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ano bng pakiramdam ng isang adopted child? how can u forgive kung hindi un ang ginusto mong buhay? how can u face all ur probs kung d ka close sa mga nag adopt sayo? ung feeling lonely? ung mga tanong n where is my family?
pano ka magi2ng msaya kung nkatira ka sa bahay n kahit kaylan wla kng narinig na maganda mula sa mga gurdian mo?

Pano bng mabuhay bilang adopted child? masaya man or hindi....
pagusapan natin!
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  • ano bng pakiramdam ng isang adopted child?

    > to be adopted is a blessing.. i feel very grateful kc they adopted me..

    how can u forgive kung hindi un ang ginusto mong buhay?

    > actually, i don't care about my real parents anymore kc they gave me up but that doesn't mean that i hate them coz i don't... i just don't see any reason for me to find them or whatever kc it might just hurt me once i find out the reason why they left me just like that..

    how can u face all ur probs kung d ka close sa mga nag adopt sayo?

    > i admit na ndi ako talaga close sa adoptive parents ko pero i have naman my friends and i learned to rely on myself kapag may problem ako kc wala naman talaga akong ibang maaasahan kundi ang sarili ko...

    ung feeling lonely?

    > i'm used to it...

    ung mga tanong n where is my family?

    > i never really questioned that but wherever they are i hope they are happy...

    pano ka magi2ng msaya kung nkatira ka sa bahay n kahit kaylan wla kng narinig na maganda mula sa mga gurdian mo?

    > they don't treat me bad naman eh, syempre i made mistakes in my life that made them say bad things that they didn't mean to pero fault ko naman talaga and i understand them naman...

    Pano bng mabuhay bilang adopted child?

    > minsan malungkot, minsan masaya and complicated... but i am happy where i am and ayoko ipagpalit yun sa kahit na saan..
  • FEELING NG ISANG ADOPTED CHILD!!
    In my case adopted ako!! sa umpisa ang hirap tanggapin lalo na kung ayaw nilang aminin sa'yo.. since nung bata pa ako alam ko na adopted ako kc nririnig ko sa mga nkapaligid sa akin. masakit minsan umuuwi ako na umiiyak pero d pa rin inaamin ng mama ko. until dumting yung time na ilegal na yung b-certificate ko. doon plang niya inamin sa akin ang totoo. The people surrounds me okay nman 'yung iba tanggap nila ako yung iba pkitang tao lang pero okay lang. U cannot please everybody nmahttp://www.pinoyexchange.com/forums/newreply.php?do=newreply&noquote=1&p=11293185#
    me cryn !!!
    Pero i still feel blessed may reason c GOD kung bakit ako pina adopt ng parents ko. Pero in d future gusto pa ring mkilala ang tunay kong magulang.

    Now that i'm 26 parang may kulang pa in sa buhay ko!!! :confused: :mecry:
  • So sad that Pinoys still stigmatize adopted children. I guess it could be worse... Koreans REALLY stigmatize adoption since their "bloodlines" are so important to them.

    Personally, all that matters is that your adoptive parents love you and decided to give of themselves and adopt you. It should begin there...and end there.

    I am not adopted but I have a niece who is. And our whole family accepts and loves her.
  • Esie wrote:
    ano bng pakiramdam ng isang adopted child? how can u forgive kung hindi un ang ginusto mong buhay? how can u face all ur probs kung d ka close sa mga nag adopt sayo? ung feeling lonely? ung mga tanong n where is my family?
    pano ka magi2ng msaya kung nkatira ka sa bahay n kahit kaylan wla kng narinig na maganda mula sa mga gurdian mo?

    Pano bng mabuhay bilang adopted child? masaya man or hindi....
    pagusapan natin!

    I reverse this questions.. " how it feels to adopted a child "

    sagot: Its a wonderful feeling... dahil meron kang na iligtas
    na soul para maranasan niya na meron din siyang
    karapatang lumigaya.. na hindi maibi-bibgay sa kanya ng
    mga Biological parents niya...


    *Peace Out!*


    RosaLia
  • eh kung adopted ka ba naman ni angelina jolie at brad pitt why not! haha! joke.

    seriously..i know someone who is adopted and yeah mejo nahirapan sya sa umpisa. pero malaki naman natutulong ng friends e.
  • Being a adopted child minsan complicated din npakahirap pkisamahan minsan ang mga relatives. Lahat na lang ng mali mo ang nakikita nila. Kaya nga mas close ako sa mga friends ko kaysa sa kanila. Kapag nagkikita kami parang wala lang "hello" at kamustahan lang.. Never akong nakipagkwen2han sa kanila ng matagal.

