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Guys I need your sound advice

I have this ex boyfriend sa pilipinas, kahit we have our own lives na but still we get in touch pa with each other kahit isang beses lang sa isang taon noong nasa pilipinas pa ako, then up to now ganun din, the usual kwento-kwento yung ginagawa namin, update ng mga pangyayari sa buhay namin, we make kwento about our love life at mga relevant issue sa buhay namin. Tanggap ko na rin sa part ko na talaga hindi kami destined for each other, pero aminado naman na we still care for each other kaya nga lang d na kami nagkikita at malayo yung location namin sa isat-isa. Noong nabuntis nya ang gf nya ako yung unang tao pinaalam nya, at emotionally, morally at financially tinutulungan ko sya sa abot ng kaya ko dahil nga medyo kapos din ang finances kko noon ng nasa pilipinas pa ako, after nyan eventually nag-migrate na ako dito sa states, we still communicated thru txt at nalaman ko din na pinakasalan nya yung girl pero medyo malabo na yung relationship nila. Part of the reason na d ako masyado nag communicate sa kanya ng madalas this time dahil alam ko my family na sya and its time to let go na cguro, at alam ko graduate rin sya, masaya na rin ako sa ganun at least alam ko nasa ayos na ang buhay nya, at ako kahit maraming problema na hinaharap pero thankful pa rin sa financial blessing na tinatanggap ko.
Then recently i remember na its his birhtday so I call him up to greet him, nalaman ko na hiwalay na daw sila ng wife nya ng one year.
To make the long story short gusto nya makipagbalikan sa akin, along the conversation sinabi ko rin na mag vacation ako next month uuwi ako sa probinsya namin, then he offered to help me sa airport with my things dahil nag-iisa lang ako, pumayag naman ako.
This is our first time to see each other if ever na magkita kami in 9 years, a lot of uncertainties goes thru my mind kung tatanggapin ko sya ulit baka may masasaktan ako pagmalaman ng family ko at syempre kasal pa sya, kahit na sabihin nya na hiwalay na daw sila ng wife nya. I admit na medyo takot din ako baka pagnagkita kami baka we would be tempted to do things na we both might regret it, cguro alam nyo na yun kng ano ang ibig sabihin ko.
Guys ano po ang masasabi nyo sa situation ko, Im thankful if u could give me some sound advise.

Comments

  • clawed_outclawed_out PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Are you willing to handle to possible consequences? Name the issue, multiply it by ten. That's the possible weight it'll take on you.

    You are the one taking pity on him and on your situation, & you are the one who have the power to cut it off. That is if you want to.

    One more thing, are you willing to accept the excess baggage? You can't bring him to USA or cause he's "still" married & there's no divorce in the Philippines.

    Wala bang ibang tutulong sa iyo kung uuwi ka sa Pilipinas?
  • moremore PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    After 9 years you still want that consolation prize? well you can take it or just ignore it again for another 9 years. if I where in your shoe I will not look back and revive that romance with your old boyfriend. this is something that you don't want to let it go and no matter what advice you still going do it. :bop: I hope you find the answer in yourself.
  • Ang haba naman. Pero simple lang naman yung issue eh, kasal na siya, nagdadalawang isip ka: tanggapin mo na lang siguro na hindi kayo destined to be partners in life. Baka partners in crime, pwede pa, hihihi.
  • be honest with your feelings and if you're sure of the decision you make always be prepared for posible consequeces that will follow.
  • clawed out, more, Paris CAC leila98 salamat naman sa mga advises nyo, medyo naliwanagan ako kahit papano alam ko ang pananaw ng mga tao sa aking sitwasyon, at tama ka More the answers are all within me, unti-unti ko na rin na realize ang consequences na maaring mangyari. Cguro if ever magkita man kami pag-uwi ko dyan sa Pinas I would rather tell him to fix his present problem first bago pumasok ulit sa panibagong relationship, but one things for sure hindi ko sya encourage na tuluyan hiwalayan or magpa-annul ng kasal nya, though he had told me about his plans of getting an annulment, babae rin ako e so naintindihan ko yun. Enjoy ko nalang ang bakasyon ko dyan sa pilipinas pag-uwi ko, ang buhay talaga mapaglaro pero okey lang yun, Im saving the best for last.
    Sa mga pexers na gusto pa magbigay ng comment Im more than happy to hear from u, pls keep on sending them. Thanks.
  • basta kasal na...stay out of it...kasi that can be considered adultery...
  • shox920shox920 PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    Thou shall not covet thy neighbors wife......
  • No one can tell you what to do, what you should do or ought not to do. It's a fairly simple scenario. At present, someone from your past is trying to catch up with you and explore another possible chance for love, but at a much more complicated level. The question is, after all those years, do you still feel the wanting to give love another chance?

    I hope you'd make the wise choice. God Bless.
  • PingGarciaPingGarcia PEx Rookie ⭐
    ... and may I add, the consequences is never worth it!
  • :: girl, i think you should only be friends for now. at the first place, he was married already. so, may sabit pa. he has responibilities na. there are many guys out there who can love you evn more than his love kasi this is the time which we needed self-control.

    :: i hope things will be okay in ur part na. just remember that prevention is better than cure.

    :: God Bless and Good Luck.
  • juliahynez, whenever u bump into an old flame, theres always that hope to rekindle it. And that thought would probably just pass for a minute, for a day, for a week, for a month..but in ur case..i guess for years. Try to remember why u guys broke up in the first place and realize that after 9 years, he wont be the same person. better? worse? we dont know. But is it worth putting everything on the line just to find out? U are the only one who can answer that question and only you.
  • There are millions of fishes in the sea. Pls don't settle on a loser (sorry but's the fact). He took you for granted and didn't show enough motivation to work out your relationship. The worst part is he impregnated another girl. This just tells me this guy was never serious with you in the first place.

    Pls, I beg you, don't waste your life on him. Marami pang deserving sa iyo. If you keep on seeing him, you'd be setting yourself up for a much bigger heartache later on. It's all the same old story. Believe me this guy just wants to get laid. He did it to you before and he'd do it again.

    Don't be impatient. The right one will come along.
    Just a wise advice from another guy.
  • i understand what u felt bt this time u hv to give urself a break. try to find some outlet to make yourself not to think of the past coz he s already a past. i dnt understand the man kung ano talaga ang gusto niya sa iyo, u r not worthy for him. he only thinks of himself, his own hapiness. tama ka na iwasan mo na siya baka pa mahuli ang lahat. u hv to stand up what uv said. nakita mo na nalaman mo na naghiwalay sila ng asawa niya. thats a bad sign, we dnt know kung ano ang dahilan kung bakit sila naghihiwalay, isa na sa rason dyan ay ang kapabayaan sa isang relasyon, so masasabi mo pa ba na karapat dapat siya sayo. kaibigan hindi sa nanghihimasok ako baka isa ka rin sa dahilan kung bakit sila naghihiwalay ng asawa niya. kaibigan sana hindi ka magagalit sa advise ko. pero yan ay haka haka lang...malay mo rin yan din ay siyang katotohanan....kaibigan hwag mong sayangin ang buhay mo, wala na tayo sa panahon ng mga martyr. ur just to good for him, find a man that is right for ur love and care. pero ika nga at last ur decision will be followed dahil buhay mo yan ikaw ang master sa buhay mo.
  • if u take da consequences...........then do it
    but if u can't then dont. take it or leave it lang ang
    drama dyan :naughty:

    kung pipigilan kita mag papapigil kaba :naughty::lol:
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