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I want a BMW X5 SUV but how do I convince my hubby?

I've been wanting a BMW X5 SUV but hubby won't budge. He's super loyal to Toyota so he would rather get me a Lexus. But that's still a "Toyota" not a BMW. :depressed: So I'm going to convince him by I don't know any arguments to use. Honestly, I want it only for the sake of owning one...not necessarily for the mechanical advantages. The bells and whistles are of course a nice bonus. His point is that they're too expensive to maintain but if it's new naman, it shouldn't be breaking down, hindi di ba? I'm also planning on getting a warranty. I currently own a Toyota Sequioa and it's montrous for me to drive and park. I told him I only have to pay a little more to my current car payment to get the car that I want pero ayaw niya. I don't understand why I even have to consult him when I'll be making the payments not him. But he said if I get it and trade in my Toyota, he'll get angry because I didn't respect his opinion. Hindi rin daw siya sasakay.

So if you guys (and gals) have any pointers that I can use so I can convince him let me know...it's gonna be BMW vs. Toyota. My arguments are not strong enough kasi (it looks nice).
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  • hottlipss,

    good thing price isnt the issue here because if it were, you would have a hard time convincing him on price alone. first thing you can do is to let him take a test drive of the x5. what is it about toyota/lexus that he likes? the build quality? resale value? maintenance costs? counter those by saying that the bmw has all of those too. you may want to offer him statistics too if he is into looking strictly at figures. look for magazines that have figures on typical maintenance costs and resale values. whatever you do, do not tell him that you like the bmw on status alone... you will be shot down faster than you know it!

    it will be easy enough to justify moving from a sequoia to an x5... the size, etc. but comparing to a rx330... counter by simply saying that all things being equal (this is where your hard facts through research come in) the x5 is the better looking suv.

    good luck! :)
  • hottlipsshottlipss PEx Rookie ⭐
    Thanks Nerfy...
    I can't even get him to test drive the x5. My frame of mind is if I'm paying so much for this Sequioa, dagdag na lang nang konti, I would be getting the one I really want. He likes Toyota because of all the things you mentioned. His truck and car are also made by Toyota. And see he already knows from our previous discussions that I want the x5 for the looks and status alone (damn, that sounded snobbish ha, but hey if truth be told, di ba?).

    I've compiled several articles from Consumer Digest and several car mags to show him. Everytime I start he flatly refuses to listen to me. He's not home right now, I'm thinking just surprising him and trading in this Sequoia. But I know that will start a big argument.

    Thanks uli ha!
  • Papichulo168Papichulo168 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Hi hottlipps!

    Hmmm your nick looks familiar....are you new here?

    Anyway, if you really want that X5 so much, then tell him na if he's the one driving it, he'll not only be driving the ultimate driving machine but he's also gonna drive the ultimate chick magnet!

    :naughty:
  • hottlipsshottlipss PEx Rookie ⭐
    Actually his argument is the cost. But as I've said, konti na lang ang idadagdag ko sa monthly payment so why not get the one I really want. I just had to explain that baka akala nang iba mayaman ako or something. Mang-uutang lang naman ako sa bangko. It's really not so much as a status symbol either. It's just that I look so damn good in it. He's so tight kasi sa pera nakakainis kahit ako naman ang magbabayad.
  • hottlipsshottlipss PEx Rookie ⭐
    :rotflmao:
    Hi hottlipps!

    Hmmm your nick looks familiar....are you new here?

    Anyway, if you really want that X5 so much, then tell him na if he's the one driving it, he'll not only be driving the ultimate driving machine but he's also gonna drive the ultimate chick magnet!

    :naughty:

    Hi Papi...

    naligaw ako dito, will you tell me how to get back doon sa "dark" side?

    Who told you that I'll let him drive it, if I get one?

    Papi...he's already driving the ultimate chick....

    me
  • IMO Lexus is a better brand than BMW for overall ownership experience. However BMWs are better if you enjoy driving. In terms of total ownership costs, Lexus is also cheaper than BMW. That's something to consider if you want to keep the X5 for a long time. I think you should wait for the redesign of the new X5 (out soon) then go for the current model so it will actually come out a bit cheaper. i.e. Show your husband the price of the latest model then show him how the older model is comparatively cheaper...
  • hottlipsshottlipss PEx Rookie ⭐
    Rushman wrote:
    IMO Lexus is a better brand than BMW for overall ownership experience. However BMWs are better if you enjoy driving. In terms of total ownership costs, Lexus is also cheaper than BMW. That's something to consider if you want to keep the X5 for a long time. I think you should wait for the redesign of the new X5 (out soon) then go for the current model so it will actually come out a bit cheaper. i.e. Show your husband the price of the latest model then show him how the older model is comparatively cheaper...