    >> But still thankful pa rin ako, minsan din nman kc may mga adopted na minamaltra2 cla ng mga nag adopt sa kanila

    but for me meron nman sa mga ibang relatives ng mama ko na mahal ako at d ako itinuring na iba..
  • i've actually thought of this...

    why do adopted children feel bad that they're adopted? i mean, shouldn't they be thankful that someone actually adopted them and that they're not simply running around in the streets asking for alms? and so what if it seems that their parents love their real child more than them? it happens that some parents have favorites even when all the kids are their own and not one is adopted.

    i've seen in the movies where the adopted kid curses the parents, turns around and ruins his/her life... while the parent silently looks on, unable to do or say anything.

    i just don't get it. and everytime i watch a scene like that, i get disgusted with the adopted kids and i think, if i was the parent, i would've called out, "you ungrateful b*tch! after taking care of you all these years, you hate me for saving you?! for loving you the way your real mother never did!?"

    :rotflmao: i really get affected with the 'what if's that plays on my mind!
  • baklitabaklita PEx Veteran ⭐⭐

    sis ayane... pwede akong paampon sayo?
    magpapasalamat ako... sa plasma tv, cable, dsl,
    sariling kwarto at sasakyan... prang gulong ng palad!

    aihihihi!!!

    baklita
  • baklita wrote:

    sis ayane... pwede akong paampon sayo?
    magpapasalamat ako... sa plasma tv, cable, dsl,
    sariling kwarto at sasakyan... prang gulong ng palad!

    aihihihi!!!

    baklita

    huwag sakin... kay mama ka magpa-adopt! :rotflmao: mas maraming datung!

    yung brother ko nga eh, merong bestfriend, laging nasa bahay... inaasar namin na ampon siya ni mama... coz everytime my mom goes out to buy stuff for all of us, she would also include him sa list niya! :rotflmao: and he spends more time yata sa bahay kaysa sa kanila!
  • ayane wrote:
    i've actually thought of this...

    why do adopted children feel bad that they're adopted? i mean, shouldn't they be thankful that someone actually adopted them and that they're not simply running around in the streets asking for alms? and so what if it seems that their parents love their real child more than them? it happens that some parents have favorites even when all the kids are their own and not one is adopted.

    i've seen in the movies where the adopted kid curses the parents, turns around and ruins his/her life... while the parent silently looks on, unable to do or say anything.

    i just don't get it. and everytime i watch a scene like that, i get disgusted with the adopted kids and i think, if i was the parent, i would've called out, "you ungrateful b*tch! after taking care of you all these years, you hate me for saving you?! for loving you the way your real mother never did!?"

    :rotflmao: i really get affected with the 'what if's that plays on my mind!

    ako ang sasagot nito sa iyo due to my experience... noong una ang laki talaga ng takot ko dahil din sa mga napapa-nood ko sa movies... My son (my biological ay 4 years old lang).. then Warren is 10, wild kid ika nga iyung bang hate niya ang mundo... But I take a chance to scary, but I think I manages to changes him... maraming nakaka-takot na bagay ang ginawa niya na I almost give -up on him...

    next chapter okey... tanong ka lang at sasagutin uli


    RosaLia
  • I'm not adopted but I have a friend who is. Siguro malaking factor din yung pagiging adopted niya sa kanya kasi never niya kaming ininvite sa bahay nila. Lagi niya kasing sinasabi samin na iba daw siya when he's with his family and iba din daw when he's with us. Mas mabait at mas masayahing tao daw siya pag kasama kami. From the start, it never became an issue that he's adopted. Sometimes, I feel that he's the one who's making a big deal about it. So what, diba? Pero love namin yun! :D

    regarding ayane's comment, minsan nagtataka din ako kung bakit instead of being grateful, the adopted child would get mad at the parents who took care of him as if s/he is their own. Napaka-ungrateful nga naman. Pero most of the time, I think the reason why most children feel bad about it is not because they are adopted but because their parents have to lie about it and keep the truth from them.
  • baby_07 wrote:
    regarding ayane's comment, minsan nagtataka din ako kung bakit instead of being grateful, the adopted child would get mad at the parents who took care of him as if s/he is their own. Napaka-ungrateful nga naman. Pero most of the time, I think the reason why most children feel bad about it is not because they are adopted but because their parents have to lie about it and keep the truth from them.

    sasagutin kita sa tanong mo... iba-iba ang pamamalakad ng mga adoption office... dito sa America... ang ibang batang lumaki sa bahay ampunan at hindi sila sinu-suwerte... In every six months palipat-lipat sila ng bahay sa mga nagiging Poster-parents nila... sa ayaw nila at sa gusto wala silang choice kundi ang sundin ang protocol ng Adoption policies... Its really a disturbing processing sa mga batang iniwan ng sarili nilang ina, kaya doon sila nagta-tanim ng galit na wawalan sila ng tiwala sa mundo dahil sa tagal nilang mangarap na sana dumating na rin ang mag-asawang aampunin sila at bibgyan sila ng futures...


