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Panliligaw...

when you allow someone to court you diba it doesnt necessarily mean na sasagutin mo siya? bakit may ibang guys dyan na once pumayag ka lang na ligawan ka nila eh iniisip na nila agad na sure na sure na sasagutin mo na sila?

another question: bakit may guys dyan na ilan araw ka pa lang nakikilala (twice ka pa lang nakikita sa personal and 1 month lang kayo nagkakilala) bihira ka itxt, bihira ka rin tawagan pero biglang sasabihin na lang sayo na mahal ka na nila???? ang weird eh. ganun ba talaga iyon??? seryoso ba siya sa mga pinagsasabi nya or pinagtritripan ka lang nya?

mga lalake out there pakisagot naman tong mga tanong ko o...
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  • GuileGuile PExer
    If a guy asks you kung pwede ka nyang maligawan, that's a sign na he's not that much of a risk taker.

    Lines like, "pwede ka bang maligawan" is pretty much idiotic and uncalled for, in my opinion.

    About your other question: It's most likely a bluff, but that doesn't mean that he's fooling you or something. He's probably just creating a good courtship opportunity.

    When I courted my girlfriend, I easily said "I love you" to her on the initial stage of our acquaintance, even though I haven't felt love yet in its real essence. But still, I always took her seriously during the entire courtship stage.
  • once somebody ask you out say for dinner or lunch and it's just the two of you, it's a hint na interested sa yo yung guy and wants to court you. So don't send a wrong signal...pag sa tingin mo eh ayaw mo naman talagang magpaligaw or gusto mo ring i-explore muna without saying YES, upfront pa lang sabihin mo na, na dont expect anything to come out from your date. Parang binalik mo lang yung bola sa kanya. That way, kung alam nyang may chance na hindi mo sya sagutin, nasa kanya na yon kung gusto nya pa ring i pursuit.

    Yung isang question mo, hindi ko alam kung related sa first or a totally independent question. Pero either way, iba iba ang personality ng lalake...kung alam mo naman na hindi pa sya nanliligaw at sinabi lang sa yo na mahal ka nya, syempre "bola" lang yon...malamang "crush" ka pa lang nya at tine test ka rin nya kung pano ka magre react. He's just testing the waters...

    Pero kung nanliligaw naman sya tapos nasabi nya yon, that means, talagang head over heals sya sa iyo at gusto ka nya talaga...and he's hoping to hear something from you na love mo rin sya...

    Ngayon balik tayo sa talagang problema mo..hehehehhehe Hindi mo sure kung anong sasabihin mo no?
  • kreukkreuk PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    could be love at first sight thing.
  • i don't believe in ligaw. i find it very pretentious.
  • kreukkreuk PEx Influencer ⭐⭐⭐
    powerpuff wrote:
    i don't believe in ligaw. i find it very pretentious.

    ya i agree! and i also REALLY DON'T like girls who let guys court them in such a way they let the guys stoop down and eat their prides while they give nothing back. yung tanggap nalang ng tanggap ng gifts. yung nang-uutus to make homeworks for them. grrrrrrrr. i wanna kill all girls w princess complex.

    i mean do u really need to receive flowers, to be swept off ur feet first in order to know if u love a person or not? eh all u really need is to know who he is as a person and how he treats u on a normal day.
  • glimsglims PExer
    ...ligaw in its traditional sense is so flawed. i prefer, getting to know each other than the traditional ligaw. :)
  • QuentinQuentin PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    kreuk wrote:
    i mean do u really need to receive flowers, to be swept off ur feet first in order to know if u love a person or not? eh all u really need is to know who he is as a person and how he treats u on a normal day.

    hear ! hear !

    unfortunately, the rules of the game does not go well with such. it's all about who's the flashiest, the dashing, the daring, the bluffing (of sex appeal?), the ... the ...

    that is how ligaw originated. it's not an artificially created mentality. heck, just look at how the peacock evolved :teehee:
  • queenkatiequeenkatie PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    glims wrote:
    ...ligaw in its traditional sense is so flawed. i prefer, getting to know each other than the traditional ligaw. :)

    i agree, i'd rather go out with the guy and be able to know in the process whether we're going somewhere or we're just wasting our time.

    nakakaduda nga naman ang nagsasabi ng i love you after what one, two meetings?! obviously, pag ganun, ginagawa ka lang killing time :D
  • meliemelie PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    powerpuff wrote:
    i don't believe in ligaw. i find it very pretentious.
    lol. me too! id rather get to know the guy through casual dates or whatever.
  • hahaha i believe a guy must court a girl for 6 months hehehe.

