE REMINDS ME OF MY FIRST-LOVE)
    Sure, why not? But, just to play devil's advocate... Going for your happiness doesn't ensure HIS happiness. You may value him more than his gf does, but will he value you more than his gf?
  • violetbabevioletbabe PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    no no ang may third party... :nope:

    baka naman your experiences are teaching you to be more patient with relationships and be wiser in choosing a partner.

    plus, if you're going to pursue the guy (yung huli), you have to make sure na the feeling is mutual and level na ng love ang pinaglalaban nyo and not "like,infatuation" level pa lang. kasi gulo na yang gagawin mo if you're going to snag him.

    does the guy even have feeling s for you dear? :uh:

    good luck with your decision :bop:
  • yobiyobi PExer
    ^ i agree, just be patient and learn from your experience.
    if you pursue you might end up having a broken heart and a wounded pride. you must consider his happiness also. what if yung girl lang na yon ang happiness nya. would you be selfish to snag him just because you know that you love him more than she does.
  • FRESHBABE... cant give you any advice pero if you wana hang out and just chill.. punta ka lng next singles gimmik thread.. baka makalimutan mo saglit problems mo..

    ..just divert ur attention.. makakakalimot ka din.. :)
  • DIVERSION??? tama ka dyan ally >>>> :)
  • Actually madami kang nakwento pero I suppose we’d have to comment on your most recent love story, ano?! :D

    Well, there’s little you can do about it since he has a GF. You can be a friend pero of course there’s the risk of getting burned once you realize he’s really into her. So it is more of a wait-and-see situation for you..

    For the meantime, I suggest you loosen up a bit. Kasi sometimes forcing the action can do more harm than good. Meet new people, go out more often and just enjoy life. Maybe this way, the bleeding would stop a bit and who knows, luck might just smile at you this time . *okay*
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  • try looking for other men, kpatd...

    expand your social circle muna, you'll realize andaming lalake sa mundo..

    if after that, he's still the one you want, flirt like crazy! :lol:
  • gurl bka one sided relationship lang ang sitwasyon nyong dalawa..makiramdam ka muna..and try to think all the posibilities that wud happen ( but not to the extend of being praning ahh :P) hehe, and gurl dont forget theres no regrets in luv..hehehe..
  • FRESHBABE... cant give you any advice pero if you wana hang out and just chill.. punta ka lng next singles gimmik thread.. baka makalimutan mo saglit problems mo..

    ..just divert ur attention.. makakakalimot ka din.. :)


    :glee: nag promote ng sinulid :glee: *peace* @ ally

    freshbabe sowee la din akong mapapayo eh :teehee:
  • ^weeehhh nangengeelam ka ha ha ha ha.. ala ka din nmn mapapayo hahahha... tsaka tsaka indi ka nmn pupunta sa 24... ala ka mahina sila syo hhehhehhe..

    ...sorry off topic...
  • freshbabe wrote:
    i turned 26 y.o. (2006) with NO SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP!!!
    I feel so insecure to NOT HAVING ONE!!!!!! :grrr:

    - FIRST LOVE left me AFTER GRAD! (2001)
    we lasted 6mos. lang....:angry:
    2 yrs. after,,,, ( i sweared OFF dating until I GOT CLOSE to SOMEONE AGAIN)
    (2003):love:
    -we both suppose to be trying out new companies na, but he got promoted
    i got suspended...
    -i have to sacrifice---we should go seperate ways, ---im not happy inside the office and that's his ---BIG BREAK!
    -He preferred a GF that will be at his side, the reason he ended up w/ somebody else in the office.
    -I SHOULD HAVE BEEN HIS WIFE, if i did stood up for what i felt for him
    when we seperated ways...
    (MU stage lang kami sa office eh, nothing official):bop:
    - LAST YEAR (2005) I met all THE WRONG TYPES!
    - I have this "MAN-HATER type" attitude na, but
    remembering those 2 SPECIAL MEN i found in my 26 year of EXISTENCE
    -I felt na di LAHAT ng LALAKI pare-pareho...
    - This year (2006) *okay*
    - i met a guy 3 yrs. younger... I AM WISHING na sana he's the ONE!
    - Problem is HE'S NOT COURTING ME/ PURSUING ME....
    -He prefers GROUP DATES/ Than having A SOLO DATE W/ HIM (which i preferred)
    - So we only ended up having that ONE & ONLY date.
    - NOW he has a GF na, (He's NOT HAPPY w/ HER)
    - I felt like RESCUING HIM... & we still have communication
    (pero not seeing each other...)
    - It's been 3 mos. since that SOLO DATE w/ him...
    I think I VALUE HIM MORE than the way his GF TREATS him...

    QUESTION: Should I GO for MY HAPPINESS?? SNAG HIM? or
    I don't know what to do?! :confused:

    P.S.>>> I feel that it's not everyday that someone like HIM comes
    my way, & not ALL guys are LIKE HIM
    (HE REMINDS ME OF MY FIRST-LOVE)



    tsk tsk tsk.... so that explains the kind of perspective you have on guys.... i don't blame you now for badly convincing yourself about what "MOST" guys are like... i feel sorry for you though... i hope you find the right answers to your questions... but if you'll ask me this is what i have to say about your situation... Your subject line alone tells alot about the pressure you are getting on not having a serious relationship at 26. Let's start with that, before you can answer the question of whether you should "snag him and go for your happiness" or whatever coz "you don't know what to do", you should first realize whether you are asking the right question to solve your REAL problem...

    ...your real problem is not what you are trying to answer with the question that you posted
    QUESTION: Should I GO for MY HAPPINESS?? SNAG HIM? or
    I don't know what to do?! :confused:

    ...your REAL problem is the pressure you are getting from not being able to have a serious relationship at 26.. unless you recognize that to be true, you will continue to give yourself questions whose answers will not present valid solutions to your REAL problem -- Questions such as the one you are hoping to get answers from in this thread of yours.

    ...did you realize that because of pressure, you think that the answer to your problem is between whether you should forcibly take someone else's boyfriend or not, which is just a clear manifestation of the REAL problem you are experiencing -- pressure. To solve that, you need to free yourself from that pressure... how? MOVE ON, because you're still hung up with your "FIRST LOVE", you associate other people to be "like him" because you can't let go of the qualities you saw in your first love that you earnestly look for in other people (you admitted the younger guy reminds you of him)... you put him in a pedestal... a standard, a pattern of perfection. Bring down that pedestal, let go of your standards, forget about your pattern of perfection... that should be your first big step... and when you succeed at taking that step, you will realize that the world is not a lonely place after all and that you are one step closer towards solving your REAL problem...
  • Alpha_GreenAlpha_Green PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Maybe you're one of those women DESTINED to be single for the rest of your life.
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