    Well, about my fears to my adopted son... from his baby life to maybe until he is 9 years old naranasan niya sa murang edad ang magpalipat-lipat ng Poster's parents every six months from state to state.... kaya siguro masyado rin na abuse ang feeling ng mga batang nakakaranas ng ganitong situations they will turn mad to themself at pati na rin sa mga taong mag-aampon sa kanila...

    noong time ko sa school to volounter sa kindergarten at fourth grades... ang pangalan ko ang napiling ma-assign to take care of some other kids from orphan to offer your house for them only on six months prior... So I accept the offer...

    Noong mga three days si Warren sa bahay ko my fears ay walang katapusan alang -alang sa biological son ko ng he just turn 5 at iyun nga nag-uumpisa pa lang pumasok sa school as a kindergarten... Maraming nakakatakot siyang gina-gawa sa anak ko, na minsan ang pakiramdam ko talaga ay ang puso ko lalabas sa dibdid ko sa sobrang takot... tulad nga ng sabi ko he hate the world... and my son will pay the price for him having a good parent and happy life so.. for him he want my son to suffer for he misery...

    One day something happened that change him completely... ang ibang kapit-bahay kong mga bata na suma-sakay sa school bus tawag kay warren ay Weirdo and they call him all the bad names... You know kids...

    Then tapos may nangyari daw that day after school bus drop the kids.. iyung biological son ko nakakita ng kitten na almost run by a car... Without thinking tumakbo daw ang anak ko para itawid ang kitten... noong makita daw ni Warren na my son ay almost hit by the car... Hindi daw nag dalawang decesion si Warren, he run as fast as he can and grab my son's back-pack and both of them roll over sa curbs to avoid the collision... Iyung dalawang bata parehong may-gasgas noong umuwi at si Warren naging hero sa tignin ng ibang bata dahil sa ginawa niyang action...

    tapos pag bukas ko na pinto... sabi agad ng anak ko ay ganito " mom.. warren save my life!... I almost hit by a car... Nayakap ko ng mahigpit si warren at doon ko nalaman na deep down inside may busilak na puso si warren kaya hindi ako nag-atubiling mag-file to adopt him amd my house is his last stop and to stay until he completely a grown-up and decided to live on his own...

    ayan that is my experience why I love my adopted son name Warren...

    RosaLia
  • my mom is adopted. and the good lady who adopted her comes from a very prominent and known family in the philippines. she grew up to be a very wonderful woman.

    there were hard times for her ofcourse. it's true i guess na there's a part of you that feels lost. right now what matters to her most is the fact that we are here. and that we are hers. at may request sha...padamihin daw namen ang lahi niya. omg. mahirap ata yun. pero sige. pag nag asawa ako gagawa ako ng isang dosenang apo para sa knya. HAHAH!
  • AltweggAltwegg PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    My youngest brother is adopted and he's my most loved sibling. Mas close pa nga kami kaysa sa dalawang biological sisters ko. He's 8, by the way. Ako talaga ang nagpalaki sa kanya. I'm 26 and he was 3 days old when we had him.
  • baklitabaklita PEx Veteran ⭐⭐

    ako adopted at hindi... dahil pinagalitan ako... naglayas ako samin.
    nagpa-adopt sa anti ko... tumira sandali tapos ayaw tanggapin na baklita ako.
    naglayas ulit ako... sa ibang kapatid ni mama ako tumira... tiyuhin... baklita rin.
    ayun... join venture kami sa negosyo... kasosyo sa byuti shop.

    kya baklita ako noon... baklita prin ngayon... to the max!

    aihihihi!!!

    baklita
  • may i ask, how will you confront the adopted child na she's adopted? (sorry for redundancy). thats my dilemma kasi we have one. we love her so much. balak nga ng dad ko i-migrate na sya sa canada with them kasi ayaw nya malaman ng baby namin. btw, she's only 4 years old. any comment on this?
  • baklitabaklita PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    sno_and_ahalf... it's easier to tell the truth on the four-year-old kid than an adult. go ahead talk to her and let the truth be known. it's not as difficult as you think.

