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stalking

hey guys need advice.

my friend is being stalked by someone she met in the past. and right now medyo its in the point na she's fearing for her safety na. weve tried callign the person's mother to no avail, gusto na namin pa blotter pero baka lumala. i want to take the "other" route na kaso baka lumala pa lalo.

any advice? are there any groups out there who can help? :confused:
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  • flick10flick10 wtf PExer
    bumping...
  • BadGiRLBadGiRL procrastination specialist PExer
    was there atleast a dating relationship?
  • quentsquents Banned by Admin PExer
    well is plastic surgery for your friend out of the question? ahehe
  • pro_temporepro_tempore nakikipaglibang PExer
    pag may ginawang malala, ipa-blotter nyo na talaga. nothing should stop you from giving this weirdo a criminal record if he really deserves it.

    the most common (extralegal) way to deal with this is to ask/pay someone to threaten the guy on your behalf. if you have, um, "influential" relatives, they may be able to recommend someone.
  • baby_07baby_07 Take me to Paris. PExer
    Yes, I agree with pro_tempore. If it already endangers the life of your friend, you have to ask for help from the authorities or kahit sinong pwedeng mag-assure ng touch security for your friend.
  • hey all sorry for the late response, lately kasi medyo tumigil un guy. but recently ata i believe he's starting again.

    and yes they did date before, feb of this year ata. then after that ala na.

    baby and pro, i did ask around, but they all suggested to go with the blotter first to scare him off and hope it ends.
  • pro_temporepro_tempore nakikipaglibang PExer
    question lang: can you give us examples of what the guy does? just concerned, because it may not be as extreme as you think...
  • afaik, the guy followed her once, and tried to grab my friend..buti nalang may guard who heard my friend scream and umalis nalang un guy. minsan andun nalang sa may area ng apartment nila nag iintay.

    he also threatens her sa text like guguluhin sya sa work and everything if she doesnt come back to him.

    calls her from time to time to make gulo lang.
  • pro_temporepro_tempore nakikipaglibang PExer
    flick10 wrote:
    afaik, the guy followed her once, and tried to grab my friend..buti nalang may guard who heard my friend scream and umalis nalang un guy. minsan andun nalang sa may area ng apartment nila nag iintay.

    he also threatens her sa text like guguluhin sya sa work and everything if she doesnt come back to him.

    calls her from time to time to make gulo lang.

    has your friend thought about changing her cell phone number? i know a girl who said she didn't want to change her number because that would mean "giving in" to the stalker. what's important is to cut off all ties with the stalker and let him deal with his own issues.

    your friend may be nice and all, but i really doubt that a guy like this needs compassion. some people, lalaki man o babae, take the smallest bit of attention you give them and take strength from it to continue being creepy and playing up how much they need you. the obsessed tend to misunderstand signals, kaya wala na dapat avenue for misunderstanding.

    if her family doesn't know about the guy yet, it's best that they do. it's the best line of defense.

    also, if your friend is close with any of her officemates, it's best that she tell them about the situation, so they can help protect her in case stalker-dude makes good on his word.

    as much as i hate to say it, i've found that stalkers gravitate to weak women, good girls who have trouble saying no. if your friend is having trouble protecting herself, she'll need all the help she can get.

    pero para sa akin pare, harrassment na yan. protect your friend, teach her to be strong, and huwag kayong magpatakot. next big incident, ipa-blotter nyo na.

    oh and tell your friend to carry a can of teargas or something when she's going out alone.
  • SweetkaySweetkay looking for my next mistake PExer
    Have him blottered na.

    NOW na!
  • Pro_tempore,

    My friends and I are actually suggesting that she change her phone number asap, as well as look for a new apartment.
    your friend may be nice and all, but i really doubt that a guy like this needs compassion. some people, lalaki man o babae, take the smallest bit of attention you give them and take strength from it to continue being creepy and playing up how much they need you. the obsessed tend to misunderstand signals, kaya wala na dapat avenue for misunderstanding.

    yes thats what we've been telling her, she's just scared and stressed out talaga now cause of the stalker guy.

    also recently, nag tetext nanaman and is calling too...nanakot nanaman. Were really pushing for the blotter na, naghehesitate lang yun friend namin.
  • pro_temporepro_tempore nakikipaglibang PExer
    siguro takot din yung friend mo na babawi yung lalaki pag naisumbong sa pulis.

    may kaya ba yung lalaki? influential family? baka nga maging complicated yun pag pina-blotter, but something should still be done. i'd encourage changing cell phone numbers, pero baka di rin makatulong ang paglipat ng apartment. matutunton pa rin sya nung guy.

    i know how stressful it can be to be stalked, a good friend of mine was like that. ni hindi makakain o makatulog.

    again, does her family know about him?
  • baklitabaklita taas kilay PExer

    bigay mo ang inpormasyon sakin... meron akong kaibigan na
    takas sa bilangguan. sya bahala sa stalker ng friend mo.

    aihihihi!!!

    baklita
  • RosaLiaRosaLia Member PExer
    flick10 wrote:
    hey guys need advice.

    my friend is being stalked by someone she met in the past. and right now medyo its in the point na she's fearing for her safety na. weve tried callign the person's mother to no avail, gusto na namin pa blotter pero baka lumala. i want to take the "other" route na kaso baka lumala pa lalo.

    any advice? are there any groups out there who can help? :confused:


    Hanggang ngayun ba hindi pa rin uso sa Pilipinas ang restraining order?, like 100 yards away from that person?


    RosaLia
  • im not sure of the guys background, except that anti social daw and working.

    the family knows they dated before, and they didnt like him. but they dont know what he's doing now to their daughter...ayaw rin naman sbaihin ng friend ko kasi baka mag worry, and/or pauwiin sya.

    baklita, sana :)

    rosalia, with our current justice system? i dont know, never tried.
  • 17181718 android PExer
    ewan ko ba.. pero minsan gusto ko magkaroon ng stalker. hehehe.. la lng. ano kaya feeling
  • meteorameteora California Guy PExer
    kunan nyo ng picture one time yung stalker....then post nyo dito sa PEX yung picture...who knows, baka may nakakakilala dun eh di ma-a-alert na yung iba.
  • RosaLiaRosaLia Member PExer
    meteora wrote:
    kunan nyo ng picture one time yung stalker....then post nyo dito sa PEX yung picture...who knows, baka may nakakakilala dun eh di ma-a-alert na yung iba.

    :rotflmao: good idea!


    RosaLia
  • kanina the stalker was calling, my friend asked me to answer the call...so i did. he didnt answer naman, he just stayed quiet then dropped the call after around 10secs.

    then he started texting something wierd that he was looking for (girl name) and wanted to talk about their project haha...guess he got spooked lol. hanggang girls lang pala matapang to eh.
  • xtn_311xtn_311 Member PExer
    ^ eh tlga nman project lang yun itatanong ko eh! Huwag niyo na ko ipa-blotter!!




    joke lang!

    Pero ano kaya kung magpost pa sa thread na ito yung stalker? Lagot! Sobrang stalker na talaga yun! Sobrang obssessed na yun, hala!

    Pero tingin ko ok lang, hingi na lang ako ng tips sa kanya, ehehe!


    joke lang! peace tayo!
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