    Hi, my hubby actually said the same thing about the bottom cost for Lexus vs BMWs. I actually enjoy driving and drive cross country frequently kahit kasama si hubby. On any given weekend you'll find me going out of town. I was not aware that they are redesigning the new X5. Thanks for the info.
  • Nerfy wrote:
    hottlipss,

    good thing price isnt the issue here because if it were, you would have a hard time convincing him on price alone. first thing you can do is to let him take a test drive of the x5. what is it about toyota/lexus that he likes? the build quality? resale value? maintenance costs? counter those by saying that the bmw has all of those too. you may want to offer him statistics too if he is into looking strictly at figures. look for magazines that have figures on typical maintenance costs and resale values. whatever you do, do not tell him that you like the bmw on status alone... you will be shot down faster than you know it!

    it will be easy enough to justify moving from a sequoia to an x5... the size, etc. but comparing to a rx330... counter by simply saying that all things being equal (this is where your hard facts through research come in) the x5 is the better looking suv.

    good luck! :)

    If he can drive it for a longer period of time then the german dynamics fun to drive character will get into him. Japanese cars don't have this charm. This is the value proposition of BMW's & other german cars. You'll continue to maintain/pay for them even how expensive because you love it & will miss it if it's not working or if you sell it.

    Maybe you can ask the sales guys of bmw to lend you an X5 for a week to attract your hubby.. Having a lexus tells them you can also buy an X5..
  • neoreo09neoreo09 PEx Rookie ⭐
    I want a BMW X5 SUV but how do I convince my hubby? = that's a girl job.

    you convince him by being a woman to him.

    ok that was a joke. uhm, if he's so loyal to toyota you should tell him to switch. if would be better if he and you could experience a different feeling - a different car. choosing cars is like choosing the best sex position. the bmw x5 looks good but i think the lexus suv has more sex appeal. it looks good on the family too.
  • hottlipss,

    this seems to be more of a psychological issue than just a car issue. he wont even try a test drive?

    he could be in denial... the x5 will definitely be a better overall driving experience than a rx330 (definitely better than a sequoia too) and might be afraid to admit it (when it comes to cars, guys hate to be wrong).

    as for his opinion... doesnt yours count too? tell him that your requirements in an SUV differ from his, and as much as you respect his opinion and have nothing but the highest regard for Toyota products, the x5 has the intangible factors that make you want it over anything else (and are willing to shoulder the maintenance/repair costs, which admittedly will be much higher than a Toyota).
  • OTEP ROTEP R PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    If I was your hubby, I wouldn't even consider getting an X5. I don't even know what its for. It's an SUV that does not really do well off-road, BMW cars will have it for lunch in terms of on-road dynamics, the AWD ones will work well enough for the fluffy stuff, BMW station wagons can also haul as much stuff. So I don't really get the point of the X5 other than to appeal to people who want to look like they drive an SUV/off-roader but are not really willing to put up with the usual SUV compromises.

    But that's just me. We have different requirements for the vehicles we use. Good luck with your husband. I'd also take the Toyota over the Bimmer. Even a brand-new X5 vs. a nice used LC80, I'd still take the Yota.
  • True! The X5 and later X3 are basically BMW's way of cashing in on the SUV love affair of America that has started to abate. Porsche did a better job with the Cayenne (at least it can go off-roading in the same places a humble Suzuki Jimny can), though it wins no beauty pageants.

    Besides it's technically an OLD car by now. You're basically buying an old E39 5-series estate on stilts. When was this released, 1999?

    Before doing anything else, you seriously gotta ask yourself "What am I getting this car for?" Like Otep said, there are other cars out there that can do the X5's purported jobs a lot better than it does---and that includes other BMWs. Want space? A minivan or (BMW/MB/whichever) station wagon has more. Want an SUV? Toyota Land Cruiser or Land Rover Discovery/LR3. Want good driving dynamics? Pick just about any other BMW.

    Truth be told, the only real argument I see for getting an X5 is the diesel engine. In Europe you can get the same 3.0L straight-six turbodiesel in a BMW 330d, but I think you're in a country that doesn't even allow diesel cars (namely the US).

    That, and "looking cool." My 0.02.

    Now to answer your real question.
    If you still want to buy it, then tell your hubby it was ultimately your choice and your money and so he should cut you some slack. Respect is a two-way street: you have to earn it from him as much as he has to earn it from you. It's virtually impossible for you two to just agree on everything, so a compromise has to be reached sometimes. Something's gotta give.
  • Hehe! Truth be told, I would not buy an x5 either, but thats not the point of this thread. :)

    If Hottlipss wants an x5 purely because of status and looks, thats her prerogative.