    also you may let her migrate to canada as long as all documents are in place.

    ako nga nag-aantay ng adoption papers... galing kay santa clause!

    aihihihi!!!

    baklita
  • hey, may i add na ang nasa birth certificate nya ay pinanganak sya ng mom ko. she'll never know talaga. yung surname namin ang nakalagay sa papers nya
  • may i ask, how will you confront the adopted child na she's adopted? (sorry for redundancy). thats my dilemma kasi we have one. we love her so much. balak nga ng dad ko i-migrate na sya sa canada with them kasi ayaw nya malaman ng baby namin. btw, she's only 4 years old. any comment on this?


    time will tell.. let say dito kasi sa America puro advance kahit sa Education...
    iyung mga adopted since birth na ibinigay agad ng sorogaite mother.. then sign the agreement na ang biological mother have no authorization to contact that baby any more...

    pero dahil dito meron silang project sa school to study your roots where you come from and find your DNA blood kung kanino sila match kung sa father ba nila or sa mother... kaya doon na-be -break and silent kapag na discover ng mga adopted na hindi iyun ang tunay niyang parents...


    Let say for example my 10 years old biological son has a project in science fair... And that how he discover that his big brother (adopted) has different type of blood from us... my blood type is +A my son is -A and his dad is -A

    then his big brother is +O

    see what i mean they will discover that someday... now babae siya tapos manganganak... kung low blood siya at really need some blood from her family then don't match doon niya madidiscover... sa family DNA Blood to match extend only from sisters, brothers, mother's family or father's family pag-ang tragedy strike tulad ng Luekemia need some bone narrow transplant then really need some blood from family to donate.. if you can't afford to buy that from other donor in the hospital for emergency...

    ayan hanggang diyan lang muna kaya ng utak ko mag-isip... I hope this is help for you.


    RosaLia
  • I just grabbed it from my friendster blog.

    Last March, while my parents and I was in the province, we received a call back home from our relatives saying that we've got our new family member and that was my new baby sister. She was perhaps four months old by that time. I was desperate to go home because I was very excited to see how she looked like. I knew that my parents too, felt the same way because they called and checked up on her from time to time.

    When we were on the plane on the way home, I didn't know why but I felt a sudden sadness. Different thoughts like 'I will never be their only girl anymore, my parents would surely love her more and 95% of their attention would be towards her..' After an hour on the plane and a 30-minute ride back home, we reached our house. 2 manangs helped us carry our luggages so I easily got inside the house and headed directly to my cousin's room.

    It was my first time to lay my eyes on her. I saw her lying on a folding bed (where I used to sleep whenever I sleep in that room) wearing only a Sabrina and a diaper looking innocently at me. I wanted to carry her right from that moment but I just can't. Maybe because I still can't believe that I already had a new baby sister and that she was lying before me waiting for my next move. I slowly walked towards the bed and carried her in my arms and that was the time when my parents came to see such a heart-warming scene. My mom got her from me and my parent's attention was with her all the time as I expected.

    It was not that I didn't want her to be my sister. It was just that it was not easy to accept the fact that she really was my sister and treat her as if she was with us since she was born. It was not easy to pretend that I was "natutuwa" even if it was not what I really felt inside. I was not selfish to let others feel how to be loved. I understand my baby sister because if only you would know her story before she was given to us, you would surely feel the same way that we felt.

    Love was not given to her by her real parents when she was still inside her mother's womb until she she came out and witnessed the selfishness of the world. We couldn't count on how many houses she'd lived on, how many parents she had and what kind of hell living she had experienced upon.

    And it was not that we only pity her that's why we wanted her. It's our (my parents and me) own willingness to have a baby again after waiting for several years. It's just now that our wish was granted.

    Month's had passed, I learned not to get easily irritated with her sobbing everytime she had a "sumpong". I was not disgusted by her "pupu" anymore. In short, I've learned to accept and love her as who she really is and what she is in our lives.

    My sister wants nothing else but love. We didn't let her down because as what everyone is saying.. "Ang swerte swerte naman ng batang yan.." We gave her all the best, finest clothes, branded equipments, nutritious food and a "nothing-compares-kind-of-love" which she never felt from her real family. But we wouldn't stop there, we'll do everything to fill all the emptiness she had.

    We're the first one who heard her spoke her first words, the first one who witnessed her first actions and the first one who saw her walk. Love and attention were never a problem to her because we gave her more than what she needed. I know that the love given to her was ten times more than what my parents had given us (me and my two brothers). But it's all right,because she was the missing piece that my family has been longing for, that's why I thank her for coming into our lives. :)
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