    well, lumaki ako sa panahon ni maria clara e...

    pero sa ibig sabihin ko ng panliligaw ay hindi flowers, chocolates and gifts. basta yung getting to know stage, casual dates, time together... ganon.

    pero sabi nga ng friend ko idealistic pa ako, kasi never pa naman akong nagka-bf. pag once nakilala ko raw ang guy na magpapa-tibok ng puso ko (oh my gosh...mushy) matagal raw yang 6 months na yan.

    meron naman akong nakilalang guy sabi nya he doesn't believe in ligaw dapat 1 month lang kayo na or 3 dates. oh well, kanya kanya yan.
  • nayanaya PExer
    letting a guy court you does not mean you have to end up with a committment...but how you respond during the courtship would certainly lead a guy to think whether he has a chance or not.

    kreuk wrote:
    ya i agree! and i also REALLY DON'T like girls who let guys court them in such a way they let the guys stoop down and eat their prides while they give nothing back. yung tanggap nalang ng tanggap ng gifts. yung nang-uutus to make homeworks for them. grrrrrrrr. i wanna kill all girls w princess complex.

    ^same sentiments...meron naman habang kasama nung girl yung friends nya yung guy buhat buhat yung bag at books ng girl tapos nasa likod lang nila siya habang naglalakad. nakakainis parang ginawang alalay. guys, no matter how much you like the girl don't let her treat you like that. :bop:
  • naya wrote:
    letting a guy court you does not mean you have to end up with a committment...but how you respond during the courtship would certainly lead a guy to think whether he has a chance or not.




    ^same sentiments...meron naman habang kasama nung girl yung friends nya yung guy buhat buhat yung bag at books ng girl tapos nasa likod lang nila siya habang naglalakad. nakakainis parang ginawang alalay. guys, no matter how much you like the girl don't let her treat you like that. :bop:
    minsan pati bag ng friends sya na din nagbubuhat :lol:
  • 24242424 PExer
    may mga babae kasi na mapagsamantala at mangagamit..yung lalaki nagmumkha ng ***** sa kakasunod sa mga gusto ng nililigawan nila..
    GIRLS, kung gusto niyong mang-uto ng mga guys wag naman yung mga mababait, kawawa naman e..yung lokohin niyo o yung mga ****.. :grrr:

    for the guys, if the girls is not worth it, (if she treats you like a dirty dog) dont go for it, its just a waste of time, than hurting your selves all over again everyday... :grrr:
  • ask ko lang... pano kung ganito.. aask ka nya for lunch or dinner pero still di mo alam kung ano intentions nung guy, kc there are times na magkikita kyo there are times na hindi... how would u ask a guy straight to the point kung ano talga intentions nya?
  • chey28 wrote:
    ask ko lang... pano kung ganito.. aask ka nya for lunch or dinner pero still di mo alam kung ano intentions nung guy, kc there are times na magkikita kyo there are times na hindi... how would u ask a guy straight to the point kung ano talga intentions nya?


    ^^ if you can't confront the guy and ask him whats his real purpose, read between the lines. You have to use your "instinct"... :) Besides, its so easy to ask a guy... "hey dude, why do you want to go out for lunch/dinner?" I bet you'll get a good answer with that question.
  • thanks green buff =)
  • baklitabaklita PEx Veteran ⭐⭐

    yung isa kong manliligaw... unang kita plang nmin... gusto agad
    akong gawing kasintahan, yakapin at kung ano-ano pa. kako sa
    kanyan... "horny ka ngang tao... kya ka nasa kalaboso... rapist!"

    aihihihi!!!