    Hottlipss, if you can convince the people in this thread why an x5 is better than a toyota/lexus, then you can convince your husband as well to try BMW. If you are won over by the others in this thread... stick to Toyota. :)
  • Hotlipss, if I were you, you should plan a vacation on a state nearby for several days and rent a BMW X5 for that vacation. Ask him to take turns in driving...I'm sure once he'll have several hours of driving this vehicle he'll be hooked up
  • hottlipss: The monthly payment is going to be way higher than what you're paying right now, believe me. An x-5 is a higher profile vehicle than the sequoia so your insurance premium is going to be higher as well. There is a maintenance warranty for new BMWs that is guaranteed for 3 years or the first 50,000 miles. After either mark passes though, you have to gear up for the coming costs ... BMWs require servicing often like oil changes ($120), brake fluid flushing ($400 up), coolant flushing, inspections ($500+) every year which cost a pretty penny and not to mention the little car troubles, usually electronical ones, that creep up after the 3rd year - you can read the maintenance plans they put up on their website. Granted, the X-5 looks nicer and the drive's more enjoyable than your current ride. I should know, I wanted one as well but I just can't afford the after-warranty maintenance costs.

    If you still want the X-5, you have to make your case stronger. State your reasons (i.e. hard to park, handling, etc) in guys' terms. Make him see it the way he wants to see it. Argue the vehicle's driving merits, its resale value, and safety features, have a spreadsheet ready if you must, to prove that the car payments are indeed "not that much higher". Research the car's specs online and compare it to the Lexus. You have to do your homework to prepare for battle. Good luck.
  • hottlipsshottlipss PEx Rookie ⭐
    :eek: Didn't realize those maintenance cost. Guess hubby is right. If I get that X5 it will be cutting into my shopping expenses. That Lexus is looking pretty damn good now.
  • BMW calls the X5 a SAV not a SUV.

    People who buy a X5 arent out to buy a real SUV & probably would never bring it anywhere near a path that would make a real SUV necessary. Judging from the way my friends describes it it drives like a car but more precisely a 5 Series.

    Best way to get your hubby to OK buying one is to let him experience it first hand. And denying him sex may help in the process ;)

    If he doesnt want to buy it you could always work for one. It's far easier to get a nice car in the US than here in the Philippines. Less BS to deal with.
  • hottlipsshottlipss PEx Rookie ⭐
    BMW calls the X5 a SAV not a SUV.

    People who buy a X5 arent out to buy a real SUV & probably would never bring it anywhere near a path that would make a real SUV necessary. Judging from the way my friends describes it it drives like a car but more precisely a 5 Series.

    Best way to get your hubby to OK buying one is to let him experience it first hand. And denying him sex may help in the process ;)

    I've denied sex and even made some of his fantasies into reality pero wala pa din. :mecry:
  • DJQuimbyDJQuimby PEx Rookie ⭐
    hottlipss wrote:
    I've been wanting a BMW X5 SUV but hubby won't budge. He's super loyal to Toyota so he would rather get me a Lexus. But that's still a "Toyota" not a BMW. :depressed: So I'm going to convince him by I don't know any arguments to use. Honestly, I want it only for the sake of owning one...not necessarily for the mechanical advantages. The bells and whistles are of course a nice bonus. His point is that they're too expensive to maintain but if it's new naman, it shouldn't be breaking down, hindi di ba? I'm also planning on getting a warranty. I currently own a Toyota Sequioa and it's montrous for me to drive and park. I told him I only have to pay a little more to my current car payment to get the car that I want pero ayaw niya. I don't understand why I even have to consult him when I'll be making the payments not him. But he said if I get it and trade in my Toyota, he'll get angry because I didn't respect his opinion. Hindi rin daw siya sasakay.

    So if you guys (and gals) have any pointers that I can use so I can convince him let me know...it's gonna be BMW vs. Toyota. My arguments are not strong enough kasi (it looks nice).


    Eto suggestion ko...Use your "Hottlipss" while your goin down on his lap...Malamang papayag yun while he's on the throes of passion...

    or baka mistaken na ako dhil nagawa mo na yun and didn't work...

    :rotflmao:
  • hottlipsshottlipss PEx Rookie ⭐
    DJQuimby wrote:
    Eto suggestion ko...Use your "Hottlipss" while your goin down on his lap...Malamang papayag yun while he's on the throes of passion...

    or baka mistaken na ako dhil nagawa mo na yun and didn't work...

    :rotflmao:


    :confused: just put my lips down on his lap??? hanggang lap lang?
    yun lang???

    :bop: anong tingin mo sa akin, bastusan na babae? :grrr:
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