    baklita
  • Masyadong formal naman ang Panliligaw. EB na lang kamo para hindi naman masyado formal ang dating. o kaya getting to know each other muna para makilala mo. one reason why sometimes guys dont court the lady very often is not because hindi sya interesado dito. maaring busy ang guy, nahihiya o wala lang syang pang date. pero depende sa diskarte kasi minsan e. madalas kasi sa experience ko, yung girl ang nagbabayad e. alam kasi nya wala ako pang date kaya ok lang naman na sya muna taya. Di naman formalan palagi madalas nga casual lang. Tanong ko muna sya kung may sahod na sya tapos para hindi naman nakakahiya, uutangin ko muna pera nya para ma date ko sya. usually hindi nya ako sinisingil. Kung alam kong wala sya bf at gusto nya magkaroon, nag vovolonteer lang ako. samahan ko sya kung may gusto syang puntahan na wala syang kasama. ok lang naman sa akin kahit gawin nya ako tiga bitbit. anyway sya naman magbabayad e. at least para sa akin masaya ako na kasama sya at sya rin masaya rin kasama nya ako. pero kung ako magpapahiwatig na manligaw, ang tanong ko sa kanya... "Pwede na ba kitang pakasalan?" usually ang sagot sa akin, mag hanap ka muna ng trabaho. pero minsan naman may nag oo kahit sila na lang mag trabaho para sa akin. Sabagay kaya ko naman mag laba, mag luto, mag linis, mamalantsa, mag igib ng tubig, maintain ng bahay. pag may bahay sya ok lang sa akin. Kaya ko rin naman mag masahe kung pagod sya coming from work. basta kung saan sya masaya at kung ano ikaliligaya nya, bibigay ko basta wag lang pera. Pag ayaw sa akin sakali. di naman ako namimilit e. doon na lang ako sa may gusto. wag na lang sa ayaw. sabihan ba naman akong mayabang at makapal. aba hindi a. nag papakatotoo lamang ako at pranka kung mag salita. walang tinatago at totoong tao. madalas kong sabihin sa isang girl na gusto ko ligawan... alam mo gusto kitang ligawan pero wala akong pang date. pewde ba kitang sabayan mag lakad pauwi para naman makausap kita kahit papaano. aba akalain mo ba naman na meron din pumapayag mag lakad mula makati hanggang quiapo? pero nung napagod sa kalalakad pinasakay ko na lang. sabit na lang din ako pauwi.
  • Masyadong formal naman ang Panliligaw. EB na lang kamo para hindi naman masyado formal ang dating. o kaya getting to know each other muna para makilala mo. one reason why sometimes guys dont court the lady very often is not because hindi sya interesado dito. maaring busy ang guy, nahihiya o wala lang syang pang date. pero depende sa diskarte kasi minsan e. madalas kasi sa experience ko, yung girl ang nagbabayad e. alam kasi nya wala ako pang date kaya ok lang naman na sya muna taya. Di naman formalan palagi madalas nga casual lang. Tanong ko muna sya kung may sahod na sya tapos para hindi naman nakakahiya, uutangin ko muna pera nya para ma date ko sya. usually hindi nya ako sinisingil. Kung alam kong wala sya bf at gusto nya magkaroon, nag vovolonteer lang ako. samahan ko sya kung may gusto syang puntahan na wala syang kasama. ok lang naman sa akin kahit gawin nya ako tiga bitbit. anyway sya naman magbabayad e. at least para sa akin masaya ako na kasama sya at sya rin masaya rin kasama nya ako. pero kung ako magpapahiwatig na manligaw, ang tanong ko sa kanya... "Pwede na ba kitang pakasalan?" usually ang sagot sa akin, mag hanap ka muna ng trabaho. pero minsan naman may nag oo kahit sila na lang mag trabaho para sa akin. Sabagay kaya ko naman mag laba, mag luto, mag linis, mamalantsa, mag igib ng tubig, maintain ng bahay. pag may bahay sya ok lang sa akin. Kaya ko rin naman mag masahe kung pagod sya coming from work. basta kung saan sya masaya at kung ano ikaliligaya nya, bibigay ko basta wag lang pera. Pag ayaw sa akin sakali. di naman ako namimilit e. doon na lang ako sa may gusto. wag na lang sa ayaw. sabihan ba naman akong mayabang at makapal. aba hindi a. nag papakatotoo lamang ako at pranka kung mag salita. walang tinatago at totoong tao. madalas kong sabihin sa isang girl na gusto ko ligawan... alam mo gusto kitang ligawan pero wala akong pang date. pewde ba kitang sabayan mag lakad pauwi para naman makausap kita kahit papaano. aba akalain mo ba naman na meron din pumapayag mag lakad mula makati hanggang quiapo? pero nung napagod sa kalalakad pinasakay ko na lang. sabit na lang din ako pauwi.
  • dOnNa021dOnNa021 PEx Veteran ⭐⭐
    ..i dont't really believe in ligaw!..kaze if a guy asks you, "pwede ba akong manligaw" and you said yes, para mo syang binigyan ng pag-asa..and kapag hindi mo sya sinagot, magagalit sya sa'yo kaze pinaasa mo sya..and if the guy is making ligaw, he'll always put his best foot forward..ull never know the real him..


    ..mas ok kapag friends muna kayo,or you can go on dates.. then you get to know each other better!..makikita mo yung good and bad side nya!..so, when the feeling is strong, go for it!.. :)
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